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over a year ago
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Does having a friend of more than 40 years weigh more in value than having a friend of say 2 or 3 years?
I’m asking because I have few people I’d call friends, a couple (ie two separate people) I met from here so maybe a couple of years or just months, and a friend who I met when I was just 16 and she 21, she turned 60 earlier this year. She’s done nothing but fucking moan about where her present is…. I offered to take her to a safari park up north because she’s never been to it, on the day of her birthday, had it all set, tickets bought, the lot, then she announces she can’t go because she’s going to go see Elvis at the friggin cinema with her family. 
Now she’s moaning that I didn’t give her anything!
We were due to go to Horse of The Year show in October for two nights, she paid for it (long story short, I’d advised her through the PIP process and she won) so she wanted to say thanks. However I tried to decline it as I don’t like coaches after being attacked on one in the 90s, I never got over it. I got a text last week to say the trip had been cancelled because it was underbooked. Now she’s accusing me of thinking that she should stump up a further £300 to go by car - which I never said at all. Now we’ve had a bust up, she’s “blocked” me on F/B (she hasn’t really as she can’t work it properly and I can still see and comment on her page even though I’ve unfriended her).
Who needs enemies when you have friends like that! Love that I’m the fucking bad one in all of this because she can’t see past her nose!
Oh aye, and I saw her this afternoon probably shouldn’t have tried to stop her leaving but does that give her the right to try to bite my arm?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who needs enemies when you have friends like that  you killed me. But yes I feel for you.
To answer your question, the main different you should pay attention is the way they are treating you, not the number of years you’ve known them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Who needs enemies when you have friends like that you killed me. But yes I feel for you.
To answer your question, the main different you should pay attention is the way they are treating you, not the number of years you’ve known them. "
Yes, you’re right…. Should’ve called her a dog, after all dogs bite, not people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a really good friend who I have know a long time. She's my rock and won't let me down like some people. "
Hold on to her.
I do have a friend I’ve known longer and I can’t ever see us having a barney, she looks after my pets when needed, she used to have my dog at Christmas, but when she passed I never thought she’d extend that generosity to my cats that I have now. She’s having them tomorrow til Thursday, then if she can catch them again, she’ll bring them home on Thursday night. |
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You’ve been friends for a very long time. What had kept you close? Is this behaviour something new or is it her usual behaviour that you’ve just had enough of? If it’s new then maybe it’s worth seeing if something is going on in her life that’s driving it. |
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"You’ve been friends for a very long time. What had kept you close? Is this behaviour something new or is it her usual behaviour that you’ve just had enough of? If it’s new then maybe it’s worth seeing if something is going on in her life that’s driving it. "
She’s changed since her mum died in 2018. She’s the 2nd eldest of 4 but never moved out of her parents house. I guess this has had more of an effect on her as now at age 56 she had to learn to live alone. She has good family support around her and we used to go to the cinema twice a month Before Covid. We met at a riding school.
I will not be her friend again not after she tried to bite me. |
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"You’ve been friends for a very long time. What had kept you close? Is this behaviour something new or is it her usual behaviour that you’ve just had enough of? If it’s new then maybe it’s worth seeing if something is going on in her life that’s driving it.
She’s changed since her mum died in 2018. She’s the 2nd eldest of 4 but never moved out of her parents house. I guess this has had more of an effect on her as now at age 56 she had to learn to live alone. She has good family support around her and we used to go to the cinema twice a month Before Covid. We met at a riding school.
I will not be her friend again not after she tried to bite me."
Yeah the bite probably was the last straw. |
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"You’ve been friends for a very long time. What had kept you close? Is this behaviour something new or is it her usual behaviour that you’ve just had enough of? If it’s new then maybe it’s worth seeing if something is going on in her life that’s driving it.
She’s changed since her mum died in 2018. She’s the 2nd eldest of 4 but never moved out of her parents house. I guess this has had more of an effect on her as now at age 56 she had to learn to live alone. She has good family support around her and we used to go to the cinema twice a month Before Covid. We met at a riding school.
I will not be her friend again not after she tried to bite me.
Yeah the bite probably was the last straw. "
I cannot get that imagine out of my head |
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"Sounded unhealthy before it got physical. Now it sounds like a nightmare. "
Now I’ll be looking for friends to go to the cinema with lol - horror movie anyone? |
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It’ll all blow over. And if it doesn’t …..well, plenty more friends to be found. 