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So, just dropped my nephew off at school and he started to ask me about my uncle who committed suicide when I was a teenager.
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Gosh thats a hard one, maybe say you will sit and have a chat with him later, when you have plenty of time to answer his questions. Its very difficult some of the "on the spot" questions children come out with |
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"So, just dropped my nephew off at school and he started to ask me about my uncle who committed suicide when I was a teenager.
How do you explain suicide to a 7 year old whilst trying not to cry as you drive? "
Aw hugs 
You say that no one can ever truly understand his another person is feeling but sometimes people think that they're all alone and have no one to talk to, that there are people out there who will listen and no matter how horrible and alone you feel or if you're scared or angry or worried and don't know how to talk to friends of family that sometimes it's easier to talk to stranger because you won't have to worry about upsetting them
That he never knew there was people he could talk to and that's why he did it and that it doesn't mean he didn't love his family it just meant he stopped living himself and that you should always talk about your problems no batter how bad they are and never be scared to open up
That's what I tell my kids anyway xxx |
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Very tough one. My son is six and sometimes asks hard questions.
Be as honest with him as you can, but don't be afraid to say 'it's not something you will understand until you are older, we can talk about it then if you like' at the very hard bits. Kids get that and will be happy with what you do tell them as long as you don't try and brush them off.
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Personally I think he's too young to possibly understand, suicide is very hard to deal with, I was 15 when it happened in my family and it's was devastating there's no easy way of explaining to a child why someone would end their life x |
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"So, just dropped my nephew off at school and he started to ask me about my uncle who committed suicide when I was a teenager.
How do you explain suicide to a 7 year old whilst trying not to cry as you drive?
Aw hugs
You say that no one can ever truly understand his another person is feeling but sometimes people think that they're all alone and have no one to talk to, that there are people out there who will listen and no matter how horrible and alone you feel or if you're scared or angry or worried and don't know how to talk to friends of family that sometimes it's easier to talk to stranger because you won't have to worry about upsetting them
That he never knew there was people he could talk to and that's why he did it and that it doesn't mean he didn't love his family it just meant he stopped living himself and that you should always talk about your problems no batter how bad they are and never be scared to open up
That's what I tell my kids anyway xxx "
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might be worth talking to the school to see if they have access to a proffesional person who knows what to say, as what you say will probably be remembered for life.this might help but i would get advice first..
A explanation might be: "Our thoughts and feelings come from our brain, and sometimes a person's brain can get very sick - the sickness can cause a person to feel very badly inside. It also makes a person's thoughts get all jumbled and mixed up, so he can't think clearly. Some people can't think of any other way of stopping the hurt they feel inside. They don't understand that they don't have to feel that way, that they can get help."
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Very hard one. Have you spoke to his parents on whether they have discussed it with him?
Not helpful, im sorry, but they may want to have things explained to him a certain way? |
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I don't even know how we got onto the conversation really but I just explained that he was very poorly and had spent time in hospital as his brain wasn't working properly.
Which then made him ask if the hospital told him to hang himself 
I will tell my sister he has been asking. He has always needed to know minute details of things. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
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"I don't even know how we got onto the conversation really but I just explained that he was very poorly and had spent time in hospital as his brain wasn't working properly.
Which then made him ask if the hospital told him to hang himself
I will tell my sister he has been asking. He has always needed to know minute details of things. "
Such a shame
My 6 year old nephew is the same. Very switched on and wants and needs to know about every little thing.
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"I don't even know how we got onto the conversation really but I just explained that he was very poorly and had spent time in hospital as his brain wasn't working properly.
Which then made him ask if the hospital told him to hang himself
I will tell my sister he has been asking. He has always needed to know minute details of things.
Such a shame
My 6 year old nephew is the same. Very switched on and wants and needs to know about every little thing.
Big hugs xx"
Ditto my kids are very inquisitive just like me and I try to talk to them as little adults because they can actually understand alot more than we give them credit for and can sniff out bullshit and being fobbed off pretty quickly xx I'd rather arm my kids with the facts than leave things open to interpretation xxx big hugs and glad your not just ignoring it |
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As someone who works with children in care who often ask the most horrendous questions my advice would be to be as honest as possible in an age appropriate manner!! Kids are much cleverer than we think sometimes and they will draw their own often very wrong conclusions if not given the appropriate facts!! Funny how the car is very often the place when they ask things as its safe as you have to still concentrate on driving and cannot give your full attention to the subject in hand!! |
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