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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.
How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)
But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’
Mine.
Prepare for disappointment.
I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.
What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?
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By *humper.Man
over a year ago
northumberland/scotland |
Understand that it's not "you" that's being ignored or rejected when it inevitably happens.
People don't know who you really are, this isn't real life, it's mostly down to attraction. It's not a reflection of who you are or what you're worth. Understanding the difference is essential, especially as a single male.
If you cant separate fab life from real life... get out before it has a negative effect and stops being fun
But if you can, relax, join in with the forums etc, be yourself and have enjoy yourself. Highlight your best features.
I should have finished my coffee before I came on, you caught me off guard with this "no sarcasm" request! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Long post step by step guide
1. Would tell them to hide they profile till it was set up with a good bio and pics then un hide it
2 set your message filters to who you want to message you you can do your own hunting if you message a person first it will drop the filter for that person
3 don’t take stock in verifications photo or meet
Both can be easily “faked”
4 be ready for people to throw they toys out the pram if it isn’t going they way best bet just block those that do and lucky escape
5 if your a single guy tread fab as a way to stay connected to people you meet in real life
Unfortunately the amount off guys here it’s going to be hard so get your self to a club or social and get know
5 woman be ready to be bs I know crazy isn’t it that someone would rather a keyboard wank than do the things they talked about but it happens a lot be prepared for it don’t engage in sex chat or in less you meet the person in real life
6 stay safe always public settings
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"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.
How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)
But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’
Mine.
Prepare for disappointment.
I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.
What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?
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definitely don't get sucked into the fora. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If you're feeling disheartened, step away. Take a break.
Don't follow fora advice on what photos to upload, what to type on your bio etc. Be you and let your freak flag fly rather than a dreary identikit profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Girls:
Sort out your filters.
Prepare to be overwhelmed with messages.
Guys:
Don’t take rejection personally.
Don’t be a dick if you are rejected.
Read profiles first!
‘Hi’ with a dic pick is as successful on here as in RL
Couples with hot wives:
Ignore everyone else and answer my messages will ya!?
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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago
Serendipity |
Use the tools that are available to you. If you’re getting too many messages, instead of complaining about it, especially if you’re a woman. Just untick looking for men etc and you’ll get far less coming through. You can block all messages if that’s your preference.
Remember this is just the internet, so don’t take it too seriously. If you do it right, you can make some good friends on here, be it sexual or otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"….
I should have finished my coffee before I came on, you caught me off guard with this "no sarcasm" request! "
I know, it was unfair to post this early. I feel bad.  
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely use all the filters that you can!
And hide profile when you don't have the time and/or the inclination.
Hiding also means that you can easily keep up with messages |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
It would depend who I’m giving advice to as I think it’s a very different for men than for women and couples. For men I would say, be yourself, unless you’re an asshole then just try to be nice instead. Don’t necessarily expect to ever meet anyone, then if you do it’s a bonus. Expect to be constantly overlooked, ignored, bypassed and ghosted. There are probably 50 women for every man and many men simply flood every woman on the site with copy and paste messages, so for every message you send there’s at least another 50 and probably way more messages in that woman’s inbox, if she’s not actually online and looking at mail when you send it then expect it to be so far down the list that it gets missed. If you think this is a way to get laid then don’t bother, if you can’t handle constant rejection then just leave, chances are that being on here won’t do anything positive for your ego, your confidence, or your sex/social life. Other than that have fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If female: prepare to be inundated by guys who don’t bother to read your profile and that most guys think they are special and that your preferences don’t apply to them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d tell someone; It’s all about effort, time and being realistic with yourself - If you don’t understand that then it’s really not for you.
Another would be; Go to socials and clubs… seriously get out there. Build experience meeting people and being around others men and women with less clothes on (it’s not for everyone) |
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Read profiles, be honest, be kind, dont be a cockwomble.
Send decent messages to people with banter, i somtimes like to ask an obscure question to engage the reader if theres something interesting to go on in there profile.
Be prepared to only recieve perhaps one or two replies from the 10 people you have contacted.  |
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"It would depend who I’m giving advice to as I think it’s a very different for men than for women and couples. For men I would say, be yourself, unless you’re an asshole then just try to be nice instead. Don’t necessarily expect to ever meet anyone, then if you do it’s a bonus. Expect to be constantly overlooked, ignored, bypassed and ghosted. There are probably 50 women for every man and many men simply flood every woman on the site with copy and paste messages, so for every message you send there’s at least another 50 and probably way more messages in that woman’s inbox, if she’s not actually online and looking at mail when you send it then expect it to be so far down the list that it gets missed. If you think this is a way to get laid then don’t bother, if you can’t handle constant rejection then just leave, chances are that being on here won’t do anything positive for your ego, your confidence, or your sex/social life. Other than that have fun!"
Truth right there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would depend who I’m giving advice to as I think it’s a very different for men than for women and couples. For men I would say, be yourself, unless you’re an asshole then just try to be nice instead. Don’t necessarily expect to ever meet anyone, then if you do it’s a bonus. Expect to be constantly overlooked, ignored, bypassed and ghosted. There are probably 50 women for every man and many men simply flood every woman on the site with copy and paste messages, so for every message you send there’s at least another 50 and probably way more messages in that woman’s inbox, if she’s not actually online and looking at mail when you send it then expect it to be so far down the list that it gets missed. If you think this is a way to get laid then don’t bother, if you can’t handle constant rejection then just leave, chances are that being on here won’t do anything positive for your ego, your confidence, or your sex/social life. Other than that have fun!
Truth right there "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read profiles definitely and don't assume it will be easy.
You have to get to know people and put some effort in. As many say it is a swingers site but that doesn't mean everyone will meet after 1 message you have to give respect |
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"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.
How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)
But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’
Mine.
Prepare for disappointment.
I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.
What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?
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Top tip based on your ‘prepare for disappointment’ - Be careful not to friend zone yourself. I’ve heard about this happening so many times. Seems to be to a particular type too. When I say ‘type’ I don’t mean that in a derogatory sense. It’s just unfortunate their traits good as they are put them in the friend zone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My top tip is just to make sure they know what they want, and if they are prepared to wait (Obviously, I am assuming I am talking to a guy like me, it's not quite the same for others for better to worse) to get it, because it's a long game, not a week in Ibiza with club 18-30.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.
How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)
But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’
Mine.
Prepare for disappointment.
I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.
What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?
Top tip based on your ‘prepare for disappointment’ - Be careful not to friend zone yourself. I’ve heard about this happening so many times. Seems to be to a particular type too. When I say ‘type’ I don’t mean that in a derogatory sense. It’s just unfortunate their traits good as they are put them in the friend zone "
I’m now trying to get people in my Friendwithbenifits zone.  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I would say it’s whatever you want it to be - fulfil you’re wildest fantasies , make long term friends, lovers, partners…, but if you are insecure or impatient or easily annoyed it’s probably not going to be pleasant or easy |
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"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.
How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)
But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’
Mine.
Prepare for disappointment.
I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.
What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?
Top tip based on your ‘prepare for disappointment’ - Be careful not to friend zone yourself. I’ve heard about this happening so many times. Seems to be to a particular type too. When I say ‘type’ I don’t mean that in a derogatory sense. It’s just unfortunate their traits good as they are put them in the friend zone
I’m now trying to get people in my Friendwithbenifits zone. "
Do you think friendswithbenefitsreunited. Com would be a money spinner? |
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