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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love when women moan hope your good tho its a mad world out there these days
Yeah I’ll get over it  keep on moaning
I was hoping to  "
and you will get to again too |
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I'm so sorry. We can tell ourselves 'no', then the hormones kick in, and if it goes wrong we feel all the more ashamed and stupid...
OP, you are a beautiful, interesting, intelligent woman, and the world is wide and chock full of good men. Even if sometimes they can seem scarce. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did he give a reason? Or has he just ghosted?
I know it’s a different situation, but I had to let someone down a couple of times. We got together 3rd time lucky. So it can work out sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with you, you look lovely. He’s loss xx"
Awwwww thank you, my gut was telling me not to give another chance but we all learn from our mistakes x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did he give a reason? Or has he just ghosted?
I know it’s a different situation, but I had to let someone down a couple of times. We got together 3rd time lucky. So it can work out sometimes."
I’ll dm you |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Clearly he is an idiot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well it’s him, obviously, for letting you down, and you, possibly, for giving him a third chance after 2 previous let downs.
Anyway, rub yourself down, move on and don’t waste any more emotional energy worrying about it   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is why I never give second chances (unless its exceptional circumstances as to why the 1st was cancelled...never mind a 3rd.
I'm sure you won't be short of offers though OP x"
Thanks lovely, I wouldn’t usually give a second chance to someone new but I’ve known him years x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well it’s him, obviously, for letting you down, and you, possibly, for giving him a third chance after 2 previous let downs.
Anyway, rub yourself down, move on and don’t waste any more emotional energy worrying about it "
Thank you I’m trying |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did he give a reason? Or has he just ghosted?
I know it’s a different situation, but I had to let someone down a couple of times. We got together 3rd time lucky. So it can work out sometimes."
It's not what you do but how you do it. "something came up!" 30 mins before doesn't cut it, as a rule. |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
What an idiot he must be , you look stunning only a complete fool would let you down,
I'm sending you a big hug |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Someone will say you're a fool for giving him too many chances, but I won't.
My long term partner has gone quiet after we've arranged to meet a few times.
The sex is so good I forgive him. I don't shave my legs until I know he's on his way now
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Virtual hug, it won't be you |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Did he give a reason? Or has he just ghosted?
I know it’s a different situation, but I had to let someone down a couple of times. We got together 3rd time lucky. So it can work out sometimes.
It's not what you do but how you do it. "something came up!" 30 mins before doesn't cut it, as a rule."
I've had a call from a school to pick a sick child up 10 minutes before a friend was due to arrive. He had driven miles to see me so I told the school I wasn't home and I'd be about an hour. He was fine with it as he has children and knows the risks. The kid had a stomach ache and needed a poo but wouldn't poop in school.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Someone will say you're a fool for giving him too many chances, but I won't.
My long term partner has gone quiet after we've arranged to meet a few times.
The sex is so good I forgive him. I don't shave my legs until I know he's on his way now
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I do feel a fool thou, we have been chatting everyday since we rearranged but then boom and it always happened on the day we were going to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't let it get to you, "it's only you" in so far as you extended patience and optimism, that isn't necessarily a bad thing, but now you're left reflecting.
He clearly has a habit for the unreliable, so don't let it drag you down with the what ifs or whys. Even if you were told the reasoning, would you buy it from someone like this?
Chalk it up to experience, I bet your instincts told you to do otherwise but that kindness, maybe got the better of you. Find that sweet spot that works for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Did he give a reason? Or has he just ghosted?
I know it’s a different situation, but I had to let someone down a couple of times. We got together 3rd time lucky. So it can work out sometimes.
It's not what you do but how you do it. "something came up!" 30 mins before doesn't cut it, as a rule."
All I got was ‘ had a bad situation ‘  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Clearly he is an idiot! "
Why? There could be a very valid reason why the person has cancelled and we only ever get one side of the story in these posts so I don't think we should be calling anyone an idiot. |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
You look totally stunning op. So I do not see how it could be you!
I tend to agree with what most people have said. That giving this guy any more chances would be mad…. But, I suppose that depends on the reasons and whether you believe them/ him.
You say you have met him before, z long time ago. So you will probably know better on that…. But if it is any boost to your confidence I certainly think you look fantastic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have bit more confidence in yourself, and go with your 'gut instinct ',okay,life gets in the way sometimes, but this one sounds more like a player. Sorry, just my opinion. "
Spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
You look totally stunning op. So I do not see how it could be you!
I tend to agree with what most people have said. That giving this guy any more chances would be mad…. But, I suppose that depends on the reasons and whether you believe them/ him.
You say you have met him before, z long time ago. So you will probably know better on that…. But if it is any boost to your confidence I certainly think you look fantastic "
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't let it get to you, "it's only you" in so far as you extended patience and optimism, that isn't necessarily a bad thing, but now you're left reflecting.
He clearly has a habit for the unreliable, so don't let it drag you down with the what ifs or whys. Even if you were told the reasoning, would you buy it from someone like this?
Chalk it up to experience, I bet your instincts told you to do otherwise but that kindness, maybe got the better of you. Find that sweet spot that works for you."
I’m trying lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Holy schamoly..definitely not you after peeking at your pics  |
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"Did he give a reason? Or has he just ghosted?
I know it’s a different situation, but I had to let someone down a couple of times. We got together 3rd time lucky. So it can work out sometimes.
It's not what you do but how you do it. "something came up!" 30 mins before doesn't cut it, as a rule.
All I got was ‘ had a bad situation ‘ "
What a weird thing to call a wife?? / Long term partner - someone you don’t know about…. Very shitty xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Did he give a reason? Or has he just ghosted?
I know it’s a different situation, but I had to let someone down a couple of times. We got together 3rd time lucky. So it can work out sometimes.
It's not what you do but how you do it. "something came up!" 30 mins before doesn't cut it, as a rule.
All I got was ‘ had a bad situation ‘
What a weird thing to call a wife?? / Long term partner - someone you don’t know about…. Very shitty xx"
The last time I met him he was in a relationship, but when started chatting again he said he was now single, but tbh I don’t think he is  |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"You look totally stunning op. So I do not see how it could be you!
I tend to agree with what most people have said. That giving this guy any more chances would be mad…. But, I suppose that depends on the reasons and whether you believe them/ him.
You say you have met him before, z long time ago. So you will probably know better on that…. But if it is any boost to your confidence I certainly think you look fantastic "
^^^ Wot she said... ^^^
As for their reasons, I think some men are in cloud fantasy land when making arrangements... and don't have the backbone to actually meet... Moving on to the next fantasy arrangement with someone else.
I once had a guy who was a no-show and the next day, contacted me to say he was parked opposite my flat and then bottled out.
Some sad conflicted men out there ... Their cock driving the urges but lack the backbone to see it through... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That sucks, I went to meet someone last week, was left waiting where we said we'd meet for an hour, not answering her phone or replying to texts, so I get in my car and fuck off only for her to msg me 15 mins later to say where are you!
I'm gone mate...cheers for that!
Next one will hopefully be genuine |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You look totally stunning op. So I do not see how it could be you!
I tend to agree with what most people have said. That giving this guy any more chances would be mad…. But, I suppose that depends on the reasons and whether you believe them/ him.
You say you have met him before, z long time ago. So you will probably know better on that…. But if it is any boost to your confidence I certainly think you look fantastic
^^^ Wot she said... ^^^
As for their reasons, I think some men are in cloud fantasy land when making arrangements... and don't have the backbone to actually meet... Moving on to the next fantasy arrangement with someone else.
I once had a guy who was a no-show and the next day, contacted me to say he was parked opposite my flat and then bottled out.
Some sad conflicted men out there ... Their cock driving the urges but lack the backbone to see it through..."
That’s very true |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That sucks, I went to meet someone last week, was left waiting where we said we'd meet for an hour, not answering her phone or replying to texts, so I get in my car and fuck off only for her to msg me 15 mins later to say where are you!
I'm gone mate...cheers for that!
Next one will hopefully be genuine "
I’d never do that I’d always message 1/2 hour before the planned meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That sucks, I went to meet someone last week, was left waiting where we said we'd meet for an hour, not answering her phone or replying to texts, so I get in my car and fuck off only for her to msg me 15 mins later to say where are you!
I'm gone mate...cheers for that!
Next one will hopefully be genuine
I’d never do that I’d always message 1/2 hour before the planned meet "
Oh we was messaging right up until I told her I was on my way....then blanked. Never mind eh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That sucks, I went to meet someone last week, was left waiting where we said we'd meet for an hour, not answering her phone or replying to texts, so I get in my car and fuck off only for her to msg me 15 mins later to say where are you!
I'm gone mate...cheers for that!
Next one will hopefully be genuine
I’d never do that I’d always message 1/2 hour before the planned meet
Oh we was messaging right up until I told her I was on my way....then blanked. Never mind eh"
Never again |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Time wasters drie me insane!
So swinging is meant to be no strings attached but respect is a given!
Lucky guy getting two chances!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That sucks, I went to meet someone last week, was left waiting where we said we'd meet for an hour, not answering her phone or replying to texts, so I get in my car and fuck off only for her to msg me 15 mins later to say where are you!
I'm gone mate...cheers for that!
Next one will hopefully be genuine
I’d never do that I’d always message 1/2 hour before the planned meet
Oh we was messaging right up until I told her I was on my way....then blanked. Never mind eh
Never again "
I tell myself she must of seen me and realised I was way out of her league |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
More fool him I'd definitely not let you down ever xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Time wasters drie me insane!
So swinging is meant to be no strings attached but respect is a given!
Lucky guy getting two chances!!! "
Won’t ever be doing it again |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
I'd say his loss,judging by your pics and beauty, I'm sure he'll be kicking himself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That sucks, I went to meet someone last week, was left waiting where we said we'd meet for an hour, not answering her phone or replying to texts, so I get in my car and fuck off only for her to msg me 15 mins later to say where are you!
I'm gone mate...cheers for that!
Next one will hopefully be genuine
I’d never do that I’d always message 1/2 hour before the planned meet
Oh we was messaging right up until I told her I was on my way....then blanked. Never mind eh
Never again
I tell myself she must of seen me and realised I was way out of her league "
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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I have been let down more than a pair of loose elastic knickers, it sucks, and you do question if you are doing something wrong.
You are not, so I hope you don't question yourself, question the other person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why give someone more chances to stand you up? I got stood up and won’t give them another chance. "
I know now as I never spoke to him for a week after the second let down  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have been let down more than a pair of loose elastic knickers, it sucks, and you do question if you are doing something wrong.
You are not, so I hope you don't question yourself, question the other person."
I don’t know after receiving good feedback |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please I'd say his loss,judging by your pics and beauty, I'm sure he'll be kicking himself "
Nah he will try and win me round, but never again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh that is so bad - I know there are often valid reasons, but you know, we are still people with feelings and often busy lives.. Its just rubbish 
I'm so sorry this happened to you.. I recommend putting music on loud and dancing it out in your pants xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh that is so bad - I know there are often valid reasons, but you know, we are still people with feelings and often busy lives.. Its just rubbish
I'm so sorry this happened to you.. I recommend putting music on loud and dancing it out in your pants xx"
He knows I have a very busy home and work life and have to plan so yeah might just do that xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion, it’s nothing about you. He’s the one with the problem if he’s the one letting you down.
You’re a beautiful person with a cracking personality, don’t ever forget that x |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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"I have been let down more than a pair of loose elastic knickers, it sucks, and you do question if you are doing something wrong.
You are not, so I hope you don't question yourself, question the other person.
I don’t know after receiving good feedback "
just tell yourself he missed out on the greatest experience of his life x |
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Was going to say probably in a relationship. It's easy to work around work and kids, it's not so easy to work around a partner who is questioning why they're going missing randomly for 2 hours in the middle of the day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In my opinion, it’s nothing about you. He’s the one with the problem if he’s the one letting you down.
You’re a beautiful person with a cracking personality, don’t ever forget that x"
Thank you so sweet to say x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Was going to say probably in a relationship. It's easy to work around work and kids, it's not so easy to work around a partner who is questioning why they're going missing randomly for 2 hours in the middle of the day."
Not my job it isn’t as it’s shift work but yeah defo get what you’re saying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have been let down more than a pair of loose elastic knickers, it sucks, and you do question if you are doing something wrong.
You are not, so I hope you don't question yourself, question the other person.
I don’t know after receiving good feedback just tell yourself he missed out on the greatest experience of his life x"
He already knows that from previous meets |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
The man's absolute idiot, you look fabulous |
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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago
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I started dipping my toes in with men and outside a club too! Only to have been let down twice now. knocked the confidence for a few hours then its now a case of ... ur loss not mine. Cruella will always just shrug it off now but i wont entertain them again. |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Big hugs Mell,
Know how you feel. When I was let down a couple of years back, I was actually in the taxi on the way to her, when I thought I'd message her to say on my way......and I was blocked!!! Xx |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Was going to say probably in a relationship. It's easy to work around work and kids, it's not so easy to work around a partner who is questioning why they're going missing randomly for 2 hours in the middle of the day."
Wowza! Two hours!? Their window of opportunity! How sad these guys subjected to what I call their "WAG Curfew". Haha.
Seriously... if they want to meet for two hours (or less!), I normally say I don't do these "bodily function meets"...
Meets should have some kind of social elements, so that's why I say I meet on Saturday evenings only. I get challenged by guys asking for a weekday lunchtime knee-tremble... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Big hugs Mell,
Know how you feel. When I was let down a couple of years back, I was actually in the taxi on the way to her, when I thought I'd message her to say on my way......and I was blocked!!! Xx "
Sorry to hear that, I’d hate that I really would |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Big hugs Mell,
Know how you feel. When I was let down a couple of years back, I was actually in the taxi on the way to her, when I thought I'd message her to say on my way......and I was blocked!!! Xx
Sorry to hear that, I’d hate that I really would "
Yeah its not nice. And opportunities for guys my age don't happen that often! xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok, so if I guy cancelled on me I wouldn't arrange again.
Though, I have cancelled on a guy twice now and he's just messaged to rearrange.
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It’s only because I’ve met him before but won’t give chances again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's definitely not you.
I'm sorry he let you down, his loss. But I'd be very wary about giving him more chances. 
I hate when people waste your time!"
Thank you
I’m done with him now |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Ok, so if I guy cancelled on me I wouldn't arrange again.
Though, I have cancelled on a guy twice now and he's just messaged to rearrange.
It’s only because I’ve met him before but won’t give chances again "
Well hunnies, all I can say is... We may call them "time wasters" but if we give them yet another likely-to-fail chance, then we're just wasting our own time.
We have a choice.... Mine is always... NEXT...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had 1 where we arranged to meet, then the day before she got cold feet, but still continued to talk, about a month later, it was her idea to meet up, then in the day bailed.
About 3 weeks later! Again her idea to meet. I didn’t even respond. |
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over a year ago
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"Ok, so if I guy cancelled on me I wouldn't arrange again.
Though, I have cancelled on a guy twice now and he's just messaged to rearrange.
It’s only because I’ve met him before but won’t give chances again
Well hunnies, all I can say is... We may call them "time wasters" but if we give them yet another likely-to-fail chance, then we're just wasting our own time.
We have a choice.... Mine is always... NEXT...! "
Yep that’s mine now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had 1 where we arranged to meet, then the day before she got cold feet, but still continued to talk, about a month later, it was her idea to meet up, then in the day bailed.
About 3 weeks later! Again her idea to meet. I didn’t even respond. "
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
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over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Meet me and I'll give you the best hug you've ever had. "
Awwwwww CG you’re too kind |
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"Ok, so if I guy cancelled on me I wouldn't arrange again.
Though, I have cancelled on a guy twice now and he's just messaged to rearrange.
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Yeah, sometimes I really do feel like guys should just man the f*** up! We bring such treatment on ourselves sometimes... |
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"I started dipping my toes in with men and outside a club too! Only to have been let down twice now. knocked the confidence for a few hours then its now a case of ... ur loss not mine. Cruella will always just shrug it off now but i wont entertain them again.
I’m starting to look towards clubs now but haven’t been to one in years, yeah gonna be a hard bitch now "
That is exactly what I’m going to do too!
Pissed off with all the bullshit you get with meets! At least in clubs you can get exactly what you want, no awkward conversations, no lies - have fun and leave it there.
I miss going to clubs too! |
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over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Big hugs Mell,
Know how you feel. When I was let down a couple of years back, I was actually in the taxi on the way to her, when I thought I'd message her to say on my way......and I was blocked!!! Xx "
That’s a really shit thing to do to someone!
Some people don’t take feelings into consideration, get what they want and then cut you down.
The thing that always makes me want to leave this site for good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear this happened, people on this site can be really shitty"
I’m over it now, glad I came on here and got lovely comments from people, I’m not attention seeking just needed to vent as most do on the forums |
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"Sorry to hear this happened, people on this site can be really shitty
I’m over it now, glad I came on here and got lovely comments from people, I’m not attention seeking just needed to vent as most do on the forums "
You’re only human! |
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"Sorry to hear this happened, people on this site can be really shitty
I’m over it now, glad I came on here and got lovely comments from people, I’m not attention seeking just needed to vent as most do on the forums
You’re only human!"
Exactly, you just need to vent sometimes, and a lot of people here have been through it so why not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I let down a guy for a meet this evening. It would have been my first one on one meet for nearly 3 years. I have my reasons for cancelling, one of them being that I just couldn't do it because it's been so long x |
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"I let down a guy for a meet this evening. It would have been my first one on one meet for nearly 3 years. I have my reasons for cancelling, one of them being that I just couldn't do it because it's been so long x"
Sometimes you just have to get back into the saddle |
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"I let down a guy for a meet this evening. It would have been my first one on one meet for nearly 3 years. I have my reasons for cancelling, one of them being that I just couldn't do it because it's been so long x
Sometimes you just have to get back into the saddle"
Don't get me wrong, I probably would have been ok if I'd seen him in CJ's what with more people around x |
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"Sorry to hear this happened, people on this site can be really shitty
I’m over it now, glad I came on here and got lovely comments from people, I’m not attention seeking just needed to vent as most do on the forums
You’re only human!
Exactly, you just need to vent sometimes, and a lot of people here have been through it so why not!"
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Totally says more about him than you, sometimes yes we trust too much, but for him to do it repeatedly just makes him an arse!
You're lovely and he's the one that made the big mistake not you!
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Big hugs Mell,
Know how you feel. When I was let down a couple of years back, I was actually in the taxi on the way to her, when I thought I'd message her to say on my way......and I was blocked!!! Xx
That’s a really shit thing to do to someone!
Some people don’t take feelings into consideration, get what they want and then cut you down.
The thing that always makes me want to leave this site for good"
Yes I've often thought of leaving, but there's still so many good and lovely people on here, so I got over it and moved on. X |
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over a year ago
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"Totally says more about him than you, sometimes yes we trust too much, but for him to do it repeatedly just makes him an arse!
You're lovely and he's the one that made the big mistake not you!
Tg x"
Thank you
I’ve realised now not to give chances, not being let down and have my time wasted again x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's definitely not you! They might get a second chance with me, but after that they're deleted and blocked."
Yeah I’ve done that now he gave me a pathetic excuse |
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OP A lot of people are fantasists and will never show up. I wouldn’t let the site get to you.
I know from personal experience that life does get in the way of things on here which is why I might give someone a second chance but if it happens again then, as has been suggested by several others, just block and move on.
Life is too short to worry! |
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"OP A lot of people are fantasists and will never show up. I wouldn’t let the site get to you.
I know from personal experience that life does get in the way of things on here which is why I might give someone a second chance but if it happens again then, as has been suggested by several others, just block and move on.
Life is too short to worry!"
The site doesn’t get to me , just he did after giving him more than one chance
I’m over it all now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most likely not you, blame him his loss, and not all guys are like him"
I know they ain’t as I’ve met some really nice guys over the years and never been let down before |
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over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
U r hot . Any guy would be lucky to spend even 1 single night with you .
He probably got a girlfriend who he would love to cheat on
Book things and in last minute get trapped
Of course is the ones in the side that he is gonna burn
As have a saved pussy in hand . If not more .
Prick x unless u 100% sure u don’t tell people yes .
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My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
loads of olov hugs coming your way ..I'd give Mr flaky a wide wide birth...his wife probably said she needed him to go shopping or put up a shelf or something...I'm sure there's a Mr more reliable out there for you  |
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"Nothing wrong with you, you look lovely. He’s loss xx
Awwwww thank you, my gut was telling me not to give another chance but we all learn from our mistakes x"
His loss not yours keep on being you as your gorgeous |
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over a year ago
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Stuff happens that comes a much lower priority than fabbing if you are in an open minded view.
Otherwise it could be a right said Fred moment and you were too sexy for this party ? |
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over a year ago
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Hope you're not thinking it's you anymore. You tried to reach out to him but he couldn't see what was in front of him. That makes him the idiot, not you. |
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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago
Stockport |
"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
No lovely, it's definitely not you. (((Hugs))) sent as requested x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hope you're not thinking it's you anymore. You tried to reach out to him but he couldn't see what was in front of him. That makes him the idiot, not you. "
No not anymore, he’s blocked and staying there |
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over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
No lovely, it's definitely not you. (((Hugs))) sent as requested x"
Thank you x |
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"Hope you're not thinking it's you anymore. You tried to reach out to him but he couldn't see what was in front of him. That makes him the idiot, not you.
No not anymore, he’s blocked and staying there "
That's probably the right thing. I can't bring myself to block the guy who let me down twice! |
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over a year ago
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"Hope you're not thinking it's you anymore. You tried to reach out to him but he couldn't see what was in front of him. That makes him the idiot, not you.
No not anymore, he’s blocked and staying there
That's probably the right thing. I can't bring myself to block the guy who let me down twice!"
I didn’t want to either but after reading he’s lame bullshit of an excuse I had too, you’ll find the strength one day to do it , plenty more fish in the sea |
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over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Nope
Most definitely him
You just allowed him too many chances
Chin up chuck
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Hugs. He is definitely not worth your time, Gal! It happens to us all. You are a trooper because at the second stood up I would have thrown a BPD/neurodivergent tantrum/meltdown and he would have been deleted and blocked forever..or is it I who would have been deleted and blocked forever? Lol!
Either way I can't let people play with my psychological make up anymore, intentionally or unintentionally. They are better out of my life if they are just walking triggers to me... Even family... I can't tolerate it.
See how I handled my first-time cancellation today in my rejection post in the lounge. |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
The man is a pillock... |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
Why would anyone let such a lovely lady down |
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over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Hugs. He is definitely not worth your time, Gal! It happens to us all. You are a trooper because at the second stood up I would have thrown a BPD/neurodivergent tantrum/meltdown and he would have been deleted and blocked forever..or is it I who would have been deleted and blocked forever? Lol!
Either way I can't let people play with my psychological make up anymore, intentionally or unintentionally. They are better out of my life if they are just walking triggers to me... Even family... I can't tolerate it.
See how I handled my first-time cancellation today in my rejection post in the lounge."
I did lol, well I feel sorry for the next one he chats to |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
The man is a pillock..."
That he is |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
Nope
Most definitely him
You just allowed him too many chances
Chin up chuck
Missy x"
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"I wouldn't of given him 2nd chance .its once strike and out for me .
That’s what I’m doing from now on "
Best way too be ,chin up and one day you will meet that special person .I did |
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"I wouldn't of given him 2nd chance .its once strike and out for me .
That’s what I’m doing from now on
Best way too be ,chin up and one day you will meet that special person .I did "
I’m not looking for a special person lol but thank you x |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
I've seen your pictures.
It's definitely not you, it's him.
If I wasn't out of your age range I would drag myself down the M6 across broken glass to see you. |
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please
I've seen your pictures.
It's definitely not you, it's him.
If I wasn't out of your age range I would drag myself down the M6 across broken glass to see you. "
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"So was let down twice by a guy I met many years ago, gave him one more chance and guess what ! Yep let down again, third times a charm as they say !
My confidence is low as it is but now makes me think ‘is it me’? Anyways had a moan so send hugs please "
It's not you, if he would behave like this to someone that's just his personality type, some people regardless of anything would just not behave like that, and others would. It's not you it's him.
Some people just do not respect others. |
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