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Why hotlist not friend list
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I add as a friend once I have met them facetoface
Hotlist is for new friends but also my perv list and gets edited often.... bit of a fab goldfish, I get bored perving them, or turned off, or things stall in chat and I move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Admire from afar, unless I find a connection. I am guessing all of you ladies get lots of messages, so don’t want to add to the avalanche of hi, your sexy messages that must arrive daily |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing ventured, nothing gained! Do you need some dutch courage?
A bottle of white wine and she's anybody's apparently.. "
She sounds like my idea of a great night |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have people you like on your hotlist, do you ever message them and see where it goes??
Or are you happy just admiring from afar?
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I tend to have people on my hot list that I have spotted that I like the look of but haven't gotten the time to message there and then, I will then go over it when I do get the time and message them, if I get a no or don't get a response after a day or so I will just remove them off it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just admire from afar. They have great pics but just feel there's no way they'd ever meet me or even engage in a conversation. I have been bold once or twice and let them know but it's never really come to much.
I have been lucky enough through the forums though where people from my hotlist have made to my friends list but it's always been them initiating it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have people you like on your hotlist, do you ever message them and see where it goes??
Or are you happy just admiring from afar?
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For the most part, I hotlist people with the intention of making friends.
Buuut there are some that I don't fit the bill for, but they are just so damn hot that a perve from afar will have to do |
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By *humper.Man
over a year ago
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A bit of both. There's some on my hotlist that state in their bios that they're not looking for single males, so I just creep quietly. Like a gentleman.
Others, I let my attraction be known.
Then there's the odd one who repels all forms of contact and interaction, which only add to the want. |
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"If you have people you like on your hotlist, do you ever message them and see where it goes??
Or are you happy just admiring from afar?
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Occasionally. A number of friends have ended up there via that route.
There are a number of people on our hot list we can see would not be into us and we respect that. Some are too far away to make it likely we'd ever meet so only exceptional people end up on our friends list that way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing ventured, nothing gained! Do you need some dutch courage? "
Ah no, I usually message them.
Then when they reject me I just admire from afar!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I add as a friend once I have met them facetoface
Hotlist is for new friends but also my perv list and gets edited often.... bit of a fab goldfish, I get bored perving them, or turned off, or things stall in chat and I move on"
I may adopt this approach |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A bit of both. There's some on my hotlist that state in their bios that they're not looking for single males, so I just creep quietly. Like a gentleman.
Others, I let my attraction be known.
Then there's the odd one who repels all forms of contact and interaction, which only add to the want. "
Ah the old treat em mean!!
This actually works very well on me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends really, if we're talking shit on the forum and we seem to be on that wavelength then sure, why not.
Trouble is I'm probably more than happy to talk shit, for days, that people probably think I'm borderline disinterested in everything else that goes on here, because I think hummus is important, and frittatas, also pancakes, definitely TV shows, good bands, cakey cakes and automotive repairs.
Oh sartorial elegance as well.
Yeah, probably just need to go to catering college tbh. |
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"If you have people you like on your hotlist, do you ever message them and see where it goes??
Or are you happy just admiring from afar?
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I have done in the past, and I'm pretty sure I've always gotten precisely nowhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dora rarely scrolls Fab single guy profiles as she becomes weary of the cock pictures.
So it’s up to me to scroll and add guys she might be interested in to the hotlist.
Once she gives the nod I message if they haven’t already. |
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My hotlist is for people I think are really hot (but may be too far away to seriously consider meeting, or may just not be looking for guys like me).
My friends list is for people I consider friends, or new friends.
I’ll message people from my hotlist if there’s a reason to. Something to chat about. But probably not just out of the blue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I add as a friend once I have met them facetoface
Hotlist is for new friends but also my perv list and gets edited often.... bit of a fab goldfish, I get bored perving them, or turned off, or things stall in chat and I move on"
Same here, hotlist we chat, the chatting stops, out they go, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have people you like on your hotlist, do you ever message them and see where it goes??
Or are you happy just admiring from afar?
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Just tryna fuck and maybe provide the boyfriend experience once in a while |
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"My hotlist is for people I think are really hot (but may be too far away to seriously consider meeting, or may just not be looking for guys like me).
My friends list is for people I consider friends, or new friends.
I’ll message people from my hotlist if there’s a reason to. Something to chat about. But probably not just out of the blue."
This for me, too.
Though I currently only have one person on my hotlist x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, a few men from my hotlist have become friends. Usually via forum chats though. Been some times since I've had the nerve to message, even if they've looked at my profile and fabbed photos |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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I have 0 people in my hotlist...if I am in someone's hotlist, but they never messaged me (although at this moment in time it is only women that can message me) or at least winked at me and just want to "admire" from a far...well what ever brings you happiness, but for those that are in my friends list who have made an effort to speak to me and acknowledge me as a living breathing human and get to know me as a person and not just a profile with some pics/videos, to you my friends I have the utmost of respect and gratitude |
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I've always just messaged if I liked the look of someone, and they've been added to my friends list when we've chatted more or met...shy bairns get nowt, as my grandma used to say.
I've never really used my hotlist to perv at people I fancy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have 0 people in my hotlist...if I am in someone's hotlist, but they never messaged me (although at this moment in time it is only women that can message me) or at least winked at me and just want to "admire" from a far...well what ever brings you happiness, but for those that are in my friends list who have made an effort to speak to me and acknowledge me as a living breathing human and get to know me as a person and not just a profile with some pics/videos, to you my friends I have the utmost of respect and gratitude "
Sorry I got distracted by your videos.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This thread seems to lead nicely into another ‘message someone on your hotlist to tell them about it’ kind of thread… "
Oh no, that's far too sociable for me. |
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I keep things simple
Hotlist - admiring from afar
Friends - i have as a friends in my friends list who i have met
Chat - i chat to anyone as long they have read my profile and respected the filters
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hotlist is mainly a visual thing for me, i like the pictures that the hotlist profile posts.
Many profiles have very specific criteria that they are looking for & I think,.."ok that's not me whatsoever." So I don't send a friend request...it's not really me being shy as such.I read what they're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happy to admire from afar
Occasionally drop them a message of appreciation "
This I always err on the side of caution, send the compliment and expect nothing back, I just hope I made them smile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend "
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar. "
You know I'm brave. And Jesus woman... my face is in mine... you'd have to be brave for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
You know I'm brave. And Jesus woman... my face is in mine... you'd have to be brave for that "
It's not my face I'm bothered about |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
You know I'm brave. And Jesus woman... my face is in mine... you'd have to be brave for that
It's not my face I'm bothered about "
Intriguing... |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar. "
I fit that description! |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
You know I'm brave. And Jesus woman... my face is in mine... you'd have to be brave for that "
I'm brave! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
You know I'm brave. And Jesus woman... my face is in mine... you'd have to be brave for that
It's not my face I'm bothered about
Intriguing... "
Just scroll quickly past those pictures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
I fit that description! "
Which one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have people you like on your hotlist, do you ever message them and see where it goes??
Or are you happy just admiring from afar?
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I have a couple of ladies and couples where I sit just outside their filters. I think they are all beautiful and should they choose to change filters id happily say hi |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
I fit that description!
Which one "
The dickhead part. Not quite utter though I guess. And you do sort of communicate with me but the dickhead part is true! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
You know I'm brave. And Jesus woman... my face is in mine... you'd have to be brave for that
It's not my face I'm bothered about
Intriguing...
Just scroll quickly past those pictures. "
THOSE pictures...
You know it makes sense |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Because Raven doesn't want to be my friend
I'm ashamed of my pictures. Are you feeling brave?
But in question to the OP, there's a LOT of people I like perving on who are in the hotlist, but they are either utter dickheads so I don't want to actually communicate with them or I'm not what they're looking for so I just stalk them from afar.
You know I'm brave. And Jesus woman... my face is in mine... you'd have to be brave for that
I'm brave! "
You must be |
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I chat to a few on my hotlist. I add to my friends list the people I've met, hotlist could go either way.
I have people on my hotlist I dont message, either because of geography or relationship status or some other reason. I'm just wanting to perv on their photos when they post them. It's not because I want to meet them but stop myself approaching them though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not my face I'm bothered about
If you have two vaginas, that’s nothing to worry about
Last time I send you any pictures. "
Hold on, did I assume correctly |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I hotlist because apparently it’s frowned upon to wank over your friends.
The mr
Oh crap
I was never told this in my life so I'm pleading ignorance"
Can we do that? |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"If you have people you like on your hotlist, do you ever message them and see where it goes??
Or are you happy just admiring from afar?
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I do believe you're allowed to message people on your hotlist, regardless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hotlist because apparently it’s frowned upon to wank over your friends.
The mr
Oh crap
I was never told this in my life so I'm pleading ignorance
Can we do that? "
Absolutely.. we're friends aren't we |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hotlist because apparently it’s frowned upon to wank over your friends.
The mr
Oh crap
I was never told this in my life so I'm pleading ignorance
Can we do that?
Absolutely.. we're friends aren't we "
Not anymore just in the hotlist |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I hotlist because apparently it’s frowned upon to wank over your friends.
The mr
Oh crap
I was never told this in my life so I'm pleading ignorance
Can we do that?
Absolutely.. we're friends aren't we "
Yes... yes we are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hotlist because apparently it’s frowned upon to wank over your friends.
The mr
Oh crap
I was never told this in my life so I'm pleading ignorance
Can we do that?
Absolutely.. we're friends aren't we
Yes... yes we are "
Therefore you definitely can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question if you delete someone from your friend list, will they notice?"
Depends on how many people they have on their list.
They don't get a notification but they would see you're not on the list anymore.
If they have 1,000's on their friend list they may not notice you're gone. |
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I recently because of a forum thread put as my update am I on your hotlist. It did embolden some to get in touch and generated some good conversations. The problem is some will block anyone who contacts them if they don't see a possible future. So if you are admiring from afar you may lose the chance to perv their profile. |
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