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Do women here send the first message .

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok so I’m curious .

I know men far out number women here so I’m sure all you single get flooded with messages from thirsty guys . My question is do you read and reply to one’s you like or do you just search yourself and send the first message / wink ?

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do ... so I've been told

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By *TG3Man over a year ago

Dorchester

"Ok so I’m curious .

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yes they do and your profile is just what they are looking for

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By *hil most chillMan over a year ago

South East & Europe

Some women do send the first message here. I wouldn't say it's a regular occurrence in my inbox, but it's happened a few times in the last couple of months.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Sometimes I'll respond to a status.

It's not easy to send a first msg when all you can see is a dick pic, as that's not what I'm attracted to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All the time.

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By *ixenforfunWoman over a year ago

banes mask

Yep sure why not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do if the guy is what they are looking for

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By *elight 99Woman over a year ago

richmond

Some times

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By *ull English with teaMan over a year ago

London

Half of my meets have been from the women sending the first message. So the answer is very much yes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rare as rocking horse shite ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I send a lot of first messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I send a lot of first messages "

Best username ever!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Copy and paste messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aye they do, usually with close up foof pics.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will and have sent a first message if someone catches my eye.

It’s 2022 and I’m on a swinging site

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan over a year ago

All over the place

If you do ladies please feel free to drop me one haha

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Every conversation I've had since the beginning of 2020 has been initiated by a woman sending the first message. I haven't sent a first message in almost 3 years.

My fab bestie and fwb also messaged first

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By *ack688Man over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I’m always surprised that the majority of women don’t turn off the option to be messaged so they don’t get inundated and can just look for what they like and be the ones to make the first move.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I have ever sent a first message, I have sent a few winks though

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Ok so I’m curious .

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I dont do winks...but I do text first if I like what i see.very often there is no response though

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By *acDreamyMan over a year ago

Wirral

It's great when they do as you start off without them on the defensive. The banter then flows more easily.

I would encourage more of it! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well seems like it does happen more than I thought. Maybe I just need to make some adjustments to my profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bit of this bit of that

I just let my fandango lead the way. She knows what she likes and what she wants

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

When they want peen they’ll message

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By *ackbydemandMan over a year ago

Leicester

"I send a lot of first messages "

Do you tell them you would like to share a bottle of Chianti?

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By *ustamanMan over a year ago

weymouth

Occasionally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't, I,m much too lazy. X

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By *aizyWoman over a year ago

west midlands

I do, don't always get a reply but there you go thats fab for ya!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think I’m going to .

Most of my messages are from men who just ain’t my type or literally expect and instant shag

Perhaps if I was more pro active I might find someone who appeals to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shockingly I don't get flooded no.

I do however sometimes send a guy a message. I say sometimes because it's very rare I find anyone I like.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Rarely, I think for most, they don’t feel the need. I don’t message first either, happy in my cone of silence

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

When something catches my eye, and I’ve had a gin. . .

Needs to be very special though.

Mrs m

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When something catches my eye, and I’ve had a gin. . .

Needs to be very special though.

Mrs m"

I agree, special gin is important.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sometimes I do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oddly enough I have received the occasional first message...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do message first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oddly enough I have received the occasional first message...

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

I just did a quick check. I've 12 message threads on here, from 12 different women (before it sounds like bragging, most are short, completely platonic discussions about a thread, etc).

I started 3 of them. Why on Earth shouldn't women message men as much as the other way round? As someone wrote earlier, it is 2022, not 1892.

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By *mily36CWoman over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

S&S ... I search and send

...rather be the hunter than the prey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I send first messages occasionally when I liked somebody's posts in the forum or when I discover a really good profile and/ or pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I have sent first message a few times. Might see profile or message on forum ,something funny that gets my attention .

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

I have one or two titillating messages from a few lovely ladies.

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By *etterdays2021Man over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Nope never happened to...and wen people moan bout dick pics....what bout boobs pics ass pics pussy pics....gona laught at that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope never happened to...and wen people moan bout dick pics....what bout boobs pics ass pics pussy pics....gona laught at that"

Do you receive unsolicited pussy pics?

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Nope never happened to...and wen people moan bout dick pics....what bout boobs pics ass pics pussy pics....gona laught at that"

I have never ever sent anybody a pic of my genitalia as a first message. And I would not either.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Nope never happened to...and wen people moan bout dick pics....what bout boobs pics ass pics pussy pics....gona laught at that

Do you receive unsolicited pussy pics?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope never happened to...and wen people moan bout dick pics....what bout boobs pics ass pics pussy pics....gona laught at that"

Hopefully loads of men will now send you dick pics.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok so I’m curious .

Both.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

As the woman of a couple, I do occasionally send out 1st messages, depends how brave I'm feeling sometimes just a wink.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

I’ve had a few unsolicited Fannie’s in my inbox, I’ve named them all and they now form part of a edit I’ve done on the frog chorus video, which is my “You’re down Devon, but the edit frog chorus video on again, that’ll cheer you up”

Always looking for more for the choir..

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By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Yeah sometimes they do, perhaps in reply to something in the forums or chatrooms, perhaps reactions to photos.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hardly ever but I have been sending messages recently if someone winks me and takes my fancy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rarely ,but yes it happens

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