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"I guess it depends on how often and how blatant they are. Like you say most posts are going to be attention seeking in some way, aren’t they? I can skip over the ones I don’t like .. I don’t mind the generic Fab a pic or message someone posts if they’re inclusive. It’s the “I’ve posted a new pic, what do you think” ones that are specifically about them that become irksome if the individual overdoes it. "I completely agree. I think for me it's the ones that say they have low confidence or Not having much luck on the site but then bite at any advice they've been given. Those ones I often think are just courting compliments if that makes sense. Again I wouldn't say they irritate or bother me but I do wonder sometimes what people want to get out of that kind of post. | |||
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"If I don’t get any attention, I’m gonna flounce of out of here with a twirl and a shower of glitter all over you lot. " OK but please come back and sweep up after. | |||
" I completely agree. I think for me it's the ones that say they have low confidence or Not having much luck on the site but then bite at any advice they've been given. Those ones I often think are just courting compliments if that makes sense. Again I wouldn't say they irritate or bother me but I do wonder sometimes what people want to get out of that kind of post. " Ah yeah, agree with you on that. The “can I get feedback” but then don’t actually want to listen to or act on any feedback threads! Then a week or two later go again. Yep, what’s that all about?  
Each to their own I guess! | |||
" I completely agree. I think for me it's the ones that say they have low confidence or Not having much luck on the site but then bite at any advice they've been given. Those ones I often think are just courting compliments if that makes sense. Again I wouldn't say they irritate or bother me but I do wonder sometimes what people want to get out of that kind of post. Ah yeah, agree with you on that. The “can I get feedback” but then don’t actually want to listen to or act on any feedback threads! Then a week or two later go again. Yep, what’s that all about?
Each to their own I guess! "Those posts in themselves are not a problem but you can often see the OP's getting increasingly wound up and I just think why would they put themselves through that every few weeks. | |||
Sometimes people just need that interaction more than the answer to the actual question | |||
"I don't mind. .. I dip in and out depending on my level of boredom
Sometimes people just need that interaction more than the answer to the actual question "That's true and I think there is a big difference between those deliberately attention seeking and those just trying to start a conversation but sometimes it's worded badly and can cause confusion as to the intention of the post if that makes sense. | |||
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"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?" What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..? | |||
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"Waves at everyone "Hahaha! Oh, THAT'S an attention seeking post/pic!  | |||
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"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..? "That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting. Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here. | |||
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"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate. " I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies. Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. | |||
"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate. I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies. Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. " Power of the pussy innit | |||
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"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate. I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies. Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. " What's your point caller? | |||
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"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate. " There were quite a few users that used to post thought provoking threads or fun threads, a lot of them aren’t around anymore or rarely post now. There were threads that had several parts and ran and ran as opposed to having a few replies so I understand what you mean | |||
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"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate. I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies. Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. " Did she have her tits out in her profile pic?  | |||
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"Oh I don't mind it too much. It's harmless for the most part really isn't it? I post crap for some attention. Whether that's from friends or because I think my opinion should be read by someone sitting on the toilet. Yes, the fora right now doesn't quite have the same threads as it did once but there are some gems amongst them. I don't want to watersports all over newer posters parades by halcyon daying it. " How did you know I was sat on the toilet? Yes I washed my hands before you ask. | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?" We all look for it some way of course but the blatant " look at me I'm such an amazing person " sycophantic bullshit does annoy me .. But that's probably my issue so who knows  | |||
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"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen. "Correct | |||
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"I'd question why one is on the forums if one gets annoyed by people posting threads. I come here because I'm feeling lonely or bored sometimes and want some conversation or to start up a discussion. If that's attention seeking then so be it. " | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here."I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster. | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen. "Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it. | |||
"Every thread is attention seeking in someway. As is every photo. Every status. Every verification." Yeah that's my thoughts too. | |||
"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads." I do that but normally only with my social threads. | |||
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"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it. "No, it definately happens  | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens "If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it. I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster. | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster."I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users. | |||
"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads." It’s the first thing I do every morning if I posted one the night before .. new audience and all that  | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 05/10/22 17:32:04]" Doesn't want the attention | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.
I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.
"I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you. | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster. "More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab ..... It's plain to see
And I stand my original point also it very much happens. | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.
I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.
"100% true | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.
I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.
I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you. "Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want. | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....
It's plain to see
And I stand my original point also it very much happens. "You say it's in plain sight but then you say "not everyone sees it" so like I said maybe it isn't in plain sight at all. I have also stated bullying absolutely happens but if you are just going to sit back and watch it and not do anything about it then you Should report it rather than moaning about it and that nothing happens. Nothing happens when we do nothing about things. | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.
I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.
I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.
Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.
"That's exactly my point being a regular poster doesn't automatically make you popular. | |||
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"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....
It's plain to see
And I stand my original point also it very much happens. "And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting. | |||
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"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster. "A woman started a "be kind" thread on another forum a couple of years ago. I asked on the thread if people were really planning on being kind or if it was all lip service. I only knew the woman from her posts and we had never spoken. Within minutes I got messages from 2 other women at opposite ends of the country thanking me for asking that question because this woman had been harassing and bullying numerous women in various groups for a long time and her ironic post was giving two fingers to all those women. Once again I only knew these other women from their forum posts and we had never spoken until that moment but it proved that everything should be taken with a pinch of salt and not everything is as it seems on the surface. Most people reading that thread would assume she was a lovely lady while the other two ladies at least felt differently and read every word she said as vindictive and a continuation of the drama. | |||
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"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.
I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.
I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.
Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.
"Not if they’re breaking the rules they don’t | |||
"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention. At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock "Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing. | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.
I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.
I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.
Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.
That's exactly my point being a regular poster doesn't automatically make you popular. "By regular user I mean the popular ones. Sorry for the confusion. The long term, regular users are mostly popular. Like an old chair in the corner you become accustomed to. | |||
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"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....
It's plain to see
And I stand my original point also it very much happens.
And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.
"Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it. | |||
"I don't look at posts or threads and think someone is attention seeking. I don't understand why people throw out that accusation on a forum, on a site where people are looking for attention. Am I seeking attention purely for replying on this thread?" | |||
I don’t see a need to post 10 threads a day about any and every thought that pops into my head but that’s why I don’t do it. If others want to then that’s fine. Is it attention seeking? Yes, it’s a form of. | |||
"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads. I do that but normally only with my social threads. " That one gets a pass! I also bump Socials if I'm going to them. | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....
It's plain to see
And I stand my original point also it very much happens.
And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.
Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it. "No one moans on fab surely......thats left to the experts on here | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....
It's plain to see
And I stand my original point also it very much happens.
And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.
Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it. "I don't. | |||
"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate. I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies. Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. Power of the pussy innit " Not necessarily. Different people will have been in and it will have been competing with different posts for attention. It's too easy to look at the single factor of gender with no evidence. | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
A woman started a "be kind" thread on another forum a couple of years ago.
I asked on the thread if people were really planning on being kind or if it was all lip service.
I only knew the woman from her posts and we had never spoken.
Within minutes I got messages from 2 other women at opposite ends of the country thanking me for asking that question because this woman had been harassing and bullying numerous women in various groups for a long time and her ironic post was giving two fingers to all those women.
Once again I only knew these other women from their forum posts and we had never spoken until that moment but it proved that everything should be taken with a pinch of salt and not everything is as it seems on the surface.
Most people reading that thread would assume she was a lovely lady while the other two ladies at least felt differently and read every word she said as vindictive and a continuation of the drama."I personally think the people out of order there are the 2 that privately messaged you. They weren't prepared to have it out with the woman on the post however quite happy to talk about her behind her back. | |||
"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not? What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?
That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.
Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.
I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.
I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.
I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.
Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.
That's exactly my point being a regular poster doesn't automatically make you popular.
By regular user I mean the popular ones. Sorry for the confusion. The long term, regular users are mostly popular. Like an old chair in the corner you become accustomed to."Thank you for that and yes there is a big difference between being a regular poster and being what others would perceive as popular. | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....
It's plain to see
And I stand my original point also it very much happens.
And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.
Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it.
No one moans on fab surely......thats left to the experts on here "Sorry I misunderstood I thought you were moaning about people that bully others and get away with it but don't do anything about it. Also you have assumed people post threads to cause an argument but we all can choose to engage in it or not. | |||
"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads. I do that but normally only with my social threads. That one gets a pass! I also bump Socials if I'm going to them. "Thank you for your approval  | |||
"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here. It's more the ones that: Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that) Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not. Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times. Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.
Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.
No, it definately happens
If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.
I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.
A woman started a "be kind" thread on another forum a couple of years ago.
I asked on the thread if people were really planning on being kind or if it was all lip service.
I only knew the woman from her posts and we had never spoken.
Within minutes I got messages from 2 other women at opposite ends of the country thanking me for asking that question because this woman had been harassing and bullying numerous women in various groups for a long time and her ironic post was giving two fingers to all those women.
Once again I only knew these other women from their forum posts and we had never spoken until that moment but it proved that everything should be taken with a pinch of salt and not everything is as it seems on the surface.
Most people reading that thread would assume she was a lovely lady while the other two ladies at least felt differently and read every word she said as vindictive and a continuation of the drama.
I personally think the people out of order there are the 2 that privately messaged you. They weren't prepared to have it out with the woman on the post however quite happy to talk about her behind her back. "I didn't respond to them because I had no interest in their drama but I have since discovered that everything they said was true and she has been asking around looking for personal information on close friends of mine. There is without doubt a certain element in the forums who are comfortable giving a pass to popular fabbers regardless of what they do. They are happy to enable the bullies because it suits their own agenda and desire to be in those circles. | |||
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"Do they bother you? On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?" Depends on who it is and how they respond to other people. | |||
"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention. At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock
Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing. "Because they're not the ones getting the attention. Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out. Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker. | |||
"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention. At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock
Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.
Because they're not the ones getting the attention.
Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.
Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker. "You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction. Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way. I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out. Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations. Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype. Let them. Keeps them away from me. | |||
"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention. At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock
Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.
Because they're not the ones getting the attention.
Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.
Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.
You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.
Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.
I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.
Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.
Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.
Let them. Keeps them away from me. "It only takes a quick glance at some of these responses to show that a substantial number of people think of those wanting connection and interaction as attention seekers. | |||
"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention. At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock
Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.
Because they're not the ones getting the attention.
Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.
Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.
You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.
Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.
I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.
Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.
Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.
Let them. Keeps them away from me.
It only takes a quick glance at some of these responses to show that a substantial number of people think of those wanting connection and interaction as attention seekers. "We can't all get on, that's impossible and honestly, unpalatable. Active filtration innit | |||
"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention. At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock
Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.
Because they're not the ones getting the attention.
Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.
Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.
You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.
Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.
I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.
Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.
Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.
Let them. Keeps them away from me. "Everything that's ever been posted in here is just words on a page. Attention seeking, or drama seeking, or whining and moaning, or arse kissing, or whatever. They're just words. Most of the time really not worth worrying about and on the occasions that you do feel it is worth responding to then (as many of us will know) it's often best to type a long winded reply and then hit delete before you post it. That step is cold. A | |||
"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention. At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock
Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.
Because they're not the ones getting the attention.
Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.
Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.
You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.
Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.
I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.
Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.
Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.
Let them. Keeps them away from me.
Everything that's ever been posted in here is just words on a page.
Attention seeking, or drama seeking, or whining and moaning, or arse kissing, or whatever.
They're just words.
Most of the time really not worth worrying about and on the occasions that you do feel it is worth responding to then (as many of us will know) it's often best to type a long winded reply and then hit delete before you post it.
That step is cold.
A"Lol the ranty rant followed by the "what am I even doing" moment of clarity. Too true hahaha. | |||
