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We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would I? Its personal and basically none of their business, can have a laugh and wind up about sexlives but never felt I needed to go into detail. Nor would I want details of theirs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.
What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"
Some wont see the possitives of this lifestyle and might judge for it. I wouldnt want to risk loosing any good friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I told my friends because the last thing I want is someone coming to me trying to be all cute saying they saw my gf on x website or app. "
Or even worse, someone goes to my gf and says they saw me.
‘If I was some other chick and someone happened to see?
And when you asked me about it I said it wasn’t me?
Would you believe me?
Or up and leave me?’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?
Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?
Yes!
Oh. I'll write a book then  "
I actually meant to say "agreed!". Instead, only managed enthusiastic yes to all above.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't need to know about each others sexlife being the main reason.
Also you'd be surprised how many people say they're very open minded and non judgmental, but when you discuss swinging. It'll either be recieved with questions or go down like a lead balloon.
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"We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.
What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"
I tell them because I'm an open book, I tell them I go to nudist beaches as well  |
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"We don't need to know about each others sexlife being the main reason.
Also you'd be surprised how many people say they're very open minded and non judgmental, but when you discuss swinging. It'll either be recieved with questions or go down like a lead balloon.
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true |
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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago
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A couple of our friends outside of fab know, they’re very open themselves as we are about most things. The reason why we don’t make it public knowledge as it’s not necessary for everyone to know and a few of our friends are very straight laced and I know they’d be horrified! Although most of them suspect we get up to naughtiness with the friends that do know. Which may be partially true 
Also I wouldn’t want my parents finding out, they would be extremely horrified considering they think I lost my virginity to my husband |
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Tell my friends that I like to used like a "bitch"? Well, for a bunch of reasons, but one is I get off on the contrast between my masculine persona in my day to day life and what I am like behind the closed door of a bedroom... |
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over a year ago
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Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?
Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?"
I don't know why Swingers think everyone wants to know about their sex lives. |
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"We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.
What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"
Mainly because my friends are a bunch of prudes, and I'd be varying degrees of judged, mocked or ostracised. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I told a friend and his wife once what me and a girl had got up to. Just thinking that at time they're open minded. It turned out the correct answer was, keep that one to yourself. Lesson learned. |
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"I told a friend and his wife once what me and a girl had got up to. Just thinking that at time they're open minded. It turned out the correct answer was, keep that one to yourself. Lesson learned. "
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"We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.
What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?
Mainly because my friends are a bunch of prudes, and I'd be varying degrees of judged, mocked or ostracised. "
We’re definitely keeping it to ourselves. It makes it even more fun this way. |
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By *arkjackMan
over a year ago
West Cork |
I have told my friends.
I don't care if my family find out either.
Other people's privacy I respect but personally have super low affection for other people's opinions on sexuality, whether it is conservatives or progressives there is is always somebody telling you what the Correct Thought is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die 
Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?
Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?"
Some men like to show off they events as a trophy . Is a Macho attitude.
For me they just embarrassing themselfs .
A man who fucks a lot is an hero
A woman that shags more then 1 is a slag .
And that’s it . That’s how they work it out x
Vanilla has nothing to do with that
I’m 100% vanilla .
I never showed a single
Photo of anyone to a third party .
I never told about adventures .
Tho when u go out with someone everyone ends knowing
I hate gossip . I hate nosy people .
I don’t mind share emotions and experience but with it braking discretions z
Respect .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die
Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex "
She ment :
“ u r a dirty woman . U never change u knickers . I never saw u change your knickers . I wish u take me with you “
That’s what she really ment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die
Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex
She ment :
“ u r a dirty woman . U never change u knickers . I never saw u change your knickers . I wish u take me with you “
That’s what she really ment "
No, she would have just presented me with some new pants |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a couple of close friends that know, but that is mainly for my own security"
Yeah . I suggest that …
Meeting a new stranger or go in his house , if u can share the details to a trusting friend x
Or if u have no friends a pal from fabs u can trust . So at list someone knows where n who you with and when .
I done that before . A lady was feeling insecure to trust herself to me . So I asked her best friend to photo my passport …
Helped her to relax . And happy new year |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m proud of being on fabs .
There’s absolutely nothing wrong about it .
If u think be on fabs is bad ?
U should see how they look at women who seats in a caffe drinking beer in Portugal back in a day
Not anymore , now the ladies tip the bottle upside down like a man
. U know … with they hands |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die
Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex
She ment :
“ u r a dirty woman . U never change u knickers . I never saw u change your knickers . I wish u take me with you “
That’s what she really ment
No, she would have just presented me with some new pants "
Your boss she is a very naughty lady . I like her already
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's my business, not theirs. I don't want to hear about their sexy shenanigans, and I'd imagine they don't want to hear about mine
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Oh but they do ….
Tell us . Tell us …. And then ? And theeeeen ?
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"We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.
What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"
I don't play as such , lm just looking for a like minded single woman and l don't tell my friends cause it's simply none of their business. |
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"We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.
What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"
Because it’s got nothing to do with them. |
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"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second. "
I actually don't  well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.
I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals. |
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"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second.
I actually don't well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.
I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals. "
Lemon, I'll be your friend. I'll take you up the Shopping Shitty if you like?  |
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"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second.
I actually don't well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.
I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals.
Lemon, I'll be your friend. I'll take you up the Shopping Shitty if you like? "
Oh god yes please take me up the shitter.
I mean shopping shitty. Yes we should do it. |
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"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second.
I actually don't well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.
I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals.
Lemon, I'll be your friend. I'll take you up the Shopping Shitty if you like?
Oh god yes please take me up the shitter.
I mean shopping shitty. Yes we should do it. "
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