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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it really better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?
Are you in love?
Do you wanna be in love?
Or does falling in love just leave you open to heartache, is it easier just to keep everyone at arm's length. Don't let anybody in.
Stay alone and just become a crazy dog lady, or cats, your choice.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arghhhh. The L word!!! 
O think Cupid will catch me again one day, but right now, I’m wearing a disguise to hide from him. 
I look back and realise how much I was in love, the pain and heartache teaches me that, and I also know how wonderful it was, so why would I not want that someday again? I’d be stupid.
I hope my life isn’t filled with sex with random people (let me just think about that for a moment……) but have something a lot more with someone. I don’t like feeling alone in the world, I’d like to share my life with someone I can love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wanna be in love….Fab is just a temporary thing for me until I find that guy I fall hard for! Being in love and in a relationship is my happy place 
Lots of random hookups just isn’t for me! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Heartbreak sucks. But if you have loved and been loved then you have been blessed. So many people go through their life looking for love (from anywhere) and some never find that.
Sometimes it lasts, sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes it is unfairly taken away by forces outside our control.
But it leaves an imprint on us, that we carry around forever. It is up to us how we choose to move on from that.
With hope that someday we may find it again, or become closed off so we don’t get hurt again. But what does that achieve? Emotional emptiness. And for what? So we never feel again? Life is for living, and life brings all sorts of emotions. Joy, disappointment, etc.
I choose to be hopeful. I have a lot of love to give, and some lucky bastard is going to get it whether he wants it or not!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And she’s gone again 
Who was it?
Coyote "
Nooo … I do like Coyote 
Anyway, I know she’ll read this on her new profile so can I just say “sorry to see you go” and also “welcome back! We missed you”
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think lots of people would meet the right person but are in the wrong area/place/time. For me: I'm happy alone, but if someone walked into my life where we both vibed etc, then I would consider it  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Heartbreak sucks. But if you have loved and been loved then you have been blessed. So many people go through their life looking for love (from anywhere) and some never find that.
Sometimes it lasts, sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes it is unfairly taken away by forces outside our control.
But it leaves an imprint on us, that we carry around forever. It is up to us how we choose to move on from that.
With hope that someday we may find it again, or become closed off so we don’t get hurt again. But what does that achieve? Emotional emptiness. And for what? So we never feel again? Life is for living, and life brings all sorts of emotions. Joy, disappointment, etc.
I choose to be hopeful. I have a lot of love to give, and some lucky bastard is going to get it whether he wants it or not!! "
Oh La Luna! This is absolutely beautiful and so eloquent; in a not patronising way it's really nice to read a post like this from you.
I love love. The falling in stage, the first time I say it. The happiness of being in love with someone and loving all of them. I think I'm a soppy optimist though with a daft romantic streak. |
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"Heartbreak sucks. But if you have loved and been loved then you have been blessed. So many people go through their life looking for love (from anywhere) and some never find that.
Sometimes it lasts, sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes it is unfairly taken away by forces outside our control.
But it leaves an imprint on us, that we carry around forever. It is up to us how we choose to move on from that.
With hope that someday we may find it again, or become closed off so we don’t get hurt again. But what does that achieve? Emotional emptiness. And for what? So we never feel again? Life is for living, and life brings all sorts of emotions. Joy, disappointment, etc.
I choose to be hopeful. I have a lot of love to give, and some lucky bastard is going to get it whether he wants it or not!!
Oh La Luna! This is absolutely beautiful and so eloquent; in a not patronising way it's really nice to read a post like this from you.
I love love. The falling in stage, the first time I say it. The happiness of being in love with someone and loving all of them. I think I'm a soppy optimist though with a daft romantic streak."
I think we're all soppy optimists with daft romantic streaks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm going to be a crazy plant instead. Going to turn my house into a jungle and name all of my plants and talk to them  "
Crazy plant lady*
Although I don't mind turning into a plant |
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"I'm going to be a crazy plant instead. Going to turn my house into a jungle and name all of my plants and talk to them
Crazy plant lady*
Although I don't mind turning into a plant"
Then we could have a whole bunch of you
I know I know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm going to be a crazy plant instead. Going to turn my house into a jungle and name all of my plants and talk to them
Crazy plant lady*
Although I don't mind turning into a plant
Then we could have a whole bunch of you
I know I know "
Oh that's cute! Until I turn into one of those creepy creeper plants and take over your home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Betting on what her new profile is called? don’t even know who it was
It's been mentioned in the thread dude 
Ugly Coyote "
Damn, that’s an unfortunate mistake or ‘just say what you think?‘ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Heartbreak sucks. But if you have loved and been loved then you have been blessed. So many people go through their life looking for love (from anywhere) and some never find that.
Sometimes it lasts, sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes it is unfairly taken away by forces outside our control.
But it leaves an imprint on us, that we carry around forever. It is up to us how we choose to move on from that.
With hope that someday we may find it again, or become closed off so we don’t get hurt again. But what does that achieve? Emotional emptiness. And for what? So we never feel again? Life is for living, and life brings all sorts of emotions. Joy, disappointment, etc.
I choose to be hopeful. I have a lot of love to give, and some lucky bastard is going to get it whether he wants it or not!! "
That’s not bad from you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Betting on what her new profile is called? don’t even know who it was
It's been mentioned in the thread dude
Ugly Coyote
Hopefully that was a spelling mistake "
Oh I’ve just realised what they’ve done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been in love twice. Both are my partners currently. It’s the best feeling in the world.
A permenant 3some?
They’re not into each other "
Do they know each other exists? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems no one read the first part of her username
I can read. "
She took the film Coyote Ugly and swapped the words around in her always cheerful manner.
With that, have a good day all |
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To answer the question. Yes I believe it’s better to have loved and lost than not at all. Do I want to be in love? Probably not as I don’t want a proper relationship. I’m happy with life as it is. I like love and affection and lust and to want and to feel wanted though but I want to go home to my own house on my own in between . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been in love twice. Both are my partners currently. It’s the best feeling in the world.
A permenant 3some?
They’re not into each other
Do they know each other exists? "
yes!
They’ve met a few times. I don’t let many people meet my gf but this one was special. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been in love twice. Both are my partners currently. It’s the best feeling in the world.
A permenant 3some?
They’re not into each other
Do they know each other exists?
yes!
They’ve met a few times. I don’t let many people meet my gf but this one was special. "
I get more affection from my mates cat, and it’s scratched me twice.
To say I’m happy for you is an understatement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been in love twice. Both are my partners currently. It’s the best feeling in the world.
A permenant 3some?
They’re not into each other
Do they know each other exists?
yes!
They’ve met a few times. I don’t let many people meet my gf but this one was special.
I get more affection from my mates cat, and it’s scratched me twice.
To say I’m happy for you is an understatement. "
Who knows whether I’ll still be this happy in 20/30 years from now. I hope so!
Thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love is worth the pain. I’ve been there, I’m sure we all have and it can do funny things to you!
Maybe it adds a clarity to your life that you didn’t know it was missing, a certainty, a confidence. When it’s reciprocated you’re unbeatable, stronger, happier.
When it fails, it fills you with doubt, with hurt, with questions.
No matter the questions or the hurt, I would take having love, an all encompassing love any time I could. It’s worth the risk, and one day it might just stick around and you’ll forget about the other side of the coin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if you're in love and loved back its a wonderful thing. If you're in love and it's not reciprocated then you're going to get hurt. Never fun"
Very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being the eternal optimist; I'd love again if it happened spontaneously, but being on fab (and all that that entails), does make you wonder why bother; is it worth it! |
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I think everyone should experience at some point in their life. It can be everything and nothing all in one. Yes it's painful when it ends but when it works, it's magical. I have only every been in pure love once in my life and that was when I saw/held my baby daughter for the first time. No-one will ever come close to that overwhelming feeling and I very much doubt, anyone will ever hurt me the way it did when she passed away.
I think that is the only true love in this world x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think everyone should experience at some point in their life. It can be everything and nothing all in one. Yes it's painful when it ends but when it works, it's magical. I have only every been in pure love once in my life and that was when I saw/held my baby daughter for the first time. No-one will ever come close to that overwhelming feeling and I very much doubt, anyone will ever hurt me the way it did when she passed away.
I think that is the only true love in this world x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think everyone should experience at some point in their life. It can be everything and nothing all in one. Yes it's painful when it ends but when it works, it's magical. I have only every been in pure love once in my life and that was when I saw/held my baby daughter for the first time. No-one will ever come close to that overwhelming feeling and I very much doubt, anyone will ever hurt me the way it did when she passed away.
I think that is the only true love in this world x"
I'm so sorry xx |
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"I think everyone should experience at some point in their life. It can be everything and nothing all in one. Yes it's painful when it ends but when it works, it's magical. I have only every been in pure love once in my life and that was when I saw/held my baby daughter for the first time. No-one will ever come close to that overwhelming feeling and I very much doubt, anyone will ever hurt me the way it did when she passed away.
I think that is the only true love in this world x"
I can’t even imagine |
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I’m lucky enough to have met my soul mate and the love of my life while I was in school.
I can’t comment on what it’s like to not be in love or to have had your heart broken.
Maybe I’m a hopeless romantic but I think everyone should at least be in love once in their life just to experience it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in love right now and never thought I would be.
The thought of losing my husband terrifies me but if it was all to end now for whatever reason any heartbreak would be worth what we have had. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes but also no was it the happiest moments of my life yes by far was it amazing yes was it everything they say and more absafuckinglutley pure happiness but they also say twice the pride double the fall and for every action theres an equal opposite action or something like that so the comedown is easily enough to drive a person mad so be careful what you wish for is my view cos if it goes tits up and the numbers say it proberbly will your in for a world of hurt if not worse
Am i happy i had it yes
Will i allow it again not a fucking cat in hells chance will any one else make me feel vulnerable again only 1 person has that button and she ran away long ago now il be here when im needed cos il never give up on her but fact is il never be needed of that im sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am on the edge on that one.
I think it is better to have loved yet first of all you have to love yourself before trying to love anyone else. Otherwise, you will love that person for all the wrong reasons. You won’t him/her but love the idea of him/her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kind of want to say love is like childbirth in so far as, when you're in the midst of the worst you swear it's the last time but then that passes and you think 'eh, I'd go again, it's not THAT bad'....
The lure of the high points keeps me coming back again.
And the refusal to let a toxic person take future happiness from me even after I have winkled them out of my life.
But it's all resting on where you are with your own self. Loving yourself and liking yourself, knowing your worth and not accepting less or settling for poor treatment
Get yours |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am on the edge on that one.
I think it is better to have loved yet first of all you have to love yourself before trying to love anyone else. Otherwise, you will love that person for all the wrong reasons. You won’t him/her but love the idea of him/her. "
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By *igGs19Woman
over a year ago
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I fall hard and fast and always for the biggest of red flag personalities. I hate it, I'd genuinely rather be alone than be fucked about emotionally, but then miss / crave closeness - not even sex as I went years without relatively recently - but miss company and hugs and just being with someone. Thought fab may be an answer to that, but oh look... A pretty red flag...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm deeply in love with myself.
I'm not sure I have ever been in love with someone else. A couple of intese infatuations but less and less as I got older |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
Being in love is kinda like being on a rollercoaster - there’s that initial fear of ‘I think I love him’ the anticipation, the knots in your stomach, the adrenaline, the butterflies and the sheer exhilaration of taking the plunge and saying how you feel.
Sometimes it’s full of twists and turns and back and forths others it has the ability to flip your world upside down and send you into this stratospheric motion where you feel the euphoria of every high but equally the despair of the lows.
Sometimes it comes to an earth shattering hault and you need to peel your grip from the handle bars and let go despite wanting to sit still and relive it all again.
And sometimes, just sometimes it feels like the biggest adventure you’ve ever been on it forces you face your fears to overcome obstacles and gives you that excitement over and over again.
That’s the kinda love I’d bottle - the kind that makes you grow.
I am lucky to have found an unexpected love in my life right now and I am ready for another shot on the rollercoaster xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being in love is kinda like being on a rollercoaster - there’s that initial fear of ‘I think I love him’ the anticipation, the knots in your stomach, the adrenaline, the butterflies and the sheer exhilaration of taking the plunge and saying how you feel.
Sometimes it’s full of twists and turns and back and forths others it has the ability to flip your world upside down and send you into this stratospheric motion where you feel the euphoria of every high but equally the despair of the lows.
Sometimes it comes to an earth shattering hault and you need to peel your grip from the handle bars and let go despite wanting to sit still and relive it all again.
And sometimes, just sometimes it feels like the biggest adventure you’ve ever been on it forces you face your fears to overcome obstacles and gives you that excitement over and over again.
That’s the kinda love I’d bottle - the kind that makes you grow.
I am lucky to have found an unexpected love in my life right now and I am ready for another shot on the rollercoaster xx"
Mostly the queue is just too long and I'll go on the teacups |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am on the edge on that one.
I think it is better to have loved yet first of all you have to love yourself before trying to love anyone else. Otherwise, you will love that person for all the wrong reasons. You won’t him/her but love the idea of him/her. "
but you can haye yourself for losing it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being in love is kinda like being on a rollercoaster - there’s that initial fear of ‘I think I love him’ the anticipation, the knots in your stomach, the adrenaline, the butterflies and the sheer exhilaration of taking the plunge and saying how you feel.
Sometimes it’s full of twists and turns and back and forths others it has the ability to flip your world upside down and send you into this stratospheric motion where you feel the euphoria of every high but equally the despair of the lows.
Sometimes it comes to an earth shattering hault and you need to peel your grip from the handle bars and let go despite wanting to sit still and relive it all again.
And sometimes, just sometimes it feels like the biggest adventure you’ve ever been on it forces you face your fears to overcome obstacles and gives you that excitement over and over again.
That’s the kinda love I’d bottle - the kind that makes you grow.
I am lucky to have found an unexpected love in my life right now and I am ready for another shot on the rollercoaster xx
Mostly the queue is just too long and I'll go on the teacups"
Teacups adult style in a pinch perhaps, on a waltzer... but my one love is the cyclone
All speed and swirl
Air rushing past me
Thrill and adrenaline
No nausea at the end
Just all the good things
Goes for a lot of things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's nothing better than loving people and being loved, whether that's friendship, romantic or familial.
I'm really lucky that I have a really full, loving, happy life. I've got an amazing support network and I've got hobbies that I'm really passionate about.
I happily fall in love because I know that if I get my heart broken, I'm well supported and I'm still going to get loads of love and affection.
I guess I have a safety net so I'm confident about taking the risk.
Maybe that's what you need to do if you want to feel safe when you're falling in love? Build a secure safety net first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being in love is kinda like being on a rollercoaster - there’s that initial fear of ‘I think I love him’ the anticipation, the knots in your stomach, the adrenaline, the butterflies and the sheer exhilaration of taking the plunge and saying how you feel.
Sometimes it’s full of twists and turns and back and forths others it has the ability to flip your world upside down and send you into this stratospheric motion where you feel the euphoria of every high but equally the despair of the lows.
Sometimes it comes to an earth shattering hault and you need to peel your grip from the handle bars and let go despite wanting to sit still and relive it all again.
And sometimes, just sometimes it feels like the biggest adventure you’ve ever been on it forces you face your fears to overcome obstacles and gives you that excitement over and over again.
That’s the kinda love I’d bottle - the kind that makes you grow.
I am lucky to have found an unexpected love in my life right now and I am ready for another shot on the rollercoaster xx"
This sparks joy.
My favourite quotation is from Afterlife. Happiness is amazing. It's so amazing, it doesn't even have to be your own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I fall hard and fast and always for the biggest of red flag personalities. I hate it, I'd genuinely rather be alone than be fucked about emotionally, but then miss / crave closeness - not even sex as I went years without relatively recently - but miss company and hugs and just being with someone. Thought fab may be an answer to that, but oh look... A pretty red flag... "
It sounds like you're experiencing limerence, rather than love. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
"Being in love is kinda like being on a rollercoaster - there’s that initial fear of ‘I think I love him’ the anticipation, the knots in your stomach, the adrenaline, the butterflies and the sheer exhilaration of taking the plunge and saying how you feel.
Sometimes it’s full of twists and turns and back and forths others it has the ability to flip your world upside down and send you into this stratospheric motion where you feel the euphoria of every high but equally the despair of the lows.
Sometimes it comes to an earth shattering hault and you need to peel your grip from the handle bars and let go despite wanting to sit still and relive it all again.
And sometimes, just sometimes it feels like the biggest adventure you’ve ever been on it forces you face your fears to overcome obstacles and gives you that excitement over and over again.
That’s the kinda love I’d bottle - the kind that makes you grow.
I am lucky to have found an unexpected love in my life right now and I am ready for another shot on the rollercoaster xx
This sparks joy.
My favourite quotation is from Afterlife. Happiness is amazing. It's so amazing, it doesn't even have to be your own. "
Aw thank you that’s a lovely quote x |
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Love is amazing, annoying, frustrating, exhilarating and so many other words.
Sometimes I think we focus so much of our energy on romantic love. That we don't place the right amount of reverence to other kinds, family, friendship etc. I think in life love is in a constant flux, sometimes love can't be found in one area but others forms keep you afloat. Sometimes love is a transient thing, doesn't mean it wasn't special when it lasted.
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By *igGs19Woman
over a year ago
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"I fall hard and fast and always for the biggest of red flag personalities. I hate it, I'd genuinely rather be alone than be fucked about emotionally, but then miss / crave closeness - not even sex as I went years without relatively recently - but miss company and hugs and just being with someone. Thought fab may be an answer to that, but oh look... A pretty red flag...
It sounds like you're experiencing limerence, rather than love. "
I've never obsessed over anyone in my life - well maybe George Clooney. A feeling not being reciprocated doesn't make it any less real. A feeling being for someone with a potentially toxic personality trait doesn't make it any less real. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being in love is kinda like being on a rollercoaster - there’s that initial fear of ‘I think I love him’ the anticipation, the knots in your stomach, the adrenaline, the butterflies and the sheer exhilaration of taking the plunge and saying how you feel.
Sometimes it’s full of twists and turns and back and forths others it has the ability to flip your world upside down and send you into this stratospheric motion where you feel the euphoria of every high but equally the despair of the lows.
Sometimes it comes to an earth shattering hault and you need to peel your grip from the handle bars and let go despite wanting to sit still and relive it all again.
And sometimes, just sometimes it feels like the biggest adventure you’ve ever been on it forces you face your fears to overcome obstacles and gives you that excitement over and over again.
That’s the kinda love I’d bottle - the kind that makes you grow.
I am lucky to have found an unexpected love in my life right now and I am ready for another shot on the rollercoaster xx"
This made me so happy to read. Both because you haven't only mentioned the highs and also because you find it worth it enough to go though it again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I don't think I'm capable of fully receiving or giving love. I feel like it something you need to fully immerse yourself in good or bad and I can't seem to get past that surface level of emotion.
Why that is, I'm not sure. Maybe it is fear, emotional immaturity or something like that but do wish I could experience it to see what it's like |
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"Personally I don't think I'm capable of fully receiving or giving love. I feel like it something you need to fully immerse yourself in good or bad and I can't seem to get past that surface level of emotion.
Why that is, I'm not sure. Maybe it is fear, emotional immaturity or something like that but do wish I could experience it to see what it's like "
Just going to say I felt like this at your age. It's something that's come to me as I've aged and see things slightly differently to what I did then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I don't think I'm capable of fully receiving or giving love. I feel like it something you need to fully immerse yourself in good or bad and I can't seem to get past that surface level of emotion.
Why that is, I'm not sure. Maybe it is fear, emotional immaturity or something like that but do wish I could experience it to see what it's like
Just going to say I felt like this at your age. It's something that's come to me as I've aged and see things slightly differently to what I did then "
Thank you, hearing that actually gives me a bit of hope. I hear stories of people who fell in love at school, or got married in their early twenties or even found love on hear. It's really sweet and romantic to hear and something I do have a longing for, but something that feels so far away the older I get. |
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"Personally I don't think I'm capable of fully receiving or giving love. I feel like it something you need to fully immerse yourself in good or bad and I can't seem to get past that surface level of emotion.
Why that is, I'm not sure. Maybe it is fear, emotional immaturity or something like that but do wish I could experience it to see what it's like "
having had it im kind of the same now i wont let anyone close enough |
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Losing love is devastating, and I have to admit after losing my husband I have guarded myself as I didn’t want to add any more heartache.
But I love being in love, and it would be amazing to be in love with someone again.
Who knows |
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"Personally I don't think I'm capable of fully receiving or giving love. I feel like it something you need to fully immerse yourself in good or bad and I can't seem to get past that surface level of emotion.
Why that is, I'm not sure. Maybe it is fear, emotional immaturity or something like that but do wish I could experience it to see what it's like
having had it im kind of the same now i wont let anyone close enough"
Are you still glad you had it though or do you regret it because it's lead to you feeling how you feel now? |
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"Personally I don't think I'm capable of fully receiving or giving love. I feel like it something you need to fully immerse yourself in good or bad and I can't seem to get past that surface level of emotion.
Why that is, I'm not sure. Maybe it is fear, emotional immaturity or something like that but do wish I could experience it to see what it's like
Just going to say I felt like this at your age. It's something that's come to me as I've aged and see things slightly differently to what I did then
Thank you, hearing that actually gives me a bit of hope. I hear stories of people who fell in love at school, or got married in their early twenties or even found love on hear. It's really sweet and romantic to hear and something I do have a longing for, but something that feels so far away the older I get."
Crumbs you're still young mind. I didn't have a bloody clue about anything at your age. Life isn't a race, doesn't matter whose done xyz at what age. If life is genuinely a race then we're all racing towards death. It's better to slow down and enjoy the ride. |
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Love is gorgeous, but I really don't like the falling in love process. The adrenaline fuelled infatuation stage is too emotionally intense for me. I'd rather just skip to the deep, trusting, beautiful bond that comes with time and knowing someone fully. This can be applied to friendships too. |
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"Love is gorgeous, but I really don't like the falling in love process. The adrenaline fuelled infatuation stage is too emotionally intense for me. I'd rather just skip to the deep, trusting, beautiful bond that comes with time and knowing someone fully. This can be applied to friendships too."
I don’t think I’ve ever experienced that second part. I only get the infatuation stage and then the brutal destruction of being left. I’ve sworn off all searching for love and am happy to retain my sense of self and seek pleasure here. |
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"Personally I don't think I'm capable of fully receiving or giving love. I feel like it something you need to fully immerse yourself in good or bad and I can't seem to get past that surface level of emotion.
Why that is, I'm not sure. Maybe it is fear, emotional immaturity or something like that but do wish I could experience it to see what it's like
Just going to say I felt like this at your age. It's something that's come to me as I've aged and see things slightly differently to what I did then
Thank you, hearing that actually gives me a bit of hope. I hear stories of people who fell in love at school, or got married in their early twenties or even found love on hear. It's really sweet and romantic to hear and something I do have a longing for, but something that feels so far away the older I get.
Crumbs you're still young mind. I didn't have a bloody clue about anything at your age. Life isn't a race, doesn't matter whose done xyz at what age. If life is genuinely a race then we're all racing towards death. It's better to slow down and enjoy the ride. "
That's a good perspective to have. It's easy to compare what you don't have with others that do but I think that's why I joined Fab. Something to tide me over until I do find it |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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"Being in love is kinda like being on a rollercoaster - there’s that initial fear of ‘I think I love him’ the anticipation, the knots in your stomach, the adrenaline, the butterflies and the sheer exhilaration of taking the plunge and saying how you feel.
Sometimes it’s full of twists and turns and back and forths others it has the ability to flip your world upside down and send you into this stratospheric motion where you feel the euphoria of every high but equally the despair of the lows.
Sometimes it comes to an earth shattering hault and you need to peel your grip from the handle bars and let go despite wanting to sit still and relive it all again.
And sometimes, just sometimes it feels like the biggest adventure you’ve ever been on it forces you face your fears to overcome obstacles and gives you that excitement over and over again.
That’s the kinda love I’d bottle - the kind that makes you grow.
I am lucky to have found an unexpected love in my life right now and I am ready for another shot on the rollercoaster xx
This made me so happy to read. Both because you haven't only mentioned the highs and also because you find it worth it enough to go though it again "
Aww FH you are just bloody lovely xx |
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"Love is gorgeous, but I really don't like the falling in love process. The adrenaline fuelled infatuation stage is too emotionally intense for me. I'd rather just skip to the deep, trusting, beautiful bond that comes with time and knowing someone fully. This can be applied to friendships too.
I don’t think I’ve ever experienced that second part. I only get the infatuation stage and then the brutal destruction of being left. I’ve sworn off all searching for love and am happy to retain my sense of self and seek pleasure here. "
Falling in love with a friend was much less emotionally disruptive than someone I didn't know very well to begin with. I heartily recommend it, even if we did divorce 13 years later. |
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I've never loved, I don't know what it means to be in love or to fall in love. It's been years since I had a bit of a crush on someone. I live a remarkably insular existence and often wonder if I could even be with someone, let alone find someone.
Sure, to not love is to avoid the potential for a lot of pain and confusion, you live a nice, flat simple existence... But, to love must be more than I know how to articulate, maybe if one day I find it I'll know what to say.
You never know what's around the corner (which is actually bullshit, when I walk to the end of my street, I know exactly what's around the corner)  |
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"I'm going to be a crazy plant instead. Going to turn my house into a jungle and name all of my plants and talk to them "
People often call me a vegetable so I wouldn't worry about it  |
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Oh sorry it's about falling in love.
After two rubbish marriages I'd assumed I was unlovable. Like every bloke I was wrong (happy to be wrong mind)
What you want is a loving relationship that you can also have random spontaneous hook ups as well.. Surely that is utopia? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Love is gorgeous, but I really don't like the falling in love process. The adrenaline fuelled infatuation stage is too emotionally intense for me. I'd rather just skip to the deep, trusting, beautiful bond that comes with time and knowing someone fully. This can be applied to friendships too."
The trusting bond, the ease is magical isn't it?
But I'm rather fond of the falling in love stage. It's intoxicating, there's this intensity and desire to find out more, be better as a person, listen, be with the person. It's not quite all consuming but it's so exhilarating discovering those intensity of feelings. That joy of a new shared language. The pleasure in simple interactions, the little details that make your heart feel warm and fuzzy.
Don't get me wrong, the lows are kind of crap. The giddiness is exhausting, the realisation that this person means something to you is daunting. New. Unexpected sometimes, in the very best of ways.
The highs? They make me feel alive. Really alive. Like I could burst into song and smile at every person I see. I'd happily experience every drop going to keep relishing the falling in love stage. |
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"Is it really better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?
Are you in love?
Do you wanna be in love?
Or does falling in love just leave you open to heartache, is it easier just to keep everyone at arm's length. Don't let anybody in.
Stay alone and just become a crazy dog lady, or cats, your choice.
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I love my man but I'm not in love with him
Missy x |
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"Love is gorgeous, but I really don't like the falling in love process. The adrenaline fuelled infatuation stage is too emotionally intense for me. I'd rather just skip to the deep, trusting, beautiful bond that comes with time and knowing someone fully. This can be applied to friendships too.
The trusting bond, the ease is magical isn't it?
But I'm rather fond of the falling in love stage. It's intoxicating, there's this intensity and desire to find out more, be better as a person, listen, be with the person. It's not quite all consuming but it's so exhilarating discovering those intensity of feelings. That joy of a new shared language. The pleasure in simple interactions, the little details that make your heart feel warm and fuzzy.
Don't get me wrong, the lows are kind of crap. The giddiness is exhausting, the realisation that this person means something to you is daunting. New. Unexpected sometimes, in the very best of ways.
The highs? They make me feel alive. Really alive. Like I could burst into song and smile at every person I see. I'd happily experience every drop going to keep relishing the falling in love stage."
I totally understand your perspective, and at one time i woukd have agreed, but I'm just not cut out to deal with the euphoric highs and the devastating lows with my mental health intact. I need a slow-burn to not be destroyed by it. |
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"Love is gorgeous, but I really don't like the falling in love process. The adrenaline fuelled infatuation stage is too emotionally intense for me. I'd rather just skip to the deep, trusting, beautiful bond that comes with time and knowing someone fully. This can be applied to friendships too.
The trusting bond, the ease is magical isn't it?
But I'm rather fond of the falling in love stage. It's intoxicating, there's this intensity and desire to find out more, be better as a person, listen, be with the person. It's not quite all consuming but it's so exhilarating discovering those intensity of feelings. That joy of a new shared language. The pleasure in simple interactions, the little details that make your heart feel warm and fuzzy.
Don't get me wrong, the lows are kind of crap. The giddiness is exhausting, the realisation that this person means something to you is daunting. New. Unexpected sometimes, in the very best of ways.
The highs? They make me feel alive. Really alive. Like I could burst into song and smile at every person I see. I'd happily experience every drop going to keep relishing the falling in love stage."
That’s so beautiful x
I wonder if it was love, or limerance, but when I was in it, it was exhilarating, intoxicating. When I was on my way to see him it felt like I was flying. And being out of it has felt like falling off a cliff. I still think about him every day. God I hope that stops soon. It gets better every day though.
I had to tell him to stop contacting me too, and that felt like I was punishing myself, cutting off contact when even the tiniest piece of contact felt so incredible. |
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I've only really fallen in proper romantic love with Mr KC. That started a very long time ago and it endures still. Our love has been steadfast but the nature of our relationship has evolved and changed over the past 18.5yrs, for sure. We think one of most important things in a romantic relationship is how you (the couple). deal with the shit times. The good times are easy. To us, it's proper, solid love if you get through the shittiest of times and still want each other afterwards.
I'm fortunate never to have experienced proper heartbreak so I can't comment on that really. I thought I was in love with my son's father but I was U18 and it wasn't love. That's the closest I've come to heartbreak and honestly, it was mainly for the impact on my son and not because the romantic relationship had ended. I felt like a failure as a mother, more than anything. |
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"I’ve been in love. It lasted 17 years and then she ended it after marriage and 2 kids. Sometimes I feel there’s only 1 way out of this to be honest. "
It does get better!
It's dark and it's horrible but you can climb back out. |
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Yes I’ve been in love but always get hurt.
I would love to find love again but I very much doubt that will happen again for me again now.
There is someone that I’ve liked for a while but I know he doesn’t feel the same(I don’t think so anyway). |
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After the amount of heartbreak I've been through in the past, I don't think I'll ever want to be in love again as I can't risk going through all the painful heartache again.
I don't think I can ever trust someone with my heart if they're just gonna stomp it into the dirt like the others have. |
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"Yes I’ve been in love but always get hurt.
I would love to find love again but I very much doubt that will happen again for me again now.
There is someone that I’ve liked for a while but I know he doesn’t feel the same(I don’t think so anyway)."
Sorry to hear that x |
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Might sound stoopid but you really need to learn to love yourself before you try loving someone else
Not in the biblical sense you dirty bunch of fuckers |
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