FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Prefer an answer rather than get blanked
Prefer an answer rather than get blanked
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
I hold my hands up to this. And I will tell you the reason why, on my profile I am quite clear about the males that I would like to meet and if anyone has messaged me because they either have read it or just decided to ignore what I like, I'll very often delete the message and the same goes with anyone that is miles away from me, the likelihood of me meeting anyone from Scotland is going to be very very slim, so I won't reply.
Sounds harsh but I would be here for ages replying to every single one |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
A none reply is a no thank you as per the site rules
Also I would rather not reply than get abuse and called names and stuff
You go from being the most beautiful person on site to a “4 letter word” pritty fast with one no thanks |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
As the site faq says no reply is a no thanks
It just opens up for a you’re missing out, please fuck me etc…
Also if they reply but change their filters in the future to block single men you will bypass it as they’ve replied
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Fab FAQ are very clear on this
Here's a quote from them
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Nope, no reply means not interested, some people get tons of messages and from them who haven't read their profile, if I replied to every single man I'd probably receive a bit of abuse or questions as to why their not my type despite my profile clearly stating I'm not looking for single guys.
However saying that the ones who have read and just compliment the profile I will reply to.
Mrs |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
It's a bit entitled isn't it?
Expecting women to reply to say they aren't interested? To everyone that chances their arm?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We really do get what your saying, but it would be time consuming to reply to all the messages we get.
Maybe if guys read profiles more, it would save time for everyone.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Are you really that bothered that one person ignored you out of all that mail
Or if its all of them ignoring maybe its the content of the mail thats the problem
Try not to worry about it they will answer or they wont time will still tick on regardless
Ask yourself when your mobile rings saying suspected spam call or such do you always answer it or do you ignore some of them?
Ps if you say you answer all of them il choose not to believe you |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
One thing that isn’t talked about enough is that replying to someone negates and future filters that you put in place.
I generally don’t like to filter out single males, I like interesting messages from everyone but sometimes it’s just necessary for my own well being.
If I reply “no thanks” to people and I apply filters in the future, the filter no longer applies to them. Just a consideration people should ge aware of when the don’t get messages back |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've only been active here for a few weeks and only had 1 reply, and she suddenly blocked me after a few friendly messages.
It did annoy me but I realise it's just not practical to always reply to everyone.
It's the way it is. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"One thing that isn’t talked about enough is that replying to someone negates and future filters that you put in place.
I generally don’t like to filter out single males, I like interesting messages from everyone but sometimes it’s just necessary for my own well being.
If I reply “no thanks” to people and I apply filters in the future, the filter no longer applies to them. Just a consideration people should ge aware of when the don’t get messages back "
 yes! This is something I didn’t realise until recently. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We used to reply if we weren't interested, but it means that the guy who's messaging can continue to message even if we put the no men filter on. We've blocked a few who kept messaging despite the filter, which I think probably feels harsher to them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We really do get what your saying, but it would be time consuming to reply to all the messages we get.
Maybe if guys read profiles more, it would save time for everyone. "
This!!
Sorry guys, a little more effort on your part and you'll reap the rewards!
Casting as much bait as you can, with minimal effort, is very off-putting. You've only yourselves to blame!
* Caveat * There are some great single guys here, who are unfortunately in the minority |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"One thing that isn’t talked about enough is that replying to someone negates and future filters that you put in place.
I generally don’t like to filter out single males, I like interesting messages from everyone but sometimes it’s just necessary for my own well being.
If I reply “no thanks” to people and I apply filters in the future, the filter no longer applies to them. Just a consideration people should ge aware of when the don’t get messages back "
Beat me to it  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
They tell you "not interested" women gets abused. Women don't answer they get abused. They are stuck between a rock and a hard place. All you can do is try your best in the message or try a club were you can put yourself across better.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
A reply allows you to forever override any filters that person sets which is why no reply should be considered a no thank you
Do you personally contact every pizza flyer sent to you
Can you imagine how much time it takes to send dozens of no thank yous, this site is meant to be for fun not secretarial work experience |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We really do get what your saying, but it would be time consuming to reply to all the messages we get.
Maybe if guys read profiles more, it would save time for everyone. "
I'm curious what's your estimate on the number of men mailing you that simply do no read your profile. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *m272Woman
over a year ago
London |
If honest even as a site supporter we still have a limited amount of messages we can send so I would chose not to waste them sending no thanks responses.
Also there have been times when i have replied politely to decline and not been met with positive or polite responses.
Some people dont accept a polite no thank you and will continue to persue persistently because any response is better than none to them
Most female profiles on here are inundated daily and replying to everyone could easily become a full time job lol.
Try not to take no replies personally.
My bio is quite clear yet a high percentage of messages I receive are clearly sent from profiles that haven't bothered to read it properly chancing their luck completely missing the brief!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
In your opinion. Not answering if I’m not interested works easier for me. I guess we’re all different |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
I don't reply if I'm not interested because it stops any filters working in the future.
For example, if I have replied to every single male that messages, then I choose to block single males, all those I have replied to do not get filtered out and can still message me.
This and the fact that site rules say a no reply is a no thanks it's simple really. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
just accept the no answer thing as the reality, they just don't have time for conversations with people they're not interested in just put your effort into someone else, imagine just say as an example you had say 10 people chatting to you so 10 conversations they send you a message you reply and so on and so forth you wouldn't have the time or inclination to do it and live your life, so they pick a few and chat to them or don't chat to any new people at all  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"A none reply is a no thank you as per the site rules
Also I would rather not reply than get abuse and called names and stuff
You go from being the most beautiful person on site to a “4 letter word” pritty fast with one no thanks "
^ this, also I’ve found when I sent a ‘no thanks’ reply I always get another message saying ‘can I ask why’ |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"A none reply is a no thank you as per the site rules
Also I would rather not reply than get abuse and called names and stuff
You go from being the most beautiful person on site to a “4 letter word” pritty fast with one no thanks "
Well said |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"For goodness sake cry me a river already! omg white knuckle ride "
I’m a bit blunt lol! That may have been overly harsh. No reply means not interested! I don’t get how that’s difficult to understand lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *uryWhipMan
over a year ago
Harringay |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Just gonna have to accept thats not how it works. Sometimes it does but unfortunately its a numbers game and never works in our favour. Got better chance of winning the lottery |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Wait a sec folks, he hasn't complained. He's made a statement.
On the whole I agree.
However I totally understand why someone wouldnt reply.
It's all good.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
No reply is a reply in itself.
I am well aware of the quantity of messages that the women on here recieve. Especially those that are hot pic page 1 regulars. There just isnt enough time in the day to even cut and paste and reply to every message. Messages get lost deleted without reading. It may feel harsh to be the message sender but it is what it is.
Even if ot were possible, you then get the follow up message, why? And that then has to be repied too, and so on and so on.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
I often reply to a message.
I say ..
You are too far away...
They say..
I will come to you...
I say...
I don't host...
They say ..
I will get a hotel...
I say I don't do hotels .
I block them...
Another example
I reply ..
No ...
They reply..
You are cheerful aren't you .
I reply....
Get lost...
I block....
Another example
I reply...
I don't host ...
They reply car sex?
I reply
I don't do car sex.
They reply
Hotel?
I reply no then block
Another example
I reply
You are too far away
They reply sneering...
It's only 30 minutes away lol!
I reply
3O minutes walk to train station and hour on train each way.. I block
Do you get the drift ..
Very often people can't take no for an answer and have to try to question what someone says.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Seen this thread so many times in different guises. The suggestion I would appreciate is an automated thanks for your message but unfortunately I'm not interested at the moment.
This could be a button just the same as the block button so no extra effort would be required .
I know all the arguments against it but surely it would be an acceptable solution?
And the block button is still there should it be needed.
This was an option on another site I saw a few years ago,pre fab |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Seen this thread so many times in different guises. The suggestion I would appreciate is an automated thanks for your message but unfortunately I'm not interested at the moment.
This could be a button just the same as the block button so no extra effort would be required .
I know all the arguments against it but surely it would be an acceptable solution?
And the block button is still there should it be needed.
This was an option on another site I saw a few years ago,pre fab "
No need for a button. That's what the FAQs are for and anyone not getting a reply should refer to them, slience means no.
And as said above, so many times you say no thank you, on the very odd occasion you say it and you get bombarded. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
be so good if fab implanted a generic auto response tick box when you delete a message if not interested .. something like thanks for message but not what I am looking for . all the best with your search ... just automatically sent to the person if you tick the icon when deleting ...
least the person would then get a message of sorts I guess |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"be so good if fab implanted a generic auto response tick box when you delete a message if not interested .. something like thanks for message but not what I am looking for . all the best with your search ... just automatically sent to the person if you tick the icon when deleting ...
least the person would then get a message of sorts I guess "
...or a 100, depending on how many copy and paste messages sent per day   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"be so good if fab implanted a generic auto response tick box when you delete a message if not interested .. something like thanks for message but not what I am looking for . all the best with your search ... just automatically sent to the person if you tick the icon when deleting ...
least the person would then get a message of sorts I guess "
But would need an anti reply to it. So the reciever cant message back saying why?. Even if it was a 24hr or 48hr block type thing.
Fortunately i do not have these issues
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Everyone seems to take this site really seriously...
Just relax, don't take things personally and enjoy any good times that may come your way.
I don't think there is an obligation for anything on here apart from respect, manners and honesty?
Just enjoy the sexy, stunning people and all will be OK. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"be so good if fab implanted a generic auto response tick box when you delete a message if not interested .. something like thanks for message but not what I am looking for . all the best with your search ... just automatically sent to the person if you tick the icon when deleting ...
least the person would then get a message of sorts I guess
But would need an anti reply to it. So the reciever cant message back saying why?. Even if it was a 24hr or 48hr block type thing.
Fortunately i do not have these issues
"
Well I think anyone who gets deleted / with tick box would automatically be barred from sending am message to the person again for at least 6months .. not that hard for developers to implement tbh . but fab is built around a very old archaic structure for a social contact site . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Sorry, rather late to the party here, but having seen the volume of messages that couples and single females get, it's impossible sometimes to appreciate it, but they really would need an admin team to answer them all. A 'no thanks ' reply simply opens the door for the 'why not me' and so on - life is too short and sometimes best to move on buddy |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
We always reply to messages as long as the sender has taken the time to send a message.
'Hi' is not a message. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm not looking to meet single males, but very happy to chat to anyone on fab.
Apparently this is wholly unacceptable according to many men who message me. If I don't want to meet men, I should stop then from contacting me.
Or maybe be they should read my profile first and stop trying to chance it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
You’ve got no right to insist on a reply. Me and the wife got a couples account and when we have responded sometimes it we’ve had rude messages back so now we just ignore when we’re not interested |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I get shit for saying thanks but no thanks and I get shit for ignoring lol.
I don't have the time to reply to the people that cannot be bothered to read my profile and attach a picture at the very least.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I get shit for saying thanks but no thanks and I get shit for ignoring lol.
I don't have the time to reply to the people that cannot be bothered to read my profile and attach a picture at the very least.
"
yeah tbh you just have to give zero fucks to the people you are not interested in .. why would I remotely care if it upsets someone I dont reply to let them know I am not interested .. thats their problem not mine ...
why I think a site implemented thanks but not interested auto reply tick box would be a happy medium to handheld these types that need some form of message back.. though they would probably complain after a month that its just auto messages not an actual real typed reply lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"They do it on purpose to tease just take the no and move on. Don't give them what they want   "
many of the guys are just beggy fucks though that want to try to convince someone they are wrong by not wanting to meet them if they so no ... its an old game tactic men have used for so long .. to try guilt trip/shame/argue / bully the person down to agreeing .. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I get shit for saying thanks but no thanks and I get shit for ignoring lol.
I don't have the time to reply to the people that cannot be bothered to read my profile and attach a picture at the very least.
"
So true |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Not getting abuse when I reply no is a lot better than getting abuse, but hey can’t have everything |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"OP. I’m here to get my rocks off, not yours.
This is the point of FAB  "
Hang on. I’m here to get MY rocks off. I thought THAT was the point of Fab?
Have I been mis-sold? 
Admin : can I have a refund? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
You are not entitled to anybody else's time or effort.
Assuming you receive propositions from gay or bi men and assuming you have no interest in these propositions, do you feel they are all entitled to a polite response too? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"They do it on purpose to tease just take the no and move on. Don't give them what they want
many of the guys are just beggy fucks though that want to try to convince someone they are wrong by not wanting to meet them if they so no ... its an old game tactic men have used for so long .. to try guilt trip/shame/argue / bully the person down to agreeing .. "
I try not to send more than 2 replies without a reply back. Sometimes I read the reply wrong and reply again of that makes sense. I won't reply unless I've been replied too. If I send 1st message and don't get a response after being read then it's a no, simple. Not going to lose sleep over it.
If someone sends more than 2 replies and it starts getting bullyish then block then, simple.
If you're send a few photos then obviously more than 2 as you can only send 1 at a time.
This a game that takes lots of practise to learn. I was pissed off when I first joined and wasn't getting replies or meets but now I don't give a shit.
Had a 1st message from a local couple today I replied with a face pic, they replied saying I was good looking and where was I, I replied where I was and then nothing. Ah well.
The way I see it and I'm not trying to big myself up, but I'm a unique person with a unique story to tell. I don't consider myself a bad looking guy, I'm friendly, like a laugh, I'm not flirty or dirty unless you want me to be. I treat people with respect unless they need telling otherwise. I keep clean and wash my clothes regularly. You'd never know I slept in a tent if you met me, unless I had my backpack. I don't drink, smoke sometimes only when it's legal of course If you're brave enough you could come to my place and you could decide where we pitch the tent lol. I've had relationships with beautiful beautiful women on my travels and before my travels. In Norway I was there 2 MONTHS and had 2 relationships and a one night stand. 1 was the niece of an ex playboy bunny She was 23 and I was 41. Here in Spain I had a relationship with a gorgeous 33yo NZ woman who's father is in LA and a little famous. He's been on tv etc. You know how we met? Outside a pizzeria I was helping out in exchange for a pizza. She was sat alone so I approached her and said... 'There's no way you've been stood up you're too beautiful she smiled and I said 'I'm Aaron the local homeless man I sleep in my tent on the beach ' We talked outside the pizzeria until 06.00 and she invited me back for a shower and sleep and we talked more and she just said 'I think you should hug me now' Ill always remember that! Not long relationships as they dont want to travel and nothing will stop me from traveling. Not even love. So I can attract really beautiful women.
I'm in better shape than my profile picture as that was about 2 years ago. I just don't like taking photos of myself.
I'm stoned now lol
The point is... I get turned down by people who are a fraction of the beauty I've had in my life. That used to frustrate me when I started using this site but now I just think 'you're loss'! You will probably never have the chance to meet someone like me.
I did meet a beautiful woman on here in 2019 just before I left the UK, like the day before I think? We've talked every single day since and I've sent Good Morning Beautiful every morning. Sometimes in English or the language of whatever country I'm in at the time.
I should stop before the thread fills up before I can comment lol. 
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"They do it on purpose to tease just take the no and move on. Don't give them what they want
many of the guys are just beggy fucks though that want to try to convince someone they are wrong by not wanting to meet them if they so no ... its an old game tactic men have used for so long .. to try guilt trip/shame/argue / bully the person down to agreeing ..
I try not to send more than 2 replies without a reply back. Sometimes I read the reply wrong and reply again of that makes sense. I won't reply unless I've been replied too. If I send 1st message and don't get a response after being read then it's a no, simple. Not going to lose sleep over it.
If someone sends more than 2 replies and it starts getting bullyish then block then, simple.
If you're send a few photos then obviously more than 2 as you can only send 1 at a time.
This a game that takes lots of practise to learn. I was pissed off when I first joined and wasn't getting replies or meets but now I don't give a shit.
Had a 1st message from a local couple today I replied with a face pic, they replied saying I was good looking and where was I, I replied where I was and then nothing. Ah well.
The way I see it and I'm not trying to big myself up, but I'm a unique person with a unique story to tell. I don't consider myself a bad looking guy, I'm friendly, like a laugh, I'm not flirty or dirty unless you want me to be. I treat people with respect unless they need telling otherwise. I keep clean and wash my clothes regularly. You'd never know I slept in a tent if you met me, unless I had my backpack. I don't drink, smoke sometimes only when it's legal of course If you're brave enough you could come to my place and you could decide where we pitch the tent lol. I've had relationships with beautiful beautiful women on my travels and before my travels. In Norway I was there 2 MONTHS and had 2 relationships and a one night stand. 1 was the niece of an ex playboy bunny She was 23 and I was 41. Here in Spain I had a relationship with a gorgeous 33yo NZ woman who's father is in LA and a little famous. He's been on tv etc. You know how we met? Outside a pizzeria I was helping out in exchange for a pizza. She was sat alone so I approached her and said... 'There's no way you've been stood up you're too beautiful she smiled and I said 'I'm Aaron the local homeless man I sleep in my tent on the beach ' We talked outside the pizzeria until 06.00 and she invited me back for a shower and sleep and we talked more and she just said 'I think you should hug me now' Ill always remember that! Not long relationships as they dont want to travel and nothing will stop me from traveling. Not even love. So I can attract really beautiful women.
I'm in better shape than my profile picture as that was about 2 years ago. I just don't like taking photos of myself.
I'm stoned now lol
The point is... I get turned down by people who are a fraction of the beauty I've had in my life. That used to frustrate me when I started using this site but now I just think 'you're loss'! You will probably never have the chance to meet someone like me.
I did meet a beautiful woman on here in 2019 just before I left the UK, like the day before I think? We've talked every single day since and I've sent Good Morning Beautiful every morning. Sometimes in English or the language of whatever country I'm in at the time.
I should stop before the thread fills up before I can comment lol.
"
Yeah can we have an executive summary please |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"OP. I’m here to get my rocks off, not yours.
This is the point of FAB
Hang on. I’m here to get MY rocks off. I thought THAT was the point of Fab?
Have I been mis-sold?
Admin : can I have a refund? "
I’m here to read about people getting their rocks off…. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"They do it on purpose to tease just take the no and move on. Don't give them what they want
many of the guys are just beggy fucks though that want to try to convince someone they are wrong by not wanting to meet them if they so no ... its an old game tactic men have used for so long .. to try guilt trip/shame/argue / bully the person down to agreeing ..
I try not to send more than 2 replies without a reply back. Sometimes I read the reply wrong and reply again of that makes sense. I won't reply unless I've been replied too. If I send 1st message and don't get a response after being read then it's a no, simple. Not going to lose sleep over it.
If someone sends more than 2 replies and it starts getting bullyish then block then, simple.
If you're send a few photos then obviously more than 2 as you can only send 1 at a time.
This a game that takes lots of practise to learn. I was pissed off when I first joined and wasn't getting replies or meets but now I don't give a shit.
Had a 1st message from a local couple today I replied with a face pic, they replied saying I was good looking and where was I, I replied where I was and then nothing. Ah well.
The way I see it and I'm not trying to big myself up, but I'm a unique person with a unique story to tell. I don't consider myself a bad looking guy, I'm friendly, like a laugh, I'm not flirty or dirty unless you want me to be. I treat people with respect unless they need telling otherwise. I keep clean and wash my clothes regularly. You'd never know I slept in a tent if you met me, unless I had my backpack. I don't drink, smoke sometimes only when it's legal of course If you're brave enough you could come to my place and you could decide where we pitch the tent lol. I've had relationships with beautiful beautiful women on my travels and before my travels. In Norway I was there 2 MONTHS and had 2 relationships and a one night stand. 1 was the niece of an ex playboy bunny She was 23 and I was 41. Here in Spain I had a relationship with a gorgeous 33yo NZ woman who's father is in LA and a little famous. He's been on tv etc. You know how we met? Outside a pizzeria I was helping out in exchange for a pizza. She was sat alone so I approached her and said... 'There's no way you've been stood up you're too beautiful she smiled and I said 'I'm Aaron the local homeless man I sleep in my tent on the beach ' We talked outside the pizzeria until 06.00 and she invited me back for a shower and sleep and we talked more and she just said 'I think you should hug me now' Ill always remember that! Not long relationships as they dont want to travel and nothing will stop me from traveling. Not even love. So I can attract really beautiful women.
I'm in better shape than my profile picture as that was about 2 years ago. I just don't like taking photos of myself.
I'm stoned now lol
The point is... I get turned down by people who are a fraction of the beauty I've had in my life. That used to frustrate me when I started using this site but now I just think 'you're loss'! You will probably never have the chance to meet someone like me.
I did meet a beautiful woman on here in 2019 just before I left the UK, like the day before I think? We've talked every single day since and I've sent Good Morning Beautiful every morning. Sometimes in English or the language of whatever country I'm in at the time.
I should stop before the thread fills up before I can comment lol.
Yeah can we have an executive summary please "
Ok directors cut...
Don't get a reply I don't give a shit, their loss! I know I can attract beautiful women living in a tent or not.
I know what 1st impression look like. It happens most of the time. The reaction... You live in a tent?  Then after 5 minutes talking to me their attitude changes completely and they're wishing me luck and stain they wish they could do it. Someone said I as an inspiration yesterday and he may sponsor my YouTube channel. Don't judge a book by its cover, read the story! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I actually left and came back recently. I’d ‘nicely/politely/whatever’ replied to so many people that my filters no longer worked, and when I wanted a quiet time on here, I couldn’t.
I will now no longer reply unless I’m interested. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Of course it is, but when you've got hundreds of messages in your inbox (like we do right now) it simply isn't possible. It's easy to look at it as people being rude when you only have a handful in your own inbox but women, TS's and couples can get inundated with them. We aren't here for admin, so we scroll for messages with substance and if they have a face pic attached they'll get a reply.
"How u doin" "ur fit" and "lucky guy" get ignored for being boring or rude. Use imagination, make an effort and make sure your own profile is at least photo verified. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Being ignored does a great job to me x
A lady gets hundreds messages a day .
She opens mine is lucky enough already .
Don’t need to reply with a rejection . Is fine . More then fine .
Can u imagine reply a “ no thanks “ to number between 50 to 500 ?
A day ?
I rather a first hello to be ignored and blocked then reply to me with rude and cruel ignorant crap .
I had really sweet lovely rejections as well .
Loads of nice lovely ladies here .
Even they don’t meet and reject they Stil give strength and believe that kindness and sweetness Stil exists .
And very grateful all ladies here making all this possible .
Respect .
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I wish I got that amount of mail a day. I’ve blocked single men as definitely not what I’m looking for and couples not really. So if I get a msg from a couple I either politely decline or block and delete. I owe nobody nothing. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I don't take it personally at all. It's like shooting fish in a barrel for the lasses on here, and they get absolutely swamped with messages from us blokes.
Personally, I think it's unrealistic to expect a reply even if it's a no thank you etc. Yes its nice when someone takes the time to reply, is it expected...no.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Fab FAQ are very clear on this
Here's a quote from them
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
I wish I got that amount of mail a day. I’ve blocked single men as definitely not what I’m looking for and couples not really. So if I get a msg from a couple I either politely decline or block and delete. I owe nobody nothing. "
Exactly . No one owes nothing to anyone .
U don’t wanna bother reply u don’t have to .
Hello
End off .
Do u pick up the phone every time it rings ?
Ah . Do I fuck …. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
Yeah can we have an executive summary please
Ok directors cut...
Don't get a reply I don't give a shit, their loss! I know I can attract beautiful women living in a tent or not.
I know what 1st impression look like. It happens most of the time. The reaction... You live in a tent? Then after 5 minutes talking to me their attitude changes completely and they're wishing me luck and stain they wish they could do it. Someone said I as an inspiration yesterday and he may sponsor my YouTube channel. Don't judge a book by its cover, read the story! "
Isn't the directors cut usually longer??
Also, do you live in a tent?? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We literally don’t have time to reply to every message we get, we would be here all day some days! Also, we don’t owe anyone a reply. I’d rather spend my time messaging people we are interested in than telling a constant stream of people that we aren’t interested. Also, as a woman, it hasn’t always gone well turning guys down. Ignoring it is faster and safer.
C x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We literally don’t have time to reply to every message we get, we would be here all day some days! Also, we don’t owe anyone a reply. I’d rather spend my time messaging people we are interested in than telling a constant stream of people that we aren’t interested. Also, as a woman, it hasn’t always gone well turning guys down. Ignoring it is faster and safer.
C x"
OK, my pennysworth here, completely agree if a male has not bothered to read a profile and sent a cut and paste "fancy a shag in my Fiat 500/snowplough/white van"
It's when you meet all criteria, are polite and extremely low in expectation, include a face pic - and the message is unread?
Do women on Fab have a different inbox view?
I'm genuinely interested. Thanks. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We literally don’t have time to reply to every message we get, we would be here all day some days! Also, we don’t owe anyone a reply. I’d rather spend my time messaging people we are interested in than telling a constant stream of people that we aren’t interested. Also, as a woman, it hasn’t always gone well turning guys down. Ignoring it is faster and safer.
C x
OK, my pennysworth here, completely agree if a male has not bothered to read a profile and sent a cut and paste "fancy a shag in my Fiat 500/snowplough/white van"
It's when you meet all criteria, are polite and extremely low in expectation, include a face pic - and the message is unread?
Do women on Fab have a different inbox view?
I'm genuinely interested. Thanks. "
No, we have the same inbox.
You also need to factor in the possibility that she's dealt with at least one prick before she comes to your message. So she thinks "fuck it...can't be bothered".
Also, even if you had an inbox of a hundred odd messages and every one was from a decent guy, that's still a hell of a lot of time going through messages. Turns Fab into a full time job. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We literally don’t have time to reply to every message we get, we would be here all day some days! Also, we don’t owe anyone a reply. I’d rather spend my time messaging people we are interested in than telling a constant stream of people that we aren’t interested. Also, as a woman, it hasn’t always gone well turning guys down. Ignoring it is faster and safer.
C x
OK, my pennysworth here, completely agree if a male has not bothered to read a profile and sent a cut and paste "fancy a shag in my Fiat 500/snowplough/white van"
It's when you meet all criteria, are polite and extremely low in expectation, include a face pic - and the message is unread?
Do women on Fab have a different inbox view?
I'm genuinely interested. Thanks. "
If you’ve clearly stated in your profile that you aren’t looking for single men but guys message anyway, don’t expect a reply. Some days we have so many messages that it would be impossible to respond to all of them without being there all day. We’re a couples profile so I’ve no clue what the women’s inboxes look like but I imagine they’re exactly the same just way more full!
C x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"800 messages in 24 hours, no way I’m replying to those who don’t interest me. "
Aye, I get it, it's the not opening a message, not bothered about no reply or block, but some of us really do put effort in, hey ho, thats fab. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"800 messages in 24 hours, no way I’m replying to those who don’t interest me.
800 wow!!! There's no way you could reply.
"
Not a chance in hell! Would be a FT job and this is supposed to be fun! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"800 messages in 24 hours, no way I’m replying to those who don’t interest me.
800 wow!!! There's no way you could reply.
Not a chance in hell! Would be a FT job and this is supposed to be fun! "
Haha, that's true. If I had 800 emails at work I'd hand my notice in!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'd need a full time fabmin assistant if I was to reply to every message I get. There is just no way that I could do it alone ans still actually have a life! "
Fabmin! Haha love that
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We literally don’t have time to reply to every message we get, we would be here all day some days! Also, we don’t owe anyone a reply. I’d rather spend my time messaging people we are interested in than telling a constant stream of people that we aren’t interested. Also, as a woman, it hasn’t always gone well turning guys down. Ignoring it is faster and safer.
C x
OK, my pennysworth here, completely agree if a male has not bothered to read a profile and sent a cut and paste "fancy a shag in my Fiat 500/snowplough/white van"
It's when you meet all criteria, are polite and extremely low in expectation, include a face pic - and the message is unread?
Do women on Fab have a different inbox view?
I'm genuinely interested. Thanks.
No, we have the same inbox.
You also need to factor in the possibility that she's dealt with at least one prick before she comes to your message. So she thinks "fuck it...can't be bothered".
Also, even if you had an inbox of a hundred odd messages and every one was from a decent guy, that's still a hell of a lot of time going through messages. Turns Fab into a full time job."
Oh,Miss Muff, so true, and therein lies the problem. You have received a series of messages from men who haven't quite worked out how to use Andrex, you've got the huff, and bulk delete.
Including a Fab intro that Wordsworth would say, "fuck those daffodils, where is Glasgow?)
Now I could send Skippy to ask what you feel (what, mate, she's farting sparks 'cos of those drongoes) or potentially send another message when the mood is lighter.
So either way we infringe sensibilities or miss at least a chance of an initial conversation.
There is no right or wrong answer, just the lottery of who is on Fab, what mood they are in, and if they want to meet a man who just won £175 million on the lottery. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"For goodness sake cry me a river already! omg white knuckle ride
I’m a bit blunt lol! That may have been overly harsh. No reply means not interested! I don’t get how that’s difficult to understand lol"
awwww hey I understand it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
I think we all would but from what I have been told with the amount of messages the ladies get.
To read and answer every one they would have to be on here hours every day. You can work out the math easy enough, assuming 100 messages/day most ladies apparently get more than that but even at 100 assuming only 3 mins to read and reply to every one is 5 hours solid without a break. I'm damn sure I couldn't/wouldn't do that do how can I expect anyone else to? If a lady answers fantastic, if she doesnt not a problem just accept it and move on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Over 100 replies to the Ops comment. Yet he hasn’t replied to all of them. Maybe it’s too time consuming to do it, or he can’t be bothered.
Now Op this is the perfect example, imagine if all of these comments on your thread were messages. Currently you haven’t bothered replying bit hypocritical don’t you think ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Why don’t people just reply? It’s only good manners"
You wanna reply to the 1500 currently sat in my inbox? Who’s got time for that and good manners would be reading a profile and not messaging unless you fit what they’re looking for! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Or.......
You send 10 intro messages a day, 7 days a week for a 30 day month.
At the end of the month you've received 2,100 "no thank you, you're not for me" messages.
Questions;
Do you feel better about getting a reply now?
Do you send 2,100 "thanks for the no thanks" messages?
Winston
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"Getting an unsolicited message on Fab is the equivalent of receiving junk mail in the real world! You don't have to reply to say your not interested. "
It's not really is it?
On here you can stop all unsolicited messages quite easily, but still receive messages from those that you have contacted - you can't do that with your letter box! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
No answer is an answer
Im assuming you carefully reply to every bit of unsolicited junk mail that comes through your door ?
From listening to the ladies, those that have sent a polite thanks but no thanks often get bombarded with abuse or “why”
Plus they get literally hundreds of messages and many can’t afford a full time PA |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Why don’t people just reply? It’s only good manners"
I've just replied to someone who hadn't read our profile, took no notice of our age preferences, ignored the site pop up warning him he was outside our age preferences, is literally hundreds of miles away and offered a whole gamut of sexual desires, none of which interest us.
I bet he's delighted to have had a reply.
Winston |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don’t reply to people i’m not interested in. Nor are they obliged to respond to me if the same applies.
And all of that is okay."
Sureost single women do what we do, look at the profile first.
Then we look through the profile until we see the first red flag. If we get to the end of the profile with no red flags then we read the message. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Why don’t people just reply? It’s only good manners"
Much like on this comment thread, a lot of guys (yourself included) don't read what's said in front of you.
Ours states we're currently looking for genuine trans women and bi bottom males and aren't interested in unconvincing cross dressers. Who contacts us? Straight males and unconvincing cross dressers.
*insert face palm gif here*
D x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
I expect someone to give me a billion pounds but it is their choice and that is the bottom line.
No offence mate but you can't control people. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My profile states I will not reply to shadows. So if you have no profile picture I will automatically delete the message without reading it.
If someone cant be bothered to read my profile why should I take the time to read, and reply, to them? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Why don’t people just reply? It’s only good manners
You wanna reply to the 1500 currently sat in my inbox? Who’s got time for that and good manners would be reading a profile and not messaging unless you fit what they’re looking for! "
Why not delete them? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Why don’t people just reply? It’s only good manners
You wanna reply to the 1500 currently sat in my inbox? Who’s got time for that and good manners would be reading a profile and not messaging unless you fit what they’re looking for!
Why not delete them?"
I tend to as I go along! Most of those are from the last 24 hours! Btw I’m not complaining just explaining that I won’t be responding to those I’m not interested in. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
A lot of men (not forumites, obviously) don't realise that ladies and couples get a deluge of mail everyday unlike the trickle into a single male's inbox.
(And most sent to me haven't read my profile, just seen 'bi' and assumed I'd meet anybody.)
I usually reply, but even with only one a day, I can't be bothered with people who have sent a message shorter than their user name.I
On the other hand, if someone does send me a 'not interested ' reply, I will reply politely, not throwing a tantrum or asking for explanations. Not burning bridges, but accepting their decision.
Because people on a social network know each other. Get a reputation as a rude entitled person and your chances of getting a meet will drop even further.
Behave like an adult and be a positive person, and it may pay dividends later.
People who throw a strop about no reply, or respond badly when told no are selfish and self-esteem and probably the same in bed. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It’s a bit like applying for a job, no?
You send your cv in and hear….crickets.
Would you send a twatty message if you didn’t get a reply? No, you’d accept they had too many to reply no to, and leave it at that. Why is it any different on here?
What amazes me though, is that we can keep saying we get too many messages, it’s unreasonable to expect us to reply to people we’re not interested in, and there are still men saying, ‘yeah I get that, but I still want a reply, because I’m special’. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored
I often reply to a message.
I say ..
You are too far away...
They say..
I will come to you...
I say...
I don't host...
They say ..
I will get a hotel...
I say I don't do hotels .
I block them...
Another example
I reply ..
No ...
They reply..
You are cheerful aren't you .
I reply....
Get lost...
I block....
Another example
I reply...
I don't host ...
They reply car sex?
I reply
I don't do car sex.
They reply
Hotel?
I reply no then block
Another example
I reply
You are too far away
They reply sneering...
It's only 30 minutes away lol!
I reply
3O minutes walk to train station and hour on train each way.. I block
Do you get the drift ..
Very often people can't take no for an answer and have to try to question what someone says.
"
Love this but at the same time what a lot of pain an suffering people have to go through unnecessarily |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Why don’t people just reply? It’s only good manners"
Here’s an example;
“Sorry not for me happy fabbing”
- why not / but I’m / you met … / or potential abuse
A no reply, is a reply. It’s nothing to do with manners.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
See these threads come up several times. Same examples given by women and couples why they don’t answer all of their messages. Often these examples make complete sense and are reasonable.
However what you very rarely see, is the Op giving a counter argument to those reasonable examples or him (it’s generally guys starting these threads) admitting they didn’t know the full facts and a level of understanding. Same with the other guys who suddenly appear agreeing with the Op, but not adding to the discussion.
So these threads are a continuous circle forever to be repeated and no lessons learned or understood. Admittedly, it still amuses me the hypocrisy of wanting your messages to be replied but not contributing to all of the messages on this thread. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
The bottom line is people behave differently online than in person. I’m sure in quite a few instances it will be a case of the message sender clearly hadn’t read the profile, we get this all the time. And sometimes it will be a case of the receiver getting swamped with messages and simply don’t have time to reply to everyone.
But it will also sometimes be a case of “can’t be bothered”. Nothing you can do about any of the above, just chalk it up as experience |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So these threads are a continuous circle forever to be repeated and no lessons learned or understood. Admittedly, it still amuses me the hypocrisy of wanting your messages to be replied but not contributing to all of the messages on this thread. "
^ This. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored
I hold my hands up to this. And I will tell you the reason why, on my profile I am quite clear about the males that I would like to meet and if anyone has messaged me because they either have read it or just decided to ignore what I like, I'll very often delete the message and the same goes with anyone that is miles away from me, the likelihood of me meeting anyone from Scotland is going to be very very slim, so I won't reply.
Sounds harsh but I would be here for ages replying to every single one "
I actually get this. Listen the men on here outnumber the women greatly. Chances are slim to zero at best. And these girls have got lots more to do than say no no thank you 1000 times a day |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
"Why don’t people just reply? It’s only good manners
You wanna reply to the 1500 currently sat in my inbox? Who’s got time for that and good manners would be reading a profile and not messaging unless you fit what they’re looking for! "
It gets exhausting, especially when the majority of them are some combo of hi/hi x/wuu2/u ok. I’m sure the OP will be on to reply to everyone I barely about their comments, which might give him an idea of exactly how it feels. We got bored of receiving 100s of messages, use tight filters, hide pics and only after that last step did the messages go down. I’ve no doubt when we want to meet again it’ll be 200 messages an hour again ?? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I try to reply to pms out of politeness, even if its only to say no thank you, it was how I was raised to be
Having said that, when there are over 100 messages to get through it gets time consuming especially when it's obvious the message sender has not read the profile first, or has, and just doesn't give a rats about our preferences, so no reply coming there
Rudeness in pms will be blocked and deleted |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"See these threads come up several times. Same examples given by women and couples why they don’t answer all of their messages. Often these examples make complete sense and are reasonable.
However what you very rarely see, is the Op giving a counter argument to those reasonable examples or him (it’s generally guys starting these threads) admitting they didn’t know the full facts and a level of understanding. Same with the other guys who suddenly appear agreeing with the Op, but not adding to the discussion.
So these threads are a continuous circle forever to be repeated and no lessons learned or understood. Admittedly, it still amuses me the hypocrisy of wanting your messages to be replied but not contributing to all of the messages on this thread. "
Well said.
J |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Getting a answer back from someone who isn't interested in you is alot better than being ignored "
Winning the lottery is great too. And receiving a blowjob from 3 different women. And winning a year's worth of diesel.
Yet, in the real world, we have to learn to stop whinging just because we don't get what we want. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
