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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just curious……
When you read other Bios, some clearly state about not saying “Hi” and asking various questions?
For me, saying “Hi” is a normal everyday phrase and polite. How do others feel about this? |
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I like to effuse the written equivalent of doth'ing my hat, shaking her hands and offering a "how do you do" and "pleased to meet you". It's far more civil.
An unimaginative "Hi" will close any possible doors that were already open to you. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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I agree 'Hi' is a normal everyday phrase and perfectly polite.
It's also, in the context of this site incredibly lazy, the bare minimum of a message that puts the onus on the recipient to start a conversation because 'Hi' says nothing of interest, its not engaging and gives no reason to reply |
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Unless you're already on my radar (hotlisted, fancied you from the forums etc), you saying hi does nothing for me. It puts all the effort on me. I have to then look at your profile, find something that interests me and I have to start a proper conversation. It feels lazy. If you have the most amazing profile it might be ok, otherwise I'd take a glance and most likely delete it. |
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"Unless you're already on my radar (hotlisted, fancied you from the forums etc), you saying hi does nothing for me. It puts all the effort on me. I have to then look at your profile, find something that interests me and I have to start a proper conversation. It feels lazy. If you have the most amazing profile it might be ok, otherwise I'd take a glance and most likely delete it. "
couldn't put it better myself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think theres too much emphasis on the content of a message. If I get a hi or hi how are you, I respond in kind. Far rather have a hi than the stuff some guys and couples think is acceptable.
Initial Messages I've had that have been lengthy usually seem like copy n paste with my username added, one was talking to a couple lol he'd forgot to edit that part so yeah.... Hi how are you is fine by me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree 'Hi' is a normal everyday phrase and perfectly polite.
It's also, in the context of this site incredibly lazy, the bare minimum of a message that puts the onus on the recipient to start a conversation because 'Hi' says nothing of interest, its not engaging and gives no reason to reply"
THIS! Although I still prefer hi to ‘can I ruin your pussy’ or inane questions that are answered on my profile! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think theres too much emphasis on the content of a message. If I get a hi or hi how are you, I respond in kind. Far rather have a hi than the stuff some guys and couples think is acceptable.
Initial Messages I've had that have been lengthy usually seem like copy n paste with my username added, one was talking to a couple lol he'd forgot to edit that part so yeah.... Hi how are you is fine by me "
I once got a copy and paste message that was clearly meant for a man not a woman lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think theres too much emphasis on the content of a message. If I get a hi or hi how are you, I respond in kind. Far rather have a hi than the stuff some guys and couples think is acceptable.
Initial Messages I've had that have been lengthy usually seem like copy n paste with my username added, one was talking to a couple lol he'd forgot to edit that part so yeah.... Hi how are you is fine by me
I once got a copy and paste message that was clearly meant for a man not a woman lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi.
I suggest that those people are wanting more than just a "Hi", and that they don't have a particular sting feeling for it's inclusion in an otherwise larger missive with more meaningful content also included.
Bye. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unless you're already on my radar (hotlisted, fancied you from the forums etc), you saying hi does nothing for me. It puts all the effort on me. I have to then look at your profile, find something that interests me and I have to start a proper conversation. It feels lazy. If you have the most amazing profile it might be ok, otherwise I'd take a glance and most likely delete it. couldn't put it better myself."
Just for clarification I don’t just message “Hi” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi is normal and every day in real life. If you're on a site where you know 80% of messages say "hi" or "how're u" it's reasonable to make a little effort. It does no-one any favours as it's personality free and leads to a boring conversation online. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious……
When you read other Bios, some clearly state about not saying “Hi” and asking various questions?
For me, saying “Hi” is a normal everyday phrase and polite. How do others feel about this?"
Yes, it's perfectly normal. Sadly many on Fab are not. |
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Generic Hi/how're you/what you up to (browsing fab obv, you can see I'm online) are automatically deleted by me without even opening, for reasons already given on here. I like messages where people open talking about themselves or conversation starters. |
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