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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you believe everthing that people tell you?
Do you believe everything that is stated on a profile?
What about something that *isn't* said on a profile... What then??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you believe everthing that people tell you? "
Absolutely not! In life I will listen to what people say and make my own judgement on it. On here it tends to be struggling to get into a double percentage belief.
"Do you believe everything that is stated on a profile?"
Again no but I accept that is a rosy tinted version in many cases of what people wish themselv4es to come across as.
"What about something that *isn't* said on a profile... What then??
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Tricky one this as I believe whole heartedly people should be free to chose what they disclose or not on their profile. If you start to say people should say this or that on their profile then where do you stop? Phone numbers, addresses, career?
I do think though certain things like health issues and situations are best disclosed in personal messages between 2 people once trust has been initially established. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By nature, I am very trusting.
However, experiences gained throughout my career and life have taught me to be more vary of people's intentions.
If in doubt or need to know more, I would not hesitate to ask.
If I feel I am being fobbed off with some lame excuse/information/etc., I would back off and cut my losses.
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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago
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My profile is honest - I see no point being any other way - and being the idiot I am I always hopeful that others are honest too. Sadly we live in a world of make-believe and lies which my poor blondeness can't understand  |
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I always read the profile and whether it is believable for not, I will only make judgement about a person (in terms of whether I would like to take things further with them) after I have initially met them. I guess there are quite few white lies out there. |
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I am very honest about myself but realise that people are always somewhere between good and evil
I had a skyhiatryst tell me i had trust issues. So i discussed lying with him. He said to his knowledge no one had ever lied to him ! He is in his mid to late 30's  |
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I trust people yes. If I went round doubting people all the time I think I'd be miserable. Mostly it works out for the good. Some people will lie no matter what so why worry myself trying to work out who is who? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I tend to take people at face value until the prove me wrong. Having said that I do take on board the whole person, their body langauge, intonation, pitch and choice of words and sometimes while they may say one thing, their body language gives away that they are not quite telling the truth. Also I tend to read between the lines quite a bit.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Also I tend to read between the lines quite a bit. "
I've stopped trying to do that as I seem to fit far more into the space between the lines than perhaps should be there!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you believe everthing that people tell you?
Do you believe everything that is stated on a profile?
What about something that *isn't* said on a profile... What then??
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I take it all with a pinch of salt as there are so many dreamers on here.  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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" Also I tend to read between the lines quite a bit.
I've stopped trying to do that as I seem to fit far more into the space between the lines than perhaps should be there! "
I know what you mean, you got to be careful not to over interpret! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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not believing what I read on Fabswingers most of the time does not make me miserable, I don't want anything from anyone one on here, except a few laughs. My life is not Fabswingers.
I am quids in |
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"not believing what I read on Fabswingers most of the time does not make me miserable, I don't want anything from anyone one on here, except a few laughs. My life is not Fabswingers.
I am quids in"
I didn't mean just on here, I meant in life generally. It mist be horrible to not trust anyone. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"not believing what I read on Fabswingers most of the time does not make me miserable, I don't want anything from anyone one on here, except a few laughs. My life is not Fabswingers.
I am quids in
I didn't mean just on here, I meant in life generally. It mist be horrible to not trust anyone. "
for sure in life...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm honest about myself on my profile.
If people don't like it that I'm attached then so be it but i'd rather tell them straight than get caught out to be a liar or a timewaster.
Hasn't done me any harm in getting meets but being attached can make it more difficult in getting a meet.
I'm a patient guy |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm honest about myself on my profile.
If people don't like it that I'm attached then so be it but i'd rather tell them straight than get caught out to be a liar or a timewaster.
Hasn't done me any harm in getting meets but being attached can make it more difficult in getting a meet.
I'm a patient guy "
I think you hit the nail on the head with two points here. Being honest about your attached status gives people the choice of meeting or not meeting.
Also, the patience that is required for some meets...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It mist be horrible to not trust anyone
We believe what we're told, until proved otherwise "
i think that is fair. if you keep trusting people they will let you down and your left looking like a fool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also I tend to read between the lines quite a bit.
There's a few profiles there are no lines to read between. "
oooops that'll be me then ........... just fill the dots in instead lol    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also I tend to read between the lines quite a bit.
There's a few profiles there are no lines to read between.
oooops that'll be me then ........... just fill the dots in instead lol "
yeah you! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm honest about myself on my profile.
If people don't like it that I'm attached then so be it but i'd rather tell them straight than get caught out to be a liar or a timewaster.
Hasn't done me any harm in getting meets but being attached can make it more difficult in getting a meet.
I'm a patient guy
I think you hit the nail on the head with two points here. Being honest about your attached status gives people the choice of meeting or not meeting.
Also, the patience that is required for some meets...! "
Whether you agree with my lifestyle choice or not with me being attached its a shame you're in Birmingham.
Patience.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am naturally a trusting person - prob because I don't see the point in lying - and I don't tend to lie. But I do always live by the 'make a fool of me once, shame on you. Make a fool of me twice, shame on me' principle  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me honesty and trust go hand in hand so once I find out someone is dishonest then going forward I have trouble trusting them..."
Id go further and say once I've caught them lying to me, i wouldn't trust them again.
If it were someone close to me, they'd loose the friendship.
I've lost years trying to rebuild trust in people, sadly now once the trust has gone I just walk away. Seems harsh but Im honest & if they want to spend time with me, they need to accept that x
As for the profiles on here i don't believe half of them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a gullible fool at times as I look for the best in everyone and have been burned occasionally.
However if I lose faith and trust in anyone I can live my life quite easily without them in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a gullible fool at times as I look for the best in everyone and have been burned occasionally.
However if I lose faith and trust in anyone I can live my life quite easily without them in it. "
think everyone is like this at one time or another.we hide the things that hurt to appear stronger xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also I tend to read between the lines quite a bit.
There's a few profiles there are no lines to read between.
oooops that'll be me then ........... just fill the dots in instead lol "
Gotta hate those short profiles...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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on here i treat everything suspiciously until i know differently.
there are certain things that set alarm bells off.. too many bells and i walk on by
safety first.. |
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