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So as a couple looking for a full swops/same rooms ect !! How on earth do you get past the she is nice … he isn’t for me or visa versa thing 
Not like we are oil paintings (mr deffo the better looking one ) but I like to meet people and get to know them and then might find them attractive once I know them but not always that easy on here hey !!!
Anyone just take one for the team !!! |
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over a year ago
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I always take one for the team always down for being a team player 
Sorry op I couldn’t resist
On a serious note yes it can be hard for both to find a couple suitable for both
Clubs and socials can be a grate start x |
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Well I’m not part of a couple, but a couple I met once told me about their traffic light system for socials.
Both had a little code word for red, amber or green for when they met couples and exactly this situation:
Red: Not compatible - don’t want to meet
Amber: They’re ok, not amazing but can live with having sex
Green : Definitely keen on meeting them for sex
Any reds from either party: not taken any further.
Two greens obviously is a goer.
One green, one amber - the green person had the final say depending on how much they liked the third party.
I think it’s a good system. Worked for them anyway, obviously might not be suitable for all! |
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"Well I’m not part of a couple, but a couple I met once told me about their traffic light system for socials.
Both had a little code word for red, amber or green for when they met couples and exactly this situation:
Red: Not compatible - don’t want to meet
Amber: They’re ok, not amazing but can live with having sex
Green : Definitely keen on meeting them for sex
Any reds from either party: not taken any further.
Two greens obviously is a goer.
One green, one amber - the green person had the final say depending on how much they liked the third party.
I think it’s a good system. Worked for them anyway, obviously might not be suitable for all!"
Or what he said  |
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"Ha ha touché !!!
Yes we tried Brighton a few weeks ago and thinking Pleasures next ….. "
Definitely think that’s the best way to go for couples looking for couples that way use can get a sens off them before hand x |
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"Well I’m not part of a couple, but a couple I met once told me about their traffic light system for socials.
Both had a little code word for red, amber or green for when they met couples and exactly this situation:
Red: Not compatible - don’t want to meet
Amber: They’re ok, not amazing but can live with having sex
Green : Definitely keen on meeting them for sex
Any reds from either party: not taken any further.
Two greens obviously is a goer.
One green, one amber - the green person had the final say depending on how much they liked the third party.
I think it’s a good system. Worked for them anyway, obviously might not be suitable for all!
Or what he said "
For the life of me I can’t remember what 2 ambers were though… maybe they had a few more drinks and re-scored?  |
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Don't take one for the team. How awful to be the person you were just fucking so your partner could get what they wanted, I'd hate it to be me  .
If you don't all find each other attractive don't meet. |
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"Well I’m not part of a couple, but a couple I met once told me about their traffic light system for socials.
Both had a little code word for red, amber or green for when they met couples and exactly this situation:
Red: Not compatible - don’t want to meet
Amber: They’re ok, not amazing but can live with having sex
Green : Definitely keen on meeting them for sex
Any reds from either party: not taken any further.
Two greens obviously is a goer.
One green, one amber - the green person had the final say depending on how much they liked the third party.
I think it’s a good system. Worked for them anyway, obviously might not be suitable for all!"
There's an app for it.. |
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We meet socially only, make it clear that we will discuss when we get home then let the people we've met know if we want to take things further. They also have the opportunity to consider if they want to meet us again |
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"Don't take one for the team. How awful to be the person you were just fucking so your partner could get what they wanted, I'd hate it to be me .
If you don't all find each other attractive don't meet. "
This is the only way.  |
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"I would be horrified if I was the cause if then taking I've fur the team. Its so not fair on that person so walk away if you are not into both of them. "
We met a couple where it was obvious that the guy wanted nothing to do with me. It's very unkind |
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If we meet a couple that one of us is not attracted to but we enjoy their company, we still socialise with them and invite them to parties etc. and with other people around there’s a chance they’ll meet people they gel with.
We don’t take one for the team. |
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We don't generally take one for the team, but that doesn't mean that attraction is always equally balanced.
We have a minimum threshold that we need to have met, but we will happily play on that threshold for one of the parties if the other really floats the others boat.
You could call that taking one for the team I suppose, but we simply see it as being pragmatic. If the threshold isn't met we just don't play, no matter how much the other party might love to |
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"Don't take one for the team. How awful to be the person you were just fucking so your partner could get what they wanted, I'd hate it to be me .
If you don't all find each other attractive don't meet. "
This.
It's why contrary to popular belief couples looking for other couples generally have it much harder on here than single men.
There are 4 people that need to be interested/attracted rather than just 2 or 3.
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Yes such a flipping nightmare, but we do manage it as I dare say others do. No one is going to have sex with someone for the sake of it just because we’re all swingers |
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"Don't take one for the team. How awful to be the person you were just fucking so your partner could get what they wanted, I'd hate it to be me .
If you don't all find each other attractive don't meet.
This.
It's why contrary to popular belief couples looking for other couples generally have it much harder on here than single men.
There are 4 people that need to be interested/attracted rather than just 2 or 3.
A"
Completely agree, hence not breaking our couple swap virginity yet, it's hard to find 4 way attraction.
Mrs |
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"Yes such a flipping nightmare, but we do manage it as I dare say others do. No one is going to have sex with someone for the sake of it just because we’re all swingers "
Sometimes I think that's the problem though as that is what some individuals and couples expect. Sometimes it's almost like your a swinger I'm a swinger so let's have sex. |
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That red amber green system works for us and we are a bit mean at times, if any of us has an amber then we wait to see if we get all greens if not then we go and pick our ambers. Any reds and it is a straight no.
Little bit of lowering expectations is fine but absolutely no taking one for the team. |
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"So high when I think about the poster who will post under me
Hopefully it will be a nice hairy minge owner !
Fucking wrong thread sorry.
Why is there not an hysterical laughing emoji! "
Because this time it is true !  Thought it was the horny thread or something like that |
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From the single guys POV, when I have met couples before after the social/chatting for a bit i tend to excuse myself for a few moments (get some water, use the bathroom etc) to give the couple a few minutes alone to talk and decide.
So far I have always come back and play has started pretty quickly so I assume they used the opportunity! |
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We haven’t met many couples due to how hard a four way attraction can be. Whilst I’m straight, the guys still have to get on.
We both have the same taste in women and I pretty much know C’s type in guys, so we virtually know when we meet whether there’s interest or not.
We have tended to play with singles more as it’s much more easier to get the connections right.
K |
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"We haven’t met many couples due to how hard a four way attraction can be. Whilst I’m straight, the guys still have to get on.
We both have the same taste in women and I pretty much know C’s type in guys, so we virtually know when we meet whether there’s interest or not.
Yes this may be the way forward !! Although we will see how the club thing goes for us Saturday !! I have heard great things about Pleasures !!
We have tended to play with singles more as it’s much more easier to get the connections right.
K"
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"We haven’t met many couples due to how hard a four way attraction can be. Whilst I’m straight, the guys still have to get on.
We both have the same taste in women and I pretty much know C’s type in guys, so we virtually know when we meet whether there’s interest or not.
Yes this may be the way forward !! Although we will see how the club thing goes for us Saturday !! I have heard great things about Pleasures !!
We have tended to play with singles more as it’s much more easier to get the connections right.
K"
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