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Ladies... It this a must?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is it essential for a man to cum for / with / by you for your play meet to be enjoyable for you?

Or are you happy to play and part fully satisfied without him having physically cum (but stayed hard and played a full part in satifying you)?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Watching.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. It feels weird and deflating when it goes on and on for hours with no crescendo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Watching. "

That might why he's getting put off

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I won’t say essential but it is preferable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. It feels weird and deflating when it goes on and on for hours with no crescendo "

This is why I guarantee I'll be done in twenty minutes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hard one to be honest

Yes and no

No because them going long is good for me I get a good time out off it rather than two pumps and a splat and out the door back on fab looking for seconds

Yes because it feels like I faild to satisfy them

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By *amantha_JadeWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

Yeah I’d feel disappointed if they didn’t, their pleasure is just as important as mine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Twenty minutes… Jesus Christ that’s twice

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

Didn't someone ask this earlier?

Err, not essential for me if they cum or not. It's a rarity though, only guy that never came was due to psychological reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yeah I’d feel disappointed if they didn’t, their pleasure is just as important as mine

But what if they ARE genuinely happy with the situation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Didn't someone ask this earlier?

Err, not essential for me if they cum or not. It's a rarity though, only guy that never came was due to psychological reasons."

Oh sorry, didn't know it was a recent thread!

I stay hard for a long time, but need a lot of self effort to cum, I actually get off on getting the lady off, so i leave happy if it doesn't happen, a lot of ladies though seem to think the whole things a failure if there is no money shot...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd expect to have an understanding of the things they were in to, what they enjoyed, and what they wanted from any meeting.

So long as they got what they wanted and needed I'd be okay with them not cumming, more than okay in fact.

Their orgasm is theirs to have or not.

I'd not be made happy by an orgasm forced out through obligation against their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only if they are happy they haven’t but to be honest it is rare that they don’t . I on the other hand never orgasm (unless I do it myself) and I’m happy not to and enjoy the sex anyway. I guess is a man’s goal to have an orgasm or not? I know mine isn’t.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, not essential. It depends on the meet and the person of course, but sex is about much more than just the orgasm, so as long as they were satisfied and enjoyed it, that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Only if they are happy they haven’t but to be honest it is rare that they don’t . I on the other hand never orgasm (unless I do it myself) and I’m happy not to and enjoy the sex anyway. I guess is a man’s goal to have an orgasm or not? I know mine isn’t. "

I think most men aim to cum, it sort of proves the primal masculinity of the whole act, but there must be a good portion that don't and are happy, but many ladies have insecurities about that too..

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By *aximus74Woman over a year ago

Manchester

I wouldn't like it if they didn't cum at least once.. I would think I'd not satisfied them in some way..

I like to see a man pleasured and satisfied as much as I am

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd expect to have an understanding of the things they were in to, what they enjoyed, and what they wanted from any meeting.

So long as they got what they wanted and needed I'd be okay with them not cumming, more than okay in fact.

Their orgasm is theirs to have or not.

I'd not be made happy by an orgasm forced out through obligation against their preferences. "

This... Fabulous answer penultimate paragraph especially..

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ironically, I don’t imagine women would believe you if you said ‘I enjoyed it’ if you didn’t cum.

I always let people know I might not cum, it’s not their fault, it’s not a challenge and it’s about enjoying the sex rather than trying to achieve something. That’s how I can tell if someone is good in bed or not really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd expect to have an understanding of the things they were in to, what they enjoyed, and what they wanted from any meeting.

So long as they got what they wanted and needed I'd be okay with them not cumming, more than okay in fact.

Their orgasm is theirs to have or not.

I'd not be made happy by an orgasm forced out through obligation against their preferences.

This... Fabulous answer penultimate paragraph especially..

Thank you "

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By *unningFoxWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I could get frustrated if meet goes on for hours without guy cuming as obviously you want to please the other person and it’s hard to know otherwise. If someone have this issue than they should communicate it before hand.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"I'd expect to have an understanding of the things they were in to, what they enjoyed, and what they wanted from any meeting.

So long as they got what they wanted and needed I'd be okay with them not cumming, more than okay in fact.

Their orgasm is theirs to have or not.

I'd not be made happy by an orgasm forced out through obligation against their preferences. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not sure why anyone would think that a guy has to eject semen to assume he's had a good time.

Personally if I've been having alot of sex I last. I also just plough on through orgasms and keep going in the pursuit of my partner's ultimate satisfaction.

Why isn't it viewed that a man being hard for a woman is a sure fire sign that they are excited by them

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By *amantha_JadeWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

"Yeah I’d feel disappointed if they didn’t, their pleasure is just as important as mine

But what if they ARE genuinely happy with the situation?"

I guess I have just previously found that they cum pretty easily, so if they didn’t, I’d automatically assume that something was wrong or they hadn’t enjoyed themselve. I know sex is about the journey, not just the destination, but I think I’d feel like they weren't fully satisfied unless they’d cum.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Is it essential for a man to cum for / with / by you for your play meet to be enjoyable for you?

Or are you happy to play and part fully satisfied without him having physically cum (but stayed hard and played a full part in satifying you)?"

I'll be honest. On fab... it's definitely a must.. as when playing I'm only here for gangbangs with bukkake finishes....

Although I will admit if it was more than a one off I'd struggle with it in a more intimate setting.

It's very hypocritical of me too.. as I so rarely orgasm with meets

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By *elaninMaverickWoman over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Is it essential for a man to cum for / with / by you for your play meet to be enjoyable for you?

Or are you happy to play and part fully satisfied without him having physically cum (but stayed hard and played a full part in satifying you)?"

It's a preference but not a must. I've had quite a few one-offs where the men were only interested in pleasuring me. Someone, I'm more psychologically intimate with I'd want to know if they were ok? If they said they were ok. Then having a cuddle is ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest as long as she does then I'm good i can go for ages sometimes and I'm happy just getting involved as long as she's happy, legs rattling, walking like bambi on ice I'm good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s not essential but in all honesty unless he’d mentioned beforehand why, I’d probably worry that I hadn’t done something right or that he hadn’t enjoyed it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not essential but in all honesty unless he’d mentioned beforehand why, I’d probably worry that I hadn’t done something right or that he hadn’t enjoyed it "

Totally agree

Would prefer to be aware to not worry or overthink

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