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over a year ago
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I'll be straight to the point here.
I chatted constantly for two weeks with someone who I was really fond of and the impression I got was that she felt the same. She had some bad news earlier this week and said she'll not be available as much, but likes me quite a bit and she'll be in touch when things have calmed down. Now, it's her birthday today and I'm in two minds as to weather to wish her a happy birthday or leave it and see if she comes back to me. I'm awful at dealing with these kind of situations and would appreciate any advice. Thank you. X |
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"I'll be straight to the point here.
I chatted constantly for two weeks with someone who I was really fond of and the impression I got was that she felt the same. She had some bad news earlier this week and said she'll not be available as much, but likes me quite a bit and she'll be in touch when things have calmed down. Now, it's her birthday today and I'm in two minds as to weather to wish her a happy birthday or leave it and see if she comes back to me. I'm awful at dealing with these kind of situations and would appreciate any advice. Thank you. X"
just send her a message saying weather's crap but happy birthday I'll sort you out a pressie when I see you next  |
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Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X |
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X"
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
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I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X |
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X"
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted  |
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted "
Thank you, and yours too. I'm so tempted to just ask what the situation is, but I know that might not be the wisest move. I think I'm gonna plan a night out with my mates and take my mind off the situation. X |
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted
Thank you, and yours too. I'm so tempted to just ask what the situation is, but I know that might not be the wisest move. I think I'm gonna plan a night out with my mates and take my mind off the situation. X"
Seems like you’re very sensible about it which is always good! I am “blessed” which ADHD though, so I couldn’t stand the not knowing and did ask just to find myself deeper in confusion and overthinking 
Keep us updated if the wild night out with mates help, I might do the same if it works |
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted
Thank you, and yours too. I'm so tempted to just ask what the situation is, but I know that might not be the wisest move. I think I'm gonna plan a night out with my mates and take my mind off the situation. X
Seems like you’re very sensible about it which is always good! I am “blessed” which ADHD though, so I couldn’t stand the not knowing and did ask just to find myself deeper in confusion and overthinking
Keep us updated if the wild night out with mates help, I might do the same if it works "
Well I'm pretty certain Im on the spectrum somewhere. I've been convinced since my teens. My brain works exactly the same and things like this totally absorb me. X |
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted
Thank you, and yours too. I'm so tempted to just ask what the situation is, but I know that might not be the wisest move. I think I'm gonna plan a night out with my mates and take my mind off the situation. X
Seems like you’re very sensible about it which is always good! I am “blessed” which ADHD though, so I couldn’t stand the not knowing and did ask just to find myself deeper in confusion and overthinking
Keep us updated if the wild night out with mates help, I might do the same if it works
Well I'm pretty certain Im on the spectrum somewhere. I've been convinced since my teens. My brain works exactly the same and things like this totally absorb me. X"
You seem to manage it way better than me then  really hope it works out for you though! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted
Thank you, and yours too. I'm so tempted to just ask what the situation is, but I know that might not be the wisest move. I think I'm gonna plan a night out with my mates and take my mind off the situation. X
Seems like you’re very sensible about it which is always good! I am “blessed” which ADHD though, so I couldn’t stand the not knowing and did ask just to find myself deeper in confusion and overthinking
Keep us updated if the wild night out with mates help, I might do the same if it works
Well I'm pretty certain Im on the spectrum somewhere. I've been convinced since my teens. My brain works exactly the same and things like this totally absorb me. X
You seem to manage it way better than me then really hope it works out for you though!"
Thank you. And you too. X |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted
Thank you, and yours too. I'm so tempted to just ask what the situation is, but I know that might not be the wisest move. I think I'm gonna plan a night out with my mates and take my mind off the situation. X
Seems like you’re very sensible about it which is always good! I am “blessed” which ADHD though, so I couldn’t stand the not knowing and did ask just to find myself deeper in confusion and overthinking
Keep us updated if the wild night out with mates help, I might do the same if it works
Well I'm pretty certain Im on the spectrum somewhere. I've been convinced since my teens. My brain works exactly the same and things like this totally absorb me. X"
One thing to try and do is not build expectancy levels and invest yourself too much after what is essentially just two weeks of chat. Sounds like you've never met, possibly (I could be wrong) only ever 'chatted' by message on here rather than by phone (so never even actually spoken to her)and yet are already having what you describe as a difficult time because things aren't progressing.
To many that would be a major red flag and a good reason to back off, even if there wasn't any reason to do so before.
Slowly slowly catchy monkey.
Someone slowing things down isn't them messing you around. People have lives off Fab and to many this is just a small part of their life, not in any way a priority.
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"Thanks guys. Just didn't want to come across as too much. I'll wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I'm having a bit of a difficult time dealing with it as I've been messed around soooo many times in the past and it's completely taken over my mind over the past few days. Thanks again. X
Yes, there's nothing wrong with wishing someone a happy birthday unless they've explicitly requested being left alone.
What I do find concerning tho is this completely taking over your mind for a few days. Are you emotionally and mentally ready for what may lie ahead?
I guess I just want to know where I stand really. We seemed to have a really good connection and we were talking about meeting this weekend. Im just not sure of these issues in her life this past week are a "kind" way of saying thanks, but no thanks. Anyway, I've wished her a happy birthday and I'll leave it at that. Thanks for your advice. X
I’m in an awfully similar situation. Feeling friend-zoned after thinking we had an amazing connection (which rarely happens to me to be fair), unsure what to do to be honest. Hopefully you’re getting your situation sorted
Thank you, and yours too. I'm so tempted to just ask what the situation is, but I know that might not be the wisest move. I think I'm gonna plan a night out with my mates and take my mind off the situation. X
Seems like you’re very sensible about it which is always good! I am “blessed” which ADHD though, so I couldn’t stand the not knowing and did ask just to find myself deeper in confusion and overthinking
Keep us updated if the wild night out with mates help, I might do the same if it works
Well I'm pretty certain Im on the spectrum somewhere. I've been convinced since my teens. My brain works exactly the same and things like this totally absorb me. X
One thing to try and do is not build expectancy levels and invest yourself too much after what is essentially just two weeks of chat. Sounds like you've never met, possibly (I could be wrong) only ever 'chatted' by message on here rather than by phone (so never even actually spoken to her)and yet are already having what you describe as a difficult time because things aren't progressing.
To many that would be a major red flag and a good reason to back off, even if there wasn't any reason to do so before.
Slowly slowly catchy monkey.
Someone slowing things down isn't them messing you around. People have lives off Fab and to many this is just a small part of their life, not in any way a priority.
A"
Yeah, you're right. It has only been two weeks. I've just had some quite deep conversations with this person and things felt like they were going well. I'm satisfied she is real and not some bloke having a bit of fun, but having an overactive mind during these situations doesn't help. X |
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Err on the side of caution, if she may be suggesting the need for her time and space just now.
Otherwise, send if you'd like to. And then sort yourself out, as the picture painted doesn't sound so great.
Make your life interesting and fun. Don't wait for a potentially mythical pot of gold at the end of any rainbow  |
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"Err on the side of caution, if she may be suggesting the need for her time and space just now.
Otherwise, send if you'd like to. And then sort yourself out, as the picture painted doesn't sound so great.
Make your life interesting and fun. Don't wait for a potentially mythical pot of gold at the end of any rainbow "
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"I'll be straight to the point here.
I chatted constantly for two weeks with someone who I was really fond of and the impression I got was that she felt the same. She had some bad news earlier this week and said she'll not be available as much, but likes me quite a bit and she'll be in touch when things have calmed down. Now, it's her birthday today and I'm in two minds as to weather to wish her a happy birthday or leave it and see if she comes back to me. I'm awful at dealing with these kind of situations and would appreciate any advice. Thank you. X"
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