We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!
Have reported and blocked and know the general consensus will be to ignore it and move on, but in all honesty it does throw you and make you wonder firstly why people can be like that (we know keyboard warriors) and secondly whether this is worth the hassle.
We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nastiness stemming from frustration on a site where many men are ignored...
Those that get a kick out of abusing folk when there's no consequences.
Folk just being bellends  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hugs
I just see it as a extra filter and dodged a built
As if they spit the dummy at a no thanks or what ever
Just think how much worse it could be in mid meet and they decided to do something out within your comfort range and you told them no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean, that shade of toe nail is pretty jarring, to say the least.
Maybe he had a point, but didn't articulate it very well.
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Jokes obviously. Hold back the hammer of bans.
Still, yeah, that's clearly uncalled for, hopefully it won't be something that sticks in the mind once you've had a good vent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Such a sweet and sexy couple doesn't need to deal with this negativity, but it is an unfortunate fact of life. Rise above, report and block. Unless you want a specific set of skills, which can get expensive.  |
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"We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!
Have reported and blocked and know the general consensus will be to ignore it and move on, but in all honesty it does throw you and make you wonder firstly why people can be like that (we know keyboard warriors) and secondly whether this is worth the hassle.
We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant!"
Unfortunally people like him are everywhere, just move forward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!
Have reported and blocked and know the general consensus will be to ignore it and move on, but in all honesty it does throw you and make you wonder firstly why people can be like that (we know keyboard warriors) and secondly whether this is worth the hassle.
We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant!"
Tbh it's a Jungle , with so many different types , some people can't handle rejection and unfortunately that's how they deal with it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think often the abuse comes from frustration, the person sending the abuse is rather unhappy because anyone who is feeling OK doesn't feel the need to abuse others simply because they say no or because they say something they don't agree with. |
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I got abuse off a couple for not wanting to meet up straight away. Had both barrels off the shotgun from them, calling me fat, a loser, pathetic etc.
There’s an awful lot of insecure fragile ego’s on this site. Sorry you experienced that.  |
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The advent of digital communication has allowed those who feel disempowered, lacking in skills, etc to have the same or greater power / voice as those that they perceive as being above them and state things with impunity.
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Anonymous communication allows idiots to be idiots, usually without consequence. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!
Have reported and blocked and know the general consensus will be to ignore it and move on, but in all honesty it does throw you and make you wonder firstly why people can be like that (we know keyboard warriors) and secondly whether this is worth the hassle.
We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant!"
. Sorry to read that you have been abused it’s not right but unfortunately this seems to be happening a lot with online keyboard warriors. You don’t have to answer but on your profile it says British Indian Couple was the abuse related to you been Indian or a Indian male feel they are entitled to a meet because they are the same nationality as you. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Thank you all for your input/advice
No nothing to do with being Indian Cos19"
. Ok that’s good to hear just that I have seen and witnessed things with the Indian community as well as the Greek and Turkish community that are involved in swinging where it feels like a entitlement that you are from the same community / background as someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s horrible feeling had couple of very nasty guys make awful comments attacking hubby. Just try forgetting as had some lovely guys chat here to xx"
As damn that’s horrible sorry to hear that! |
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Just this minute had guy totally out of blue just insulting me from 1st message. Then blocked me I have absolutely zero idea what he got out of it ? Here for bit of fun chat to like minded people! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember this site has a lot of men who assume this site is for getting an easy fuck....but when it dawns on them that its not like that,they get angry and lash out |
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By *lackroses85Woman
over a year ago
Between Norwich & Yarmouth |
"Remember this site has a lot of men who assume this site is for getting an easy fuck....but when it dawns on them that its not like that,they get angry and lash out"
This! I've had guys abuse me because "this is a sex site and I shouldn't be so fussy" usually the ones with 20 pics of their cock on display x |
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Had quite a few in the few months I've been here.
Couple for asking for face pic before social meet.
Couple for insisting on social meet first before going back to hotel room.
Single guy profile who claimed to be part of couple, but was unable to provide details of partner.
Single female who I refused to meet when she suddenly mentioned male partner (after multiple conversations)
Many guys, who claim to have read my profile have a tantrum when asked why they think boundaries don't apply to them. (I say women only, not pegging guys etc). And I get 1001 messages ' I know you only seek women, BUT, .....meet me, fuck me, dominate me,peg me etc...
There is no But.
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We have had a older man offered himself to be my sugar daddy, trying to give me money for sex.
My fiancé answered the message on my behalf for this old geezer to claim that my pictures were on Adult Work. He demanded the link and the username, which this geezer conveniently said he forgot then blocked us. Dude got reported and his account deleted. I deem that man as abusive and potentially extortive.
Then there is the bloke who used the “Nearby” part and asked us if we lived in the area and offered us “a free taxi ride.” That was weird and creepy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New pic I never post pics like this as looks not for everyone but I’m shocked how many like pic. Made up for for earlier xx"
It's an amazing pic! It really shows off the hard work and dedication to get them and should absolutely be commended because I have serious ab envy. I could look like that, but I like cookies and doughnuts too much   |
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"Someone just called me a yiddo on chatrooms, wasn’t the nicest feeling in the world (they knew I was jewish)"
Sorry you had that abuse. Sending hugs. Report any abuse, when you can, as fab is better off without such people |
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We just had a meet that went wrong. Our profile spells out our boundaries and we reaffirmed them in a message, but hands still went wandering where they shouldn’t. We terminated the meet there and then as we said we would. Before they even got to their car they sent an abusive message slagging us both off.
Mr takes these things in his stride but it’s really affected Mrs. Would love to name and shame but I know that will get us a ban and the mods would just delete the message but other people should know who they are.
It’s not fair that the innocent get punished and the dickheads get away with it. Reported them but they are site supporters so I doubt anything will happen |
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"Someone just called me a yiddo on chatrooms, wasn’t the nicest feeling in the world (they knew I was jewish)
Sorry you had that abuse. Sending hugs. Report any abuse, when you can, as fab is better off without such people "
Thanks, sending hugs back  |
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over a year ago
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Diego would forgive him and apologise for whatever he thinks we did wrong.
Play up to him and make him certain that he had the upper hand with lots of praise for his obvious manliness.
When he was nice and comfortable again Diego would then set up a meet somewhere nice and quiet and dark, maybe a dogging type of thing. |
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"Diego would forgive him and apologise for whatever he thinks we did wrong.
Play up to him and make him certain that he had the upper hand with lots of praise for his obvious manliness.
When he was nice and comfortable again Diego would then set up a meet somewhere nice and quiet and dark, maybe a dogging type of thing. "
We like Diego's approach...just how we do things round our way! Lol X |
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