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Why I'm really here...

By *nion_Knight OP Man over a year ago

Cardiff

After being constantly rejected romantically, the only way I can emotionally bare to put myself out there is by posting pictures of my big dick in hopes that I can get validation from it.

When approaching women on this site by acting like a fuck boy, it hurts way less when I get rejected. It's because when using this site, they're not rejecting me based on who I am as a person.

I guess all I really want is that affection and closeness but fuck I just can't go back to dating again. One more rejection and I think I'm going to have a breakdown...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't really know what to say, but I hope you're ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m here for boobies! ( . Y . )

Sorry to hear this OP, I hope you find what you yearn on here, but Fab is a fickle world.

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm sorry to hear that, but I do understand what you mean.

I guess I kinda feel similarly. Yeah I love sex and I'm pretty damn kinky, but at the same time I'd really like someone to care about me as a person and not just as a body to fuck, but even when I tried the dating world every guy I met either turned it sexual straight away, or led me on until they got to sleep with me and then just used me anyway. One guy has really badly hurt me and It's left me with no self confidence, so I might as well use this site to fulfill my sexual needs as there's no difference anyway really!

Hope you're ok

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By *nion_Knight OP Man over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what it's like being on a date with someone and not knowing what their intentions are. At least I know where I stand when I'm dating.

I've heard someone say before "if men get stuck in the friend zone, then women get stuck in the fuck zone"

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what it's like being on a date with someone and not knowing what their intentions are. At least I know where I stand when I'm dating.

I've heard someone say before "if men get stuck in the friend zone, then women get stuck in the fuck zone" "

This is so true! It seems that I only exist in the fuck zone!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems like you don't really want to act like a fuck boy because you say it's an act, not your natural self?

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By *nion_Knight OP Man over a year ago

Cardiff

It's an act I put on because I don't find it painful when I get rejected or ghosted.

My natural self never gets me further than the first date which really hurts because I know that the core of me as a person is being rejected

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww OP it doesn't sound like a good place at the moment.. Maybe take a wee break and rebuild some resilience and confidence before trying again.. I hope you are ok xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"After being constantly rejected romantically, the only way I can emotionally bare to put myself out there is by posting pictures of my big dick in hopes that I can get validation from it.

When approaching women on this site by acting like a fuck boy, it hurts way less when I get rejected. It's because when using this site, they're not rejecting me based on who I am as a person.

I guess all I really want is that affection and closeness but fuck I just can't go back to dating again. One more rejection and I think I'm going to have a breakdown..."

Welcome to my world....but stick true to who you are and listen to Midnight's advice

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Good luck on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That’s some refreshing honesty OP. And I think you’re talking for a lot of fuck boys even if you don’t realise it. Kudos

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

This is very true, OP. Sex for me is always the ultimate intimacy, trust, validation. It's not separate from who I am. I could live without sex, if necessary: I couldn't live without being valued.

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By *nion_Knight OP Man over a year ago

Cardiff

Thanks midnight. The last time I tried dating was a year ago and I still feel just as bad. Every rejection felt like a hit to my confidence yet didn't build up any of my resilience at all.

I'm also angry I do believe I have a lot too offer and if I was actually given time to demonstrate my value, then I believe many women that I've romantically shown interest towards would be very happy to be with me but because I don't fit into whatever preconceived mold of what they expect a person to be like, I get instantly disregarded.

I had no idea that was going to come out when I started typing honestly. Just needed to rant

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry to hear that, but I do understand what you mean.

Hope you're ok"

This is me right now too. Seeking validation in all the wrong places

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"I'm sorry to hear that, but I do understand what you mean.

Hope you're ok

This is me right now too. Seeking validation in all the wrong places

You know that true validation comes from inside. I hope you also know many people, here and elsewhere, think you are wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry to hear that, but I do understand what you mean.

Hope you're ok

This is me right now too. Seeking validation in all the wrong places

You know that true validation comes from inside. I hope you also know many people, here and elsewhere, think you are wonderful. "

On here nah, people will say that to get a fuck but IRL yes I have people who like me and even love me

Deleted my entire friends list and all 100+ photos today, I just don’t have the energy right now to deal with it. The feeling may pass, we’ll see!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry to hear that, but I do understand what you mean.

Hope you're ok

This is me right now too. Seeking validation in all the wrong places

You know that true validation comes from inside. I hope you also know many people, here and elsewhere, think you are wonderful.

On here nah, people will say that to get a fuck but IRL yes I have people who like me and even love me

Deleted my entire friends list and all 100+ photos today, I just don’t have the energy right now to deal with it. The feeling may pass, we’ll see! "

I wiped my insta I’d spent years on. Lost interest. Just all a bit meh. I use it to follow artists I like now. Not sure if this site is validating ..or eroding

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry to hear that, but I do understand what you mean.

Hope you're ok

This is me right now too. Seeking validation in all the wrong places

You know that true validation comes from inside. I hope you also know many people, here and elsewhere, think you are wonderful.

On here nah, people will say that to get a fuck but IRL yes I have people who like me and even love me

Deleted my entire friends list and all 100+ photos today, I just don’t have the energy right now to deal with it. The feeling may pass, we’ll see!

I wiped my insta I’d spent years on. Lost interest. Just all a bit meh. I use it to follow artists I like now. Not sure if this site is validating ..or eroding

Ha that’s how I feel about fab currently. It’s all just a bit meh! I think it’s probably more false validation than anything, it can feel validating at times but that validation is fake!

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By *inkywife1981Couple over a year ago

A town near you

OP is only 30 so plenty of time for finding the right partner.

I would suggest joining clubs or groups where you might meet likeminded individuals?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP is only 30 so plenty of time for finding the right partner.

I would suggest joining clubs or groups where you might meet likeminded individuals?"

as they say it’s when you least expect it .. hopefully Cupid will strike in the not too distant future.

If you want to meet a partner interested in the real you, OP, then while I understand the feelings of rejection you have 2 choices really, either keep getting back on the horse and putting yourself out there in the dating world (and being the genuine you) or hide away and avoid conventional dating altogether, in which case it’s unlikely you’ll never meet anyone.

I guess there IS a third way .. play the Fuck Boy caricature of yourself in the hope of attracting someone and if you do, then you have the dilemma of continuing the act in perpetuity or revealing your real self (which might not be what they fell for)..

Anyway, good luck in the search. I hope you find what you’re looking for

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

"I'm sorry to hear that, but I do understand what you mean.

Hope you're ok

This is me right now too. Seeking validation in all the wrong places

You know that true validation comes from inside. I hope you also know many people, here and elsewhere, think you are wonderful.

On here nah, people will say that to get a fuck but IRL yes I have people who like me and even love me

Deleted my entire friends list and all 100+ photos today, I just don’t have the energy right now to deal with it. The feeling may pass, we’ll see!

I wiped my insta I’d spent years on. Lost interest. Just all a bit meh. I use it to follow artists I like now. Not sure if this site is validating ..or eroding

Ha that’s how I feel about fab currently. It’s all just a bit meh! I think it’s probably more false validation than anything, it can feel validating at times but that validation is fake! "

Oh god, I was having just this conversation with a friend on here earlier today - the "meh" must be catching as I definitely have it!

First meeting of the Mojo Recovery Working Group is Thursday at 3.30...all are welcome!

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By *aiseiMan over a year ago

Birmingham

Best of luck with it all, OP…..I hope you find what you’re looking for.

As it currently stands, I’m just here to perv. The last time I sex it was just tragic from my point of view, and I went without it for so long before then that I’m past caring about it.

Trying to imagine having sex is just absurd to me now.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

If someone is looking for romance I'd suggest that a swingers site is the wrong place to look.

Those that do find it despite being on here, not because of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think alot of people are on here for some kind of validation. Whenever you're feeling a little shitty, you got to take a step back from this site and others and just concentrate on other aspects of your life that could do with some improvement.

Says I've been on here for 8 months but in reality I come and go and only use it for a week or 2 at a time before taking time off again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"After being constantly rejected romantically, the only way I can emotionally bare to put myself out there is by posting pictures of my big dick in hopes that I can get validation from it.

When approaching women on this site by acting like a fuck boy, it hurts way less when I get rejected. It's because when using this site, they're not rejecting me based on who I am as a person.

I guess all I really want is that affection and closeness but fuck I just can't go back to dating again. One more rejection and I think I'm going to have a breakdown..."

I hope this isn't how you talk to women? If so I think I've found your issue

Posting pictures of my big dick lol

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