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over a year ago
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"What's it got to do with admin? Cos if the person was on here they need to know to banned them to make sure their swingers on here were safe"
What a ludicrous answer!
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin"
What if they’re on treatment and undetectable therefore in transmittable? |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"What's it got to do with admin? Cos if the person was on here they need to know to banned them to make sure their swingers on here were safe"
But he told you and let you make am informed decision? So I'm not sure how people need keeping safe.
I do think it's a bit crap he told you late on but he still told you |
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin"
You may have had ( safer) sex with a few people who are hiv+ without even realising it..
I think it would be extremely unusual for anyone to announce that just before having sex... |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
"What's it got to do with admin? Cos if the person was on here they need to know to banned them to make sure their swingers on here were safe"
No, what you should be doing is having an adult discussion with the person involved and if you wanted to take things further (which you don't) it would of been around the course of action required to have the appropriate protection required for sexual encounters.
Telling Admin they shouldn't be on here is ridiculous.
I personally wouldn't sleep with someone with HIV, that's my right to do so. But I'd politely decline to the person involved and that literally would be the end of the scenario for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin
What if they’re on treatment and undetectable therefore in transmittable? "
Btw I know it's off topic but just wanted to say Happy Anniversary x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP your post comes across as lacking a lot of knowledge and is missing a hell of a lot of context.
Are you saying this has happened to you?
For example -
Between the three studies, no transmission of HIV from a sexual partner with an undetectable viral load was seen in nearly 130,000 acts of condomless penetrative sex. This means the risk of transmission by a partner with an undetectable viral load is statistically equivalent to zero.
So context is everything.
Those with HIV in the western hemisphere take a tablet a day and live a normal life with the same life expectancy as HIV negative people. Also as highlighted above when their virus load is Undetectable (due to the prep treatment) then essentially it's impossible for them to pass the virus to anybody else.
Some people still thing of HIV in the context of the late 80/90s which can continue the stigma and is very damaging sadly. The truth is new infection rates in the UK are very low and dropping year on year especially since effective treatment has been in place.
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"What's it got to do with admin? Cos if the person was on here they need to know to banned them to make sure their swingers on here were safe"
Stigma is one reason why people don't test, spread unknowingly, and leads to worse health outcomes for themselves and those they infect. |
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Absolutely nothing to do with admin, and if they hadn't disclosed it you wouldn't have even known? It's on ourselves to do our own personal risk assessment each and every time we choose to have sex with someone else. Personally I always ask if someone has had recent sti tests, and offer up proof of my own, and I'm still generally a safe sex individual |
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over a year ago
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And this is why stigma is still an issue around HIV.
If they are positive on treatment they are no risk to you even if you had a condom split. I would be more concerned about the people who are unaware of their HIV status if I was you.
Report them to admin for what? Being open and honest?
It must have been so difficult to tell you in the first place snd you repay that respect with this kind of attitude- shame on you |
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin"
I wouldn't continue but why would I report them... they have done nothing wrong x
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin
You may have had ( safer) sex with a few people who are hiv+ without even realising it..
I think it would be extremely unusual for anyone to announce that just before having sex..."
Totally agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And this is why stigma is still an issue around HIV.
If they are positive on treatment they are no risk to you even if you had a condom split. I would be more concerned about the people who are unaware of their HIV status if I was you.
Report them to admin for what? Being open and honest?
It must have been so difficult to tell you in the first place snd you repay that respect with this kind of attitude- shame on you "
Wholeheartedly agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And this is why stigma is still an issue around HIV.
If they are positive on treatment they are no risk to you even if you had a condom split. I would be more concerned about the people who are unaware of their HIV status if I was you.
Report them to admin for what? Being open and honest?
It must have been so difficult to tell you in the first place snd you repay that respect with this kind of attitude- shame on you "
Exactly its 100% safe to have bareback sex with someone who is HIV poative but undectable and are open / honest about thier status as opposed to going bareback with a random swinger who has no idea of thier HIV status.
When I read these threads I dispair sometimes. As _naswingdress it's the stigma driven by a lack of upto date knowledge that leads to people not testing and knowing thier status and subsequently infecting others.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And this is why stigma is still an issue around HIV.
If they are positive on treatment they are no risk to you even if you had a condom split. I would be more concerned about the people who are unaware of their HIV status if I was you.
Report them to admin for what? Being open and honest?
It must have been so difficult to tell you in the first place snd you repay that respect with this kind of attitude- shame on you
Exactly its 100% safe to have bareback sex with someone who is HIV poative but undectable and are open / honest about thier status as opposed to going bareback with a random swinger who has no idea of thier HIV status.
When I read these threads I dispair sometimes. As _naswingdress it's the stigma driven by a lack of upto date knowledge that leads to people not testing and knowing thier status and subsequently infecting others.
KJ "
100% safe only in the context of HIV transmission in that example obviously there are many other stis.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And this is why stigma is still an issue around HIV.
If they are positive on treatment they are no risk to you even if you had a condom split. I would be more concerned about the people who are unaware of their HIV status if I was you.
Report them to admin for what? Being open and honest?
It must have been so difficult to tell you in the first place snd you repay that respect with this kind of attitude- shame on you
Exactly its 100% safe to have bareback sex with someone who is HIV poative but undectable and are open / honest about thier status as opposed to going bareback with a random swinger who has no idea of thier HIV status.
When I read these threads I dispair sometimes. As _naswingdress it's the stigma driven by a lack of upto date knowledge that leads to people not testing and knowing thier status and subsequently infecting others.
KJ "
I dispair too, hopefully we can educate people and make a difference x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you’re worried, simply don’t play (no need 4 drama).
Also, make sure they use a condom the right way every time you have sex with lubricant to help prevent condom from breaking or slipping during sex.
I get myself tested regularly and always open & honest with every1 when asked about my health. Risk of catching STI’s/STD’s is always present if unlucky but it can be considerably reduced with protection.
In last 6 years of playing with plenty BB sex, I’ve been unfortunate to have caught Chlamydia (only the once) which I advertised on Fabs. for all to see. Treated with meds. & got myself retested to make sure all clear of symptoms b4 I resumed play again.
HIV is not the end of the World, modern medicine has moved on...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's it got to do with admin? Cos if the person was on here they need to know to banned them to make sure their swingers on here were safe"
The only way to be 100% 'safe' from sti's is to be celibate. Other than that all anyone can do is reduce their personal risk as much as they can |
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Sooooo happy to see that some people are up-to-date with their HIV knowledge. It’s just so well known and general knowledge in the gay world that it’s actually quite shocking to read some people’s outdated and incredibly wrong opinions on here.
Just for clarity, if someone is HIV+ and on treatment, you CANNOT catch HIV from them. They are, LITERALLY, the safest person to have sex with. Not just for the fact that they cannot…. Repeat… cannot pass HIV on to you, but also, that person will also be receiving very regular STI checks and having general medical health checks, too.
If anyone needs to know more, pleeeeeeeease message me. Knowledge is power. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't sleep with them & yes I
would think they should have brought this up much sooner than when things were going further.
I wouldn't report them though,but would advise them to tell other potential meets early on. |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't sleep with them & yes I
would think they should have brought this up much sooner than when things were going further.
I wouldn't report them though,but would advise them to tell other potential meets early on."
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"Sooooo happy to see that some people are up-to-date with their HIV knowledge. It’s just so well known and general knowledge in the gay world that it’s actually quite shocking to read some people’s outdated and incredibly wrong opinions on here.
Just for clarity, if someone is HIV+ and on treatment, you CANNOT catch HIV from them. They are, LITERALLY, the safest person to have sex with. Not just for the fact that they cannot…. Repeat… cannot pass HIV on to you, but also, that person will also be receiving very regular STI checks and having general medical health checks, too.
If anyone needs to know more, pleeeeeeeease message me. Knowledge is power."
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin
What if they’re on treatment and undetectable therefore in transmittable? "
Spot on!
It's not the 1980's it's not the death sentence it use to be! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin"
If this is a real situation.
The person probably wanted to get to know you before they discussed something so personal with you.
You making this post has proven how much lack of knowledge you have about it and why he didn't tell you straight away.
Reporting to Admin why?
We're all consulting adults most of us do regular health screening.
You should really educate yourself on the matter. |
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over a year ago
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"Sooooo happy to see that some people are up-to-date with their HIV knowledge. It’s just so well known and general knowledge in the gay world that it’s actually quite shocking to read some people’s outdated and incredibly wrong opinions on here.
Just for clarity, if someone is HIV+ and on treatment, you CANNOT catch HIV from them. They are, LITERALLY, the safest person to have sex with. Not just for the fact that they cannot…. Repeat… cannot pass HIV on to you, but also, that person will also be receiving very regular STI checks and having general medical health checks, too.
If anyone needs to know more, pleeeeeeeease message me. Knowledge is power. "
At last somebody who takes actual upto date facts into consideration.
Sadly the amount of posting I wouldn't sleep with them is bonkers yet read there profiles and veris and the fact is they are clearly taking far greater risks 
HIV Undetectable = Untransmittable (U=U). Look it up in terms of not wanting HIV they are as the poster above posted the safest option.
Sadly the stigma of the 80/90s is still around even now in the 20s. All that ignorance and stigma does is make wrongly feel shame, hide from testing and in turn put people at risk.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol what an idiotic thing to say about banning them ... jeez some people are so dumb its shocking in this day and age  "
That’s harsh. OP needs some kudos for asking questions and wanting to learn. I think it’s a real shame you’ve shot them down like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin"
Was you going to have unprotected sex with him ???
Bit ludicrous to have him banned  |
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"lol what an idiotic thing to say about banning them ... jeez some people are so dumb its shocking in this day and age
That’s harsh. OP needs some kudos for asking questions and wanting to learn. I think it’s a real shame you’ve shot them down like this."
If they had just asked the question they would have gotten a different response. I think it was the “I would report them and get them banned” that has elicited this response |
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"If they had just asked the question they would have gotten a different response. I think it was the “I would report them and get them banned” that has elicited this response "
Of course, but you think it, you don’t type it out - ‘idiotic’. That doesn’t help anyone. OP must have a pretty good idea from the 20 or so other previous posters that reporting wasn’t the best course of action, and it won’t affect the other party, they won’t be banned for being HIV+ and being honest about it. So isn’t this more about educating and informing a fellow formumite, rather than making them feel like a prize twat? |
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By *MabzeroMan
over a year ago
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It was interesting to realise that my attitude to HIV was from the Eighties.
And also to see all the positive information.
One other thing relating directly to the OP's comment is that there's nothing really preventing people signing up again under a different profile, so a ban might be pointless anyway.
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Someone told me after the fact 2 years ago they were positive.
I didn't really know anything about it and undetectable viral loads etc at that time and lost my mind for a week or two, didn't help I flew back to Greece the next day.
Anyway I was back after two days and got tested and educated myself and put on prep and is all fine. But I understand ops comment to report. Nothing wrong really on guysbpart but timing.
Speak go to you local clinic who can give you advice. |
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"It was interesting to realise that my attitude to HIV was from the Eighties.
And also to see all the positive information.
One other thing relating directly to the OP's comment is that there's nothing really preventing people signing up again under a different profile, so a ban might be pointless anyway.
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Is not illegal for hiv positive people to have sex. If they were knowingly infecting people it's different.
But I don't think fab would ban if taking precautios . A well known app for the gays displays people status if they put it in. |
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"If they had just asked the question they would have gotten a different response. I think it was the “I would report them and get them banned” that has elicited this response
Of course, but you think it, you don’t type it out - ‘idiotic’. That doesn’t help anyone. OP must have a pretty good idea from the 20 or so other previous posters that reporting wasn’t the best course of action, and it won’t affect the other party, they won’t be banned for being HIV+ and being honest about it. So isn’t this more about educating and informing a fellow formumite, rather than making them feel like a prize twat?"
Too late, Red....the vultures are already circling. |
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"If they had just asked the question they would have gotten a different response. I think it was the “I would report them and get them banned” that has elicited this response
Of course, but you think it, you don’t type it out - ‘idiotic’. That doesn’t help anyone. OP must have a pretty good idea from the 20 or so other previous posters that reporting wasn’t the best course of action, and it won’t affect the other party, they won’t be banned for being HIV+ and being honest about it. So isn’t this more about educating and informing a fellow formumite, rather than making them feel like a prize twat?
Too late, Red....the vultures are already circling."
I tried to be helpful for once. |
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"If they had just asked the question they would have gotten a different response. I think it was the “I would report them and get them banned” that has elicited this response
Of course, but you think it, you don’t type it out - ‘idiotic’. That doesn’t help anyone. OP must have a pretty good idea from the 20 or so other previous posters that reporting wasn’t the best course of action, and it won’t affect the other party, they won’t be banned for being HIV+ and being honest about it. So isn’t this more about educating and informing a fellow formumite, rather than making them feel like a prize twat?
Too late, Red....the vultures are already circling.
I tried to be helpful for once. "
I thought your comment was spot on. |
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"If they had just asked the question they would have gotten a different response. I think it was the “I would report them and get them banned” that has elicited this response
Of course, but you think it, you don’t type it out - ‘idiotic’. That doesn’t help anyone. OP must have a pretty good idea from the 20 or so other previous posters that reporting wasn’t the best course of action, and it won’t affect the other party, they won’t be banned for being HIV+ and being honest about it. So isn’t this more about educating and informing a fellow formumite, rather than making them feel like a prize twat?
Too late, Red....the vultures are already circling."
16 weeks ago yes |
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin"
Sorry your grammatical layout is a bit off.
Are you basically asking us if we would have sex with someone who just told us that he/she was hiv positive? |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
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"Would you swing with a swinger who said they were just before you was going to have sex with them they were HIV POSS. I know I wouldnt I report them to Admin"
May I suggest you go to the Terrence Higgins website and educate yourself! |
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If someone left it that late to tell me, I'd probably say no and not see them again.
However, if someone is open and honest from early days with it, takes the required precautions, and generally behaves like a decent human being, it's not a deal breaker in itself. |
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By *rBeejayMan
over a year ago
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"And this is why stigma is still an issue around HIV.
If they are positive on treatment they are no risk to you even if you had a condom split. I would be more concerned about the people who are unaware of their HIV status if I was you.
Report them to admin for what? Being open and honest?
It must have been so difficult to tell you in the first place snd you repay that respect with this kind of attitude- shame on you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The 80s called … they want their uneducated stigmatised views back !
We practice safe sex - with everyone .. HIV status isn’t always known so you run the risk anytime you have unprotected sex . Those being treated nowadays usually have such a low viral load its undetectable so unable to be transmitted .
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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It's saver to have sex with a person that has HIV, is on medication and an undetectable viral load than it is with a person who doesn't know their HIV status.
I wonder if the Op knows his HIV status? |
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over a year ago
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I think Admin from a swingers site is the least of their worries?
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Doctors should have a duty of care to report everyone who tests HIV positive to Fab admin?!… |
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"It's saver to have sex with a person that has HIV, is on medication and an undetectable viral load than it is with a person who doesn't know their HIV status.
I wonder if the Op knows his HIV status?"
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