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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated "
Shouldn't you ask her?  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated
Shouldn't you ask her? "
exactly she's your leader now....... Remember and start conversation 'oh so gracious one'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A female led not family. So my girlfriend makes every single decision and I have no say what so ever
Doesn’t sound like a relationship to me "
Sounds more like marriage 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Potentially it does sound like a marriage but she chooses every thing she moulds our relationship how she wants it and I cannot say no. Right down to little details of choosing what I wear, when I can go out etc |
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"A female led not family. So my girlfriend makes every single decision and I have no say what so ever
Doesn’t sound like a relationship to me "
Yeah I thought that...is it a sub and humiliation type thing? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated
Shouldn't you ask her? exactly she's your leader now....... Remember and start conversation 'oh so gracious one' "
We are still in the stage of discussing things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A female led not family. So my girlfriend makes every single decision and I have no say what so ever
Doesn’t sound like a relationship to me
Yeah I thought that...is it a sub and humiliation type thing? "
Yes I’m a way. So I would say my love language is serving. I just want to make her happy in anyway I can |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated
Shouldn't you ask her? exactly she's your leader now....... Remember and start conversation 'oh so gracious one'
We are still in the stage of discussing things "
yes but you have to be subservient to her |
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"A female led not family. So my girlfriend makes every single decision and I have no say what so ever
Doesn’t sound like a relationship to me
Yeah I thought that...is it a sub and humiliation type thing?
Yes I’m a way. So I would say my love language is serving. I just want to make her happy in anyway I can "
I would say know your limits. Have you been together long? Some people are people pleasers, other people can be advantage takers and abusers.
Communication Communication communication. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Has she brought you cock cage yet?"
No not yet. She has said I’m not allowed to masturbate anymore. Or I have to ask her. So maybe it would be a good thing to bring up. We are still in the very early stages. I don’t want to rush things I want her to feel comfortable in her making the decisions if you get me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated
Shouldn't you ask her? exactly she's your leader now....... Remember and start conversation 'oh so gracious one'
We are still in the stage of discussing things yes but you have to be subservient to her "
I am prepared for that I think |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A female led not family. So my girlfriend makes every single decision and I have no say what so ever
Doesn’t sound like a relationship to me
Yeah I thought that...is it a sub and humiliation type thing?
Yes I’m a way. So I would say my love language is serving. I just want to make her happy in anyway I can
I would say know your limits. Have you been together long? Some people are people pleasers, other people can be advantage takers and abusers.
Communication Communication communication. "
We’ve been together like 8 months and our relationship was ok just arguments about me not spending enough time with her maybe, and I’ve always been naturally submissive so when I brought it up it came as a little bit of a shock, but then she liked the idea and here we are. And yes I told her that this will only work with communication all the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fair play to her. I cannot think of anything worse than taking every decision for a grown adult who is perfectly capable of doing it themselves. I can just imagine irritability, resentment, anger and frustration creeping in. Even if this is the dynamic you both have chosen, have you discussed how you might tackle those feelings should they arise? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fair play to her. I cannot think of anything worse than taking every decision for a grown adult who is perfectly capable of doing it themselves. I can just imagine irritability, resentment, anger and frustration creeping in. Even if this is the dynamic you both have chosen, have you discussed how you might tackle those feelings should they arise?"
I mean I’ve always believed I should serve a woman. I believe men should do all the work around the house etc, so I don’t think I would cause an issue to arise. But we are still just discussing what rules we want in place for our relationship x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I meant those issues might arise from her side because she has to take responsibility for every decision "
don’t worry I’ve made it perfectly clear that if she’s want to make all the decisions and she’s adamant she ants to because it makes her life happier and better
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She might also find making all the decisions quite stressful - I did when I was in a relationship as responsibility for it also means accountability for it and it can be the root of disagreements if things don’t go well - lots of things to be mindful of - but good luck to you both  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She might also find making all the decisions quite stressful - I did when I was in a relationship as responsibility for it also means accountability for it and it can be the root of disagreements if things don’t go well - lots of things to be mindful of - but good luck to you both "
This is my thoughts too.
As mentioned above op you need to make sure You set very clear boundaries, and talking regularly about how it's going. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"She might also find making all the decisions quite stressful - I did when I was in a relationship as responsibility for it also means accountability for it and it can be the root of disagreements if things don’t go well - lots of things to be mindful of - but good luck to you both
This is my thoughts too.
As mentioned above op you need to make sure You set very clear boundaries, and talking regularly about how it's going. "
Yes I made it very clear we need to communicate all the time for this to work |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"She might also find making all the decisions quite stressful - I did when I was in a relationship as responsibility for it also means accountability for it and it can be the root of disagreements if things don’t go well - lots of things to be mindful of - but good luck to you both "
Yes we have discussed how important communication is going to be. It’s just all a little overwhelming at first |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label "
Potentially you are correct haha. I’m just a jnaturally submissive person and we both think it will be great for our relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label
Potentially you are correct haha. I’m just a jnaturally submissive person and we both think it will be great for our relationship "
She’s going to tell you what to eat and when? Who you can talk to? She could tell you to bin all social media and contact with family?
Where are you drawing the lines? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did you look into this before signing up to it? It all sounds a bit hung ho to me. Especially the financial side. 8 months isn’t very long to really get to know someone OP.
I’d be wary."
I’ve been submissive since literally being 18-19 so I know a lot about the lifestyle. She is still very new and vanilla but she said she likes to take control of a relationship. So I figured it works for both of us x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label
Potentially you are correct haha. I’m just a jnaturally submissive person and we both think it will be great for our relationship
She’s going to tell you what to eat and when? Who you can talk to? She could tell you to bin all social media and contact with family?
Where are you drawing the lines?"
She’s already said that she wouldn’t take the mick financially and no I can talk to my family etc I don’t have to bin anything just respect when she wants me to come off of them to spend time with her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label
Potentially you are correct haha. I’m just a jnaturally submissive person and we both think it will be great for our relationship
She’s going to tell you what to eat and when? Who you can talk to? She could tell you to bin all social media and contact with family?
Where are you drawing the lines?
She’s already said that she wouldn’t take the mick financially and no I can talk to my family etc I don’t have to bin anything just respect when she wants me to come off of them to spend time with her "
And she knows you are on here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label
Potentially you are correct haha. I’m just a jnaturally submissive person and we both think it will be great for our relationship
She’s going to tell you what to eat and when? Who you can talk to? She could tell you to bin all social media and contact with family?
Where are you drawing the lines?
She’s already said that she wouldn’t take the mick financially and no I can talk to my family etc I don’t have to bin anything just respect when she wants me to come off of them to spend time with her
And she knows you are on here?"
She does yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label
Potentially you are correct haha. I’m just a jnaturally submissive person and we both think it will be great for our relationship
She’s going to tell you what to eat and when? Who you can talk to? She could tell you to bin all social media and contact with family?
Where are you drawing the lines?
She’s already said that she wouldn’t take the mick financially and no I can talk to my family etc I don’t have to bin anything just respect when she wants me to come off of them to spend time with her
And she knows you are on here?
She does yes "
Sounds bonkers to me but good luck OP |
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"Potentially it does sound like a marriage but she chooses every thing she moulds our relationship how she wants it and I cannot say no. Right down to little details of choosing what I wear, when I can go out etc "
Nothing about this sounds like a marriage well a healthy balanced marriage anyway. I would be wary about giving up control with someone I have only known for 8 months.It seems like a recipe for disaster.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label
Potentially you are correct haha. I’m just a jnaturally submissive person and we both think it will be great for our relationship
She’s going to tell you what to eat and when? Who you can talk to? She could tell you to bin all social media and contact with family?
Where are you drawing the lines?
She’s already said that she wouldn’t take the mick financially and no I can talk to my family etc I don’t have to bin anything just respect when she wants me to come off of them to spend time with her
And she knows you are on here?
She does yes
Sounds bonkers to me but good luck OP "
Yeah it’s not for a lot of people. But it’s what works best for our relationship |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Potentially it does sound like a marriage but she chooses every thing she moulds our relationship how she wants it and I cannot say no. Right down to little details of choosing what I wear, when I can go out etc Nothing about this sounds like a marriage well a healthy balanced marriage anyway. I would be wary about giving up control with someone I have only known for 8 months.It seems like a recipe for disaster."
Oh no sorry we’ve been together 8 months, we’ve actually known each other or whole lives |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She the bread winner? actually yes but she also has my wallet and controls my finances and I have to ask if I can buy anything "
I would entertain being a lad of leisure for a boss b!tch |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"She the bread winner? actually yes but she also has my wallet and controls my finances and I have to ask if I can buy anything
I would entertain being a lad of leisure for a boss b!tch "
That’s the way I think mate. I just want to serve her in every way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like a nightmare for her. Carrying the whole mental load for two adults is exhausting."
I get that it comes across like that. But it what she wants it’s not like I’m incapable of making my own decisions. It’s more of if she wants me to do something I will do it. Not like she’s a parent figure if that makes sense. Just that I’m submissive and ready to serve whenever she wants x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She the bread winner? actually yes but she also has my wallet and controls my finances and I have to ask if I can buy anything
I would entertain being a lad of leisure for a boss b!tch
That’s the way I think mate. I just want to serve her in every way "
The opposite really. Her as cuckqueen dynamic |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"Sounds like a nightmare for her. Carrying the whole mental load for two adults is exhausting.
I get that it comes across like that. But it what she wants it’s not like I’m incapable of making my own decisions. It’s more of if she wants me to do something I will do it. Not like she’s a parent figure if that makes sense. Just that I’m submissive and ready to serve whenever she wants x"
Allowing the better organiser to plan stuff, is an example of "I'll be the brawn and you can be the brains" aka specialism. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"She the bread winner? actually yes but she also has my wallet and controls my finances and I have to ask if I can buy anything
I would entertain being a lad of leisure for a boss b!tch
That’s the way I think mate. I just want to serve her in every way
The opposite really. Her as cuckqueen dynamic "
I don’t know if it would turn into a cuckold situation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like a nightmare for her. Carrying the whole mental load for two adults is exhausting.
I get that it comes across like that. But it what she wants it’s not like I’m incapable of making my own decisions. It’s more of if she wants me to do something I will do it. Not like she’s a parent figure if that makes sense. Just that I’m submissive and ready to serve whenever she wants x
Allowing the better organiser to plan stuff, is an example of "I'll be the brawn and you can be the brains" aka specialism. "
Exactly mate. And normally women know what’s best for a relationship to be the best it can be |
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Yes, I'm in an FLR. But we have been together for 20 years, married for 18 and I don't expect or would want full control of absolutely everything even down to his finances.
If your profile bio is true and correct, your girlfriend knows about it and what it says, and she is wanting a 100% control off every element of your life if I would be concerned.
If she has been having problems with thinking you're not spending enough time with her and then this has been suggested, it would be a massive red flag to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, I'm in an FLR. But we have been together for 20 years, married for 18 and I don't expect or would want full control of absolutely everything even down to his finances.
If your profile bio is true and correct, your girlfriend knows about it and what it says, and she is wanting a 100% control off every element of your life if I would be concerned.
If she has been having problems with thinking you're not spending enough time with her and then this has been suggested, it would be a massive red flag to me. "
I’m honest very happy to give her all control of it though |
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Have a Google of a MD/lb dynamic, yes I've been In one and we had strict boundaries and clear concise communication, you won't find much about it on here, it's not a popular fab kink.
Pm me if you want more info and good luck  |
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"She the bread winner? actually yes but she also has my wallet and controls my finances and I have to ask if I can buy anything
I would entertain being a lad of leisure for a boss b!tch
That’s the way I think mate. I just want to serve her in every way
The opposite really. Her as cuckqueen dynamic
I don’t know if it would turn into a cuckold situation "
I think that bridge has already been crossed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"She the bread winner? actually yes but she also has my wallet and controls my finances and I have to ask if I can buy anything
I would entertain being a lad of leisure for a boss b!tch
That’s the way I think mate. I just want to serve her in every way
The opposite really. Her as cuckqueen dynamic
I don’t know if it would turn into a cuckold situation
I think that bridge has already been crossed "
How so? |
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This is making me anxious just thinking about it. The thought of having to think for Swing as well as myself  It would definitely be very short lived and one of us would end up under the patio
Good luck op I hope you find the information you’re looking for |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is making me anxious just thinking about it. The thought of having to think for Swing as well as myself It would definitely be very short lived and one of us would end up under the patio
Good luck op I hope you find the information you’re looking for "
Thankyou very much. It’s not a case really of her having to do my thinking for me. But I will do whatever she wants per say x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When are Fab finally going to give us the face palm emoji?
I’m sorry? Why?
The voluntary abdication of human free will for one thing. "
Have you never read up on female led relationship’s before? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do what makes you happy OP. As long as you are safe and happy and not being manipulated into making this choice and have free will to say if/when you’d like the arrangement to end. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do what makes you happy OP. As long as you are safe and happy and not being manipulated into making this choice and have free will to say if/when you’d like the arrangement to end. "
Yes I have free will still don’t worry, I’ve just submitted to her is all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When are Fab finally going to give us the face palm emoji?
I’m sorry? Why?
The voluntary abdication of human free will for one thing.
Have you never read up on female led relationship’s before?"
Nope and I have no intention of ever doing so. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When are Fab finally going to give us the face palm emoji?
I’m sorry? Why?
The voluntary abdication of human free will for one thing.
Have you never read up on female led relationship’s before?
Nope and I have no intention of ever doing so. "
Fair enough, sorry x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose if it works for both of you then why not? It wouldn’t work for me though.
I bet a lot of relationships are female-led anyway without the label "
I was just about to post this… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When are Fab finally going to give us the face palm emoji?
I’m sorry? Why?
The voluntary abdication of human free will for one thing.
Have you never read up on female led relationship’s before?
Nope and I have no intention of ever doing so. "
Quite right. When has ignorance ever stopped someone posting their opinion on fab? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When are Fab finally going to give us the face palm emoji?
I’m sorry? Why?
The voluntary abdication of human free will for one thing.
Have you never read up on female led relationship’s before?
Nope and I have no intention of ever doing so.
Quite right. When has ignorance ever stopped someone posting their opinion on fab? "
I thought the same |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know alot about flr op ,but think 8 months is a bit soon to give someone total control over you and your money /life.
Sometimes people aren't all they pretend to be ,if you still ho ahead good luck but be vigilant. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't know alot about flr op ,but think 8 months is a bit soon to give someone total control over you and your money /life.
Sometimes people aren't all they pretend to be ,if you still ho ahead good luck but be vigilant."
Thankyou for your advice x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated
Shouldn't you ask her? exactly she's your leader now....... Remember and start conversation 'oh so gracious one'
We are still in the stage of discussing things "
I knew someone like this , he even changed his last name to hers , they weren’t married. He was actually very dominant in many ways, and strong outspoken opinions on many things, including his views that women were to be worshipped and adored by men. He completely organised his whole life around her wishes/needs, last I heard of him they were very happy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated
Shouldn't you ask her? exactly she's your leader now....... Remember and start conversation 'oh so gracious one'
We are still in the stage of discussing things
I knew someone like this , he even changed his last name to hers , they weren’t married. He was actually very dominant in many ways, and strong outspoken opinions on many things, including his views that women were to be worshipped and adored by men. He completely organised his whole life around her wishes/needs, last I heard of him they were very happy "
This fills me with a lot of hope and happiness, thankyou |
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Lots of very happy and loving F Ok R out there. Once the dynamics are flowing freely ,they are the best relationships. But can be full of potholes. Not all are perfect mine lasted four years but now am single and in search of my own FLR.best of luck to you two , hope it works out...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When are Fab finally going to give us the face palm emoji?
I’m sorry? Why?
The voluntary abdication of human free will for one thing.
Have you never read up on female led relationship’s before?
Nope and I have no intention of ever doing so.
Fair enough, sorry x"
You really shouldn't be apologising for the ignorance of others. Good luck to you and your partner x |
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"Me and my other half recently agreed to a female led relationship and I was wondering if anyone e had any advice for us. It would be much appreciated "
ask her, but if this is genuine, she would be on here asking as a female led relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A female led not family. So my girlfriend makes every single decision and I have no say what so ever
Uh huh….You’re new to this whole ‘relationship’ thing, aren’t you? You have much to learn about who really rules the roost. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't read up on for but from what I'm reading in this thread scares me, so I need some clarification if that's ok OP?
You say you have free will and can stop it whenever you choose to, but what if she says no this is how it's staying?
What happens if she takes out massive loans/credit cards in your name and doesn't pay them how would you know (as she's in charge of finances) be wary of this my ex took out a catalogue in my name ran up £2k on there then left me do this part is particularly concerning.
As to why people think it might turn into a cuckold situation, what of she decides that what she wants? You in a cock cage watching from the corner of the room while she's having sex with another bloke saying how much better he is you can't say no because she makes all of the decisions.
Fair play to you for living your kink but as people have said 8 months is not a long relationship to give someone this much control.
Maybe start off small then get bigger if it works for you?
Sorry if I seem ignorant I'm just concerned |
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"Is it female led if you told her that's what you wanted?
As a concept, if it's something that happens organically, I can see it working.
But not if it's instigated by the man "
I see the point you're making but I think you're taking a blinkered, short sighted view if you think simply because it wasn't the woman that initially came up with the idea then it will be doomed to failure. |
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"A female led not family. So my girlfriend makes every single decision and I have no say what so ever "
That's a recipe for disaster.
Equal decisions, equal responsibility, equal trust. As a couple on fab, we discussed what we both want, so both of us get what we need out of being swingers together.
If you have no say, the time may come when you don't like something in life or in your sex life and what you say doesn't matter, so you life started to become more unhappy. |
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"We are just both very new and wondering if any couple live the same lifestyle x
I would say what you may be describing is a cuckold relationship "
I would say you are wrong. Where has the OP said his partner is having sex with other men? |
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