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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
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Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say the responsibility
Falls on both parties
If the guy can’t get the person there
Then it’s the other person responsibility to guide them to it speak up tell them what you like guid they hands or mouth tell them to slow down
It takes two to tango
So blame for bad sex falls on both parties |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If some guy wants to try to get me to orgasm, I hope he’s got the next few years free…. Or at least knows when to stop when it’s clear it’s no going to happen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just find it easier to do it myself, guys generally struggle.
As for getting the guy off? I don't much that much effort in but it still always happens, they're easily pleased.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean?"
Or is it the woman’s job?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean?
Or is it the woman’s job? "
We turn up, that's our job done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean?
Or is it the woman’s job?
We turn up, that's our job done. "
As long as you pretend to enjoy yourselves, I’ll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean?
Or is it the woman’s job?
We turn up, that's our job done.
As long as you pretend to enjoy yourselves, I’ll be fine. "
I can act, I've had the practise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If some guy wants to try to get me to orgasm, I hope he’s got the next few years free…. Or at least knows when to stop when it’s clear it’s no going to happen "
This is me as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me is very important the lady happiness
If I don’t get her happiness first I wouldn’t get mine .
And I do my best to give her my best .
I’m the type : her is more important .
There’s another type : we both important
Then the last type : me is more important .
For me , ladies first , then me … |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean?
Or is it the woman’s job?
We turn up, that's our job done.
As long as you pretend to enjoy yourselves, I’ll be fine.
I can act, I've had the practise. "
I tried to fake and orgasm the other day xx didn’t really worked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If some guy wants to try to get me to orgasm, I hope he’s got the next few years free…. Or at least knows when to stop when it’s clear it’s no going to happen
This is me as well"
Challenge accepted . I’m in . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean?
Or is it the woman’s job?
We turn up, that's our job done.
As long as you pretend to enjoy yourselves, I’ll be fine.
I can act, I've had the practise. "
How are you at taking direction?  |
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It’s about knowing what works for you.. generally I’d say work together to get you both there but there’s no one size fits all. I’m more than happy to gently direct or take direction (or takeover my own if it’s not working) but no other person is held responsible if I don’t get mine haha. There are some guys that make it their mission to figure you out and that gets them off too… who am I to deny them
There’s people that can’t orgasm unless certain things are done to tip them over the edge (we’ll use a finger up the bum as an example) and if the other party isn’t able/comfortable doing that, then you best get ready to DIY. It’s all in the communication. Different strokes for different folks and all that  |
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God I’m doing it wrong (or right).
It’s not anyones responsibility as such. I usually make a body shift (or bigger one if needs be) to get the angle of the dangle right… but I don’t have any issues there. I’m also concentrating on making sure he’s (or they’re) enjoying it. If everyone is enjoying what everyone is doing then i generally find that helps all parties enjoy it more. I cannot word this right
No - there is no single person responsible for Anybody’s pleasure |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I think that fixation on orgasms can be an issue. Not everyone can or will orgasm, focusing on that for your partner or yourself can create a negative situation and prevent the very thing that you’re after.
I try to think and build on my partners pleasure, what happens after that, happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If some guy wants to try to get me to orgasm, I hope he’s got the next few years free…. Or at least knows when to stop when it’s clear it’s no going to happen
This is me as well
Challenge accepted . I’m in . "
I'm waiting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a conversation with someone and it's got me thinking.
Orgasm.
Is it the guys "responsibility" to ensure both or all parties climax?
Or, is it that individual parties kinda get themselves their... or, is it a case of getting eachother there...
That made sense in my head at least. You know what I mean?"
Having an orgasm for me isn’t the be all and end all…it’s about the overall experience and if an orgasm or two, or three, happen then that’s grand I generally cum really easily, multiple times, however sometimes I won’t cum at all. Example, yesterday we (J and I) had a very quick quickie, that was mind blowing but I never came. I still really enjoyed it though. I feel it’s everyone’s responsibility to make sure everyone else has a good time
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"I think that fixation on orgasms can be an issue. Not everyone can or will orgasm, focusing on that for your partner or yourself can create a negative situation and prevent the very thing that you’re after.
I try to think and build on my partners pleasure, what happens after that, happens"
This, 100%
My first relationship after a long marriage, I couldn't cum for the first couple of weeks even though he did everything "right" - we were highly compatible sexually...but I was so in my head after 22 years with one man, I just couldn't tip over the edge - although he had me, if you get me. I had no problems getting myself off when alone. He was quite put off, offended even. He just didn't understand that it had absolutely nothing to do with him, that I was on a massive breakthrough journey, that my orgasm was my responsibility and that the more upset he got, the less likely I was gonna cum with him because of the pressure I felt it put me under.
Sex is always about the journey, the orgasm is an additional bonus Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a team effort, I know I'm not the easiest guy to make cum. So I know how women must feel, but with communication and a helping hand everyone should cum at least once. |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
It's all about the effort, if neither put enough in then neither will be fully satisfied, and someone has to lie to spare the others feelings....
Plus you get a sore throat with all the over the top orgasmic screaming you have to do to try to convince the other person they were excellent in bed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Up until my relationship with my husband I had never had a orgasm with a partner.
I could bring myself off quite easily.
But with my husband he learnt my to relax and let myself go which I had never do.
The meaning of sex is now at another level and he's built my confidence up so much
Orgasms come easy now |
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