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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

these woman are kidding themself on the type of guy they want would not give them a second look in a night club maybe they should look in a mirror and reconsider what guys they should be looking for instead of deluding themself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting thought process there, why should they change what they are looking for? It's their personal choice!

Just because its a swinging site doesn't mean that anyone should drop their standards!! And who are you to say they are looking for the wrong type of man?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mirrors are often delusional aren't they

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But being on here and in a nightclub are two totally different things - women in nightclubs are not necessarily looking to pull, just to have a good night out.

On here, as you say, women can afford to be choosy. That said, men can be choosy too and there's no reason why you should settle for anything less than what you are looking for in a sexual partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And who are you to say they are looking for the wrong type of man? "

One of the ones even the "average" ladies are rejecting, I suspect.

OP if women here have unrealistic expectations, maybe you'd be better off sticking to night clubs where they're not so deluded?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mirrors are often delusional aren't they

They are..... Keep asking mine " who is the fairest of them all?" Keeps telling me Luke is.....

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan over a year ago

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"But being on here and in a nightclub are two totally different things - women in nightclubs are not necessarily looking to pull, just to have a good night out.

On here, as you say, women can afford to be choosy. That said, men can be choosy too and there's no reason why you should settle for anything less than what you are looking for in a sexual partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

I'd tend to agree with you that a lot of guys on here would shag a lot of Women from here that they wouldn't ever look at out and about in pubs and clubs.

They would probably be with their mates and wouldn't face the barrage of abuse from them if they we're trying to cop off with a monster, but on here it's very discreet and for a lot of guys a shags a shag.

So for some Women it works well for them on here, they get to fuck guys that would never touch them out and about but on here they can be very choosey and pick what they really want.

So it's a win win situation all round really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(perceived) Beauty isn't a qualification for being picky.

Also, I'm not sure that anyone without public photos should be going around judging women's pictures and calling them on their preferences.

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By *imply_SensualMan over a year ago

warrington

Smells of rejection this thread - do the same women who are delusional have verifications from guys they have met? Probably - which would suggest their preference for being choosy has paid off.

This place are nightclubs are two completely separate scenarios, they cannot be compared.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I would hope men are as selective as women, id like to think if a guy contacts me its because hes attracted to me and not because any hole is a goal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

....... as the saying goes "you don't ask, you don't get"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"(perceived) Beauty isn't a qualification for being picky.

Also, I'm not sure that anyone without public photos should be going around judging women's pictures and calling them on their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

I'd tend to agree with you that a lot of guys on here would shag a lot of Women from here that they wouldn't ever look at out and about in pubs and clubs.

So for some Women it works well for them on here, they get to fuck guys that would never touch them out and about but on here they can be very choosey and pick what they really want.

So it's a win win situation all round really."

Only if you're female or one of the blokes who should, apparently, be out of the league of the average women.

The average guys who can't get any interest don't consider the choice women have here to be a win.

Of course, their lack of success is nothing to do with the way they are advertising themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mirrors are often delusional aren't they

They are..... Keep asking mine " who is the fairest of them all?" Keeps telling me Luke is.....

Aww lol...well maybe you will need to think about lowering your standards

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also, I'm not sure that anyone without public photos should be going around judging women's pictures and calling them on their preferences.

I could understand it if he was comparing himself to others in the looks department but I didn't read anything that said he was comparing himself to others what-so-ever, so I don't see the relevance of him not having public photo's

I think the OP is totally entitled to "voice" his opinions in a forum whether he has public photos or not, unless you think people can only have an opinion if they have photo's on their profile ? which if you do then you'd better direct your _iew to the Site Feedback forum where I'm sure your suggestion would be given full consideration

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow not sure if this is brave or daft.

It worked in, I looked at the OP's profile.

Respect is important, and that includes respecting, their desires/wishes/preference or even standards

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'Troll'-lol-lol-lol-la

La-La-La-La

...well it is Christmas

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

You sound a bit jealous of the fun they're more than likely having on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would hope men are as selective as women, id like to think if a guy contacts me its because hes attracted to me and not because any hole is a goal"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The average guys who can't get any interest don't consider the choice women have here to be a win.

Of course, their lack of success is nothing to do with the way they are advertising themselves."

Ha, yes I fully agree.

I know a few guys who have been on here and or are still here and with a decent profile and a good understanding on how to communicate who have all been successful.

It's the others who think a cock pic at best and a one liner "wanna fuk" messages that get nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yh the OP reeks of rejection and is blaming woman for his lack of succsess lol jealousy

i dont think im anything special and came on here thinking i would be lucky to get one guy interested.. whoa was i wrong hehe

the fact that i was so overwhelmed with choice meant i could start being choosy.. why would i want a rotten apple to eat when im hungry when there is a big red juicy one on offer

so its not the womans attitude of themselves making them choosy, its the fact they can be as they have so many pickings!! :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also, I'm not sure that anyone without public photos should be going around judging women's pictures and calling them on their preferences.

I didn't mention comparisons, I said judging.

If you're going to make sweeping statements about people's looks vs what they're seeking, then you ought to be in that same forum where you're in a position to receive what you're dishing out, comments wise.

Of course he's entitled to voice whatever he wants, but then so am I, and personally I feel that we shouldn't degrade people by presuming that looks are everything folks have to offer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Smells of rejection this thread - do the same women who are delusional have verifications from guys they have met? Probably - which would suggest their preference for being choosy has paid off.

This place are nightclubs are two completely separate scenarios, they cannot be compared."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

also im yet to hear of a woman on here who struggles to get meets.. so im pretty sure noone on here is deluding themselves lol

this isnt a nightclub where we let society choose our choices in fear of embarressment.. which is why we are here and not in a nightclub :D

Nightclubs are where guys meet their trophy wives to parade around and show off as thats what society expects, here is where they then come to find the real woman and fun they want

the amount of guys ive chatted to who do exactly this is unbelieveable lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This is not about being rejected this is about for example obease woman or men as well stateing on there profile they wont meet overweight people and they must be tlike body builders and extreamly good looking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is not about being rejected this is about for example obease woman or men as well stateing on there profile they wont meet overweight people and they must be tlike body builders and extreamly good looking "

But that IS their preference....surely you have preferences too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

Nothing wrong with people punching above their weight if they can get it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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There is nothing wrong with that at all

Why can't people state exactly what they're looking for?

If they find it then all the better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well they may put that, so what... it works as they have verifications from these people.. damn these good looking guys for having a secret desire for BBW

haha.. guess thats why their is BBW porn.. people dont go round shouting about their fetishes if there is a taboo stuck to it.. guess what.. they come on here looking to forfil their desire!! :D works well for me and halalulah to this site :D:D:D:D

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Some of the larger ladies profiles Ive seen on here have the best meets and veri's off some very attractive men, just because they are bigger doesn't mean they should only meet with big people. Everyone has their own preferences and it shouldn't matter to you what they are. You meet who you want, they'll meet who they want and everyone's happy!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I do but i also know what type of person is a match for me i havent deluded myself to thinking i can advertise for partners that wouldnt look twice at me outside of this site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, Im overweight, I have a face like a smacked arse and I am also extremely picky / choosy / whatever.

Are you saying that simply because of someone's physical size / looks that they shouldn't have preferences and self respect?

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

puts on best llyod grossman voice " lets look at the facts this person has no verifications so im guessing has been msging like a demon only to be told sorry dont feek shadows! so back to you who after reading this tosh i think fems deffo wont be looking through your keyhole

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would hope men are as selective as women, id like to think if a guy contacts me its because hes attracted to me and not because any hole is a goal"

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So just because someone is overweight, that means that they can only meet overweight people?

It's down to personal preferences! If that's their preference then so what?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well they may put that, so what... it works as they have verifications from these people.. damn these good looking guys for having a secret desire for BBW

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

You're a real charmer ain't ya?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do but i also know what type of person is a match for me i havent deluded myself to thinking i can advertise for partners that wouldnt look twice at me outside of this site "

no cos you dont have the oppurtunity to by the sound of it!!

pls see my first response on this thread :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why let other members profiles and choices bother you?

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

I'm neither skinny nor young but I have similar success on night's out as I do on here and with similar types.

OP you're not just offending larger, older, plainer women but also the men who prefer curves, experience and personality. They do exist.

There is someone for everyone and just as we have all wondered what a young, slender model looks hottie female is doing with an older, shorter, plainer, tubbier man (most assume he has money) it works the other way too.

Sour grapes and a negative attitude are often cited as a turn off on here so I think you may have restricted your choice OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do but i also know what type of person is a match for me i havent deluded myself to thinking i can advertise for partners that wouldnt look twice at me outside of this site "

It's a bit like saying people aren't allowed to have a personal choice or preference.

Slightly communist..."bigger" people should only be with "bigger" people.

"Slim" people should be with "slim" people.

How about blondes only with blondes?

Or brown eyed people only allowed to be with people with brown eyes?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I do but i also know what type of person is a match for me i havent deluded myself to thinking i can advertise for partners that wouldnt look twice at me outside of this site "

You are deluded tho. To think that people must be 'like for like' in size, looks, etc. you won't go far on here thinking like that. Especially airing it on the forum lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why shouldn't an obese woman or man be able to choose what they want? My profile says what I like and I get it. Different people like different things. This does smack of rejection or lack of getting a meet. This site isn't insta-shag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn!

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

Don't worry Jules, we're girls. So even if we are munters (that would be me not you) we can still get an insta-hottie on tap.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn!"
I must of done too, I've been up 5 hours and haven't had any sex at all yet today!! Harrumph x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't want to meet anyone who would 'lower their standards' just to get a meet!

This isn't 'dial a shag' - it's a place to find fun with people who understand their own tastes and wants. And if that means you fit someone's preferences but not others - then concentrate on those that are compatible rather than those that are looking for people with bodies, attitudes and personalities that DONT match you and your profile content. There's enough members on here that providing you're honest and accurate in your portrayal of yourself and can communicate in a decent manner - you should be able to find someone with mutual interests.

And bemoaning folk for their choices is never going to come across in a positive light!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't worry Jules, we're girls. So even if we are munters (that would be me not you) we can still get an insta-hottie on tap.

Phew...I was starting to worry, I don't handle rejection well, makes me turn green

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn! I must of done too, I've been up 5 hours and haven't had any sex at all yet today!! Harrumph x "

I've not had sex since yesterday

I'm slipping into the depths of being thrown on the scrap heap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to meet anyone who would 'lower their standards' just to get a meet!

And bemoaning folk for their choices is never going to come across in a positive light!"

Ring..ring...hurry up and answer! Tsk!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn! I must of done too, I've been up 5 hours and haven't had any sex at all yet today!! Harrumph x

I've not had sex since yesterday

I'm slipping into the depths of being thrown on the scrap heap

I've been sex free since Thursday morning... Situation is reaching critical.... X

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

"Don't worry Jules, we're girls. So even if we are munters (that would be me not you) we can still get an insta-hottie on tap.

Phew...I was starting to worry, I don't handle rejection well, makes me turn green

That's not a problem - some hotties like green!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn! I must of done too, I've been up 5 hours and haven't had any sex at all yet today!! Harrumph x

I've not had sex since yesterday

I'm slipping into the depths of being thrown on the scrap heap

I've been sex free since Thursday morning... Situation is reaching critical.... X

Yes you must be on the edge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't worry Jules, we're girls. So even if we are munters (that would be me not you) we can still get an insta-hottie on tap.

Phew...I was starting to worry, I don't handle rejection well, makes me turn green

You been looking in my mirror again?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn! I must of done too, I've been up 5 hours and haven't had any sex at all yet today!! Harrumph x

I've not had sex since yesterday

I'm slipping into the depths of being thrown on the scrap heap

I've been sex free since Thursday morning... Situation is reaching critical.... X

Yes you must be on the edge

I am!! I'm gonna remove all my filters in a minute and just shag the first person that messages me..,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

Ha ha ha ha somethings are best not said me thinks . Do know what you mean though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

Is someone's ego struggling to cope with rejection?

One of the many things I like about this site and scene is the way it empowers women and dents the ego of some men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The ladies hold all the power on these sites, the blokes outnumber the girls by quiet a margin , so as the saying goes " why eat burgers when you can have steak ! "

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn! I must of done too, I've been up 5 hours and haven't had any sex at all yet today!! Harrumph x

I've not had sex since yesterday

I'm slipping into the depths of being thrown on the scrap heap

I've been sex free since Thursday morning... Situation is reaching critical.... X

Yes you must be on the edge

I am!! I'm gonna remove all my filters in a minute and just shag the first person that messages me..,

"
damn i missed that by 2 mins

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By *wencatWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Interesting thought process there, why should they change what they are looking for? It's their personal choice!

Just because its a swinging site doesn't mean that anyone should drop their standards!! And who are you to say they are looking for the wrong type of man? "
I agree with u I would do without rather than drop my standards.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Have I logged into the wrong site again

Damn! I must of done too, I've been up 5 hours and haven't had any sex at all yet today!! Harrumph x

I've not had sex since yesterday

I'm slipping into the depths of being thrown on the scrap heap

I've been sex free since Thursday morning... Situation is reaching critical.... X

Yes you must be on the edge

I am!! I'm gonna remove all my filters in a minute and just shag the first person that messages me..,

damn i missed that by 2 mins "

I haven't done it yet... X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do but i also know what type of person is a match for me i havent deluded myself to thinking i can advertise for partners that wouldnt look twice at me outside of this site "

People should only seek meets according to your standards of attractiveness and worth?

You think obese people are less attractive than slim people and therefore they should only look for other fat, unattractive people? When did you become the authority on what other people should find attractive and what factors determine attractiveness?

Why not say that tall people should only be able to look for tall people? The answer because in your value system height isn't such a significant factor in attractiveness. That's just YOUR value system. You can't tell everyone else how they should rate others.

Try telling white people they should only look for white people, and black people should only look for black people, and see how far you get.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would hope men are as selective as women, id like to think if a guy contacts me its because hes attracted to me and not because any hole is a goal

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By *imply_SensualMan over a year ago

warrington

"Interesting thought process there, why should they change what they are looking for? It's their personal choice!

Just because its a swinging site doesn't mean that anyone should drop their standards!! And who are you to say they are looking for the wrong type of man? I agree with u I would do without rather than drop my standards. "

Thats how everybody should be - nobody should change just to please someone else, be yourselves, maintain our standards and references and have fun.

There is only one delusional person on this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do but i also know what type of person is a match for me i havent deluded myself to thinking i can advertise for partners that wouldnt look twice at me outside of this site

People should only seek meets according to your standards of attractiveness and worth?

Try telling white people they should only look for white people, and black people should only look for black people, and see how far you get."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would hope men are as selective as women, id like to think if a guy contacts me its because hes attracted to me and not because any hole is a goal"

I would hope so too, but I often suspect it isn't the case. It puts me off meeting when I think a man would shag anyone at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

Ha ha ha ha somethings are best not said me thinks . Do know what you mean though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would hope men are as selective as women, id like to think if a guy contacts me its because hes attracted to me and not because any hole is a goal

I would hope so too, but I often suspect it isn't the case. It puts me off meeting when I think a man would shag anyone at all."

i think its easy to sypher out the shag anything men tho..

they normally are the ones who send the "fancy a fuck" messages

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

an overly inflated ego is as unattractive as bitterness.

there are many examples of both in amongst some of the bullshit spouted on here, but in the end it is your choice to remain on here looking for sex, friendship & good times.

if they are not forthcoming, stop any angst that it may cause and seek it elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"an overly inflated ego is as unattractive as bitterness.

there are many examples of both in amongst some of the bullshit spouted on here, but in the end it is your choice to remain on here looking for sex, friendship & good times.

if they are not forthcoming, stop any angst that it may cause and seek it elsewhere.

The voice of reason speaketh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never liked looking in a fun house mirror. For some reason I look strange??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was always on a hiding to nothing with this post lol

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

What a charming thread

...hordes of women are editing their profiles now as I type no doubt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was always on a hiding to nothing with this post lol

As am I with my spin-off post, I suspect!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What a charming thread

...hordes of women are editing their profiles now as I type no doubt

Yep, it's going to say fat , average looking blokes only need apply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No your thread will go just fine!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"an overly inflated ego is as unattractive as bitterness.

there are many examples of both in amongst some of the bullshit spouted on here, but in the end it is your choice to remain on here looking for sex, friendship & good times.

if they are not forthcoming, stop any angst that it may cause and seek it elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ladies can be choosy because most guys aren't.

Remember the golden rule:

"If you've got the gold, you make the rules"

On a swinging site, Fanny is King, and who's got the fanny?

Does it make it any clearer?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

I see its all gone quiet from the OP since not one person has actually agreed with him!! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have standards believe it or not. A guy has to have a hard cock and be clean.

Oh and not smell or have me have to move his belly oh and not be up himself.

Oh and not mind getting in line lol

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i speak as an over weight munter, who has managed to bag myself a younger, better looking partner !

In the rules of attraction what someone looks like only plays a small part in what turns us on, but whinging and denigrating others is definitely un-attractive.

I genuinely dont like really buff classically good looking men, preferring a bit of a tummy and a craggy face, which according to your standards are probably still out of my league!

Interestingly most of my meets result in return

invitations, thank goodness beauty is in the eye of the beholder! x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

"What a charming thread

...hordes of women are editing their profiles now as I type no doubt

Yes, while quietly sobbing to ourselves and rocking back and forth. XD

- Amy. x

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

I am going to go against the grain and half agree with you.

There has been threads before where the women have said that men have told them that they would fuck them in private and from meeting on here but wouldn't take them on a date.

I am sure what you say does happen and that there are lots of us women about who wouldn't get picked up in a club by the same men who would ask for a meet with them on this site.

BUT.... to your other point....if the woman wants to meet men, they can have a choice of who. Preferences are just that, we all have different ones, and they don't always have to match your own body shape.

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

kind of agree with what OP is getting as meaning that in a night club enviroment the only thing a person has to go on initially is physical appearance whilst on here you can gague alot more about a person from what is written on their profile and gague an idea of a personality through forums etc. Hence we have met many guys that we probably wouldnt have approached in a night club environment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am going to go against the grain and half agree with you.

There has been threads before where the women have said that men have told them that they would fuck them in private and from meeting on here but wouldn't take them on a date.

I am sure what you say does happen and that there are lots of us women about who wouldn't get picked up in a club by the same men who would ask for a meet with them on this site."

That's true, and a good point. People's standards and what they are looking for in a potential date or partner can, and often are, different to what they want from a casual sex partner.

It doesn't necessarily mean that women are being deluded in seeking men here that wouldn't be interested in a club but that perhaps the men are looking for something different here than they would want in a club. Maybe that's "any hole is a goal", or maybe not.

I'm not interested in a relationship at the moment so I'm not sure if what I would be looking for is the same as appeals to me here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell the truth its a nightmare if family around and men hitting on me at the club , lol we was at a local club for a party open night but they still had there party there and my family around and i got offers and loads of dirty looks of family so safer here.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

not sure when the OP was last in a night club but tbh at the end of the night there will be some people off their skulls of both genders who will fuck 'anyone' if they are so inclined..

always been the case..

maybe not in the OP's home town perhaps?

cheap shot i know...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will admit, I am the fussy one (out of the two of us) But not for looks. . I want a man to say/do something that the average man isn't doing. I want him to at the very least make me smile when they message us as a couple.

A one liner or a cock pic, isn't going to do it really. .

I am like this in real life too, not just on here. . Make me laugh and it goes a long way xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't care, won't care, I am not going to lower my standards in order to increase my chance to meet.

Those who appreciate me for what I can offer will find me eventually.

Better to have quality than quantity any day.

IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

thing is - and this is what a lot of slapped arses don't recognise - fab is not a night club !

thus the status quo is altered

so good luck to them amongst us that can use the site to its best benefit

and for those of us unable to, get to used to the idea that some can - and do

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I wont lower my standards, nor should I just stick to fat people because I'm fat. I like a variety of people.

I'd never do sympathy shags neither.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"....(snip)...they should look in a mirror and reconsider what guys they should be looking for instead of deluding themself

Ha ha ha ha somethings are best not said me thinks . Do know what you mean though

Really? That's very interesting from someone who claims that Age, body size and shape are not important.

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By *els_BellsWoman over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"I wont lower my standards, nor should I just stick to fat people because I'm fat. I like a variety of people.

I'd never do sympathy shags neither."

If I stuck to just shagging fat people I'd need a damn strong bed

I admit, I have had one meet where I thought he was too good looking for me, but he enjoyed it and so did I.

I wouldnt do a pity shag, as it is something I could never do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can see where the op is coming from - but perhaps we are guilty too ?

In a nightclub neither of us delusional enough to think we would pull the kind of folk we pull on here and in swinging clubs .

That is partly because it's NSA and no repercussions - and maybe because we are what we are - approachable , friendly and uninhibited .

Who knows and more importantly who cares ?

We do what we do with who we do it with and if we punch above our weight it's all good as far as we are concerned

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By *eeknyWoman over a year ago

sw london

Look at it from a womans point of _iew...we get so many messages and have to filter them somehow!

It just the way it is guys so keep trying!

It makes a nice change swinging, where the ladies don't have to do all the work!

And one more thing ! This is swinging and I feel many guys(especially wanting 121 meets) are not actually swingers and do not understand/accept womens choices/fantasies.

I'm personally all for meeting at swing clubs anyway, as you can meet a whole new social circle and exchange numbers, well worth the cost guys!

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have no standards. I'm grateful for what I can get when I can get it. I realise that I should be grateful for any and all attention paid and I agree with you all the other fat, ugly women should be too. The audacity of some women on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I admit, I have had one meet where I thought he was too good looking for me, but he enjoyed it and so did I.

I don't think anyone is too good looking for me.

Some people might think I have a cheek saying that or that it sounds arrogant.

The reason I say that is that we tend to impose our own standards (and insecurities) on those we seek or find attractive.

Quite often, those assumptions are ill founded and wide of the mark.

If someone I regard as very attractive gives me the old come hither, I will be going hither, not worrying that they are too good looking for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"....(snip)...they should look in a mirror and reconsider what guys they should be looking for instead of deluding themself

Ha ha ha ha somethings are best not said me thinks . Do know what you mean though

Really? That's very interesting from someone who claims that Age, body size and shape are not important.

That's exactly what I was going to say!

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By *els_BellsWoman over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

I admit, I have had one meet where I thought he was too good looking for me, but he enjoyed it and so did I.

I don't think anyone is too good looking for me.

Some people might think I have a cheek saying that or that it sounds arrogant.

The reason I say that is that we tend to impose our own standards (and insecurities) on those we seek or find attractive.

Quite often, those assumptions are ill founded and wide of the mark.

If someone I regard as very attractive gives me the old come hither, I will be going hither, not worrying that they are too good looking for me. "

I beg to differ, especially as your santa has 3 testicals

Seriously though, I understand what you are saying, and I did THINK he was too good looking for me.

I didnt think I was punching above my weight, I just didnt realise that there may be some gym bunnies who may find me attractive (if that makes sense)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I admit, I have had one meet where I thought he was too good looking for me, but he enjoyed it and so did I.

I don't think anyone is too good looking for me.

Some people might think I have a cheek saying that or that it sounds arrogant.

The reason I say that is that we tend to impose our own standards (and insecurities) on those we seek or find attractive.

Quite often, those assumptions are ill founded and wide of the mark.

If someone I regard as very attractive gives me the old come hither, I will be going hither, not worrying that they are too good looking for me.

I beg to differ, especially as your santa has 3 testicals

Seriously though, I understand what you are saying, and I did THINK he was too good looking for me.

I didnt think I was punching above my weight, I just didnt realise that there may be some gym bunnies who may find me attractive (if that makes sense) "

They are NOT testicles

One is my button nose and the other two are my rosey cheeks

Fkin good this ain't it ?

I put a mask on and people still pick holes in ya

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm overweight and have a hideous wobbly tummy so does that mean I can only meet an overweight guy with a hideous wobbly tummy? Sod that, I want to fuck hot, fit, sexy, attractive guys with six packs and if they want to fuck me then we are both happy.

I'm also quite happy to shag guys who are in the same league as, Vauxhall conference league obviously!

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By *els_BellsWoman over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

They are NOT testicles

One is my button nose and the other two are my rosey cheeks

Fkin good this ain't it ?

I put a mask on and people still pick holes in ya

Well, they look like testes to me

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By *eeknyWoman over a year ago

sw london

What's all this 'sizest' rubbish ? We all like different size/shapes/types/colours??

I personally find lots of fat a turn on.

Being a SWINGER is about feeling good about yourself and sex.. What turns me off is 'moaning' men complaining on here and someone putting another person 'down'..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are NOT testicles

One is my button nose and the other two are my rosey cheeks

Fkin good this ain't it ?

I put a mask on and people still pick holes in ya

Well, they look like testes to me

Be like that then

Your loss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that woman on here can be fussy about there choice of playmates from here but looking at some of the pics on the profiles then reading what they are looking for

You know I was just thinking. I have been bigger for many years now. Yet till two guys ago I've always been with guys my friends would term hotties. Maybe I just get lucky

I wouldn't go for half the guys I play with at clubs in real life. My standards for one on one or vanilla are so much higher.

I don't really see anyone as above or below me. They either like me or they don't.

Cali

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

They are NOT testicles

One is my button nose and the other two are my rosey cheeks

Fkin good this ain't it ?

I put a mask on and people still pick holes in ya

Well, they look like testes to me

Be like that then

Your loss

As long as they're not humungous warts.

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By *els_BellsWoman over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

They are NOT testicles

One is my button nose and the other two are my rosey cheeks

Fkin good this ain't it ?

I put a mask on and people still pick holes in ya

Well, they look like testes to me

Be like that then

Your loss

Fine! I'll get me own cake! *flounces off to gregs

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