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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all, probably not the best place to as but IV not got many other places to turn. About three months ago I pretty much had a mental breakdown. Work was getting stressfull I was feeling down and a stupid argument at work caused me to have a full mental breakdown. I was always close to bursting into tears, getting paranoid, obsessing over little details and generally really depressed. It sort of eased off when I sorted out the problem with the person at work but it's slowly come back. I have some good days where I'm back to normal but alot of the time I'm worrying about little things that shouldn't matter or so overwhelmed with emotions that I could burst into tears at anytime.

It's time to go the doctors to get treatment, just wanted to see if anyone else has been in the same boat and what the found helped.

Pa I should say IV been suffering from headaches pretty much everyday for all of this year and can't help think that it's all linked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I definitely think making a doctor's appointment will be your 1st step. I hope things improve for you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I definitely think making a doctor's appointment will be your 1st step. I hope things improve for you. X"

Yeah hope so, IV been speaking to seone at work which helps a hell of a lot but I think she's finally had enough of it now

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By *uietlykinkyMan over a year ago

Bristol

Good to share, wherever it is really. I've been in a similar position and at times can feel myself heading back that way. Please do get to the Dr and be honest with how you feel.

In my experience, if you're not managing to sleep properly then that is when it escalates. When I saw the GP I got sleeping medication and within a few days/weeks I could at least deal with it again and slowly got control back.

The headaches may well be linked, it is hard to switch off from how you feel and it takes its toll.

I'm no expert and can only talk about my own experience, everyone is different. But if you want to chat I'll be around.

All the best

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I definitely think making a doctor's appointment will be your 1st step. I hope things improve for you. X

Yeah hope so, IV been speaking to seone at work which helps a hell of a lot but I think she's finally had enough of it now"

It might not be a case of she has had enough but I will say it can be quite difficult if you're the person someone always offloads to. I'm not trying to discourage you I just think if you could maybe speak to someone else as well that might be helpful for you and your work colleague. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi

Good to share, wherever it is really. I've been in a similar position and at times can feel myself heading back that way. Please do get to the Dr and be honest with how you feel.

The headaches may well be linked, it is hard to switch off from how you feel and it takes its toll.

I'm no expert and can only talk about my own experience, everyone is different. But if you want to chat I'll be around.

All the best"

Thanks, just getting it of my chest is a huge relief really. Sleepings a huge problem really. I only get three or four hours a night really. I might suggest that to the doctor then. I want to avoid being on some sort of depression medication for the rest of my life when it could be something else

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By *esparate danMan over a year ago

glasgow

Op do you think this is situational or dispositional

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I definitely think making a doctor's appointment will be your 1st step. I hope things improve for you. X

Yeah hope so, IV been speaking to seone at work which helps a hell of a lot but I think she's finally had enough of it now

Your right, she's pretty much told me she's had enough really! She has helped me greatly though so IV thanked her for everything and suppose got to finally bite the bullet and go the docs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I definitely think making a doctor's appointment will be your 1st step. I hope things improve for you. X

Yeah hope so, IV been speaking to seone at work which helps a hell of a lot but I think she's finally had enough of it now

Your right, she's pretty much told me she's had enough really! She has helped me greatly though so IV thanked her for everything and suppose got to finally bite the bullet and go the docs"

I think that is very sensible. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to hear you are struggling. Yes the GP is the first point of call however it will be sometime before you are seen by a counsellor if that's where they refer you. If you feel like you need to be seen immediately in the meantime call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Op do you think this is situational or dispositional"

I'm not even sure what your asking?!?

It could be work related I suppose, I'm alot worse at work but IV had really bad times when IV been off work too . So not too sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry to hear you are struggling. Yes the GP is the first point of call however it will be sometime before you are seen by a counsellor if that's where they refer you. If you feel like you need to be seen immediately in the meantime call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself

Thanks a lot, I have been writing stuff down as it's a good way to get it out of your system. The 111 number isnt very good really, tried ringing it a few times and always end up being but on hold as it's extremely busy. I have started exercising again and it does help but it doesn't seem to last more than a day or two. I can be having a really good day then all of a sudden I'm hit with it again and I'm back to square one. Might try the journal ideas though, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im up and down like a prostitutes knickers with my mental health. Tried cbt now on citalapram. I found someone to talk to and be fully open and honest with has helped me the most. Letting thoughts and feelings fester in your head only makes things worst try finding someone you can fully trust and wont judge you and open up to them.

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By *ountryfansCouple over a year ago

huntingdon

Sorry to hear this. I (Adie) am struggling with my mental health. Your GP should be able to help or they can refer to mental health team. But if your are in crisis please ring NHS 111 option 2. They are really helpful, you get to talk to a mental health person. You must ring if you feel like hurting yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im up and down like a prostitutes knickers with my mental health. Tried cbt now on citalapram. I found someone to talk to and be fully open and honest with has helped me the most. Letting thoughts and feelings fester in your head only makes things worst try finding someone you can fully trust and wont judge you and open up to them.

I thought about CBD just try and stop me overthinking everything, might try it out. I'm sure the lady at work will still let me talk to her but I just don't want to ruin her day by me telling her all about it everyday

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry to hear this. I (Adie) am struggling with my mental health. Your GP should be able to help or they can refer to mental health team. But if your are in crisis please ring NHS 111 option 2. They are really helpful, you get to talk to a mental health person. You must ring if you feel like hurting yourself."

I'm not going to hurt myself but the number is always busy every time I ring

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By *amantha_JadeWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi OP - Good for you for speaking up and trying to get help for yourself. Sometimes accepting that you’re not ok and need to get some extra support is the hardest step. I agree that your GP will be a good place to start, but there’s lots of other support available if there is a waiting list to get help from them.

I know it’s against forum rules to post phone numbers etc so if you Google ‘shout text service’ the number will come up. Shout is the UK's first and only free, confidential, 24/7 text messaging support service for anyone who is struggling to cope.

Glad to hear that you’ve had some support from your work colleague, but sometimes a fresh pair of ears can bring a new perspective and additional suggestions for some help. Hope you’re feeling much brighter soon. Take one day at a time, do what you can manage and always remember the world is a better place with you in it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi OP - Good for you for speaking up and trying to get help for yourself. Sometimes accepting that you’re not ok and need to get some extra support is the hardest step. I agree that your GP will be a good place to start, but there’s lots of other support available if there is a waiting list to get help from them.

Thanks a lot I will give it a go

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By *esparate danMan over a year ago

glasgow

"Op do you think this is situational or dispositional

I'm not even sure what your asking?!?

It could be work related I suppose, I'm alot worse at work but IV had really bad times when IV been off work too . So not too sure"

Ok its not situational then. Do you think you have a reasonably healthy lifestyle just now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Op do you think this is situational or dispositional

I'm not even sure what your asking?!?

It could be work related I suppose, I'm alot worse at work but IV had really bad times when IV been off work too . So not too sure

Ok its not situational then. Do you think you have a reasonably healthy lifestyle just now "

No IV pretty much been drinking to sleep and smoking for stress the last couple of months

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

It's a nice day, get out for a walk, a jog a cycle, a swim, mow the lawn, dig something, dust something. Stress isn't good, especially in the workplace so getting new habits or distractions will help clear your mind in the short term and help stop you focussing on them.

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By *hekMan over a year ago

N/E London

There are a load of resources, confidential if you prefer, to support you. They are there for people with concerns like you, and above all they are non-judgemental, so even if it came to nothing, I’d suggest reach out.

Your GP is a great idea, if your workplace has an Employee Assistance Program, then these are great place also.

Best wishes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's a nice day, get out for a walk, a jog a cycle, a swim, mow the lawn, dig something, dust something. Stress isn't good, especially in the workplace so getting new habits or distractions will help clear your mind in the short term and help stop you focussing on them."

Your right think I will get out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There are a load of resources, confidential if you prefer, to support you. They are there for people with concerns like you, and above all they are non-judgemental, so even if it came to nothing, I’d suggest reach out.

Your GP is a great idea, if your workplace has an Employee Assistance Program, then these are great place also.

Best wishes!"

I'm going to have a look for some I'm a bit, don't want work knowing really. They will probablyibe me to something else

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"Hi all, probably not the best place to as but IV not got many other places to turn. About three months ago I pretty much had a mental breakdown. Work was getting stressfull I was feeling down and a stupid argument at work caused me to have a full mental breakdown. I was always close to bursting into tears, getting paranoid, obsessing over little details and generally really depressed. It sort of eased off when I sorted out the problem with the person at work but it's slowly come back. I have some good days where I'm back to normal but alot of the time I'm worrying about little things that shouldn't matter or so overwhelmed with emotions that I could burst into tears at anytime.

It's time to go the doctors to get treatment, just wanted to see if anyone else has been in the same boat and what the found helped.

Pa I should say IV been suffering from headaches pretty much everyday for all of this year and can't help think that it's all linked.

Yes.. Been there. . Sorry you're suffering. Start with a gp visit.... Ask for help. Try and do one thing a day that gives you pleasure.Take Baby steps. Be kind to yourself. Not sure here is the best place but if you feel like it... Pm me.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

OP, yes I went through very similar several years ago. In my case one of the triggering factors was the death of my mother and a lot of hurtful family falling out, but this was probably only the final straw on top of years of stress from work and other causes. I have found a mild dose of anti-deps to be helpful, and did get a lot out of some counseling sessions. My feeling though is that these are no sort of magic bullet, and unless you can find and treat the underlying causes any relief will be small and at best temporary.

I am very lucky that I have been able to change some of my work habits and found my boss to be much more helpful than I thought he would be. Some of the family problems I have resolved by just saying "goodbye" - they say you can choose friends, you can't choose family. Believe me, you can choose to add friends to your family, and to exclude some family if they are just too toxic to continue with.

I would say, please do get a medical check over just to make sure there is no underlying reason for your headaches. They could just be tension in your neck and shoulder muscles (if you feel this might be it, try to find a sports massage person, I used one for a while and it was wonderful the difference that a monthly pummelling of my shoulders made). Don't be afraid of hassling your doctor though, your health - mental and physical - is the most important thing you have.

Be good to yourself, don't be afraid to change things about yourself and your way of life. Wishing you well OP. Polly xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, yes I went through very similar several years ago. In my case one of the triggering factors was the death of my mother and a lot of hurtful family falling out, but this was probably only the final straw on top of years of stress from work and other causes. I have found a mild dose of anti-deps to be helpful, and did get a lot out of some counseling sessions. My feeling though is that these are no sort of magic bullet, and unless you can find and treat the underlying causes any relief will be small and at best temporary.

Be good to yourself, don't be afraid to change things about yourself and your way of life. Wishing you well OP. Polly xxx"

Thanks very much hopefully the doctors can sort it out, as for the headaches I went for a CT scan a few months ago but it showed nothing and the doctors sort of give up on it so never went back. I'm going to try to get a MRI scan as IV heard they go into a lot more detail

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's time to go the doctors to get treatment, just wanted to see if anyone else has been in the same boat and what the found helped.

Pa I should say IV been suffering from headaches pretty much everyday for all of this year and can't help think that it's all linked.

Thanks I will keep it in mind

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

Yes I have and medication and time worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I have and medication and time worked for me. "

I'm hoping the same for me, are you still on medication for it or do you come off it after a certain time?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The BCAP accredited counselling directory will have therapist in your area.

You could get an appointment within a week or two if you can pay around 50 for a session.

Might only need one or two sessions just to off load.

Hope things get better

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The BCAP accredited counselling directory will have therapist in your area.

You could get an appointment within a week or two if you can pay around 50 for a session.

Might only need one or two sessions just to off load.

Hope things get better

Thanks I will have a look

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By *ichaelsmyMan over a year ago

douglas

Headaches every day can. Be a problem that you need a scan for

Start with your gp asap

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"Headaches every day can. Be a problem that you need a scan for

Start with your gp asap"

Gp certainly... Maybe cluster migraines?

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Their are plenty of helpful organisation like mind the Samaritans, the crisis and even Hope which is online with useful/helpful information

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Headaches every day can. Be a problem that you need a scan for

Start with your gp asap"

Yeah I had a CT scan but it didn't show anything up, want a MRI scan but it seems hard to get

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Their are plenty of helpful organisation like mind the Samaritans, the crisis and even Hope which is online with useful/helpful information "

Cheers I will look into which ones may be best for me

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Headaches every day can. Be a problem that you need a scan for

Start with your gp asap

Yeah I had a CT scan but it didn't show anything up, want a MRI scan but it seems hard to get

Is it possible that it's hangover headaches if you're using alcohol to cope?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Headaches every day can. Be a problem that you need a scan for

Start with your gp asap

Yeah I had a CT scan but it didn't show anything up, want a MRI scan but it seems hard to get

Is it possible that it's hangover headaches if you're using alcohol to cope?"

No don't think it is, when IV been off work and don't need to sleep on time IV still got it. The headaches started a long time before the mental problems and the drinking more regular

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By *anchester_Muscle88Man over a year ago

Manchester

I know its really hard for a man to come out an say thy have mental health first of all wanna say well done for coming out an saying theres something wrong with me thts the biggest step anyone can take an two look I know how hard it is with mental health iv suffered with it for years myself an almost ended my life not so long ago with a train I'm still suffering with it now as things have gone worse for me an feel like I CNT get a brake from it an feel why's this not coming bk to the person thts caused this but then u think karma will get them bk no need to eprrie about it keep ur chin up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi OP, it's so good that you're reaching for help. Be aware that waiting lists for MH treatment are incredibly long right now. I had a blip at the beginning of July and I'm still waiting for my MH assessment after my gp referred me. They were able to up my AD's while I wait and that's helped a bit.

In the meantime you need to take care of yourself. Drinking yourself to sleep is going to be making you feel a lot worse in the long run. The headspace app has sleep meditiations that might be able to replace the drinking to a degree. Clean eating can also make some difference.

I know your motivation and energy for making these changes won't always be there, but if you can do a little bit some of the time it might just help you ride it out until you get to see a professional.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi OP, it's so good that you're reaching for help. Be aware that waiting lists for MH treatment are incredibly long right now. I had a blip at the beginning of July and I'm still waiting for my MH assessment after my gp referred me. They were able to up my AD's while I wait and that's helped a bit.

Thanks, I will try. My deit has been really bad for ages to be fair, I will have a look at the app though

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

Your right think I will get out!"

Getting out and active has helped me. E.g. starting to do Parkruns (by wheelchair) and I met a nice lady who I have brunch with after. Wheelchair basketball gets me out and brought new friends. Etc.

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"Their are plenty of helpful organisation like mind the Samaritans, the crisis and even Hope which is online with useful/helpful information

Cheers I will look into which ones may be best for me"

Welcome pal

I find them useful at difficult times as I'm going through something similar awaiting for MRI scans lockdown cancelled all

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