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Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to?
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Once you love someone I think physical and emotional attraction become inseperable.
I mean I've had some baaaad haircuts but Mr N still fancied me  .
Otherwise I need to find someone attractive. I'm all about looks for casual sex |
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to?
If not, why not?
If you loved them would you fuck them?
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Everything is beautiful about them If I loved them, so of course.
But I can’t have sex with someone I’m not attracted to, it doesn’t get hard, it’s that simple. |
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I've definitely done it in my younger years, but maybe the people I fucked didn't find me attractive either. It's all subjective.
If I loved someone, I would find them attractive. |
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Yes I have fucked women who did not find very attractive physically. However if right chemistry and get on love to do. Some lovely people and not all about looks. Am sure same said about me by some |
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to?
If not, why not?
If you loved them would you fuck them?
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Have I ever fucked someone who I wasn’t physically attracted to? Absolutely. Why? Because i fancied a shag and they were up for it.
Is that my preferred plan? No. |
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to?
If not, why not?
If you loved them would you fuck them?
Have I ever fucked someone who I wasn’t physically attracted to? Absolutely. Why? Because i fancied a shag and they were up for it.
Is that my preferred plan? No. "
Us men can be a bit shallow. Rare I would turn down chance to fuck a pussy but sometimes |
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"Once you love someone I think physical and emotional attraction become inseperable.
I mean I've had some baaaad haircuts but Mr N still fancied me .
Otherwise I need to find someone attractive. I'm all about looks for casual sex "
Mrs NC, you speak my mind so often  |
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"Once you love someone I think physical and emotional attraction become inseperable.
I mean I've had some baaaad haircuts but Mr N still fancied me .
Otherwise I need to find someone attractive. I'm all about looks for casual sex
Mrs NC, you speak my mind so often "
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Yeah, it's a bit like asking if you'd go for a pint with someone you don't fancy. Sex doesn't have to be anything more than pure physical enjoyment at times. Obviously very different about having a relationship.
Clearly there are varying levels, not finding attractive does not equal finding someone unattractive. |
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"Yeah, it's a bit like asking if you'd go for a pint with someone you don't fancy. Sex doesn't have to be anything more than pure physical enjoyment at times. Obviously very different about having a relationship.
Clearly there are varying levels, not finding attractive does not equal finding someone unattractive. "
Really!
I'll take your word that it is for you but physical enjoyment *for me* starts with my eyes. |
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Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness.
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In the past maybe, but nowadays there definitely has to be the physical attraction there for it to be enjoyable. That said attraction isn't always about what society deems as being beautiful or anything like that, for me it's more of a lust on a personal level than anything. |
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness.
*delete as appropriate"
Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now. |
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"I’m sure people do. I’m sure people also have sex with people they do find physically attractive but their personality stinks."
Fab is populated with (mainly) chaps who have no interest in the person it’s just a mechanical operation and individual satisfaction.
Additionally I see repeated gang bang meets offered as part of the recreational sex genre and I am pretty sure for the most part aesthetic attraction in not of great importance. |
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness.
*delete as appropriate
Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now."
Seems like you have sex with lots now? Do you find all attractive?? |
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I wouldn't now, but when I was young and didn't have firm boundaries I did on 2 occasions. Being taught that you must be polite at all costs and never do anything to hurt anyone's feelings was the most damaging lesson my parents ever taught me. Thank God for therapy! |
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Yes, I would. Naturally I’d prefer someone I’m more attracted to but if we were into the same things then I would.
Personally I love the idea of a dominant making me fuck guys I’m not attracted to. Especially if I’m tied up in bondage and helpless (all consensual and agreed up front…) |
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness.
*delete as appropriate
Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now.
Seems like you have sex with lots now? Do you find all attractive??"
I don't know what makes you think that. Other than with one FWB, I've only had sex with my husband since March 2020. |
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"I wouldn't now, but when I was young and didn't have firm boundaries I did on 2 occasions. Being taught that you must be polite at all costs and never do anything to hurt anyone's feelings was the most damaging lesson my parents ever taught me. Thank God for therapy!"
I must be bad as done often. Sorry for being shallow |
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No, I would never.
Or perhaps I should say never again. In the dying days of my marriage I did sleep with my ex longer than I really should have, purely for a release, and it was truly awful on a personal level. Not something I would ever repeat.
Empty and soulless, there would be no enjoyment in that. No arousal, no pleasure. So no point.
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it "
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. |
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again. "
Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now. |
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I’ve definitely become fond and attracted to people, work colleagues especially, who aren’t my usual type at all - because they share my values and we really get on. I can imagine if the circumstances were right, I might end up having sex with them. But someone I don’t fancy and don’t know well enough, no.
Although….I’ve definitely had sex with the male of a couple, not fancying them, because I was so into the female  . In the past, wouldn’t do that now. |
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. "
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. |
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again.
Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now. "
Haha same. I’m hard to meet so even those guys who might think I’m easy to meet because I’m fat and not that physically attractive have to work really hard to get me to meet them in the first place. |
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again.
Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now.
Haha same. I’m hard to meet so even those guys who might think I’m easy to meet because I’m fat and not that physically attractive have to work really hard to get me to meet them in the first place."
Obviously I wouldn’t meet knowing they didn’t find me attractive but nobody will tell you that. |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
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No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not |
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again.
Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now. "
Same! I’m not a quick or easy fuck. I’m very picky, so hopefully that puts these types off! |
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"Once you love someone I think physical and emotional attraction become inseperable.
I mean I've had some baaaad haircuts but Mr N still fancied me .
Otherwise I need to find someone attractive. I'm all about looks for casual sex "
I think this sums it up for me too...I've even had those bad hair cuts and been loved regardless |
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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago
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If someone attracts me mentally, I don’t need to find them physically attractive to enjoy sex with them.
Of course I wouldn’t want to have sex if I felt they were repulsive, but there is a middle ground |
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over
Good Heavens.........beggars belief "
At least there was a massive attraction to his cock
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. "
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. |
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over "
Any need for such derogatory language about another human being? I’m guessing you look like a supermodel then? |
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"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not "
Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them. |
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over
Any need for such derogatory language about another human being? I’m guessing you look like a supermodel then?"
He was the first to admit it! Nah far from a model |
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No, I wouldn't.
But sometimes when you get to know someone, they become attractive to you even if they aren't usually what you would find attractive. So I guess in that instance I would, but if it was based on not knowing them and casual sex, not a chance. |
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with."
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. |
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Irrespective of other people's tastes and possibly contrary to more modern "all bodies are beautiful" thinking etc etc... I find there is sufficient nuance between I find someone hot, I find them attractive, I don't find them attractive, I think they are ugly. Yes, I believe some people are ugly, men and women, and some men and women think I am too - I'm cool with this statement. With that said, I could not have sex with someone I find ugly. However I have, occasionally, slept with people I did not find attractive, and it's never really been satisfying, probably not just for me at that. |
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One of the core aphrodisiacs, for a bloke (ok, this bloke) is sexual availability. Do you need to look like a supermodel to turn me on? No.
It doesn’t have to be an overt availability. Just a willingness to flirt and an openness to the possibility. I do love to flirt even when I know that’s all it will ever be.
I’d draw the line at Ann Widdicombe though. Even if she threw herself at me.
Yeah, I am shallow. But no more shallow than those who insist on an aesthetic connection before contemplating a physical one. |
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness.
*delete as appropriate
Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now."
Fair enough, everybody's different.
I wouldn't jump into bed with just anyone now, but in my teens and twenties, I did.
However, nowadays I find attraction a lot more nuanced than simply hot or not. I met a lady years ago who I didn't find immediately attractive but she was a cracking lass and funny as hell. We ended up in a year long relationship and sexually we were insanely compatible. I never base anything solely on looks - I ain't exactly model material! - but it's a combination of things that makes me attracted to someone |
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"One of the core aphrodisiacs, for a bloke (ok, this bloke) is sexual availability. Do you need to look like a supermodel to turn me on? No.
It doesn’t have to be an overt availability. Just a willingness to flirt and an openness to the possibility. I do love to flirt even when I know that’s all it will ever be.
I’d draw the line at Ann Widdicombe though. Even if she threw herself at me.
Yeah, I am shallow. But no more shallow than those who insist on an aesthetic connection before contemplating a physical one."
? So it's shallow to want to find someone attractive before I fuck them? Did I read that right?  |
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"Attraction is a weird one. I have been very physically attracted to one man who I thought was aesthetically ugly. It was strange but what a mind he had!"
I am often physically attracted to men who aren't attractive in the conventional sense. |
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over
Good Heavens.........beggars belief
At least there was a massive attraction to his cock
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Yes you’re correct and we should be thankful for small mercy’s ...............or large ones in this case |
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with.
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. "
For sure 
I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks.
Looks don't determine chemistry for me |
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with.
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them.
For sure
I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks.
Looks don't determine chemistry for me"
I am physically attracted for sure if can say |
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For me, the guy doesn’t have to be attractive physically, wholly or in part, but his personality could be beautiful and I’d be attracted to him that way!
I’ve met some stunning looking guys who I’ve spoken to and they are either dull as fuck or they love themselves - instant turn off!
So no, looks aren’t ever enough to make me want to bump uglies with anyone!  |
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with.
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them.
For sure
I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks.
Looks don't determine chemistry for me"
Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. |
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with.
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them.
For sure
I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks.
Looks don't determine chemistry for me
Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. "
Same here! I thrive on connection so whilst I’ll be attracted by looks, I need to be equally attracted to their personality/mind. |
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with.
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them.
For sure
I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks.
Looks don't determine chemistry for me
Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. "
Definitely this.
I was saying to a friend recently, I had a bit of anxiety over an unsolicited face pic... like, what do I do, I'm supposed to say something to this stranger that is nice, aren't I? Shit, where's my bloke dictionary?  |
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to?
If not, why not?
If you loved them would you fuck them?
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No I wouldn’t and no I haven’t. There isn’t anything that makes me want to get naked with a person if I’m not attracted to them in some way.
If I love the person then I will be attracted to them. |
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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago
Norwich this week, usually Dundee and around |
It can be both. You can be physically attracted to some one, or mentally attracted. Sometimes both.
Looks and physique can change, so a purely physical attraction may wane.
The same can be set of w mental attraction, we all Chang our outlook through life.
I would have sex with someone I only had physical or mental attraction to, but it's best when it's both.
Of the two my preference is for a mental attraction though! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I have to be attracted to the face. The body isn't so important. I've had sex with obese men and very thin men.
Men don't seem too bothered about my big stomach because it comes with big boobs, a big bum and an ok face.
I couldn't fuck a dick head though, no matter how pretty he was. |
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"I have to be attracted to the face. The body isn't so important. I've had sex with obese men and very thin men.
Men don't seem too bothered about my big stomach because it comes with big boobs, a big bum and an ok face.
I couldn't fuck a dick head though, no matter how pretty he was."
Even if i said please?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with.
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them.
For sure
I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks.
Looks don't determine chemistry for me
Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either.
Definitely this.
I was saying to a friend recently, I had a bit of anxiety over an unsolicited face pic... like, what do I do, I'm supposed to say something to this stranger that is nice, aren't I? Shit, where's my bloke dictionary? "
It's such a minefield
Say too much you're maybe leading them to believe you're more keen at that point than you are.
Say too little they can be put off.
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too?
I couldn't do it
The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first.
I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me.
I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes.
Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with.
I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them.
For sure
I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks.
Looks don't determine chemistry for me
Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either.
Definitely this.
I was saying to a friend recently, I had a bit of anxiety over an unsolicited face pic... like, what do I do, I'm supposed to say something to this stranger that is nice, aren't I? Shit, where's my bloke dictionary? "
It makes online dating really hard  . People ask why I match with them if I don't fancy them. I wouldn't match with anyone if I had to already fancy them . |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
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"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not
Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them. "
Perhaps I do...just because you see the world your way it doesn't mean I do too |
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"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not
Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them.
Perhaps I do...just because you see the world your way it doesn't mean I do too"
I was referring to your reference of "one of those people". |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I think I have in the distant past ,I wouldn't now though.
If I don't fancy someone's face it won't be happening .
I'd hope that the same would be said if someone met me and didn't find me attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did once or twice out of a sense i owed em one as a younger man for whatever reason but now im too old to waste hardons on people i dont fancy iv no idea how many i have left |
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"One of the core aphrodisiacs, for a bloke (ok, this bloke) is sexual availability. Do you need to look like a supermodel to turn me on? No.
It doesn’t have to be an overt availability. Just a willingness to flirt and an openness to the possibility. I do love to flirt even when I know that’s all it will ever be.
I’d draw the line at Ann Widdicombe though. Even if she threw herself at me.
Yeah, I am shallow. But no more shallow than those who insist on an aesthetic connection before contemplating a physical one.
? So it's shallow to want to find someone attractive before I fuck them? Did I read that right? "
It’s shallow to filter on physical appearance. Attractiveness is more than that. |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
wirral |
"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not
Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them.
Perhaps I do...just because you see the world your way it doesn't mean I do too
I was referring to your reference of "one of those people"."
Ohh OK yer I totally get that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great sex can only be great sex with a connection, both physical and mental.
I can only speak for Myself but with love comes an attraction that doesn’t have any boundaries and doesn’t leave. |
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to?
If not, why not?
If you loved them would you fuck them?
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yes... I have done frequently.. in a group situation I don't need that physical attraction.. ( although still have things that would make me say no)
121 is totally different. Then yes I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done.
I’m easily laughed into bed so if they’re funny, in my eyes it makes them attractive to me. "
There's a Scotsman, and English man and an Irishman... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to?
If not, why not?
If you loved them would you fuck them?
yes... I have done frequently.. in a group situation I don't need that physical attraction.. ( although still have things that would make me say no)
121 is totally different. Then yes I do. "
I find that fascinating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have done.
I’m easily laughed into bed so if they’re funny, in
my eyes it makes them attractive to me. "
There was a stunning lady from Atlantis
Who was really a preying mantis
Whose victims rarely escaped her charms
As they fell headlong into her arms
But not to be seduced would be remiss |
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By *untogetherCouple
over a year ago
Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K. |
No! I may not be physically attracted to someone at first, but their personality/character, and sense of humor can cause me to become physically attracted. But if I'm not physically attracted and don't care for their personality as well....it will be the biggest, loudest, fastest NO you've ever heard! |
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Well a lot of this is based on your own personal level of attractiveness. It’s difficult to get a shag as a bloke even more so if your not considered traditionally attractive.
This means that for some people there are only two options. Get it where you can or have a wank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, why would you do that? Having sex with a lady you arent attracted to is just a vaginal wank...not interested thanks. Same reason why if a lady says she isnt interested in you then you should say ok thanks for telling me and move on. Its not exactly rocket science is it. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I have to be attracted to the face. The body isn't so important. I've had sex with obese men and very thin men.
Men don't seem too bothered about my big stomach because it comes with big boobs, a big bum and an ok face.
I couldn't fuck a dick head though, no matter how pretty he was.
Even if i said please?? "
Depends how hot you are |
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I’m sure I’d be attracted to something in particular. For example, her shapes could all be wrong but she is gorgeous in facial features, she could look like mrs doubtfire but she could have amazing shapes.
Also she could be all out of shape or no shape at all and have a face like Allan partridge but has an amazing personality.
The beauty of being a heterosexual male I guess…. Woman are often very shagable in their own unique way. |
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"I have to be attracted to the face. The body isn't so important. I've had sex with obese men and very thin men.
Men don't seem too bothered about my big stomach because it comes with big boobs, a big bum and an ok face.
I couldn't fuck a dick head though, no matter how pretty he was.
Even if i said please??
Depends how hot you are "
Im like David Hasselhof n his prime - after a serious fire in which his face got melted - he lost all hus hair and put on 3 stone… oh and ends up 7 inches shorter in height!! - you just got a flutter didnt you?? |
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