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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some have a choice , some don’t , we might be killing it but also we might be struggling ….
Any one want to share their thoughts ?
Personally …. Depends day to day , most of the time I’m all over it , but then there’s the times it feels to much , the times I feel lonely….
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I guess in a warped way I'm lucky that my brief time as a not-single parent was so horrendous that in comparison it's only ever seemed a breeze on my own.
Well, perhaps "breeze" is a little hyperbolic because...parenting
However there's no shame in feeling differently. We have a massive responsibility to shoulder alone and as a group are disproportionately affected by factors such as poverty, stress, mental illness etc.
I hope things start to feel wasier for you soon. |
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The daily list of things to do never gets smaller, i do feel lonely sometimes and i am someone happy in my own company. I keep positive by reminding myself I am doing the most important job on the planet. Sometimes i do feel guilty for enjoying the time (once a fortnight) i have to myself.
Sometimes i am naughty, to keep the fires burning!
All my love to you OP and others here. |
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I never been good at being single . I hate it 
But now as a single dad ? Is worse , much much worse …
Is 3 years now I left that house . She was 2 . My little girl . And is for 3 years this constant daily broken heart . It really hurts every single day .
It just doesn’t stop .
Not live with my daughter every day . Hurts me so much .
She hurts loads too . We weren’t lucky . We weren’t lucky at all
It really hurts .
Only 1 day a week doesn’t cut it . Not at all
Hopefully soon I go back to London Colney and I can have her on week evenings after school as well .
Like we used to do .
Respect to all seperate parents who care . And special respect to the innocent who are pushed away by the cruel and narcissistic ones xx
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Depends on the definition of single parent.
I define myself as one, although my ex is still in the picture and has our child 3 days/nights a week. On my days, I'm a single parent. On his, he is.
It comes with its good and its bad. Now hes older, simple things like popping to the shops for bread and milk arent an ordeal of getting 2 of us ready. |
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I agree with some how we define what a single parent.
For the past 12 years I have always had my child/teenager for 3 and half days and nights a week. I have never missed a day and my child will always come first before anyone else.
I'm so use to my own company, I thought being lonely does not bother me. Until, my teenager is currently in a relationship with a partner since college. Loneliness has given me a different prestective, not that I need a partner to share my life or live with. But my teenager is growing up so fast and maybe soon leave the nest for their personal adventures. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I never been good at being single . I hate it
But now as a single dad ? Is worse , much much worse …
Is 3 years now I left that house . She was 2 . My little girl . And is for 3 years this constant daily broken heart . It really hurts every single day .
It just doesn’t stop .
Not live with my daughter every day . Hurts me so much .
She hurts loads too . We weren’t lucky . We weren’t lucky at all
It really hurts .
Only 1 day a week doesn’t cut it . Not at all
Hopefully soon I go back to London Colney and I can have her on week evenings after school as well .
Like we used to do .
Respect to all seperate parents who care . And special respect to the innocent who are pushed away by the cruel and narcissistic ones xx
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Awwww I hope things work out for you . X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree with some how we define what a single parent.
For the past 12 years I have always had my child/teenager for 3 and half days and nights a week. I have never missed a day and my child will always come first before anyone else.
I'm so use to my own company, I thought being lonely does not bother me. Until, my teenager is currently in a relationship with a partner since college. Loneliness has given me a different prestective, not that I need a partner to share my life or live with. But my teenager is growing up so fast and maybe soon leave the nest for their personal adventures. "
I’m dreading that day! Hopefully not for a long time though for me. Sending hugs to you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The daily list of things to do never gets smaller, i do feel lonely sometimes and i am someone happy in my own company. I keep positive by reminding myself I am doing the most important job on the planet. Sometimes i do feel guilty for enjoying the time (once a fortnight) i have to myself.
Sometimes i am naughty, to keep the fires burning!
All my love to you OP and others here. "
Haha I like to keep the fires burning too !
Lots of love to you xx |
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I was from a single parent household. Some kids have a hard time because of their parents having a hard time. 
To those parents that struggle through how hard it must be, you do something I would find difficult.
I had my baby for one night alone when my ex wife went out, I called her phone because I thought I couldn’t manage on my own. And that was one night, and one child. Not to mention I was in a relationship and didn’t have that emotional struggle. |
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It's hard being a single parent. It's harder being a single parent to kids when their other parent has died and your mother and father to them permanently. X |
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"It's hard being a single parent. It's harder being a single parent to kids when their other parent has died and your mother and father to them permanently. X"
Definitely
She goes to her dads but he’s more interested in getting pissed and I don’t like her staying overnight for that reason
It’s also a nightmare dating. I had her late in life so most blokes my age have grown up kids off their hands
The last bloke I dated said ‘ I ain’t taking on anyone else’s kids, I’ve done my bit raising kids’
Yeah it was early days with him , but she’s only 12 ffs . How would that have worked out ? |
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I was a single mum although my boys are adults now  had its challenges but I’m oh so proud of the men they’ve turned out to be.
My eldest just started his dream job too working in TV beating off 1000s of other candidates.
Can be difficult when they’re young but the hard work is oh so worth it! |
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"It's hard being a single parent. It's harder being a single parent to kids when their other parent has died and your mother and father to them permanently. X"
I’m sorry to hear this about their parents but how lucky they are to have you there for them as their security and rock. |
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I find myself at a point where the early years were a breeze compared to having a teenage daughter stropping everywhere.
It’s awful…I used to know what to do or to say but it’s like talking to a less rational version of my ex.. |
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I only have my boys at weekends. Well, one of them anyway, the others working now. Damn that makes me feel old! 
We split when they were 2 and 12, I'm lucky in that she's always encouraged me to see them rather than fight to keep me away. I would see them in the evenings but after a full on working day that extra 3 hours of travelling wouldn't help in any way. I do miss coming home to them, but the time I do have now is so much more fulfilling than it was when I was married to their mum. |
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"The daily list of things to do never gets smaller, i do feel lonely sometimes and i am someone happy in my own company. I keep positive by reminding myself I am doing the most important job on the planet. Sometimes i do feel guilty for enjoying the time (once a fortnight) i have to myself.
Sometimes i am naughty, to keep the fires burning!
All my love to you OP and others here.
Haha I like to keep the fires burning too !
Lots of love to you xx"
Well WE are the adults so deserve a bit of fun and pleasure, even if it is self pleasure mostly 
It is important to feel good and release tension at the very least.  |
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I brought my 2 children up on my own and I'll be honest at first when I put them to bed at night I hit the bottle. Until one morning I woke up at the bottom of the stairs,scared me to death never drank again. Being a single parent is not easy ...... |
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"I brought my 2 children up on my own and I'll be honest at first when I put them to bed at night I hit the bottle. Until one morning I woke up at the bottom of the stairs,scared me to death never drank again. Being a single parent is not easy ......"
Hope you are in a better place now, stay strong for them. All the best x |
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