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Do you care about body bad bits?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is a super wobbly tummy or a flat ass enough to put you off someone? Do you consider if catfishing if the "bad bit" isn't really obvious in photos?

I guess I am asking how fussy you are about other people's bodies. If you're thinking you want to get jiggy with them.

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By *pYaMan over a year ago

Ready…

It’s not only looks, mind stimulation plays a big part

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s not only looks, mind stimulation plays a big part"

Sure, but you didn't answer the question!

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By *humper.Man over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

I think we all try to show ourselves off in the best light. So long as its a fair representation though then it is what it is. Certainly not dishonest.

I've found that before any meets though, we all kind of confess any insecurities or hang ups anyway so, its all good.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I'm not into body shaming or being judgemental, but I do have my preferences, which are within a range rather than being very restrictive. At the same time, there are other qualities that I would look for and there would be deal breakers without them regardless of other preferences. Personality and character will enable my preferences to be more flexible.

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By *pYaMan over a year ago

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It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is a super wobbly tummy or a flat ass enough to put you off someone? Do you consider if catfishing if the "bad bit" isn't really obvious in photos?

I guess I am asking how fussy you are about other people's bodies. If you're thinking you want to get jiggy with them.

I'm not too fussed as I understand people have jiggly bits. Imperfection is part of being human.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't say I'm put off easily. I'm quite fond of the bits that society doesn't like. I do have certain types of men that I love the look of that I am more drawn to. But if I like you then your beer belly or small dick won't make me not fancy you just because they aren't what is deemed acceptable by the world.

I'm more put off by personality than anything else.

Would I say it is catfishing? I guess if you go out of your way to hide parts of yourself and lie about it then yes. But if you're just showing your body with clothes nobody could ever guess how it would look naked. And I don't mind flattering angles either. I think as long as you can put that photo by your side and still be able to recognise that it is you then you're not decieivng anyone.

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By *igGs19Woman over a year ago

Castle Douglas

My pictures don't remotely do justice to how wobbly my wobbly bits are, but the ones that go on my friends only, or that I might attach to a DM if I am considering a meet, are totally nude and aren't hiding anything, they're just more flattering angles than what I see in the mirror. I don't see the issue with that, we're all gonna do it. Why would you take an unflattering pic that does nothing for your self esteem and then publish it? The last thing that's going to do is make you feel sexy and down for some fun.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Is it fussy to want to feel attraction?

My feet are my worst feature. I wouldn't expect a guy with foot fetish to want to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think we all try to show ourselves off in the best light. So long as its a fair representation though then it is what it is. Certainly not dishonest.

I've found that before any meets though, we all kind of confess any insecurities or hang ups anyway so, its all good.

I've only ever had one guy confess his insecurity to me. Physical that is. But what's a fair representation, I wonder? I remember one guy I met had a photo of his penis and it was VERY girthy. It was 3 inches long though. Sometimes I wonder if me not sharing ALL the bad bits of my body is dishonest. (Obvs I don't share any atm)

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

Nobody has a perfect body, whatever they may try to portray in photos.

I think it is to be expected that people will take photos to highlight certain parts whilst not necessarily focussing on other parts.

If people are using apps to change their body then that’s not really the same thing as just showing yourself from the ‘best’ angle.

Keep expectations in order I would say

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not into body shaming or being judgemental, but I do have my preferences, which are within a range rather than being very restrictive. At the same time, there are other qualities that I would look for and there would be deal breakers without them regardless of other preferences. Personality and character will enable my preferences to be more flexible."

That is wonderfully diplomatic

. A lot of people here are ALL about the looks which begged my question really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Extremely, I'm a terrible perfectionist.

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By *opman121Man over a year ago

stoke on trent

What u see is there like it or leave it ,

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

My feet are rarely if ever photographed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle"

This is true. From a flattering angle.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Nope ..everyone has a story to tell..things to say ..and the desire to please and enjoy pleasure

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By *humper.Man over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"I think we all try to show ourselves off in the best light. So long as its a fair representation though then it is what it is. Certainly not dishonest.

I've found that before any meets though, we all kind of confess any insecurities or hang ups anyway so, its all good.

I have photos from a couple of years ago when I was in considerably better shape, I could post them on my profile to get some attention but I wouldn't as I'm much slimmer now. I guess that's what I mean about fair representation.

It did cross my mind though haha.

It's not dishonest, you're just showing off what you are happy/comfortable or confident with. We all do it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is a super wobbly tummy or a flat ass enough to put you off someone? Do you consider if catfishing if the "bad bit" isn't really obvious in photos?

I guess I am asking how fussy you are about other people's bodies. If you're thinking you want to get jiggy with them.

I’m pretty fussy, but I don’t care as long as I feel they’ve been honest

I’ve been on more than enough dates where she turns up a few stone heavier then her profile pics. That’s not cool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone knows their angles and avoids what they don’t like to show. I’ve known many people (OK women, but that’s just my personal experience) also subtlety cover their tummy’s etc in real life also, and it’s always a fine line between saying no need to do that, and just allowing them their valid body image thoughts - they love with it after all. Personally, I don’t like what I perceive as my baggy eyes, but they are harder to conceal subtlety…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle"

Well it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I care about body type and shape. I don’t meet overweight guys, I like those I meet to be in shape. I’m just not attracted to big guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My photos are representative of my body type and I encourage any one I plan to meet to watch when I cam to see for themselves!

I do think it’s catfishing if photos don’t represent how you actually look!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think catfishing has to be a little more deliberate

Taking a nice picture and posting it isn’t automatically catfishing

I feel there has to be a deliberate attempt at hiding how you look for it to count as that

No one’s gonna post their worst pictures

And equally, no one’s gonna take a nice picture and say “that’s too nice”

But, if you are only posting your best pics from the most flattering angles, you can’t blame the other person when they turn up and leave right away

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By *rincipessaWoman over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

I think everyone wants to share their best bits. I worry about my own body and how it’s portrayed way more than anyone else’s, so I get you. Meeting someone I confess all the things I dislike, send shit pictures in an act of self sabotage - worry they’ll be disappointed. I know I’m not alone in doing that. Thing is I chat and like to build a connection with someone first. What they look like almost becomes irrelevant if we have that.

But I know not everyone feels that way

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not a huge fan of my post mum body but I'm getting there, it's clear in my profile I'm not stick thin or gym fit, if people don't like the wobbly bits or few stretch marks they aren't for me.

Mrs

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Was very reluctant to show my tum in my pics! But decided I would as its part of me! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is a super wobbly tummy or a flat ass enough to put you off someone? Do you consider if catfishing if the "bad bit" isn't really obvious in photos?

I guess I am asking how fussy you are about other people's bodies. If you're thinking you want to get jiggy with them.

No not at all

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If someone has completely misrepresented themselves in pics on here and when you meet them are completely different in age,body type or even attitude then yes I lose interest fast.Not necessarily because they are older or heavier etc but because they lied on order to get a meet and think that's okay.

I'm over weight but I've never lied to anyone about that before I met them in fact I tell them I have a wobbly tum and big bum. I don't see the point in pretending to be something I'm not and I expect the same from anyone I meet.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

I only care in as much as having an idea of their overall physique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As long as I am attracted to the face and personality wobbly bits or whatever you want to call your insecurities wouldn’t bother me. Quite the opposite.

When I am at hull’s gloryhole I am interested in personality only

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope i really like little imperfections like secret holes extra bits scars and wobbly bits dont bother me just a sign of living life

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

I personally like seeing the body as a whole, if I was to meet someone. I don't particularly like having to piece a person together like a jig saw. Plus if they're hiding something completely, it does make me wonder if they would be completely confident naked with me. And that for me is a bit off putting.

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By *rispyDuckMan over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Depends

If they are shown in pics & I know what I'm walking into it's all gravy. But when send out from 7yrs ago when you looked like a supermodel & I walk in to someone 24st

then c'mon! Thats clearly catfishing think we can all agree

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By *ear in the chairMan over a year ago

yeah there

Had to give up caring about mine, neither the body hair, bald bonce or chubbiness is going anywhere. But then, I like to connect on more than just physical.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No 2d photo will ever give a true representation of a moving body. Choosing your best angle isn’t the same as deliberately misleading, unless that best angle was 7 years ago. I’d be far pissed if someone covered up they were a chain smoking Tory

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By *an4funMan over a year ago

london

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle"

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think everyone wants to share their best bits. I worry about my own body and how it’s portrayed way more than anyone else’s, so I get you. Meeting someone I confess all the things I dislike, send shit pictures in an act of self sabotage - worry they’ll be disappointed. I know I’m not alone in doing that. Thing is I chat and like to build a connection with someone first. What they look like almost becomes irrelevant if we have that.

But I know not everyone feels that way

Px"

I feel that way and yes, I know most people here don't think that - looks are a huge part of attraction for most people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I personally like seeing the body as a whole, if I was to meet someone. I don't particularly like having to piece a person together like a jig saw. Plus if they're hiding something completely, it does make me wonder if they would be completely confident naked with me. And that for me is a bit off putting.

I don't feel completely confident naked ever. Can't remember feeling like that even when I was slimmer. People like confidence so I'm not sure what the solution is?

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By *iromancergirl1Woman over a year ago

bolton

I make sure that people can see on my pics exactly how my body/face looks as if I’m going to get naked with somebody I don’t want to feel that there is any surprises and I appreciate the same in return.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing "

Seems some people agree with this. Would you walk away in person if someone wasn't up to their photos?

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By *an4funMan over a year ago

london

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

Seems some people agree with this. Would you walk away in person if someone wasn't up to their photos?"

I'm a professional. I would get the job don...then run

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing "

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

I don't feel completely confident naked ever. Can't remember feeling like that even when I was slimmer. People like confidence so I'm not sure what the solution is?"

By the time I'm naked, I'm past caring...

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish …."

Not if you have your tits on show in your profile

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I’m more concerned about my bad body bits than someone else’s

Marc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish …."

Well no, it's the flattering angles. Most people do it, I do!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish …."

How did you pull “wearing a bra” from “best angle”

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

Seems some people agree with this. Would you walk away in person if someone wasn't up to their photos?

I'm a professional. I would get the job don...then run

That's worse than walking away!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

Not if you have your tits on show in your profile

But then… you’re not wearing a bra… unless there’s something about bras I have wrong, like how I’ve been bananas wrong all this time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish …."

Who said that? Wearing a push up bra that makes your chest look huge when it’s in reality it’s tiny would be catfishing but only if you didn’t have other pics where you weren’t wearing a push up:

Angling the camera to give yourself a flat stomach when really you have a beer belly is catfishing though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

How did you pull “wearing a bra” from “best angle”

It’s the thought that using your good pics, flattering pics, ones that make you look tal, have bigger shoulders, better abs, rounder arse or whatever are somehow misleading and essentially fake. They’re not. Unless we define ourselves by our worst attributes, in which case we should all posting our shittest pics to be the most real…

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'm fat. I tell you I'm fat. I'm bald. I don't hide it. Hiding stuff gets you in bother. Just be yourself. I'm also too old to give a damn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you are worrying about nothing here, everyone has things they don't like about themselves.

You should enbrace it, be proud. If anything a flat arse gets me in deeper

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

I don't feel completely confident naked ever. Can't remember feeling like that even when I was slimmer. People like confidence so I'm not sure what the solution is?

By the time I'm naked, I'm past caring... "

That's all that matters to me tbh, but that isn't always the case. I used to wear a suspender belt to hide my belly etc and was just concious if anyone went near it. Which looking back wasn't the best for anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing "

No I don’t believe that tbh… It’s still you, let’s be real nearly everyone takes photos from their best angles. Whether you slightly tilt your neck to show your jawline more or turn your hips out to show more arse…

Catfishing to me would be altering your shape in an app.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

How did you pull “wearing a bra” from “best angle”

But where did you get the bra part from?

I take flattering pictures from good angles sometimes, I’ve never worn a bra

Seriuedly confused at how you reached that conclusion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

More bothered with my bad bits than others.

I probably fall in to the catfish category judging by comments here but then if you really looked at my pictures and profile there is no way you could think you were meeting a slim woman!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

How did you pull “wearing a bra” from “best angle”

Oh that's an interesting thought - do we define ourselves by our best or worst attributes? I probably define myself by my worst ones. Hmm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don't feel completely confident naked ever. Can't remember feeling like that even when I was slimmer. People like confidence so I'm not sure what the solution is?

By the time I'm naked, I'm past caring...

I still do that. I just feel a lot more comfortable with something there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But where did you get the bra part from?

I take flattering pictures from good angles sometimes, I’ve never worn a bra

Seriuedly confused at how you reached that conclusion "

It was just using a Mac huff in for comic effect, jeez, the point wasn’t the bra, it was that having flattering pics doesn’t make you a catfish, and probably the number one thing done on here to make a body more flattering is nice lingerie… no need to be quite so literal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But where did you get the bra part from?

I take flattering pictures from good angles sometimes, I’ve never worn a bra

Seriuedly confused at how you reached that conclusion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

Catfishing to me would be altering your shape in an app."

But I know, I can look a hell of a lot different in a photo just from the right angle and lighting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

Angling the camera to give yourself a flat stomach when really you have a beer belly is catfishing though! "

It's a wine belly!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t be too hard on yourself guys x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

Angling the camera to give yourself a flat stomach when really you have a beer belly is catfishing though!

It's a wine belly!!!"

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But where did you get the bra part from?

I take flattering pictures from good angles sometimes, I’ve never worn a bra

Seriuedly confused at how you reached that conclusion

Ah ok, sorry that your attempted humour didn’t work, my bad I guess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish …."

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

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By *an4funMan over a year ago

london

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

You ok Hun?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But where did you get the bra part from?

I take flattering pictures from good angles sometimes, I’ve never worn a bra

Seriuedly confused at how you reached that conclusion

Ah ok, sorry that your attempted humour didn’t work, my bad I guess "

And I’m sorry you need to be the self appointed forum humour police because you needed simple humour explaining to you. My bad too, I’ll keep it simpler next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A picture can’t represent who you are only what you look like surely

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

I’ve mentioned in my profile I’m curvier than I used to be, you can see in my pics my mum tum and lumps and bumps.

It’s hard not to be self conscious, especially when I’ve posted a pic of my stomach on show before and had not so nice messages. It makes you want to cover up.

When you get crap for what you post you can understand why people want to show the best parts of themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

It’s mind blowing that people want to be attracted to people they have sex with?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing "

Not really, if I sit down and bend forward I have a couple of stomach rolls, because I don't take pics bent forward showing them does that make me a catfish?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

Not really, if I sit down and bend forward I have a couple of stomach rolls, because I don't take pics bent forward showing them does that make me a catfish?

I only think it’s catfishing if the body shown in photos looks significantly different from what the person looks like in person. Everyone takes their best angles that’s human nature.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve mentioned in my profile I’m curvier than I used to be, you can see in my pics my mum tum and lumps and bumps.

It’s hard not to be self conscious, especially when I’ve posted a pic of my stomach on show before and had not so nice messages. It makes you want to cover up.

When you get crap for what you post you can understand why people want to show the best parts of themselves "

More the fool them, you look amazing - Don't ever change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But where did you get the bra part from?

I take flattering pictures from good angles sometimes, I’ve never worn a bra

Seriuedly confused at how you reached that conclusion

Ah ok, sorry that your attempted humour didn’t work, my bad I guess

And I’m sorry you need to be the self appointed forum humour police because you needed simple humour explaining to you. My bad too, I’ll keep it simpler next time

I think most people missed that one, which is a shame because once you explained, it’s actually a good talking point, you just went about a very strange way of bringing it up. But it is a fair point, just not a very funny or clear way of explaining it

Is lingerie and push-up bras catfishing? Is a guy in a suit a catfish? I’d imagine the devils in the details

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"It’s not only looks, mind stimulation plays a big part"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

It’s mind blowing that people want to be attracted to people they have sex with?"

It’s a sex site. You should just be smooshing your genitalia up against anyone and everyone

Actually fancying someone is so 2019. Get with it

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

Not really, if I sit down and bend forward I have a couple of stomach rolls, because I don't take pics bent forward showing them does that make me a catfish?

I only think it’s catfishing if the body shown in photos looks significantly different from what the person looks like in person. Everyone takes their best angles that’s human nature. "

Exactly totally agree, I look as I do in the photos, in the poses/positions in the photos, well except I have a face

and in reality I'm wearing fluffy pjs and don't live in my undies

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"More bothered with my bad bits than others.

I probably fall in to the catfish category judging by comments here but then if you really looked at my pictures and profile there is no way you could think you were meeting a slim woman!"

I'd be thinking get those bangers in my face now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Humorously the person posting the good angle = catfish comment has precisely one photo in which he is clearly flexing his abs and has filtered the background out…

Make of that what you will

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Don’t be too hard on yourself guys x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, catfishing would be using someone else's photos. My Friends Only folder for example only includes photos of Matt Smith's anus.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

It’s mind blowing that people want to be attracted to people they have sex with?"

That wasn't the question I asked though. I was asking whether imperfections would alter your attraction in person.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

No. I don't. I wouldn't get jiggy with someone unless I had a social first. Without sex. So I don't know, I expect people to be a bit wobblier. More human. Life like. Bring on the big noses. The soft squidgeyness.

I don't really notice in a critical way what another person might see as "flaws" because once I find myself sexually attracted I kind of... don't know. See them as a whole. Rather than separate body parts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

It’s mind blowing that people want to be attracted to people they have sex with?

That wasn't the question I asked though. I was asking whether imperfections would alter your attraction in person. "

There’s a difference between imperfections and misrepresenting a body type!

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By *moothshaftMan over a year ago

Coventry

"Is it fussy to want to feel attraction?

My feet are my worst feature. I wouldn't expect a guy with foot fetish to want to meet me. "

You'd be surprised. Feet don't have to be absolutely perfect. X

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By *ylonlover87Man over a year ago

upchurch

Nope. If I'm getting with someone I'm attracted to them no matter what. It's more of a turn off when someone feels they need to apologise for how they look. We judge ourselves way harsher than anyone else ever does. The older I got the less I worried about my body.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

I’ve got saggy boobs and a belly that reaches my knees

who am I to criticise anyone else’s body

I don’t consider nicely taken photos as catfishing tho, people say photos are like your shop window and we all know shop windows are covered in dust and cobwebs with a few dead wasps lying around

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By *an4funMan over a year ago

london

"Humorously the person posting the good angle = catfish comment has precisely one photo in which he is clearly flexing his abs and has filtered the background out…

Make of that what you will "

Ooh ya bitch. MeeeeOWWW! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Most Definitely

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

You ok Hun?

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

"Humorously the person posting the good angle = catfish comment has precisely one photo in which he is clearly flexing his abs and has filtered the background out…

Make of that what you will

Ooh ya bitch. MeeeeOWWW! X"

BURN

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

It’s mind blowing that people want to be attracted to people they have sex with?

That wasn't the question I asked though. I was asking whether imperfections would alter your attraction in person.

There’s a difference between imperfections and misrepresenting a body type! "

Of course. I don't think anyone suggested that flattering angles would change them from ample to slim though?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like when zelda blows my trumpet

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like when zelda blows my trumpet"

But did Zelda think it was a tuba?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not catfishing, loads of people take pictures from the right angle

"Right angles" = best angle = catfishing

You heard it here first, Ladies. Wearing a bra pretty much makes you a catfish ….

This!

Taking a flattering angle of yourself is considered “Catfishing”

Has anyone who said that, actually watched Catfish? That is a whole different thing!

So since joining in with this forum, I’ve discovered that Vapers are considered Smokers, people that can’t drive are a waste of time, now people who take good angle photos are “Catfishing”

It’s mind blowing that people have so many expectations from someone that they are just going to have sex with.

Wow…

It’s mind blowing that people want to be attracted to people they have sex with?

That wasn't the question I asked though. I was asking whether imperfections would alter your attraction in person. "

Not at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. I don't. I wouldn't get jiggy with someone unless I had a social first. Without sex. So I don't know, I expect people to be a bit wobblier. More human. Life like. Bring on the big noses. The soft squidgeyness.

My sentiment exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like when zelda blows my trumpet

But did Zelda think it was a tuba?"
sexamaphoooooone sexamaphooooooone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope. If I'm getting with someone I'm attracted to them no matter what. It's more of a turn off when someone feels they need to apologise for how they look. We judge ourselves way harsher than anyone else ever does. The older I got the less I worried about my body. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like when zelda blows my trumpet

But did Zelda think it was a tuba?sexamaphoooooone sexamaphooooooone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like when zelda blows my trumpet

But did Zelda think it was a tuba?sexamaphoooooone sexamaphooooooone

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she likes the blues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Humorously the person posting the good angle = catfish comment has precisely one photo in which he is clearly flexing his abs and has filtered the background out…

Make of that what you will

Ooh ya bitch. MeeeeOWWW! X"

Seriously though, what made you pick that one? Did you take several and pick the best? I bet you did, and there’s nothing wrong with that!

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By *evonNewbiesCouple over a year ago

Paignton

All about personality for us, we are hardly supermodels ourselves so who are we to judge x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

So it's a wonderbra catfishing?

I definitely only use more flattering angles. I think it's obvious from my pictures I'm not slim and so far have never had a poor reaction from a first meeting.

I don't believe I need to show pictures of every wobble or scar. I'm a 54 year old woman, I don't have anywhere near a perfect body or face. We all hide aspects of ourselves both physical and mental.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So it's a wonderbra catfishing?

I definitely only use more flattering angles. I think it's obvious from my pictures I'm not slim and so far have never had a poor reaction from a first meeting.

I don't believe I need to show pictures of every wobble or scar. I'm a 54 year old woman, I don't have anywhere near a perfect body or face. We all hide aspects of ourselves both physical and mental.

I think the bra thing is just a derail...

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By *an4funMan over a year ago

london

"Humorously the person posting the good angle = catfish comment has precisely one photo in which he is clearly flexing his abs and has filtered the background out…

Make of that what you will

Ooh ya bitch. MeeeeOWWW! X

Seriously though, what made you pick that one? Did you take several and pick the best? I bet you did, and there’s nothing wrong with that!"

You got me. I'm a catfish. Now fuck off x

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

I worry about mine, not so much someone else’s once I’ve already decided I fancy them..

My photos are taken with good angles. I have a mum tum to a degree. But nothing I’m hiding massively. But I also look a million times better in the flesh than in pictures. It’s posture, movement, personality etc. a person isn’t just a photo, profile & body type.

Reading that back to myself I need to worry less!!!! I am a hottie

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Humorously the person posting the good angle = catfish comment has precisely one photo in which he is clearly flexing his abs and has filtered the background out…

Make of that what you will

Ooh ya bitch. MeeeeOWWW! X

Seriously though, what made you pick that one? Did you take several and pick the best? I bet you did, and there’s nothing wrong with that!

You got me. I'm a catfish. Now fuck off x"

Oh good. You two have made up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do like to breath in tho ptherwise i look like a pregnant bloke with big arms

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I worry about mine, not so much someone else’s once I’ve already decided I fancy them..

Reading that back to myself I need to worry less!!!! I am a hottie

Actually, reading that - I need to worry less too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Humorously the person posting the good angle = catfish comment has precisely one photo in which he is clearly flexing his abs and has filtered the background out…

Make of that what you will

Ooh ya bitch. MeeeeOWWW! X

Seriously though, what made you pick that one? Did you take several and pick the best? I bet you did, and there’s nothing wrong with that!

You got me. I'm a catfish. Now fuck off x"

My point is….sigh…that you’re not, at least just for picking a flattering posed pic…

Lordy it’s such hard work sometimes :/

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By *hiskeyColaMan over a year ago

Oswestry

"I wouldn't say I'm put off easily. I'm quite fond of the bits that society doesn't like. I do have certain types of men that I love the look of that I am more drawn to. But if I like you then your beer belly or small dick won't make me not fancy you just because they aren't what is deemed acceptable by the world.

I'm more put off by personality than anything else.

Love this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol photos are misconceiving. I am 5'2 it look like I have legs . But I do not.

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By *hiskeyColaMan over a year ago

Oswestry

"My feet are rarely if ever photographed "

You know something? I betcha they're not that bad

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By *hiskeyColaMan over a year ago

Oswestry

Yes that's so true

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"I worry about mine, not so much someone else’s once I’ve already decided I fancy them..

Reading that back to myself I need to worry less!!!! I am a hottie

Actually, reading that - I need to worry less too!

Without even seeing you - I guarantee you do!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is a super wobbly tummy or a flat ass enough to put you off someone?"

A flat ass is good for resting my post coital cuppa

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I’m more concerned about my bad body bits than someone else’s

Marc"

I completely agree with this.

The other person's torso, visage and whatnots rarely penetrate my thoughts. I'm too engrossed in my own bodily foibles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I worry about mine, not so much someone else’s once I’ve already decided I fancy them..

Reading that back to myself I need to worry less!!!! I am a hottie

Actually, reading that - I need to worry less too!

Without even seeing you - I guarantee you do!!

I am definitely in hiding. But I'm sure you're right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only thing that would put me off is something about their personality. I really don’t care about what their body looks like. As for me, I’ve had pics of me naked with all my imperfections on show in unflattering angles in my public gallery before and still got lots of messages. I’ve had repeat meets so then can’t be that put off by what they see.

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By *ust Passing ThroughMan over a year ago

poole

I find a curvy woman wobbly bits and all, alot more sexy than a gym bunny body

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By *oubleswing2019Man over a year ago

Colchester

I would say that in that moment of meeting, regardless of having seen photos of said person in advance, and possibly vice versa, those superficial digital representations of ourselves fade away in the real flesh, and 2 choices emerge.

1. Compare the flesh to the photo.

2. Ignore the photo, and ask if you may look in to their soul and at the person there.

What saddens me is that so many beautiful men and women feel ugly inside, until someone else can show them their true beauty within.

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By *edangelindisguiseWoman over a year ago

Newtownabbey

"Is a super wobbly tummy or a flat ass enough to put you off someone? Do you consider if catfishing if the "bad bit" isn't really obvious in photos?

I guess I am asking how fussy you are about other people's bodies. If you're thinking you want to get jiggy with them.

I think I want a true representation of the person I am going to meet. I have found some people on here have photos from back in 2018 and that's fine if they haven't changed but if they have put a lot of weight on and look like a totally different person then I would consider that catfishing. I also chatted to a guy who had a picture of a bodybuilder on his profile and was not him. That is deceitful and therefore classed as catfishing.

I share photos that are a true representation of me and my body and always make sure the guy knows I am an ample woman. Most guys seem to like it even the ones with the six packs and muscles that I am attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always meet for a social first. No sex chat, just coffee.

I have things that put me off and so will they. A personality is great but if there's no sexual attraction it won't be happening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is a super wobbly tummy or a flat ass enough to put you off someone?

A flat ass is good for resting my post coital cuppa

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would say that in that moment of meeting, regardless of having seen photos of said person in advance, and possibly vice versa, those superficial digital representations of ourselves fade away in the real flesh, and 2 choices emerge.

1. Compare the flesh to the photo.

2. Ignore the photo, and ask if you may look in to their soul and at the person there.

What saddens me is that so many beautiful men and women feel ugly inside, until someone else can show them their true beauty within.

This is so opposed to the Fab ethos I can't decide if you're joking or not?

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By *onkeynutWoman over a year ago

somewhere

I quite like what others see as imperfections. If they are ‘perfect’ I find it a bit intimidating.

I am very self conscious about my mum tum and my dodgy boobs so on here I have a nude shot showing them, because I would hate to ‘catfish’ someone unintentionally.

I struggle a bit on normal dating sites because I can’t put that picture on obviously! So I do sometimes feel I’m catfishing them in a way

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I quite like what others see as imperfections. If they are ‘perfect’ I find it a bit intimidating.

I am very self conscious about my mum tum and my dodgy boobs so on here I have a nude shot showing them, because I would hate to ‘catfish’ someone unintentionally.

I struggle a bit on normal dating sites because I can’t put that picture on obviously! So I do sometimes feel I’m catfishing them in a way

You're worrying about nothing. Your mum tum and boobs look fantastic. Guys should be honoured they have a date with you. Just be you....it's an attractive trait

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I’ve learnt that the things that bother me don’t seem to bother the men I shag. And so I try not to think about it so much these days.

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I’ve learnt that the things that bother me don’t seem to bother the men I shag. And so I try not to think about it so much these days. "

If guys care about 'imperfections', they really need to look at themselves. Nobody gets through life without bumps, scrapes, lumps and scars. In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't matter

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple over a year ago

chester

"I’ve learnt that the things that bother me don’t seem to bother the men I shag. And so I try not to think about it so much these days. "

Exactly this!! It’s also not necessary to point out every imperfection, chances are a bloke won’t notice!

I like some imperfections but those things are what I find attractive in a man. I love big noses; that’s usually something they dislike about themselves.

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I’ve learnt that the things that bother me don’t seem to bother the men I shag. And so I try not to think about it so much these days.

Exactly this!! It’s also not necessary to point out every imperfection, chances are a bloke won’t notice!

I like some imperfections but those things are what I find attractive in a man. I love big noses; that’s usually something they dislike about themselves.

Mine's massive

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I quite like what others see as imperfections. If they are ‘perfect’ I find it a bit intimidating.

I am very self conscious about my mum tum and my dodgy boobs so on here I have a nude shot showing them, because I would hate to ‘catfish’ someone unintentionally.

I struggle a bit on normal dating sites because I can’t put that picture on obviously! So I do sometimes feel I’m catfishing them in a way

I actually look a lot better in lingerie than clothes I think - I look frumpy dressed. So I know what you mean! Also totally intimidated by gym fit perfect bodies - they surely would be turned off by me.

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By *oubleswing2019Man over a year ago

Colchester

"This is so opposed to the Fab ethos I can't decide if you're joking or not? "

I'm not. Nor do I feel beholden to subscribe to such an ethos, even if it truly existed.

Photos are a double-edged sword.

I know of a woman many years ago who was desperately unhappy with her "dating photos" on another website, and yet she chose to use them anyway. Why ? Because they were a true reflection of her outward appearance and captured an element of her personality, which was playful and fun.

Why was she unhappy with the photos ?

Because none of the contacts she made could get past the photos to the real her ? What was stopping them ?

Simple. Their eyes.

Why ?

This woman was a supermodel.

The irony being, she was trapped inside herself by her own photos and natural good looks (if such a thing exists).

Potential suitors could not get past those images, and were immediately backfooted and incredulous.

Ultimately it reframed every contact that was made with her in a negative way, sadly.

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By *astpoetMan over a year ago

where the world takes me

I have slept with women people would call traditionally attractive and women with “wobbly bits”.

The one thing I’ve discovered is that sexiness begins in the mind and if someone feels sexy then their body and everything else becomes more sexy as a result.

So no “wobbly bits” and all the other things are hugely important to me, as long as the person feels sexy in their own skin then they can be attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is so opposed to the Fab ethos I can't decide if you're joking or not?

I'm not. Nor do I feel beholden to subscribe to such an ethos, even if it truly existed.

Photos are a double-edged sword.

Why was she unhappy with the photos ?

Because none of the contacts she made could get past the photos to the real her ? What was stopping them ?

Simple. Their eyes.

Why ?

This woman was a supermodel.

The irony being, she was trapped inside herself by her own photos and natural good looks (if such a thing exists).

Potential suitors could not get past those images, and were immediately backfooted and incredulous.

Ultimately it reframed every contact that was made with her in a negative way, sadly.

Most people here don't look for the soul behind a photo. It's a shallow place with a shallow ethos.

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"This is so opposed to the Fab ethos I can't decide if you're joking or not?

I'm not. Nor do I feel beholden to subscribe to such an ethos, even if it truly existed.

Photos are a double-edged sword.

Why was she unhappy with the photos ?

Because none of the contacts she made could get past the photos to the real her ? What was stopping them ?

Simple. Their eyes.

Why ?

This woman was a supermodel.

The irony being, she was trapped inside herself by her own photos and natural good looks (if such a thing exists).

Potential suitors could not get past those images, and were immediately backfooted and incredulous.

Ultimately it reframed every contact that was made with her in a negative way, sadly.

Most people here don't look for the soul behind a photo. It's a shallow place with a shallow ethos. "

I do….

(Explains why our dance card isn’t exactly full) lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is so opposed to the Fab ethos I can't decide if you're joking or not?

I'm not. Nor do I feel beholden to subscribe to such an ethos, even if it truly existed.

Photos are a double-edged sword.

Why was she unhappy with the photos ?

Because none of the contacts she made could get past the photos to the real her ? What was stopping them ?

Simple. Their eyes.

Why ?

This woman was a supermodel.

The irony being, she was trapped inside herself by her own photos and natural good looks (if such a thing exists).

Potential suitors could not get past those images, and were immediately backfooted and incredulous.

Ultimately it reframed every contact that was made with her in a negative way, sadly.

Most people here don't look for the soul behind a photo. It's a shallow place with a shallow ethos.

I do….

(Explains why our dance card isn’t exactly full) lol"

And do you sometimes feel you don't belong here as well? Those I know who feel as you do also feel that way.

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By *riel13Woman over a year ago

Northampton

I find body type of very little consequence when it comes to attraction to anyone... If I like them, I like everything

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

Most people here don't look for the soul behind a photo. It's a shallow place with a shallow ethos.

I do….

(Explains why our dance card isn’t exactly full) lol

And do you sometimes feel you don't belong here as well? Those I know who feel as you do also feel that way. "

Difficult one. Although I’ve only recently discovered it - I feel very at home in forums. But I’m a social being. In fact if I had the balls - there are people here who I find attractive from engaging with them which is a more natural order for me. But I can’t bring myself to message them.

On the “main” drag. Sometimes I think maybe I’m too sensitive, picky or vanilla…. But there are a few gems who are shining through.

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

I love online fora, and always find my home there. But I do also feel like a fish out of water outside the threads. Everyone else seems cuter, fitter, funnier. I think, though, that's pretty common imposter syndrome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most people here don't look for the soul behind a photo. It's a shallow place with a shallow ethos.

I do….

(Explains why our dance card isn’t exactly full) lol

And do you sometimes feel you don't belong here as well? Those I know who feel as you do also feel that way.

On the “main” drag. Sometimes I think maybe I’m too sensitive, picky or vanilla…. But there are a few gems who are shining through. "

The Lounge is definitely the place to find alike souls but it's less than 1% of people on the site. And you're made to feel sensitive, picky or vanilla because most people here don't align with your mindset. It can be really tough sometimes when everyone around you is telling you you're wrong to just hang onto what you believe to be right for you.

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

Well maybe we deserve the 1%

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well maybe we deserve the 1%

Maybe

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By *heGigglersCouple over a year ago

Stourbridge

"I quite like what others see as imperfections. If they are ‘perfect’ I find it a bit intimidating.

I am very self conscious about my mum tum and my dodgy boobs so on here I have a nude shot showing them, because I would hate to ‘catfish’ someone unintentionally.

I struggle a bit on normal dating sites because I can’t put that picture on obviously! So I do sometimes feel I’m catfishing them in a way

I was so up in my head about my stretch marks/mum tum when we first discussed swinging. The thought of a dress down club terrified me honestly but a group of friends convinced us to give it a try.

Total game changer!

The people were so nice, and the women are so complimentary to each other that it's hard to feel self conscious for long.

I honestly feel more sexy now than I did when I was 20!

I think you are probably over thinking when it comes to your perceived imperfections. I personally am far more interested in how we click with people and how much fun they are to be around.

The only time I'd have an issue is if someone sent us a very out of date face pic, what's the point in sending photos if the person you are supposed to meet can't recognise you when you walk into the room

K x

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

Most people here don't look for the soul behind a photo. It's a shallow place with a shallow ethos.

I do….

(Explains why our dance card isn’t exactly full) lol

And do you sometimes feel you don't belong here as well? Those I know who feel as you do also feel that way.

On the “main” drag. Sometimes I think maybe I’m too sensitive, picky or vanilla…. But there are a few gems who are shining through. "

What's the worse that could happen?

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

What's the worse that could happen?

Erm… they could read it

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

What's the worse that could happen?

Erm… they could read it

Done...

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

What's the worse that could happen?

Erm… they could read it

Done...

You’re braver than me x

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

What's the worse that could happen?

Erm… they could read it

Done...

You’re braver than me x"

Fearless and old

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

"I’m more concerned about my bad body bits than someone else’s

Marc"

What Marc said! Chances are, if I like you enough to get naked with you, I won't even notice the bits you consider "bad" about yourself.

That said, I would be bothered if we met and you were entirely different to your pictures, but that's more about dishonesty than physical appearance...and what socials are for!

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By *nselfishpleaserMan over a year ago

kent

"I find body type of very little consequence when it comes to attraction to anyone... If I like them, I like everything "

Exactly this

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

What's the worse that could happen?

Erm… they could read it

Stay optimistic: they might turn out to be illiterate.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Often with women they seem to dislike their belly. Wish they didn't feel like they have to hide it. I like a soft belly, feels nice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Often with women they seem to dislike their belly. Wish they didn't feel like they have to hide it. I like a soft belly, feels nice. "

Same, they find it weird, but I can’t help it, a bit if a wobbly “mum tum” as they call it is a major turn on for me

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

That’s it. I’m getting some mum tum on my public pictures

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"That’s it. I’m getting some mum tum on my public pictures

The shower one ticks my boxes

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"That’s it. I’m getting some mum tum on my public pictures

The shower one ticks my boxes

Ah the outside bedbath!! I was unable to get in our bath/shower, due to being in plaster. Thank god for this year’s heatwave.

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By *avexxMan over a year ago

cheshire

your curvy misty lots of guys like that, me included.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That’s it. I’m getting some mum tum on my public pictures

A previous partner used to hate me looking at her mum tum

Not because she was embarrassed, but because it would always make me finish really quick

Own those curves, all of them

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"That’s it. I’m getting some mum tum on my public pictures

The shower one ticks my boxes

Ah the outside bedbath!! I was unable to get in our bath/shower, due to being in plaster. Thank god for this year’s heatwave."

There's many reasons to love this summer.....and that photo improved it, despite the discomfort you suffered

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"That’s it. I’m getting some mum tum on my public pictures

The shower one ticks my boxes

Ah the outside bedbath!! I was unable to get in our bath/shower, due to being in plaster. Thank god for this year’s heatwave.

Still suffering…. I’d love to say it was worth it but really not. Although I may do more nude sunbathing next year - it was glorious

There's many reasons to love this summer.....and that photo improved it, despite the discomfort you suffered

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"That’s it. I’m getting some mum tum on my public pictures

The shower one ticks my boxes

Ah the outside bedbath!! I was unable to get in our bath/shower, due to being in plaster. Thank god for this year’s heatwave.

Still suffering…. I’d love to say it was worth it but really not. Although I may do more nude sunbathing next year - it was glorious

There's many reasons to love this summer.....and that photo improved it, despite the discomfort you suffered

Make it a promise! Hotlisted

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

Not at all! I myself have a lot of "flaws". As others have said, bad personality is the ultimate turnoff!!

P.S I'm less keen on a lot of conventionally attractive features anyhow - Xeno

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

I care more about a person's attitude towards their "imperfections "...if you don't like them , if you constantly complain about them and you do nothing about it...yeah, that's unattractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks all for commenting on the thread - food for thought!

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Thanks all for commenting on the thread - food for thought!

•

Are your leaving us already? Has your ship come in? Please stay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks all for commenting on the thread - food for thought!

•

Are your leaving us already? Has your ship come in? Please stay.

It's my moral compass....it beckons me

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By *utterfly1983Couple over a year ago

Widnes

Having been on fab for a good few years as both a unicorn and now a couple (s) I have found out that most men aren’t bothered by the outer attributes of a female as they tend to love every inch of a females body. Lingerie enhances that for both yours and your sexual partner’s stimulation and if you feel most comfortable wearing lingerie during this then do it. You can also buy sheer lingerie which can make you feel sexy but will give a little sneak to the sexual partner. It’s not considered catfishing as you aren’t altering photos or manipulating them or using other peoples photos to make them believe you are different. Angles just make your photos more appealing to the other person.

Do what you feel comfortable with and if someone doesn’t like it you don’t have to entertain them x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I like someone, I like all of them, their body is just their outer shell. Their 'bad' bits are just what we've been conditioned to believe are bad...

So much pressure is put on people to look like perfect versions of an image that's impossible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I like someone, I like all of them, their body is just their outer shell. Their 'bad' bits are just what we've been conditioned to believe are bad...

So much pressure is put on people to look like perfect versions of an image that's impossible. "

I have used "bad bits" in my OP which is one of the things this thread has made me give some thought to!

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"Well maybe we deserve the 1%

Maybe

I stand by previous comments. We have both sold ourselves short. I think I’ve seen the light xx

No more hiding!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ooh a chance to have the 175th reply is always too good to pass by ..

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