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It’s NOT just men!
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" What happened to manners? What happened to honesty?" When people get a “no thanks / not for me” their default reaction is to question why instead of responding with a thank you. Its generally easier to not respond than have to feel a need to justify yourself to a stranger. | |||
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"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty?" How do you know that they're not busy? | |||
"Do as you would be done by. I love the symmetry of messages and if I perceive it (maybe wrongly) that it is a one way, I will stop texting altogether. " This | |||
"3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) ..... How do you know that they're not busy?" I thought this. If one if your 3 messages was asking them to confirm that they are alone and ready for the long haul, I'd be dropping that chat too... | |||
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"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty?" Apologies for the tangent: any suggestions or advice for getting matches? I used it for 4 months and didn't get a single like. I'm considering torturing myself by creating a new account  | |||
"So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply?" Honestly, feels like a conversation made from negativity that you've already identified as someone who was in need at that time (which I'll leave without comment), and therefore... I mean, kinda went its natural course? As for manners... yeah nah, I would rather silence anyday than the thought of someone talking because they feel they have to.  | |||
"I think people just are busy / speaking to multiple people. It’s the way it is online, don’t overthink it "I think this is true . There is no way you can reply to all messages . And you might get into a stronger convo with someone else . Would not take it to heart | |||
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"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty? How do you know that they're not busy?" Because they said so? (Face palm) | |||
"I think people just are busy / speaking to multiple people. It’s the way it is online, don’t overthink it "People speak to more than one?...  | |||
"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty? How do you know that they're not busy? Because they said so? (Face palm) " Then you probably said something that made them not want to carry on the conversation  | |||
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"I do this all the time. Mainly because to me, you are just someone online, as mean as it may sound, you don't really mean anything to me. " | |||
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"Women get inundated with messages so can only reply to a small percentage or would be on here all day.Well that’s my rationale for not getting any replies " This is it! We get an abundance of messages on here and other dating sites. Sometimes, we just don’t feel like replying. People are too entitled to the time of others | |||
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"Sometimes, and this is probably the case here, OP, but I occasionally find people get a bit too enthusiastic, too keen on replying, sending multiple messages, and doing so within a minute of receiving my reply. When I feel pressured to respond I usually stop responding if that makes any sense? " I agree | |||
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"People will always reply if they really want to. Even the busiest of people can log on and reply in a minute. But people have so much choice now and so one red flag means people can easily move on to the next one. Don’t worry about the people that are flaky…concentrate on the ones that look for your message. K" This is exactly it, K! If they're interested enough, they'll always reply. | |||
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"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty?" Maybe she didn't want to talk to you anymore. Maybe she found you creepy. Maybe she had 300 other messages offering 'chat'. Your attitude is what puts me off chatting to people at all. They will just get huffy and entitled. After X amount of messages they will likely suggest a 'social'. And then the sex suggestions start.... Fucking VOM!!  | |||
"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty? Maybe she didn't want to talk to you anymore. Maybe she found you creepy. Maybe she had 300 other messages offering 'chat'. Your attitude is what puts me off chatting to people at all. They will just get huffy and entitled. After X amount of messages they will likely suggest a 'social'. And then the sex suggestions start.... Fucking VOM!! "I also hate the sex, booooo | |||
" What happened to manners? What happened to honesty? When people get a “no thanks / not for me” their default reaction is to question why instead of responding with a thank you. Its generally easier to not respond than have to feel a need to justify yourself to a stranger." This 100% I always try to respond. But find people get offensive when you politely decline. | |||
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"The idea that just because you've messaged someone they then owe you their time and attention is so gross. Even if they've messaged you back initially, it's still their right to back out of the conversation and not yours to demand their time further. If it's someone you've been chatting to for ages, yes it's not very nice to go silent. But three messages? Come on. That's not a friendship. It isn't anything. " !!!! | |||
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"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty? Maybe she didn't want to talk to you anymore. Maybe she found you creepy. Maybe she had 300 other messages offering 'chat'. Your attitude is what puts me off chatting to people at all. They will just get huffy and entitled. After X amount of messages they will likely suggest a 'social'. And then the sex suggestions start.... Fucking VOM!!
I also hate the sex, booooo "Omg sex ewww! | |||
"What manners are you expecting? "You are hereby notified that conversational proceedings have been drawn to a close. This has occurred due to a menagerie of reasons, including but not limited too; I just saw your face, you're a dullard, your face, a really good video came up on YouTube, your face and I just don't want too. Please don't take it personally, it's me, clearly. And your face. Tatty byeeeeee""
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"I’m referring to ignorance, ghosting, blanking etc So recently I noticed someone’s status on here (it was a shout for attention, maybe abit of loneliness) so I reached out and they replied initially. 3 messages in and they didn’t reply? This isn’t about them being busy or having more important things to do (they were alone & wanted a normal conversation) I’m also on a well known dating app and I’ve got lots of matches, I keep the conversation clean, I ask questions & answer questions they ask. I’m not pushy, my pictures are current. Yet people ignore each other? Ghost each other? What happened to manners? What happened to honesty? Maybe she didn't want to talk to you anymore. Maybe she found you creepy. Maybe she had 300 other messages offering 'chat'. Your attitude is what puts me off chatting to people at all. They will just get huffy and entitled. After X amount of messages they will likely suggest a 'social'. And then the sex suggestions start.... Fucking VOM!! "Yeah you tell him! Completely agree by the way. | |||
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