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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it wrong not to be joyful esp when thinking of people
A) that dont deserve u to be thinking about them
B) thinking about people whom are no longer with us
Not being a bah humbug but just wonderd how other people feel or cope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to look at those who have passed as it simply being the cycle of life and it is a never ending cycle. I miss those who have passed from time to time but they have had their time and I am living mine now. When it's my time to shuffle off this mortal coil my children will miss me but I hope I teach them to miss me but let me go. I'd hate to think of people feeling sad when they think of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it wrong not to be joyful esp when thinking of people
A) that dont deserve u to be thinking about them
B) thinking about people whom are no longer with us
Not being a bah humbug but just wonderd how other people feel or cope "
We all manage our emotions in different ways. All I will state is, try to remember the happier times if possible and look back at the ones who have passed and recall them happy times and share your memories with friends and family members. |
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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago
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I struggle at Christmas as it reminds me of the loss of my child however with help from friends I get through it every year. So no its not wrong to not be happy everyday but as long as you have people around you who love and care for you then you get through it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure there are right or wrong emotions, they just 'are' , somebody saying "you shouldn't feel like that" ain't gonna change how you feel, and why should it, they're your feelings  |
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Its never 'wrong' to show or feel emotions in any way. They are you, its how you are, so there is no right or wrong answer.
Yes this is joyous time, but the fact it is just that will advertantly make us think of the people we cannot share it with - dead or alive.
I always get sad thoughts this time of the year because I am not with my children on Xmas morning when they wake. But, although I get those thoughts, I know they still think of me and I see them later in the day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure there are right or wrong emotions, they just 'are' , somebody saying "you shouldn't feel like that" ain't gonna change how you feel, and why should it, they're your feelings "
Exactly so, I am happy as I see my children and grandchild over Christmas and can spoil them all for a day or two.
Sad when I think of how much my partner would have loved to see his son growing up.
Happy when I remember my own childhood Christmases.
Sad that the Christmas 'magic' is waning as my kids grow older.
Each day is up and down happy sad good bad, emotions don't come with a dimmer switch you can turn up and down. |
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