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Why are single guys so hard to find???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi, I'm FH. How's it going? 
But seriously, I think it's just because it's easier messaging than actually getting to meet when you think of the effort both take  |
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I do believe single guys are very easy to find. If you want decent, respectful, clean, reliable guys who can have a conversation and have their own teeth, then you might just be over-complicating things. Just lower your standards. |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Really,. I would be interested for some mutual fun with you guys. If you were closer. All I get is interested from other guys. |
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By *d_MarchMan
over a year ago
Market Rasen |
I'm convinced a lot (both men and women) come on here proper horned up and end up getting off over the idea of a meet and once they finish they then can't be bothered anymore and get on with their day. Perhaps it's just bad luck though? It's a numbers game after all |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Being in London. One night stands and fuck buddies I've found easy to be had.
Now I'm looking more for a FWB, lover/ intimate companion, life partner that is harder.
the Quantity is not the issue. It's the quality and compatibility for me. |
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"Well it’s a shame I’m just out of your age range 
Also on your profile you clearly state you’re only looking for couples and definitely not singles of either sex  "
Have to keep those profiles updated as your preferences change. |
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"I'm convinced a lot (both men and women) come on here proper horned up and end up getting off over the idea of a meet and once they finish they then can't be bothered anymore and get on with their day."
I think this happens a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It takes time and effort to find someone that matches what you want and is interested and available at the same times as you.
This is a universal truth for couples/singles/male/female/trans.....
Or as someone said you could just fuck the next available single guy |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
I think for a large sector of single guys they can talk the talk but not walk the walk! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Yup!
Either they say they're accommodate when they don't really
Either go ghost or make plans then go offline until the next day
Either say something ikky that makes me change my mind about meeting them
Either lying on their profile and when you ask them certain things they forget what their profile says and say the opposite
Either say they're single when they're not really and it comes up at some point in the conversation
For me I don't date men in real life so meeting men from fab is the only interaction I have with them so its annoying to say the least
I'd thought I was getting better at spotting time wasters but it appears I've gotten worse hahaha
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Same here.
Actively looking for single male within the same county
Start chatting
Either get ghosted or after 3rd or 4th message I will ask of married ir cohabiting mist say yes . Still searching.
And I have preferences which narrows the search down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do believe single guys are very easy to find. If you want decent, respectful, clean, reliable guys who can have a conversation and have their own teeth, then you might just be over-complicating things. Just lower your standards. "
Satire? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm. As with all connections via Fab it is probably best to think of the people involved as individuals - rather than 'single guys' as one generic unit.
If you're finding it difficult to meet single guys perhaps you need to take a look at your approach: are you addressing any concerns they might have about meeting? Are you chatting for a bit to make sure you're all genuinely on the same page? Meeting in a pressure free social situation before any play?
Am sure you're getting a lot of the same advice above so I'll leave it there. Best of luck with your search! |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Chances are they get bored. I know i do if the messaging just goes on and on. Nobody wants to hang around for that.
If however they disappear after just a couple of messages then it might be something youre saying |
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Trying to find a few now. Loads so positive, i'm not like all the others etc, then when date gets suggested they go hesitant, start asking questions, fade away etc.....Some make it through but often fantasy for many or realised they can't sneak away from the wife that night. To be fair find the same with fair number of single ladies or couples too. Once get into specifics, dates, etc they go quiet and stop messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
We're here...we just lurk in the background trying not to cause a scene...  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a wind up post to just get messages from people and the profile says they are look for fm couples ."
Or maybe they don't want unsolicited mail from men and prefer to do the searching/messaging first |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
We could recommend one… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a wind up post to just get messages from people and the profile says they are look for fm couples .
Or maybe they don't want unsolicited mail from men and prefer to do the searching/messaging first "
This.  |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
It does actually say on your profile we are NOT looking for singles of any kind? But if yous are may i privately message yous? |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
Never had trouble arranging meets with single guys when we were meeting but as we have not been meeting for a while and we say we haven’t got back into it they say their happy to chat until we are and they want the connection but in reality they want to meet now so stop messaging lol.
We do find with single guys a lot come and go off here, usually when they get in a relationship where as couples stick around. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"Well it’s a shame I’m just out of your age range
Also on your profile you clearly state you’re only looking for couples and definitely not singles of either sex "
We do the same it cuts down on messages, those that are really interested will ask the question anyway or we would look ourselves. |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
You are literally 30 minutes from properly the best 2 if not 3 club's in the country why waste your time with private meets? |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
You are literally 30 minutes from properly the best 2 if not 3 club's in the country why waste your time with private meets?"
Perhaps they are trying to avoid klingons  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I remember my partner and I opening our couples profile up to guys a few times to try and find a nice hot reliable one.
After about 15 mins we shout it as it was just sole destroying wading though the rubbish mail you got.
So I understand your pain OP. |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Lol I have this problem with couples!! |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
We had one who blew us out last week. Seemed very keen and made all the right noises but when it came time to meet he didn't show.
Why???
Lots of single guys complain that they never get given a chance on here - well you only have your predecessors to blame for your struggles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
We had one who blew us out last week. Seemed very keen and made all the right noises but when it came time to meet he didn't show.
Why???
Lots of single guys complain that they never get given a chance on here - well you only have your predecessors to blame for your struggles."
Some men are all talk. Notice how I keep my replies short and sweet. Man of action |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
We had one who blew us out last week. Seemed very keen and made all the right noises but when it came time to meet he didn't show.
Why???
Lots of single guys complain that they never get given a chance on here - well you only have your predecessors to blame for your struggles.
Some men are all talk. Notice how I keep my replies short and sweet. Man of action"
Yes this is absolute proof this guy will never let you down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
We had one who blew us out last week. Seemed very keen and made all the right noises but when it came time to meet he didn't show.
Why???
Lots of single guys complain that they never get given a chance on here - well you only have your predecessors to blame for your struggles.
Some men are all talk. Notice how I keep my replies short and sweet. Man of action
Yes this is absolute proof this guy will never let you down."
and never ever give you up |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
We had one who blew us out last week. Seemed very keen and made all the right noises but when it came time to meet he didn't show.
Why???
Lots of single guys complain that they never get given a chance on here - well you only have your predecessors to blame for your struggles.
Some men are all talk. Notice how I keep my replies short and sweet. Man of action
Yes this is absolute proof this guy will never let you down.
and never ever give you up "
Lol I wrote that too but ended up deleting it |
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Depends on what "Kind" of single male you are looking for ?? if you want one who can engage in a conversation with both of you above the level of a hormonally ravaged teenager?? who's idea of "Seduction" invovles yelling "Get ya tits " whilst waving their penis around ? there are some good one's on here but will take some time to find them and of course some aren't really single either ( their updates give it away) and we've been lucky and found afew over the years though but sadly none lately as the last single male we met spent most of the meet playing with his penis (over his trousers though) whilst staring at Mrs4 then informed us he was in a sort of a relationship and then sent us a quite lovelly message informing us he was going to fuck mrs4 silly and dump his load in c*** needless it put Mrs4 off meeting males for awhile but needless to say most males have been 100% perfectly fine !! xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
Yup!
Either they say they're accommodate when they don't really
Either go ghost or make plans then go offline until the next day
Either say something ikky that makes me change my mind about meeting them
Either lying on their profile and when you ask them certain things they forget what their profile says and say the opposite
Either say they're single when they're not really and it comes up at some point in the conversation
For me I don't date men in real life so meeting men from fab is the only interaction I have with them so its annoying to say the least
I'd thought I was getting better at spotting time wasters but it appears I've gotten worse hahaha
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And then they start complaining about how women have it easy on here! surely it shouldn't be this hard lol |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
We could recommend one…"
We could recommend one for you two as well
Or should we go out as a 4?and get it out of our systems |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never struggled finding guys on here, just takes a little digging finding diamonds in the rough. Just chat to people, the people who flake off or disappear before you meet see it as a blessing in disguise. The one's willing to take the time to get to know you, ask questions and show investment into conversations are usually the ones that stick around long enough to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
We could recommend one…
We could recommend one for you two as well
Or should we go out as a 4?and get it out of our systems "
Or a 5?  |
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
Yup!
Either they say they're accommodate when they don't really
Either go ghost or make plans then go offline until the next day
Either say something ikky that makes me change my mind about meeting them
Either lying on their profile and when you ask them certain things they forget what their profile says and say the opposite
Either say they're single when they're not really and it comes up at some point in the conversation
For me I don't date men in real life so meeting men from fab is the only interaction I have with them so its annoying to say the least
I'd thought I was getting better at spotting time wasters but it appears I've gotten worse hahaha
And then they start complaining about how women have it easy on here! surely it shouldn't be this hard lol "
Sorry but that is the very definition of 'having it easy'
All those 'woe is me' reasons given above are a whole load of nothing.
He cant accom? Ok you accom, or go to a hotel.
He goes offline til the next day? I dont even understand that. Whats the problem there?
He said some ikky? Oh ffs do us a favour
He lied on his profile? Well stone me senseless, imagaine that. Who cares
Hes not single? Boo hoo. At least you know now so you can decide or not. Its upto you |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Because we are all sat behind couples profiles? |
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"Well it’s a shame I’m just out of your age range
Also on your profile you clearly state you’re only looking for couples and definitely not singles of either sex
We do the same it cuts down on messages, those that are really interested will ask the question anyway or we would look ourselves."
And then the next forum topic will be complaints about guys ignoring what is on peoples profiles and messaging.
This is half the reason guys get pissed off and just start the scatter gun message approach which also annoys everyone- We're not mind readers! honestly, we can't bloody win!  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Nope never had an issue. Chats fizzle out because people lose interest I don't see why it's a big deal. No one is obliged to meet anyone or to continue to chat if they aren't interested in them. |
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"I've never struggled finding guys on here, just takes a little digging finding diamonds in the rough. Just chat to people, the people who flake off or disappear before you meet see it as a blessing in disguise. The one's willing to take the time to get to know you, ask questions and show investment into conversations are usually the ones that stick around long enough to meet."
unfortunately, the few couples that have approached me here have zero interest in a conversation. Always get the impression someone's bored, figures easy to order a guy like a pizza.
sure there's probably guys happy to just turn up 'blind' but there's no way I'm heading into someone's couple sex-life without at least a basic understanding of what they're into, why they came to me etc
most of my fotos are xdressy but it should be obvious basic to determine if that's what you want or regular blokey me for example
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it’s a shame I’m just out of your age range
Also on your profile you clearly state you’re only looking for couples and definitely not singles of either sex
We do the same it cuts down on messages, those that are really interested will ask the question anyway or we would look ourselves.
And then the next forum topic will be complaints about guys ignoring what is on peoples profiles and messaging.
This is half the reason guys get pissed off and just start the scatter gun message approach which also annoys everyone- We're not mind readers! honestly, we can't bloody win! "
Yeah I thought this.
It's quite contradictory
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
Yup!
Either they say they're accommodate when they don't really
Either go ghost or make plans then go offline until the next day
Either say something ikky that makes me change my mind about meeting them
Either lying on their profile and when you ask them certain things they forget what their profile says and say the opposite
Either say they're single when they're not really and it comes up at some point in the conversation
For me I don't date men in real life so meeting men from fab is the only interaction I have with them so its annoying to say the least
I'd thought I was getting better at spotting time wasters but it appears I've gotten worse hahaha
And then they start complaining about how women have it easy on here! surely it shouldn't be this hard lol
Sorry but that is the very definition of 'having it easy'
All those 'woe is me' reasons given above are a whole load of nothing.
He cant accom? Ok you accom, or go to a hotel.
He goes offline til the next day? I dont even understand that. Whats the problem there?
He said some ikky? Oh ffs do us a favour
He lied on his profile? Well stone me senseless, imagaine that. Who cares
Hes not single? Boo hoo. At least you know now so you can decide or not. Its upto you"
Ok hun! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn’t clubs be a good idea? I’m a single bloke and used to go to a few clubs pre lockdown, seemed to be a lot more single blokes than women so I stopped going |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wouldn’t clubs be a good idea? I’m a single bloke and used to go to a few clubs pre lockdown, seemed to be a lot more single blokes than women so I stopped going "
The thought of going to a club is very daunting to some people, myself included |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
great post, you are now going to get hundreds if not thousands of requests to meet you;-) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???
We had one who blew us out last week. Seemed very keen and made all the right noises but when it came time to meet he didn't show.
Why???
Lots of single guys complain that they never get given a chance on here - well you only have your predecessors to blame for your struggles.
Some men are all talk. Notice how I keep my replies short and sweet. Man of action
Yes this is absolute proof this guy will never let you down."
Proof is in the pegging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
Suggestion, We borrow a husband with permission, it works for us |
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"This is a wind up post to just get messages from people and the profile says they are look for fm couples ."
It’s not, a lot of couples don’t advertise as they like to limit quantity of who messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a wind up post to just get messages from people and the profile says they are look for fm couples .
It’s not, a lot of couples don’t advertise as they like to limit quantity of who messages"
Correct |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been actively looking for a single guy for quite some time now.
We start chatting and all is well then most just stop messaging or just disappear ?
Does anyone else have this trouble???"
My guess is the single guys you chat to are not really single. |
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