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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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At least have the decency if your not interested to send one bk saying your not interested, makes you think how many fakes are in here I'm certainly not doing anything wrong lol!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Noone owes you a pic, What purpose does getting a pic with a no thank you message? "
personally iv got manners if someone asks me for one I'd of thought it's a decent thing to do to send one bk
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends who initiated the convo in my opinion.
If you messaged THEM first, I always think it’s fair that you send first.
But if they messaged YOU, then demanded you send first then it’s a risk you take, I think they should go first …
But whatever, any time you send anything on here you do so at your own risk I guess.. only send if you’re happy that they won’t? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Noone owes you a pic, What purpose does getting a pic with a no thank you message? personally iv got manners if someone asks me for one I'd of thought it's a decent thing to do to send one bk "
Nope.
Same as a message.
If someone doesn't reply its a no. Its not rude, it's not wrong and it's definitely how most will operate.
It's your choice if you send a photo in an opening message. Nobody else's. It's then their choice if they send one back. Not yours.
The sooner people realise this the happier life will be.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You send a pic and you want a pic back even if it’s a no thanks from them?!
What like in a ‘here’s what you could have won’ way?
Or do you want to say ‘no thanks’ back as they’ve said it to you? 
K"
why ask for one I'd like to see the person iv sent it to wouldn't bother me if there not interested just makes me feel there obv hiding something, iv got no probs with this site wouldn't judge anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No way would I send a picture to someone I wasn't interested in just because they sent me one.
That isn't bad manners.
Nor does it mean they're hiding anything!! |
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"Must admit I wouldn’t send one back if they weren’t for me. What’s the point?"
Agree, because if you do reply with pic based on manners it can give people ideas that you might be interested this has happened to us.
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I send one back even if not interested. Especially as I've asked for theirs and they have then asked for mine.
So it would be a polite "sorry not for me,but this is me as you asked for a face pic"
I think it's each to their own in what they do.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least have the decency if your not interested to send one bk saying your not interested, makes you think how many fakes are in here I'm certainly not doing anything wrong lol!!"
This is a new level of nonsense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own is said a lot and I agree with it.
Fit me, if you ask for a face picture, be prepared to send that with the request. My take on It is like poker, you want to see mine? Show me yours first.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I send one back even if not interested. Especially as I've asked for theirs and they have then asked for mine.
So it would be a polite "sorry not for me,but this is me as you asked for a face pic"
I think it's each to their own in what they do.. "
exactly it's just polite if you ask for theirs, don't ask if you wouldn't do it yourself, say your not for me, worse when they don't even reply could be anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You send a pic and you want a pic back even if it’s a no thanks from them?!
What like in a ‘here’s what you could have won’ way?
Or do you want to say ‘no thanks’ back as they’ve said it to you?
K why ask for one I'd like to see the person iv sent it to wouldn't bother me if there not interested just makes me feel there obv hiding something, iv got no probs with this site wouldn't judge anyone "
They've asked for one to probably see of they find you attractive, so your not their type, she's just not that into you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place"
im not forcing anything I'm talking when some messages you for a pic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place im not forcing anything I'm talking when some messages you for a pic "
But you can say no. You choose to send it.
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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I am usually happy if they send a polite reject mail myself! As I have been on here long enough to know most don’t bother replying if they ain’t interested!
And I can’t for the life of me understand why anyone would get rude if they received a rejection reply (ffs, be greatfull they actually sent a no thank you rather then instant block). I have even been know to send another message back just saying “thanks for at least replying and good luck finding what you are looking for.
But that’s just me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place im not forcing anything I'm talking when some messages you for a pic
But you can say no. You choose to send it.
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iv got nothing to hide , I'm single it's a face pic not rude it's basically showing that person I'm genuine and not a weirdo, I just think it's weird asking for one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place im not forcing anything I'm talking when some messages you for a pic "
Well if it's a case of them asking first or both people agreeing to swap then whoever is second welches on it, that's less than decent but that's a risk sending first.
If I agree to swap then I honour the swap regardless of whether I like the person on seeing the pic they've sent.
But that's my own code, my word has value even on fab and online. For many, rules or manners don't apply on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place im not forcing anything I'm talking when some messages you for a pic
Well if it's a case of them asking first or both people agreeing to swap then whoever is second welches on it, that's less than decent but that's a risk sending first.
If I agree to swap then I honour the swap regardless of whether I like the person on seeing the pic they've sent.
But that's my own code, my word has value even on fab and online. For many, rules or manners don't apply on fab."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place im not forcing anything I'm talking when some messages you for a pic
But you can say no. You choose to send it.
iv got nothing to hide , I'm single it's a face pic not rude it's basically showing that person I'm genuine and not a weirdo, I just think it's weird asking for one "
Well to be fair just because you have a face doesn't mean you can't be a weirdo.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Btw.... you forcing your pic on the unsuspecting recipients of your messages does not then make them pic collectors.
I very much doubt they save or savour pics they didn't ask for.
If they choose to ignore your unsolicited pic or refuse to send one by return, thats their choice. Just as it's your choice to send your pic or not in the first place im not forcing anything I'm talking when some messages you for a pic
But you can say no. You choose to send it.
iv got nothing to hide , I'm single it's a face pic not rude it's basically showing that person I'm genuine and not a weirdo, I just think it's weird asking for one "
Every weirdo has a face.
Equally - how does sending someone a face pic determine if someone is 'genuine'?
Genuine is just another word. Every person that ever stood someone up, ghosted them, or became abusive when turned down had a face and was 'genuinely' a 100% bona fide person.
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"I send one back even if not interested. Especially as I've asked for theirs and they have then asked for mine.
So it would be a polite "sorry not for me,but this is me as you asked for a face pic"
I think it's each to their own in what they do.. exactly it's just polite if you ask for theirs, don't ask if you wouldn't do it yourself, say your not for me, worse when they don't even reply could be anyone "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I send one back even if not interested. Especially as I've asked for theirs and they have then asked for mine.
So it would be a polite "sorry not for me,but this is me as you asked for a face pic"
I think it's each to their own in what they do.. exactly it's just polite if you ask for theirs, don't ask if you wouldn't do it yourself, say your not for me, worse when they don't even reply could be anyone
Exactly!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did they ask first OP?
I would always send a face pic first if I'm asking for one. In fact I usually send a face pic with my opening message if I message a man first cause I just think there's no point continuing the conversation if he doesn't find me attractive.
I don't expect a face pic in a first message from people messaging me though, and wouldn't always choose to send one back to an unsolicited face pic. Guess my own rules are weird. Much like the majority of Fab |
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