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Being single and coping without human touch
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hugs, hand holding, physical intimacy (not necessarily sexual), the feel of someone's touch...makes us feel safe and secure. Why?
I miss that.
I'm counting down the days until I see a friend who gives great hugs, I might ask her if I can stop by regularly for a hug
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi OP.
Those things are all about feeling human and connected. It’s not a surprise that you notice the absence of them not just sexual intimacy.
Great hugs are worth loads, get a regular top up of them if you can x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its the one thing I fond hard about being single.
I'm very very tactile and do miss holding hands, having a hug whenever I'd like one, and being spooned tightly in bed.
I have a platonic friend I met recently through work , and each time I see him he gives me the best huge hug, and I absolutely love it. |
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Exactly the same as others have said - I miss those things too.
They have been quite elusive to find on fab as they need a degree of chemistry and intimacy with the other person - not the kind of thing you can often get from a ‘stranger’. |
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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago
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I hate being touched in general, like out in public, people I barely know. Even when friends hug me I feel awkward but I miss those intimate cuddles. My fwb does give me them and they're amazing but I miss having them on a regular basis |
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As happily single as I am, there's still nothing better than a good hug, post sex spoony cuddles, the affectionate touches and supportive hand holding that come naturally when you're on a great night out with someone. It doesn't mean we want marriage, its just nice when it happens.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went through a 17 year relationship with someone that deliberately witheld any form of intimate contact especially hugs. She was a horribly jealous person so hugging anyone else even platonically was severely punished. As such I don't really need to go to hell as I've already been there.
On a positive note BB will drive to my house just for hugs and staring deeply into my eyes - so I don't really need to go to heaven either as I'm already there |
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It's something I feel strongly about. Indeed it's on my profile headline and mentioned in my narrative.
I cannot imagine myself being devoid of tactility, either sexually or platonically. A somatic sensation that begins with a gentle pressure on my skin and amplifies my body's stimuli. It promotes a wondrous feel-good factor.
Sexually, it's a prerequisite.
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"In bed I have extra pilows and use them to cuddle into around my body, I find it helps if I need that feeling of being safe and secure in someones arms, like melting into their chest. "
I've done this sometimes as well.  |
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"Hugs, hand holding, physical intimacy (not necessarily sexual), the feel of someone's touch...makes us feel safe and secure. Why?
I miss that.
I'm counting down the days until I see a friend who gives great hugs, I might ask her if I can stop by regularly for a hug
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Touch hunger is a recognised thing. Its the deprivation of human contact.
I'm not particularly tactile, but it was difficult during lockdown.
I do love closeness and cuddles as part of sex.
As a single it can be difficult having my needs met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I cant sleep in the same bed as anyone else! But I am a tactile and intimate person. I crave intimacy more than sex and I'm not single! "
Loneliness and solitude can be very different things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a massive hugger. Weither it be my mates I haven't seen for a while or people I'm being introduced to for the first time. I understand that most are uncomfortable with that type of human contact especially with the unfamiliaror when unexpected. I do however believe that it can create a bond of trust as offering a hug shows openness and vulnerability to someone who may otherwise be closed.
No all respond in the same way to a hug but if we are all completely honest with ourselves, we all want to be hugged and feel that love that it brings. |
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