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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here."
Because people lie to get what they want all the time.
Once they have it, they no longer need to keep up the pretense. |
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I was seeing someone till this week that I met somewhere else, she caught strong feelings and decided to stop seeing me for that reason.
Unfortunately all we can do is enjoy the good times while they last and just expect them to be short lived to soften the blow a bit |
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"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here."
Do people do that ? Or do the people listening read far too much into what's said and raise unrealistic expectations of others for themselves ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here.
Do people do that ? Or do the people listening read far too much into what's said and raise unrealistic expectations of others for themselves ?"
I get what you mean but expecting being respect as a human being with feelings is not too much to ask. Especially if they lead you on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because like pretty much everything these days…..people, friendships, relationships….are seen as disposable.
We're all diapers "
Yep, all we do is take shit. |
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"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here.
Do people do that ? Or do the people listening read far too much into what's said and raise unrealistic expectations of others for themselves ?
I get what you mean but expecting being respect as a human being with feelings is not too much to ask. Especially if they lead you on "
Expecting respect as a human being is not asking too much at all.
If the 'listener' misinterprets or sees something on offer that wasn't offered they have not been disrespected.
You responded to my post. I know you want to marry me. Don't let me down. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here.
Because people lie to get what they want all the time.
Once they have it, they no longer need to keep up the pretense."
Spot on  |
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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago
South Cheshire |
"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here.
Because people lie to get what they want all the time.
Once they have it, they no longer need to keep up the pretense.
Spot on "
Also agreed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here.
Do people do that ? Or do the people listening read far too much into what's said and raise unrealistic expectations of others for themselves ?
I get what you mean but expecting being respect as a human being with feelings is not too much to ask. Especially if they lead you on
Expecting respect as a human being is not asking too much at all.
If the 'listener' misinterprets or sees something on offer that wasn't offered they have not been disrespected.
You responded to my post. I know you want to marry me. Don't let me down."
Oh yes you are right there, we do tend to read more that we should. But words can be highly misleading.
You have a friend in me like buzz and woody ! |
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"Some people are emotionally unavailable and we get caught up in their spirals no matter how much we try to not to.
I've had it and there is no easy way to avoid them OP unfortunately "
Agreed to an extent.
Some people build their hopes based on flimsy nothings and then feel hurt.
Experience helps but it takes a long time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me."
 that explains your post better.
Well my comment is spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation.."
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess"
Then now you know how she values you and your opinions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess"
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online. "
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited."
This would have been first time you met? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited."
Have you met her before ? Or cam with her ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited.
This would have been first time you met? "
Yes, I suppose she used me for attention and then dropped me when it got real |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited.
Have you met her before ? Or cam with her ?
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Yep, facetimed during every one of my breaks and every night after work till we went to sleep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited.
This would have been first time you met?
Yes, I suppose she used me for attention and then dropped me when it got real"
Probably a bloke |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited.
Have you met her before ? Or cam with her ?
Yep, facetimed during every one of my breaks and every night after work till we went to sleep"
Oh so nope lol probably real lol sorry |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess"
Some people just find it emotionally easier to do this than tell the truth. It pays to remember we are all just a few clicks away from something better and take our time and not get invested in people too quickly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited.
Have you met her before ? Or cam with her ?
Yep, facetimed during every one of my breaks and every night after work till we went to sleep"
How long have you known each other, sometimes it's easy to get carried away online and everything seems perfect but it rarely is. You don't know she's used you the way you think, you're assuming which begs the question just how much did you actually know about each other? Maybe it did all just get too much, facetime every break and up till bedtime seems a bit intense but I'm an ice queen lol maybe that's just me. Put it down to experience and don't let it colour your mood or self worth, no one can make you happy other than yourself so choose happiness not ruminating over might have beens.
All the best x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Hey Op, sorry you've gone through that. I think slow burning, getting to know someone and seeing what naturally develops rather than rushing in to believe the initial lust is probably the best idea. It's hard when you're hurt to not feel jaded or become cynical but keep hopeful. Optimistic. Not everyone is the same - hopefully you'll meet people who restore your faith. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
that explains your post better.
Well my comment is spot on
I beg to differ M8Y"
As usual
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was pretty much ghosted after 16 months, fed so much crap during that time. People can be heartless twats that’s the only explanation I can think of x
As time goes on it does get easier, ok your trust might be cut to shreds but still… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here.
Because people lie to get what they want all the time.
Once they have it, they no longer need to keep up the pretense."
He knows… |
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"Why do people do this, make you feel wanted and say all sorts to you to get you on cloud 9 and then just drop you like trash? Worst is when you get no explanation so you just sit there thinking of everything you could possible have done wrong.
Before anyone says this isn't aimed at the site or anything on here."
It's not you. It's them. When people tell me they want me now, I don't believe them so when they inevitably screw up, I'm not disappointed.
Definitely don't sit there thinking about everything that you could have possibly done wrong. Most likely you've done nothing wrong. They are just a human who screws up and does not know how to communicate and express themselves. So it's easier just to perform some form of cognitive dissonance and pretend like the interaction never happened. |
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"For context, she said she loved me and wanted a relationship with me a day before she dropped me.
Talk to her if you can and ask for an explanation..
Absolutely would love to, not knowing messes with past mental health issues and trauma. However she blocked me on everything without warning. Thus dropping me like trash. Between sating good ight to eachother and this morning she just decided she was bored of me I guess
There will be a rationale for it. Does she know about you being on here for example? If not, perhaps she's found out? I'd give it a cooling off period then go see her and talk it through. I'm assuming this is a real life relationship and not solely online.
She knows I was on here, we were supposed to meet tomorrow. I had my tickets to see her and she told me she was so exited.
Have you met her before ? Or cam with her ?
Yep, facetimed during every one of my breaks and every night after work till we went to sleep"
Really sorry honey but love and relationships do not work like that.
I have BPD/EUPD with autistic & sensory processing traits and it took a long time for me to figure out what people are like and what the red flags are and how to protect myself.
I believe in love but I don't believe you can love someone without meeting them in person and spending a lot of time with them in person, in real life in the flesh.
This is why I don't spend a long time talking to people, whom I've never met over the phone or online. They use that to hook into your emotions and expose your vulnerability to use against you and emotionally manipulate you. I'm not sure if it is intentional or unintentional. All I know is that I need to protect myself from it as I'm a very emotionally sensitive person.
I have therapists who keep me on the straight and narrow and help me find out when someone is bullshitting me.
Hugs chin up. Watch some youtube videos and tik tok about relationships and emotional manipulation. |
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