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How to mention to mrs about sharing
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’re adults.
Have a conversation about it.
Or how about have a bit of patience with your partner who’s spent a whole heap of time growing this small person. Respect what that’s done to her body and mental state. |
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Maybe not put it like that! Ha!
How old is your baby? It could be that is taking all of her time and energy....
You could start it gently, start sharing stories, see about watching porn together. Discuss fantasies, again, starting slowly and building up to swinging.
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My heart just fucking broke for her.
What tends to happen is when women have babies, the baby becomes the priority and everything else gets put on the back burner for a good while. Many many women have no idea who they even are anymore as the toll taken on the mind and body is enormous, especially if there have been any complications or illness.
I don't know how old your child is but I imagine your mrs will be looking to you for support and partnership.
Talk to her. |
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"5 years old
We are happy just not much sex
We both support each other "
What may not seem like much to you may be plenty for her. Do you talk openly about things?
Also, these last few years have been an absolute head fuck of worry. Might be worth finding out if she's stressed or carrying worry and concern. That can hugely impact sex drive. |
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Next time you cook for her, ask if she’d like a side of cream of sum yung guy.
Or maybe next time you take her out, see if she fancies going to a swingers club.
Or next time you’re stripping her clothes off and telling her how much you fancy her and how amazing she looks, tell her you want to show her off to all the men and watch whilst nature takes it’s course.
Or with some of the extra time you have whilst you’re not having sex, run her a lovely candlelit bath and you look after your child and let her have some chill time and then see how good the sex is once she feels less tired?
Opening up a relationship isn’t a cure for a poor sex life. Work on your own situation first, improve it, then see if you want to share that with anyone or not. |
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Best thing is definitely not do it behind her back more important having a family isn't all about sex now you have a kid make memories she will come around or she probably doesn't want more children or wait until your child is asleep then ask her if you can do it like rabbits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know a big part of swinging is about trust and communication right?
Firstly do you think you are trustworthy? (Just a little observation but the fact you have a year old profile she most likely doesn't know about points me to believe you aren't)
Secondly have you even sat down with her and had the conversation about the lack of sex you are having with her?
You need to find out here wants and needs and she probably needs to know yours, before you even think about taking to her about swinging. Being in a long term relationship with or without kids, there is always a high possibility of dry spells but if you talk things through try and understand what it is that is causing it and work on that then maybe just maybe some time in the future she might be open to the Idea of swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This thread has made my heart ache
Op for gods sake talk to her , help her , romance her . I suspect she wants you to want her, not some other bloke in her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you
I think it’s fantasy aswell "
It was aways a fantasy of mine and I was happy just leaving it as such and then one day the the wife suggested it to me after about 4 years of thinking about it and occasionally talking about it we set the wheels in motion, her we are a year later her with a BF and me attending a club nearly every other week.
I might just have to add, are 20 year plus relationship is still going as strong as ever it's just a little different to what it once was  |
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"Thank you
I think it’s fantasy aswell
It was aways a fantasy of mine and I was happy just leaving it as such and then one day the the wife suggested it to me after about 4 years of thinking about it and occasionally talking about it we set the wheels in motion, her we are a year later her with a BF and me attending a club nearly every other week.
I might just have to add, are 20 year plus relationship is still going as strong as ever it's just a little different to what it once was "
You had an advantage though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe it should have been something to talk about before joining fab
They could have been open to it
But I don’t think it will go down well
And she finds out you all ready been here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you
I think it’s fantasy aswell
It was aways a fantasy of mine and I was happy just leaving it as such and then one day the the wife suggested it to me after about 4 years of thinking about it and occasionally talking about it we set the wheels in motion, her we are a year later her with a BF and me attending a club nearly every other week.
I might just have to add, are 20 year plus relationship is still going as strong as ever it's just a little different to what it once was
You had an advantage though. "
Possibly, possible not for all OP knows it might be a fantasy of hers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You know a big part of swinging is about trust and communication right?
Firstly do you think you are trustworthy? (Just a little observation but the fact you have a year old profile she most likely doesn't know about points me to believe you aren't)
Secondly have you even sat down with her and had the conversation about the lack of sex you are having with her?
You need to find out here wants and needs and she probably needs to know yours, before you even think about taking to her about swinging. Being in a long term relationship with or without kids, there is always a high possibility of dry spells but if you talk things through try and understand what it is that is causing it and work on that then maybe just maybe some time in the future she might be open to the Idea of swinging "
Another observation is the profile is at least 6+ years old as pics from 2015 so pre-dates even the child.
OP I feel like you want to validate your cheating. A great deal of people on here have no time for that. I feel sorry for your poor partner honestly |
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Another observation is the profile is at least 6+ years old as pics from 2015 so pre-dates even the child.
OP I feel like you want to validate your cheating. A great deal of people on here have no time for that. I feel sorry for your poor partner honestly "
Oh wow... That poor woman |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Sit and actually have an adult conversation with your partner op
If the sex has gone there's generally a reason ,having a child and all the day to day things can be exhausting .
You need to communicate and get yourselves back on track before you introduce anyone else in ,even if by some small chance she'd want to. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"My heart just fucking broke for her.
What tends to happen is when women have babies, the baby becomes the priority and everything else gets put on the back burner for a good while. Many many women have no idea who they even are anymore as the toll taken on the mind and body is enormous, especially if there have been any complications or illness.
I don't know how old your child is but I imagine your mrs will be looking to you for support and partnership.
Talk to her."
Women: Get married and lose your surname and become Mrs Thingy.
Have kids: lose you primary id and become Thingy's mum |
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Sorry if it comes across as harsh but my advice on this particular thread is show her this thread and your profile and give her the chance to get the fuck out whilst she’s still young enough. If she chooses not to then maybe try the subject of bringing other people into the bedroom.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has she ever expressed an interest in this lifestyle? Or are you living in fantasy land?
If you're here without her knowing that's not my issue, but to be bad mouthing your wife like she's the problem to a bunch of strangers is pretty shitty.
If you're having issues, the best thing is to communicate. If you can't communicate with her then leave her or carry on doing what you're doing behind her back. I would say it's best to not try and convince yourself she needs to be more adventurous to satisfy you. O.o |
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "
If you are wanting to improve your sex-life maybe don't start with, "I want to see another man in you."
Start with role-play and fantasies, porn, etc. And maybe ask what *she* would like. (But don't get upset if the answer is "more sleep.") |
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"Sorry if it comes across as harsh but my advice on this particular thread is show her this thread and your profile and give her the chance to get the fuck out whilst she’s still young enough. If she chooses not to then maybe try the subject of bringing other people into the bedroom.
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Harsh yes, but just as fair. My thoughts are very similar indeed and in truth, would be the advice I would give my son if he was in this situation. |
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"Thanks everyone "
You had a baby at 19!! Crikey.... unless you are not really 24?!
You are going to have to talk to her. I'm 41 with a low libido...I can't imagine having a low libido at 24... It's depressing now...It would have devastated me at 24.
But I talk about it as it's the big fat elephant in the room.
I talked about it with my FWB and we were able to get it to ignite. The only problem he live 4000 miles away.
It's nerve-wracking to feel unsexy....which is probably what she might be going through.
Try going away without your child ( who is not a baby by the way) to a day, overnight or weekend spa.
I haven't heard what romantic, relaxing and sexy things you have done for her. What did you do last Valentine's day?
Or do you just poke her in the back with your todger every morning and night and hope she will give it up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "
You had a baby together, there was someone else in your wife!!! |
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "
Maybe try putting yourself in her shoes for a month.
Taking responsibility for a new life, making sure the baby is being properly taken care of. Doubting herself if she is doing everything properly, wondering if everything she is doing is enough.
Then making sure your still cared for, food is on the table, house looking straight. Then if she's got time looking after herself, sleepless nights .
Then ask yourself why your sex life might not be as good as it was.
You might also want to let her know you got a profile on here. I'm sure that will kill off any chance of sex for a long time! |
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So, instead of making it about what you want, why don't you spice things up yourself ? I love the adventurous life style but the absolute last thing I want is 'another cock'..
What about buying her something nice ? Ask her if she'd like some new underwear - for no reason but to make her feel sexy.
Introduce toys ? Or different places to have sex ? Do not be that husband that thinks after a long hard week your beautiful tired wife can just push a button to become all sexy when you want sex.. Grr.. She's your Queen - treat her accordingly!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s an awkward subject to broach. Do you watch telly together? Have you tried flicking though some C4 documentaries, accidentally come across the ones about swinging, which then leads to a discussion about the pros and cons of the lifestyle. |
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Where to begin? So many profiles on here where the sex has gone out of the relationship, for whatever reason, so on here purporting to be a swinger.
Do you even consider your wife's needs or is it just about you; given you've been on here for over a year.
Initially I'd suggest talking in general terms about your sex life. Get that right and maybe, just maybe, down the line when she's the centre of your life see if you can take things further. |
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "
don't do it you'll lose her....... Remember I told you this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "
I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that
Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc |
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs
I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that
Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc"
I suspect she'd rather watch something different on the telly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs
I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that
Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc
I suspect she'd rather watch something different on the telly "
Would depend on what she's like but it's an idea |
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs
I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that
Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc
I suspect she'd rather watch something different on the telly
Would depend on what she's like but it's an idea"
Naked Attraction and Sex Love and Goop are actually quite good. I actually learnt things from Sex Education. Lol! |
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The whole swinging thing for me is about trust as well as the sex, it's amazing to have that amount of trust in someone both ways.
I think if your doing this behind her back then your not going to work as a swinging couple (just my opinion)
Starting this on lies and deceit is not the way to start it.
Mrs |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone hope
All is well
Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,
How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "
First of all find a way to tell her your on fab haha then go from there |
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We just starting dropping hints about it. Next minute we started shagging with others in the chat rooms. Then the all important first meet lol. Never been so nervous but absolutely loved it. And most importantly, understood it. Remember, it’s ONLY sex! |
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