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FWB - what would that consist of 4 U?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry just a quick one
If someone offered you FWB what would you expect from it n be willing to put into it!!!
Please paint your own ideal FWB situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Offered me a fwb? I can swap for a bmx 
Simply put. theyd be friends who have sex, but not boyfriend/girlfriend etc. although saying that, it could feel that way maybe. And I think there’s a blurred line between fb and fwb.
But friends talk. Fb’s only drop a message to get together for sex. Friends still talk and may get together for other normal dayto day stuff.
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Someone can go places with as and when it suits both! Have plentiful sex! No commitment or exclusivity!very hard to find most just want the benefits or exclusivity or proper relationship! One day one day?? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone I can chill out and have a coffee with while she wanks me off under the table in Costa 
You get thrown out for that, apparently...."
Guess I'll try Starbucks instead then. They're already fucking me with their prices so maybe they're more open minded  |
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Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Maybe I’ve got my hoops too high then but I’m not lowering them!
Yeah after reading above got the promise of fwb but it just sempt like fb on their terms n it’s just take a very long time to see it!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other "
Sounds perfect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like someone to snuggle under the duvet with, watch movies, snooze, eat snacks, maybe do the sex thing. Simple.
No expectations of daily communication or anything like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A friend with benefits, literally what it says on the tin! I've been searching for one for bloody ages but most of the men I've met don't really get the friends part or if they do they are over the other side of the bloody country! |
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All of the above. For certain all the joys of a lover with them being clear that I have no intention of marrying them, having their kids or moving in anytime.
But I also draw the line on STIs and all the other stuff you can bring back for me to catch. If you can’t talk honestly to me about what you’re up to then the trust won’t be there that’s the foundation of mind blowing sex. So I don’t see fwb as carte Blanche to do what you like with whoever you like. Open, honest dialogue and an ability to be vulnerable about wants and needs. If that standard is too high then I’d rather be left alone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing I've learned since joining fab is that you need to agree terms with each and every new fwb you get together with, cos no two people think of it the same way!!!"
Like a contract? |
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"One thing I've learned since joining fab is that you need to agree terms with each and every new fwb you get together with, cos no two people think of it the same way!!!
Like a contract? "
Literally. It’s very empowering to be able to negotiate wants and needs ahead of a meet. Generally makes the experiences so much better too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing I've learned since joining fab is that you need to agree terms with each and every new fwb you get together with, cos no two people think of it the same way!!!
Like a contract? "
Don't forget the witness signatures
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing I've learned since joining fab is that you need to agree terms with each and every new fwb you get together with, cos no two people think of it the same way!!!"
This
Communication is key to a fwb relationship as it is with any relationship
For me it means the fun stuff alongside the sex without being heavy and knowing when it's time to move on. I stopped seeing one fwb after he got a girlfriend and they had a baby. We check in now and again and I love seeing his pictures on social media, he is happy and that makes me happy.
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"I'd like someone to snuggle under the duvet with, watch movies, snooze, eat snacks, maybe do the sex thing. Simple.
No expectations of daily communication or anything like that."
Yes please, exactly what I would like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing I've learned since joining fab is that you need to agree terms with each and every new fwb you get together with, cos no two people think of it the same way!!!"
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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago
Norfolk East anglia |
"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other "
This is ideal |
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"I would want friendship and sex.
Men usually say they want the same as FWB, but actually just want sex on tap on their terms."
This reply is spot on. Most men are after a quick fix whenever they want it. |
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"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other
This is ideal "
It can be found we both have single profiles on this site and we were both looking for this for this type of relationship.
Eventually we found each other and the daft thing is we had been living quite close to each other all this time ...
Just keep looking there are some gems out there in both sexes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty
Trust
Love
Friendship
Happy hang out , meals , movies , go out if it feels like .
Happy hot sexy fun , pleasure full of passion
No commitment .
No drama
No head fucks
No pressure x x
Easy life
And £100 a week jaro ( I think this is the benefit part ) of a FWB 
Joking , FWB reminds me JSA when u live in benefits .
I like to call it sexy friendship . I think it says it all .
I’m up for it … ready steady go
Free all day today so ladies … don’t be shy n say hi
Lovely 1o1 and FFM lover here 
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
For me a FWB is about friendship first the sex is an added bonus. While on here yes it usually starts the opposite way about and a friendship grows after you have had the sex first. It is still possible to find a FWB on here,I have the most amazing one who is a true friend as well as someone I get naked with regularly.We trust each other and can talk about anything and be there for each other when we need just a friend.
There has to be good communication in order for it to work and you definitely both have to be on the same page if you are not then it won't work. |
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"It all seems very close to being in a relationship…what stops a FWB being a girlfriend or boyfriend?
For us, we both don't want to share finances, homes or blend families"
This for me too. I like the bubble analogy. |
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You have to be friends first, benefits later. Otherwise it's just someone you fuck. I don't think here is the best place to find a FWB situation because most people are fixated on the B part, not the F part. |
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"It all seems very close to being in a relationship…what stops a FWB being a girlfriend or boyfriend? "
Yes, it is a relationship - of sorts! It requires maintenance, communication, time. Otherwise it's NSA or fuck and go. Nothing wrong with those either, of course |
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"Someone can go places with as and when it suits both! Have plentiful sex! No commitment or exclusivity!very hard to find most just want the benefits or exclusivity or proper relationship! One day one day?? X"
this and someone to have sensible conversations with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other "
This |
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"One thing I've learned since joining fab is that you need to agree terms with each and every new fwb you get together with, cos no two people think of it the same way!!!
This
Communication is key to a fwb relationship as it is with any relationship
For me it means the fun stuff alongside the sex without being heavy and knowing when it's time to move on.
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I’d go with this too, with an initial agreement of expectations. |
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My previous FWBs have all been either guys I socialised with/worked with who I occasionally had sex with
I didn't feel I had to put anything into it or expected anything from it, as the friendship was already there, occasionally on a night or at work out one of us would say fancy hooking up later the other would say yes or no, there were never any bad feelings if the answer was no
It was that simple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other
This is ideal "
This is the most accurate description of what I want I have read. Usually have a hard time putting it into words or explain it to interested parties, would it be ok if I blatantly steal it from you, please?  |
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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago
Norfolk East anglia |
"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other
This is ideal
It can be found we both have single profiles on this site and we were both looking for this for this type of relationship.
Eventually we found each other and the daft thing is we had been living quite close to each other all this time ...
Just keep looking there are some gems out there in both sexes "
Found similar myself we have our own single profiles |
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"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other
This is ideal
This is the most accurate description of what I want I have read. Usually have a hard time putting it into words or explain it to interested parties, would it be ok if I blatantly steal it from you, please? "
Of course it's ok go for it |
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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago
In my happy place |
"My previous FWBs have all been either guys I socialised with/worked with who I occasionally had sex with
I didn't feel I had to put anything into it or expected anything from it, as the friendship was already there, occasionally on a night or at work out one of us would say fancy hooking up later the other would say yes or no, there were never any bad feelings if the answer was no
It was that simple "
I agree, its doesnt need to be complex. Should be simple, no drama and open conversations. |
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The best way I can describe my fwb relationship is I can completely and totally naked with her even when I'm fully dressed.
Friendship without limits or barriers is first and foremost and great sex is an added bonus. |
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"I dont think id want one now its too close to blurring lines better to keep folks at arms length than to risk emotional responses "
It's a fine balancing act but with clear communication it's the most amazing experience
What's not to like friendship,laughs and great sex and were on this earth for such a short time why deny yourself the pleasure ...well at least that's what we think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other
This is ideal
This is the most accurate description of what I want I have read. Usually have a hard time putting it into words or explain it to interested parties, would it be ok if I blatantly steal it from you, please?
Of course it's ok go for it "
Thank you so much |
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Well don't the words say it all 'friends with benefits' lol.
To us its someone who we get on well with, mutual respect and we get to enjoy social activities and its not just about turning up for sex and off they go.
I like to be seduced and love the flirting as part of the build up.
Fb to is the opposite and just about the sex which is great if that's what you prefer and enjoy.
Not easy to find that connection of a fwb on here, well we havnt found it easy but we live in hope x |
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I would want friendship and mutual caring. Interest in each others lives. Shared social and ethical values. Being there for each other when needed. A desire to explore desire, to find out what works for each other, to give each other pleasure.
Without needing to live together - but being able to ask for company when feeling low.
Without requiring exclusivity, without jealousy.
Having respect for each others independent lives.
Being able to laugh together.
Holding hands, giving hugs, helping when the world is dark and stormy.
Treating each other as individual human beings, not as possessions. |
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"Were a FWB couple what we have is a deep understanding of each others wants and desires,great friendship and amazing sex ....like off the chart.. but what we are also are two free spirits we can do what we like when we like without having to always consider each other.
We don't live together but we talk daily and deeply care for each other
This is ideal
This is the most accurate description of what I want I have read. Usually have a hard time putting it into words or explain it to interested parties, would it be ok if I blatantly steal it from you, please?
Of course it's ok go for it
Thank you so much "
Your welcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want intimacy and companionship. Kissing, cuddling, spooning, massages.
Cooking her dinner and having those dimly lit kitchen table conversations that are silly and playful to serious and deep. Then slow dancing barefoot under the stars to Brook Benton...It's Just A Matter Of Time. |
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"I would want friendship and mutual caring. Interest in each others lives. Shared social and ethical values. Being there for each other when needed. A desire to explore desire, to find out what works for each other, to give each other pleasure.
Without needing to live together - but being able to ask for company when feeling low.
Without requiring exclusivity, without jealousy.
Having respect for each others independent lives.
Being able to laugh together.
Holding hands, giving hugs, helping when the world is dark and stormy.
Treating each other as individual human beings, not as possessions."
I wonder if this is ever possible. Maybe I'm just a stupid idealist. Next thing I'll want world peace as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Friends with breakfast?
I'd want a double sausage egg mcmuffin, 2 hash browns and a coffee every Saturday and Sunday morning please.
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Can my dog steal your black pudding? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would want friendship and mutual caring. Interest in each others lives. Shared social and ethical values. Being there for each other when needed. A desire to explore desire, to find out what works for each other, to give each other pleasure.
Without needing to live together - but being able to ask for company when feeling low.
Without requiring exclusivity, without jealousy.
Having respect for each others independent lives.
Being able to laugh together.
Holding hands, giving hugs, helping when the world is dark and stormy.
Treating each other as individual human beings, not as possessions.
I wonder if this is ever possible. Maybe I'm just a stupid idealist. Next thing I'll want world peace as well."
Not sure it is possible  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont think id want one now its too close to blurring lines better to keep folks at arms length than to risk emotional responses
It's a fine balancing act but with clear communication it's the most amazing experience
What's not to like friendship,laughs and great sex and were on this earth for such a short time why deny yourself the pleasure ...well at least that's what we think "
pleasure isnt worth the risk of sanity |
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