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I’m curious. Do compliments matter to you? Is a compliment from your partner more important than compliments from others? So there a gradient go a compliment in your eyes? Eg. if your partner hardly ever pays you any compliment or says” you look ok” or “you look sexy” from time to time to you but to everybody else “you’re stunning”, “you’re more than hot”, or “you’re amazing and I love what you’re wearing”etc ,would you find it upsetting or would you accept a “I’m just trying to be nice” as an explanation. And “ I don’t have to see those people anymore, so I will make them feel good”. Is it important to you to make your partner feel you’re attractive to them or are you fine without them doing so and just giving you basic compliments from time to time or none? |
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I like my partner to compliment me, he's an honest man so I know he means it and for that reason his compliments mean more to me than a strangers on a swinging site. If we occasionally happens someone stops me in the street to compliment me if means a lot because there's no agenda.
Being complimented on personality traits is very personal and I prefer that to come from my partner usually unless I can tell the other person really means it. |
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I don't remember ever getting a compliment from a random stranger and I certainly haven't given one.
I struggle with compliments in general even from people I know but I am more comfortable giving than receiving.
I tend to laugh off any compliment at the time but feel better about them afterwards.
They are important but their effect differs depending on my mood at the time and if I need a lift or not. |
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I like compliments but I'm just not very good at taking them lol... I often get strangers complimenting me on my hair.. especially if it's freshly coloured! My hubby frequently tells me I'm sexy..I rarely believe him though lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't be best impressed if a partner gave glowing praise to others and I got the occasional bottom of the barrel compliment absentmindedly. In my mind someone should be with you because they think you're wonderful/hot/whatever and even if they don't tell you frequently, it should be shown and sincerely.
Compliments are nice. Do they matter? Ach. I'm not sure. From a partner yes. But not all the time, in fact I think I value them more when a person doesn't say it often if that makes sense?
I think that I do place more value on things said to me by those I'm seeing than a stranger yes. A good friend? I'm not sure I rank it like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actually thinking about it, yeah, there are definitely a few things that I like being complimented on. I'm not sure if I'm needy or human though.  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't be best impressed if a partner gave glowing praise to others and I got the occasional bottom of the barrel compliment absentmindedly. In my mind someone should be with you because they think you're wonderful/hot/whatever and even if they don't tell you frequently, it should be shown and sincerely.
Compliments are nice. Do they matter? Ach. I'm not sure. From a partner yes. But not all the time, in fact I think I value them more when a person doesn't say it often if that makes sense?
I think that I do place more value on things said to me by those I'm seeing than a stranger yes. A good friend? I'm not sure I rank it like that."
A brilliant answer as ever, Meli x |
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"This is an excellent thread  "
Thank you. I’m very interested in what people say. I’ve been told that I should know how people/the person feels about me and not care that they compliment others more than me and in a better way than just “you look ok or sexy” very rarely. Let’s see what others think  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think that I do place more value on things said to me by those I'm seeing than a stranger yes. A good friend? I'm not sure I rank it like that.
A brilliant answer as ever, Meli x"
Ha! I don't count yours unless there's an A* involved. xox |
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I don’t mind compliments from other women, but I don’t believe any given by a man. I’d much rather have compliments that aren’t about looks tbh, they’re worth a lot more to me. (I know k have issues btw ) |
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
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Not really ever been use to them so often don’t know how to deal with them. Maybe I’m just too suspicious but when they come from randoms in the street or while I’m working, those creep me out, I always wonder what the agenda is.
It’s a funny one for me though. I’m a people pleaser, it’s what I’ve always tried to do all my life and so I love compliments from my friends, my significant people because it makes me feel like I’ve somehow pleased them and that makes me feel good.
And so, for them to compliment someone else lots and not me upsets me, makes me feel like I’ve failed in pleasing them. |
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Genuine/truthful compliments are lovely. I'm a lot better at accepted them now than I was when I was younger,they just used to embarrass me.
I've been complimented by strangers & I have often complimented folk in the street, etc. That means more to me than folk I know complimenting me continuously. Especially when I feel they're disingenuous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doughnut doesn't pay me many compliments, it's just not him, he is starting too as it was getting to me a bit and it might sound shallow but I'd make an effort when going to a club or something and he wouldn't say anything, I know in his head he is saying it, he just doesn't verbalise very well (considering be likes the sound of his own voice most of the time, it's unusual lol).
I find it hard from others to hear it though, a guy was saying yesterday that he couldn't believe I was talking to him, that I was really hot....it's the other way round! See, don't take them well at all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do like a compliment. I probably appreciate them more from people who know and spend time with me because sometimes they feel a bit meaningless and generic even, especially on here.
You can usually tell when someone is genuine though, and that's lovely.
My partner complimenting me is very important. I like to feel recognised I suppose. And desirable. I naturally am very complimentary anyway, especially to my partner and loved ones. I guess some could get fed up of it but I enjoy letting people know they are seen and what I do say is pretty much always sincere. |
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over a year ago
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I've never ever had one from someone close to me,if anything they say things to belittle me, so when someone does give me a compliment I find it very hard to accept  |
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"I do like a compliment. I probably appreciate them more from people who know and spend time with me because sometimes they feel a bit meaningless and generic even, especially on here.
You can usually tell when someone is genuine though, and that's lovely.
My partner complimenting me is very important. I like to feel recognised I suppose. And desirable. I naturally am very complimentary anyway, especially to my partner and loved ones. I guess some could get fed up of it but I enjoy letting people know they are seen and what I do say is pretty much always sincere."
Nice tits x |
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My compliments which are regularly and honestly given mean a lot to Dora but she also enjoys genuine compliments from men that like her pictures.
Me I don’t care either way.
I wouldn’t be put down by anyone which is more important to me. |
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"I do like a compliment. I probably appreciate them more from people who know and spend time with me because sometimes they feel a bit meaningless and generic even, especially on here.
You can usually tell when someone is genuine though, and that's lovely.
My partner complimenting me is very important. I like to feel recognised I suppose. And desirable. I naturally am very complimentary anyway, especially to my partner and loved ones. I guess some could get fed up of it but I enjoy letting people know they are seen and what I do say is pretty much always sincere.
Nice tits x "
I know deep down you do actually mean that love. X |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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I think everyone appreciates a compliment if it's genuinely sincere. I don't give them out unless they're justified and see little point in giving them just for the sake of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m curious. Do compliments matter to you? Is a compliment from your partner more important than compliments from others? So there a gradient go a compliment in your eyes? Eg. if your partner hardly ever pays you any compliment or says” you look ok” or “you look sexy” from time to time to you but to everybody else “you’re stunning”, “you’re more than hot”, or “you’re amazing and I love what you’re wearing”etc ,would you find it upsetting or would you accept a “I’m just trying to be nice” as an explanation. And “ I don’t have to see those people anymore, so I will make them feel good”. Is it important to you to make your partner feel you’re attractive to them or are you fine without them doing so and just giving you basic compliments from time to time or none? "
I would be very upset if a partner was complimenting other women more than me. I would imagine it having a huge effect on your self esteem if he were telling other women they are amazing or stunning and you get the occasional you look ok. What about making you feel good? |
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"I do like a compliment. I probably appreciate them more from people who know and spend time with me because sometimes they feel a bit meaningless and generic even, especially on here.
You can usually tell when someone is genuine though, and that's lovely.
My partner complimenting me is very important. I like to feel recognised I suppose. And desirable. I naturally am very complimentary anyway, especially to my partner and loved ones. I guess some could get fed up of it but I enjoy letting people know they are seen and what I do say is pretty much always sincere.
Nice tits x
I know deep down you do actually mean that love. X "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being a single Pringle I don’t have the comparison of a partner, but guys I know and hang out with I’ve noticed lose the compliments. Maybe it’s familiarity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If MrWho showered other people in compliments, but neglected to show me the same appreciation I'd feel fairly shitty. Fortunately he's very generous with his praise towards me. I don't always agree with him, depending on how I feel about myself, but I know he means it (even if he is wrong!).
Compliments from my loved ones and close friends are very welcome as it's nice to feel recognised and appreciated. The people I'm close to aren't gushy types, so when they say something in praise I know it's heartfelt.
From anyone else, new acquaintances, strangers from fab etc. I'm always suspicious. Some people have an agenda, some people just say nice things out of habit or to be polite. Until I really know a person I'll often distrust a compliment.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like receiving them but struggle to accept them. If someone says my hair looks nice, I don't just say thank you...I have to say. Oohhh I've just washed it, I don't usually. If someone likes my dress.....ohhhh it was in the sale. Cheap. If someone says I'm pretty or have a good body. I think they are just being nice but don't mean it. I'm useless lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would be very upset if a partner was complimenting other women more than me. I would imagine it having a huge effect on your self esteem if he were telling other women they are amazing or stunning and you get the occasional you look ok. What about making you feel good?"
Understand this totally. Compliments should surely be given as a matter of course to the person whom you are in any kind of relationship or are attracted too. No?
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"I like receiving them but struggle to accept them. If someone says my hair looks nice, I don't just say thank you...I have to say. Oohhh I've just washed it, I don't usually. If someone likes my dress.....ohhhh it was in the sale. Cheap. If someone says I'm pretty or have a good body. I think they are just being nice but don't mean it. I'm useless lol"
I'm exactly the same, I struggle to accept compliments x |
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"I’m curious. Do compliments matter to you? Is a compliment from your partner more important than compliments from others? So there a gradient go a compliment in your eyes? Eg. if your partner hardly ever pays you any compliment or says” you look ok” or “you look sexy” from time to time to you but to everybody else “you’re stunning”, “you’re more than hot”, or “you’re amazing and I love what you’re wearing”etc ,would you find it upsetting or would you accept a “I’m just trying to be nice” as an explanation. And
**“ I don’t have to see those people anymore, so I will make them feel good”. **
Is it important to you to make your partner feel you’re attractive to them or are you fine without them doing so and just giving you basic compliments from time to time or none? "
** Bloody hell! I'd be finding a new partner. |
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Compliments are always welcome.
We both give each other compliments and they are not lip service (fake) compliments either.
Compliments from other people are also n ice to receive too, we are all human and all like to be 'endorsed' by our peers no matter what it is for. |
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"I’m curious. Do compliments matter to you? Is a compliment from your partner more important than compliments from others? So there a gradient go a compliment in your eyes? Eg. if your partner hardly ever pays you any compliment or says” you look ok” or “you look sexy” from time to time to you but to everybody else “you’re stunning”, “you’re more than hot”, or “you’re amazing and I love what you’re wearing”etc ,would you find it upsetting or would you accept a “I’m just trying to be nice” as an explanation. And
**“ I don’t have to see those people anymore, so I will make them feel good”. **
Is it important to you to make your partner feel you’re attractive to them or are you fine without them doing so and just giving you basic compliments from time to time or none?
** Bloody hell! I'd be finding a new partner."
It’s a question I posted up for debate. I didn’t say it was my reality |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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5 minutes ago I got showered in compliments on messages. I said I wasn’t meeting or interested. Then suddenly I had an ugly face and was obese. LOL
I have always been complimented on my smile, since I was a child… it was harder for me to accept compliments when I was younger. Now I accept them and appreciate them. I don’t get complimented when out and about on physical attributes, but usually on something I’d be wearing… maybe a handbag or shoes.
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"I’m curious. Do compliments matter to you? Is a compliment from your partner more important than compliments from others? So there a gradient go a compliment in your eyes? Eg. if your partner hardly ever pays you any compliment or says” you look ok” or “you look sexy” from time to time to you but to everybody else “you’re stunning”, “you’re more than hot”, or “you’re amazing and I love what you’re wearing”etc ,would you find it upsetting or would you accept a “I’m just trying to be nice” as an explanation. And
**“ I don’t have to see those people anymore, so I will make them feel good”. **
Is it important to you to make your partner feel you’re attractive to them or are you fine without them doing so and just giving you basic compliments from time to time or none?
** Bloody hell! I'd be finding a new partner.
It’s a question I posted up for debate. I didn’t say it was my reality "
Apologies, I meant in that scenario. Not that your partner is like that.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think people can be uncomfortable accepting a compliment perhaps because they link it to vanity and feel they should deny whatever has been said. I was like that till someone pointed out that I'm making assumptions re the other person's opinion and that I should accept that in their view X/Y/Z appeals to them. I give compliments freely, why not? At work, if someone is looking good or has done something great or helped me in some way, I let them know, it's amazing how quickly it raises a smile. I believe if the words are genuine and not 'fab compliments' it can really lift a person. |
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It's always nice to receive a compliment, it does mean more from my husband.
I always make a point of telling someone if they look nice, lovely dress or your hair looks great today etc. You see the pleasure on that persons face and their shoulders lift a little. It might be the only good thing that happens to them that day.. |
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I’m a big giver of words of affirmation which I feel like comes across. I like to receive love in that way too. So compliments are important to me (Don’t worry I have therapy). But finding people that love in that way is not easy. It’s exhausting for others. |
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"I’m curious. Do compliments matter to you? Is a compliment from your partner more important than compliments from others? So there a gradient go a compliment in your eyes? Eg. if your partner hardly ever pays you any compliment or says” you look ok” or “you look sexy” from time to time to you but to everybody else “you’re stunning”, “you’re more than hot”, or “you’re amazing and I love what you’re wearing”etc ,would you find it upsetting or would you accept a “I’m just trying to be nice” as an explanation. And “ I don’t have to see those people anymore, so I will make them feel good”. Is it important to you to make your partner feel you’re attractive to them or are you fine without them doing so and just giving you basic compliments from time to time or none? "
I dont believe compliments on fab as such... 
And im shit at giving them myself. |
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I've had a lot of compliments since joining Fab that I never thought I would and I used to really enjoy them and thought I felt validated in my looks as a result.
However, now I don't really take them seriously because when they compliment me, they're talking purely about my body when they don't know what my face looks like or how I come across. Therefore, it's only really those compliments I've started taking to heart instead. |
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I can't take compliments. Flattery is always to decieve in my mind and it is hard to shake. I don't pay compliments, but I will give an honest appraisal. If I think someone is fishing for compliments I tend to be overly critical in response. |
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"It's always nice to receive a compliment, it does mean more from my husband.
I always make a point of telling someone if they look nice, lovely dress or your hair looks great today etc. You see the pleasure on that persons face and their shoulders lift a little. It might be the only good thing that happens to them that day.."
That sounds quite patronising to me tbh
I think quite often the giving of compliments is more about what it does for the giver...often seen when they get the hump if the receiver doesn't show gratitude |
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I can wake up looking like a combed my hair with a grenade. He still compliments me every morning with good morning beautiful. I never had that before my ex was a narcissist. 10 years strong with my husband and I wouldn't change a thing. |
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"It's always nice to receive a compliment, it does mean more from my husband.
I always make a point of telling someone if they look nice, lovely dress or your hair looks great today etc. You see the pleasure on that persons face and their shoulders lift a little. It might be the only good thing that happens to them that day..
That sounds quite patronising to me tbh
I think quite often the giving of compliments is more about what it does for the giver...often seen when they get the hump if the receiver doesn't show gratitude "
Well you completely misinterpreted my intentions.
If i notice a collegue is not feeling to good, a kind comment meant to make them feel better and possibly a hug goes a long way.Not patronising in the slightest...caring and concerned about their welfare, absolutely.. |
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By *eliWoman
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"I’m a big giver of words of affirmation which I feel like comes across. I like to receive love in that way too. So compliments are important to me (Don’t worry I have therapy). But finding people that love in that way is not easy. It’s exhausting for others. "
It definitely does come across but that's part of what makes you so very likeable and a joy to read. I quite like people who speak in a similar language to mine. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"I’m curious. Do compliments matter to you? Is a compliment from your partner more important than compliments from others? So there a gradient go a compliment in your eyes? Eg. if your partner hardly ever pays you any compliment or says” you look ok” or “you look sexy” from time to time to you but to everybody else “you’re stunning”, “you’re more than hot”, or “you’re amazing and I love what you’re wearing”etc ,would you find it upsetting or would you accept a “I’m just trying to be nice” as an explanation. And “ I don’t have to see those people anymore, so I will make them feel good”. Is it important to you to make your partner feel you’re attractive to them or are you fine without them doing so and just giving you basic compliments from time to time or none? "
in my opinion a compliment should never be wasted but I can see how it might be here in messaging |
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