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Am I that ugly
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What’s your opening line to the ladies when you message them?
You’re a LOT more young and handsome than me so it can’t be your looks.
It must be what you’re saying?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hasn’t got to saying anything because of no replies lol "
To get a reply you have to send a message so you must be saying something. Maybe have a think of how your profile comes across. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Third time lucky!
I like a profile to tell me what kind of woman you are looking for, like on mine what kind man I would like, I like men (and women) but I don't like all kinds, so having it in your profile might help and you have to be patient x |
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"  am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha"
I think you need to work on your profile.
There needs to be something that makes women want to respond to you rather than one of the others who messaged.
Nita |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much say.
Hello how are you or how’s your day been? "
There’s the issue then I think. An average lady will get a zillion* of those a day.
Try something unique to them, what do you like about their profile, how are you compatible, let them know what it is about THEM you like.
But shhhh, it’s bro code. Just between us!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much say.
Hello how are you or how’s your day been?
There’s the issue then I think. An average lady will get a zillion* of those a day.
Try something unique to them, what do you like about their profile, how are you compatible, let them know what it is about THEM you like.
But shhhh, it’s bro code. Just between us!
(* approximately)"
Exactly this, mention something in the profile, expand on it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha"
The next step is when you get to chat with women on fab. And then you wonder why they won’t meet up with you. 
Welcome to fab op.  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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Your profile needs a lot of work. The blurb is general to the point of being useless. Put in something there that sells you, that gets to the essence of why someone should be interested in you instead of the 99 other guys messaging  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much say.
Hello how are you or how’s your day been? "
You should be charming and funny in your opener, go random, try unique, think about what you saying and always remember you have to stand out like a star in the night sky, if you don’t you will remain in the dark, good luck Op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just show the tarts the millions you have in your bank and the Lambo. you cruise around in and watch them cum flocking 
truth is majority of women on here are more more interested in idle chit chat than getting down and sticky...!
just be you and don’t break any sweat with the chase since majority are simply not worth the effort...
you’ll know when the right person likes you for you and will look past the blurb etc.
best wishes... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I ain’t about that that’s why
If you use “Reply +quote” you can see who you’re replying to, like I’ve done here.
Good luck my friend "
Try again…,
No way!!! |
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OP, don't take too much to heart. Be a little more imaginative in your messages, add some more narrative to your profile (there are plenty of inspirational ideas on this thread and beyond), get yourself to a Fab organised social and engage a little more on the Fab Fora - every little helps.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much say.
Hello how are you or how’s your day been?
Do you have any idea how many times in a day we get asked that?
Be imaginative. Read the profile. Put some effort in."
Result: it still gets buried and you put all that effort in for nothing |
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"OP, don't take too much to heart. Be a little more imaginative in your messages, add some more narrative to your profile (there are plenty of inspirational ideas on this thread and beyond), get yourself to a Fab organised social and engage a little more on the Fab Fora - every little helps.
Good luck "
Top man. What’s OP by the way ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, don't take too much to heart. Be a little more imaginative in your messages, add some more narrative to your profile (there are plenty of inspirational ideas on this thread and beyond), get yourself to a Fab organised social and engage a little more on the Fab Fora - every little helps.
Good luck
Top man. What’s OP by the way ?? "
Opening / original poster. It’s next to your name when you start a thread |
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"OP, don't take too much to heart. Be a little more imaginative in your messages, add some more narrative to your profile (there are plenty of inspirational ideas on this thread and beyond), get yourself to a Fab organised social and engage a little more on the Fab Fora - every little helps.
Good luck
Top man. What’s OP by the way ??
Opening / original poster. It’s next to your name when you start a thread "
Gotcha taaaa lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha
Profile is rubbish "
this is the pot calling the kettle black!
OP pay no attention to shite comments like these, there’s no one that special on fabswingers that deserves special treatment...!
remember that, you are special in your own way as are we all...! |
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"100%. I wouldn’t change for anyone some people are too picky what you see is what you get don’t like it do one I say
What does "too picky" mean? Are you not picky? "
'Some people are too picky' always feels, fairly or unfairly, as an incel red flag. It's perilously close to 'Women owe men sex'. |
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Definitely need more in the profile. In the kindest way possible you must have some idea what you’re looking for? Otherwise reading that (if I was looking as a single woman - which I’m not) I would read - “doesn’t care just wants a shag - or series of shags”.
I don’t respond to opening messages that say - Hi or how are you. I respond to a genuine (and nicely worded) compliment & questions about what our profile has attracted you. Find a common ground & go from there.
Don’t take things personally.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Definitely need more in the profile. In the kindest way possible you must have some idea what you’re looking for? Otherwise reading that (if I was looking as a single woman - which I’m not) I would read - “doesn’t care just wants a shag - or series of shags”.
I don’t respond to opening messages that say - Hi or how are you. I respond to a genuine (and nicely worded) compliment & questions about what our profile has attracted you. Find a common ground & go from there.
Don’t take things personally.
Good luck "
Spoken eloquently |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird
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Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird
Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely..."
The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird
Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely...
The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly "
Because unless you say something really abhorrent, the other stuff most likely won't come into play when you initially message someone. I do agree that you're not going to be attractive to everyone and that in itself doesn't make you ugly |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird
Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely...
The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly
Because unless you say something really abhorrent, the other stuff most likely won't come into play when you initially message someone. I do agree that you're not going to be attractive to everyone and that in itself doesn't make you ugly"
It doesn't take saying something abhorrent for me to not be attracted to someone... Just something I don't like, or know them well enough for it to be said... Or something just doesn't sit right... Even if physical attraction is good,it doesn't take much for that to disappear... For me, at least |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird
Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely...
The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly
Because unless you say something really abhorrent, the other stuff most likely won't come into play when you initially message someone. I do agree that you're not going to be attractive to everyone and that in itself doesn't make you ugly
It doesn't take saying something abhorrent for me to not be attracted to someone... Just something I don't like, or know them well enough for it to be said... Or something just doesn't sit right... Even if physical attraction is good,it doesn't take much for that to disappear... For me, at least "
Maybe that is the case for you, but it was kind of an extreme use of words to describe people when the OP was only talking about physical attraction. |
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