I've just been for my flu jab at the doctors. It's one of those clinics where you queue up and get jabbed en mass. There's very limited parking because they use half the car park for a queuing area. As I am a wheelchair user and one of the disabled bays was blocked off, I was invited by a marshall to park across two bays on the end, so I could get in/out and get my chair in/out etc.
As I was waiting in the queue, a middle aged woman announced very loudly that my parking was absolutely disgusting and the driver should be ashamed and started to rant. I replied to say it was not disgusting because of my situation and that I'd been instructed to park like that.
Did she apologise? No. She continued to insist "I didn't know it was a wheelchair user", to which I said "well, don't say such things out loud because you'll never know the situation". She proceeded to have a very loud conversation in the queue behind me about terrible parking she'd seen at Tesco etc and she did not apologise.
I am absolutely raging angry. Furious. I can't convey how cross I am.
I get it a lot - as I'm pulling into a blue badge bay, someone knocks on the window to tell me I shouldn't be parking there, because they see the torso of a young person. I get stared at as I'm parking, people evidently making assumptions.
Please be kind, people. Don't assume. Disabled people come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Not all disabilities are visible either.
I'll go back to gently stewing now  |
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over a year ago
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"I've just been for my flu jab at the doctors. It's one of those clinics where you queue up and get jabbed en mass. There's very limited parking because they use half the car park for a queuing area. As I am a wheelchair user and one of the disabled bays was blocked off, I was invited by a marshall to park across two bays on the end, so I could get in/out and get my chair in/out etc.
As I was waiting in the queue, a middle aged woman announced very loudly that my parking was absolutely disgusting and the driver should be ashamed and started to rant. I replied to say it was not disgusting because of my situation and that I'd been instructed to park like that.
Did she apologise? No. She continued to insist "I didn't know it was a wheelchair user", to which I said "well, don't say such things out loud because you'll never know the situation". She proceeded to have a very loud conversation in the queue behind me about terrible parking she'd seen at Tesco etc and she did not apologise.
I am absolutely raging angry. Furious. I can't convey how cross I am.
I get it a lot - as I'm pulling into a blue badge bay, someone knocks on the window to tell me I shouldn't be parking there, because they see the torso of a young person. I get stared at as I'm parking, people evidently making assumptions.
Please be kind, people. Don't assume. Disabled people come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Not all disabilities are visible either.
I'll go back to gently stewing now "
People are shit, that's awful that she carried on.
I have an invisible illness and have had the looks, judgements and comments. People just love sticking their oar into other peoples business |
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"I've just been for my flu jab at the doctors. It's one of those clinics where you queue up and get jabbed en mass. There's very limited parking because they use half the car park for a queuing area. As I am a wheelchair user and one of the disabled bays was blocked off, I was invited by a marshall to park across two bays on the end, so I could get in/out and get my chair in/out etc.
As I was waiting in the queue, a middle aged woman announced very loudly that my parking was absolutely disgusting and the driver should be ashamed and started to rant. I replied to say it was not disgusting because of my situation and that I'd been instructed to park like that.
Did she apologise? No. She continued to insist "I didn't know it was a wheelchair user", to which I said "well, don't say such things out loud because you'll never know the situation". She proceeded to have a very loud conversation in the queue behind me about terrible parking she'd seen at Tesco etc and she did not apologise.
I am absolutely raging angry. Furious. I can't convey how cross I am.
I get it a lot - as I'm pulling into a blue badge bay, someone knocks on the window to tell me I shouldn't be parking there, because they see the torso of a young person. I get stared at as I'm parking, people evidently making assumptions.
Please be kind, people. Don't assume. Disabled people come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Not all disabilities are visible either.
I'll go back to gently stewing now "
I feel your anger ...negotiating my mum up a narrow space between cars in Normal parking spaces because the disabled ones have all been taken is no joke  |
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"I've just been for my flu jab at the doctors. It's one of those clinics where you queue up and get jabbed en mass. There's very limited parking because they use half the car park for a queuing area. As I am a wheelchair user and one of the disabled bays was blocked off, I was invited by a marshall to park across two bays on the end, so I could get in/out and get my chair in/out etc.
As I was waiting in the queue, a middle aged woman announced very loudly that my parking was absolutely disgusting and the driver should be ashamed and started to rant. I replied to say it was not disgusting because of my situation and that I'd been instructed to park like that.
Did she apologise? No. She continued to insist "I didn't know it was a wheelchair user", to which I said "well, don't say such things out loud because you'll never know the situation". She proceeded to have a very loud conversation in the queue behind me about terrible parking she'd seen at Tesco etc and she did not apologise.
I am absolutely raging angry. Furious. I can't convey how cross I am.
I get it a lot - as I'm pulling into a blue badge bay, someone knocks on the window to tell me I shouldn't be parking there, because they see the torso of a young person. I get stared at as I'm parking, people evidently making assumptions.
Please be kind, people. Don't assume. Disabled people come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Not all disabilities are visible either.
I'll go back to gently stewing now "
It's one thing to be an arsehole over something, but then when you're proven to have been in the wrong, to still stubbornly believe you are in the right and continue spitting poison - that's a different level of dickery
Sorry you had to endure that vile person  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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A friend of mine is a hale and hearty brick outhouse from the hips up. So, when he parks in a disabled space, he gets some funny looks.
He once got into a row with a guy who started shouting at him through his car window and ended it by taking off his false leg and throwing it at the bloke.  |
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"Get some Boudicca blades n do their shins on the way out."
You can buy spiky handle covers actually, to stop people seizing your chair and pushing you around.
Yes, this actually happens! Especially in lifts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always cheer yourself up with the thought that you only had to suffer their narkiness for that brief moment... some poor souls have the purgatory of living with them and indeed they have to live with their own unhappiness etc. themselves always a bright side |
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While I can appreciate your annoyance I think just let the feeling go
I mean these people don't ruin their day by stewing on the interaction... Why continue to let it eat at your day and potentially come out on your next interactions...
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sad little lifes mate .
The need to be bitching others , humiliate others . Hurt others for pleasure and make themselves feel better .
You just never good . You are always shit .
Is shocking the level of dark and evil out there .
I don’t belong here . Trust me . I’m from a planet far far away .
The stork totally dropped me in the wrong place …. Trust me .
Fuck them :
They the ones embarrassing themselves .
Peace n love .
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
People are dicks.
I saw a guy in his 30's in our local Asda car park last year get abuse from two pensioners because he'd parked in a disabled bay near the entrance in his works van.
The look on their faces was priceless when he pulled up his trouser leg to show his prosthetic leg.......
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Glad to see things don't change I was frog marched out of a cinema queue by two security guards few yrs ago for parking in a disabled bay they'd not even looked at the badge and tax disc just assumed because I was young and walking I was trying it on after pointing to the disc the let me go not a sorry word was said. |
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"I've just been for my flu jab at the doctors. It's one of those clinics where you queue up and get jabbed en mass. There's very limited parking because they use half the car park for a queuing area. As I am a wheelchair user and one of the disabled bays was blocked off, I was invited by a marshall to park across two bays on the end, so I could get in/out and get my chair in/out etc.
As I was waiting in the queue, a middle aged woman announced very loudly that my parking was absolutely disgusting and the driver should be ashamed and started to rant. I replied to say it was not disgusting because of my situation and that I'd been instructed to park like that.
Did she apologise? No. She continued to insist "I didn't know it was a wheelchair user", to which I said "well, don't say such things out loud because you'll never know the situation". She proceeded to have a very loud conversation in the queue behind me about terrible parking she'd seen at Tesco etc and she did not apologise.
I am absolutely raging angry. Furious. I can't convey how cross I am.
I get it a lot - as I'm pulling into a blue badge bay, someone knocks on the window to tell me I shouldn't be parking there, because they see the torso of a young person. I get stared at as I'm parking, people evidently making assumptions.
Please be kind, people. Don't assume. Disabled people come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Not all disabilities are visible either.
I'll go back to gently stewing now "
You Could have said “ go talk to someone who gives a sh1t “ |
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"While I can appreciate your annoyance I think just let the feeling go
I mean these people don't ruin their day by stewing on the interaction... Why continue to let it eat at your day and potentially come out on your next interactions...
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If it was a one off, you'd be able to move on with it. But it's frequent. Every time I go out, there's something. Comments. Staring. Knocking on the window. Lack of access. Etc. It gets to a point where it does get pretty irritating. |
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"While I can appreciate your annoyance I think just let the feeling go
I mean these people don't ruin their day by stewing on the interaction... Why continue to let it eat at your day and potentially come out on your next interactions...
If it was a one off, you'd be able to move on with it. But it's frequent. Every time I go out, there's something. Comments. Staring. Knocking on the window. Lack of access. Etc. It gets to a point where it does get pretty irritating. "
I imagine it does. I wonder how many of these people would declare themselves non judgemental. |
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"While I can appreciate your annoyance I think just let the feeling go
I mean these people don't ruin their day by stewing on the interaction... Why continue to let it eat at your day and potentially come out on your next interactions...
If it was a one off, you'd be able to move on with it. But it's frequent. Every time I go out, there's something. Comments. Staring. Knocking on the window. Lack of access. Etc. It gets to a point where it does get pretty irritating.
I imagine it does. I wonder how many of these people would declare themselves non judgemental. "
It was the continued insistence and lack of apology that really got me cross! |
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"While I can appreciate your annoyance I think just let the feeling go
I mean these people don't ruin their day by stewing on the interaction... Why continue to let it eat at your day and potentially come out on your next interactions...
If it was a one off, you'd be able to move on with it. But it's frequent. Every time I go out, there's something. Comments. Staring. Knocking on the window. Lack of access. Etc. It gets to a point where it does get pretty irritating.
I imagine it does. I wonder how many of these people would declare themselves non judgemental.
It was the continued insistence and lack of apology that really got me cross! "
Apologising means you have to acknowledge you were wrong. She immediately went to excuse mode then continued to justify her actions to herself and bystanders. You can bet your life she's at home feeling dreadful but telling anyone who'll listen that she didn't know you were disabled. I hope she loses her phone charger and can't get another one until next Thursday  |
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"While I can appreciate your annoyance I think just let the feeling go
I mean these people don't ruin their day by stewing on the interaction... Why continue to let it eat at your day and potentially come out on your next interactions...
If it was a one off, you'd be able to move on with it. But it's frequent. Every time I go out, there's something. Comments. Staring. Knocking on the window. Lack of access. Etc. It gets to a point where it does get pretty irritating.
I imagine it does. I wonder how many of these people would declare themselves non judgemental.
It was the continued insistence and lack of apology that really got me cross!
Apologising means you have to acknowledge you were wrong. She immediately went to excuse mode then continued to justify her actions to herself and bystanders. You can bet your life she's at home feeling dreadful but telling anyone who'll listen that she didn't know you were disabled. I hope she loses her phone charger and can't get another one until next Thursday "
 I was thinking "I hope you get a wedgie but can't fish it out because you're in a massive queue" |
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"While I can appreciate your annoyance I think just let the feeling go
I mean these people don't ruin their day by stewing on the interaction... Why continue to let it eat at your day and potentially come out on your next interactions...
If it was a one off, you'd be able to move on with it. But it's frequent. Every time I go out, there's something. Comments. Staring. Knocking on the window. Lack of access. Etc. It gets to a point where it does get pretty irritating.
I imagine it does. I wonder how many of these people would declare themselves non judgemental.
It was the continued insistence and lack of apology that really got me cross!
Apologising means you have to acknowledge you were wrong. She immediately went to excuse mode then continued to justify her actions to herself and bystanders. You can bet your life she's at home feeling dreadful but telling anyone who'll listen that she didn't know you were disabled. I hope she loses her phone charger and can't get another one until next Thursday
I was thinking "I hope you get a wedgie but can't fish it out because you're in a massive queue" "
Bloody woman! I'm still raging about the librarian who when my partially sighted dad asked for talking books just pointed. He came home with a dvd. I was ready to ram it up the librarians back catalogue. This was 10 years ago |
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"Get some Boudicca blades n do their shins on the way out."
I've been thinking of getting some for ages!
Currently I just use the word cunt, that usually shuts them up for a second or two!
Missy x |
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One Christmas Eve doing the food shop in M&S, (after waiting 30 minutes for them to find the wheelchair trolley, because it had been put away for Christmas  ) I was told by one shopper that I should have a sign on my back that I was pushing a wheelchair. It took everything I me not to push the woman over.
Of course disabled people don't need to eat at Xmas.
I had the last laugh as she had to stand in one of the ginormous queues whilst we were whisked away to womenswear and had a special till opened up for us. |
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She sounds like an absolute knob! I'll come and throw a pot of custard at her head. But seriously, I'm sorry you have to deal with that shite. People should mind their own business and focus on things that actually matter. Sending you a virtual hug. Xx |
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