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By *l 1959 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

Instead I received a lecture about boundaries and if I couldn’t respect her age limits, then how could she trust me to respect her in bed! Her profile didn’t block my message being sent so why the very rude reply or am I being unreasonable?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lesson learned .. Profiles are there for a reason

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Welcome to fab

Just ignore it op. Maybe you caught her in a bad mood. Maybe you pushed a button others have pushed in the past. Just let it go and move on.

If someone replied like that to me to my face, I’d walk away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You chances your arm and you got an answer.

Wasn’t the one you wanted but move on

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

You shot your shot and got shot down. I do think she over reacted but you admit you know you were outside of her preferences. 6 of one half a dozen of the other.

Block her and move on.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

You have to kiss many lady frogs before you find your princess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To an extent yes because yours was probably the 20th message that day that took their shot. It's exhausting receiving endless messages that is quite clear they haven't read the profile or chosen to ignore it anyway. But is it acceptable to be really rude to someone on here, no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have to kiss many lady frogs before you find your princess

This

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By *JstarsoloWoman over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

That's just like normal life. Sometimes people have an off day and you get the backlash.

You're a complete stranger sending an unsolicited message to a lady who's not interested in you because you're outside her age range. That may have been the umpteenth unsolicited message she had that day.

I agree no need for rudeness, but just move on.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think there are lots of folks on fab who think they have clear boundaries, but they don't

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

She's not the one who was being rude. You were.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Come on ..the guys 63 ...her upper limit was 60 ..there's zero difference between those two ages in the scheme of things ...if she was cougarizing and only wanting guys up to 45 I'd say the op would be way off beam..but 60 to 63 is marginal

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By *JstarsoloWoman over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

"Come on ..the guys 63 ...her upper limit was 60 ..there's zero difference between those two ages in the scheme of things ...if she was cougarizing and only wanting guys up to 45 I'd say the op would be way off beam..but 60 to 63 is marginal

But it did matter to her? 3 years may be no difference to you, but it clearly did to her. That's her choice! No point flogging a dead horse. Respect her choices.

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

Unless it's Fab 63...

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"Come on ..the guys 63 ...her upper limit was 60"

That should be the end of the discussion. As you said, that's her upper limit. And it should be respected.

Whether the two numbers seem the same to you is irrelevant. They clearly don't to her.

And the OP knew this, but decided to ignore her stated limits. I honestly don't see anything rude about her response.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

But it did matter to her? 3 years may be no difference to you, but it clearly did to her. That's her choice! No point flogging a dead horse. Respect her choices."

True ..its her perogative..just block and move on...were all entitled to be choosy

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

"She's not the one who was being rude. You were."
so ..its rude to send someone a nice message if your three years over their age limit?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

Obviously I haven't seen your initial message or the reply

But the basic sentiment is correct & something i often say myself, if people can't accept the boundaries stated in my profile how could I possibly safely believe theylll respect them if we were to ever be alone naked

It's a respect thing, too many people on here (I won't say guys because I've had the same from couples profiles too) only look at the photos or they'll read the bio but think 'oh she's said that but I'm sure she'll change her mind if we get chatting'

Think about it, I know we arent necessarily talking about sex but imagine we'd just met in a bar, things were getting flirty, you suggest we get a room, I say no, I'd like to think you wouldn't try to change my mind then, I'd like to hope you'd accept no as a no face to face, & if you would accepted my barrier face to face, why do you see it as a flexible line because we are online

You don't know someone's history, they may have had a bad experience, to me peoples boundaries are there for a reason & we should respect them not try and bend them to suit our own agenda

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

You knew you didn't meet her profile but you tried it on anyway?

Why did you think this was acceptable?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Obviously I haven't seen your initial message or the reply

You don't know someone's history, they may have had a bad experience, to me peoples boundaries are there for a reason & we should respect them not try and bend them to suit our own agenda "

Well put.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I honestly don't see anything rude about her response."

Ripping into guy? (Maybe, we only heard his side of the story)

I always though a polite no is much better than what the op described. But you don’t see anything g wrong with it? Sure, some people are okay with that I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

Did she say “ if I couldn’t respect her age limits, then how could she trust me to respect her in bed”, or was she rude, because I don’t consider the former to be rude.

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By *l 1959 OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Thank you for all your comments. I’m happy to move on don’t get me wrong. My main point is that I didn’t consider so close to an age limit a boundary…my mistake maybe, but the rudeness of the reply shocked me. If I had of know that was a boundary I wouldn’t have messaged.

Normally if people have age related issues it won’t let you send the message if outside range. Lesson learned folks…good day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

Did she say “ if I couldn’t respect her age limits, then how could she trust me to respect her in bed”, or was she rude, because I don’t consider the former to be rude. "

A lecture. I read it as a lecture.

And if I look back to College or a lecture of my parents, I normally got bored because they were long winded.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Normally if people have age related issues it won’t let you send the message if outside range. Lesson learned folks…good day."

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

She had a point, not rude at all.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

"She's not the one who was being rude. You were.so ..its rude to send someone a nice message if your three years over their age limit?

As harsh as it seems yes, if it's clear from their profile which in this case it was because of the OPs age that you are not what they are looking you are wasting their time messaging

Guys complain constantly about not getting meets and it's partly because Womens inboxes are flooded with messages from people that don't meet their profile requirements

Those messages even when just bulk deleted take time to go through/delete, she'll browse a few in the hope they are from someone she's interested in meeting, she'll feel deflated & sexually fustrated (yes we get sexually fustrated too) that it's message after message from people hoping that she'll change what sfe is looking for just for them

Just as guys find it fustrating when they see 20 personally crafted messages ignored, we feel the same fustrations at receiving those messages at being expected to read them when it's clear you want us to push our boundaries in order to accommodate you

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By *JstarsoloWoman over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

" My main point is that I didn’t consider so close to an age limit a boundary…my mistake. "

Yes, it was your mistake.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Obviously I haven't seen your initial message or the reply

You don't know someone's history, they may have had a bad experience, to me peoples boundaries are there for a reason & we should respect them not try and bend them to suit our own agenda "

Absolutely this.

I wish men could see how this place can be for women. Now I'm far from a looker and even I get fed up with the number of inane messages I get. Profiles and our choices are there for a reason. 3 years or 30, it still shows disrespect to the woman who has stated her preferences. It is frustrating when people blatantly ignore them.

I've also found if you reply 'no thank you' and are polite 99.9% of the time the other person sees that as further opportunity to convince you you are 'wrong'. This leads to women either just deleting the message without replying (something we also get criticised for) or having to be rude to ensure that doesn't happen. Women's boundaries are there for a reason. Just respect them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s not rude, she’s being up front, explaining her reasoning for what she has on her profile and her reason for not being interested. If she’d blocked and deleted she’d probably be ‘rude’ too. If she’d responded, chatted and then said she wasn’t interested, she’d have probably got accused of being a ‘time waster’.

You can’t win.

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"I honestly don't see anything rude about her response.

Ripping into guy? (Maybe, we only heard his side of the story)

I always though a polite no is much better than what the op described. But you don’t see anything g wrong with it? Sure, some people are okay with that I suppose. "

No, I don't see anything wrong with her response. And I did not read it as a 'ripping into.'

Incidentally, she had already given him a polite no *before* he messaged.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple over a year ago

Coventry

On the point of age ranges fab isn't just for communicating with people you want sex with. Some keep the age filters wide so they can communicate with others outside their age ranges for a range of reasons such as party information or simply have freinds on the scene outside of the range.

As to the ladies point, it's a fair point. Although I think just a simple no thanks and block or just block probably would have sufficed.

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"..its rude to send someone a nice message if your three years over their age limit?

Now you get it!

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By *ellhungvweMan over a year ago

Cheltenham

It does seem like an over reaction to me but, as the say up North: now’t as strange as folk.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

No one on here should be rude or disrespectful to anyone

However she is correct. You knowingly messaged her knowing that you weren't what she was looking for?

You've acknowledged that you're out of her age range and still messaged her.

If you can't respect that boundary online how does she know that you'll respect other boundaries in person?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for all your comments. I’m happy to move on don’t get me wrong. My main point is that I didn’t consider so close to an age limit a boundary…my mistake maybe, but the rudeness of the reply shocked me. If I had of know that was a boundary I wouldn’t have messaged.

Normally if people have age related issues it won’t let you send the message if outside range. Lesson learned folks…good day."

You did know it was a boundary. You just decided that your need to message her was greater.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Normally if people have age related issues it won’t let you send the message if outside range. Lesson learned folks…good day."

How did you not know that age was a boundary when you have an age preference stated on your own profile?

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

I react the same way when someone messages me when they’re the opposite of what my profile is looking for. I, like the lady you messaged, find it completely disrespectful and a clear sign that what I’m looking for isn’t important to the sender.

You’ve done exactly that. You saw her, liked her, saw you weren’t what she was looking for but decided to pursue her anyway. It’s rude and shows you value your satisfaction above hers and don’t respect boundaries. That would never be the basis of a successful meet.

You probably didn’t intend on making her feel the way you did, but it’s a probably a sharp lesson on just taking the profile at face value and moving on if you’re not what they’re looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I honestly don't see anything rude about her response.

Ripping into guy? (Maybe, we only heard his side of the story)

I always though a polite no is much better than what the op described. But you don’t see anything g wrong with it? Sure, some people are okay with that I suppose.

No, I don't see anything wrong with her response. And I did not read it as a 'ripping into.'

We all see politeness a different way.

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By *JstarsoloWoman over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

It's interesting that people invariably talk about politeness and rudeness in the context of not getting what they want.

What about thinking about it from the perspective of the other person receiving that unwanted and unsolicited message? A little self reflection probably wouldn't go amiss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Instead I received a lecture about boundaries and if I couldn’t respect her age limits,.."

Your older than her, she should respect you!…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Normally if people have age related issues it won’t let you send the message if outside range. Lesson learned folks…good day."

There are plenty of features on fab that people are unaware of. Perhaps she wasn't aware of being able to block messages from those outside of her criteria.

We'll never know.

Not sure it's worth the grey cells tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t see that as a rude reply?

You’re the one that didn’t respect her age limit.

You messaged and she replied

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to consider guys outside of my preferences on the off chance a slightly younger guy might fit my likes as far as personality traits go, but older than stated is a hard no for me. I can't choose either/or so decided to leave that filter open and try it out.

But every time I got a message from someone and replied no thank you I'd get 2 or 3 follow ups saying 'age is just a number'

Eh, no, it's not

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

"You chances your arm and you got an answer.

Wasn’t the one you wanted but move on"

This

she found you rude for not remotely respecting her age range

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By *lym4realCouple over a year ago

plymouth

10 out 10 for actually reading her profile ?? and this site would be alot better if more actually did read the profiles and not just the pictures !!

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By *ontrosebicoupMan over a year ago

MONTROSE

I think females get swamped with mails on here so the age limits are there for a reason just move on

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

I think the lady in question was absolutely correct. You messaged her knowing you were not in the age range she was looking for. To you that didn't matter, but to her it was not what she wanted.

But rather than just deleting your message, as many women would do, she took the time to reply to you. She told you that she wasn't interested and also explained her reasons letting you understand how she saw the situation.

She gave you a massive gift, the ability to see things how women do and how we interpret messages and have to consider our safety at all times. We are looking out for red flags such as men that dont respect what we clearly state.

You seem shocked that you were told off. But you ought to be grateful that she replied to you and explained her reasoning for rejecting you.

This can be a very difficult site,,especially for single women and understanding and respect would go a long way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If there’s clear preferences stated on a profile you should respect them. The amount of chancers on here probably meant you weren’t the first to try so you received the backlash.

If someone doesn’t respect our age preferences what else won’t they respect?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t see that as a rude reply?

You’re the one that didn’t respect her age limit.

You messaged and she replied "

You can’t win on here. Don’t reply and you’re rude. Reply and you’re rude

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Age preferences are there for a reason op ,I got sick of people who were miles out of them ,so I use filters now to block certain ages from messaging.

There's no need for rudeness ,but she is correct in that you didn't respect her wishes and hoped she'd made an exception for you.

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

"I think the lady in question was absolutely correct. You messaged her knowing you were not in the age range she was looking for. To you that didn't matter, but to her it was not what she wanted.

You seem shocked that you were told off. But you ought to be grateful that she replied to you and explained her reasoning for rejecting you.

This can be a very difficult site,,especially for single women and understanding and respect would go a long way."

Exactly this. Well put.

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"We all see politeness a different way."

Agreed. Here's how I see politeness - she said her upper limit was 60. It is polite to respect that.

The OP was rude in dismissing her very clearly stated boundary and she informed him of his rudeness. It was polite of her to even respond.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It still doesn’t cost anything to comeback with a polite reply.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

I hope you don't mind me doing something that you've asked me not to.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I would be very interested in how you come to the conclusion that her reply was 'rude' and your approach was 'very polite' ?

Seriously... i'm interested

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"You have to kiss many lady frogs before you find your princess

This

Yiddip!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"On the point of age ranges fab isn't just for communicating with people you want sex with. Some keep the age filters wide so they can communicate with others outside their age ranges for a range of reasons such as party information or simply have freinds on the scene outside of the range.

As to the ladies point, it's a fair point. Although I think just a simple no thanks and block or just block probably would have sufficed. "

Then the men start at thread saying ....... Mummy I was nice and polite and she blocked me......

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By *idnight RamblerMan over a year ago

Pershore

You've dodged a bullet there matey.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

Whilst I agree her reaction was a bit over the top (and I would have just ignored the message), as many others have said, it’s irritating when people don’t respect your boundaries and think that they might be the exception to the rule and still try their luck messaging. It could have been the 20th message she’d had that day of a similar nature, so it does get wearing pretty quickly.

That being said, if age boundaries are a particular hard limit, just filter your messages to limit the ages of those who can message you. Mine are set at my absolute top and bottom end and I wouldn’t consider anyone outside of that, regardless of the content of their message/ looks etc

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

"Whilst I agree her reaction was a bit over the top (and I would have just ignored the message), as many others have said, it’s irritating when people don’t respect your boundaries and think that they might be the exception to the rule and still try their luck messaging. It could have been the 20th message she’d had that day of a similar nature, so it does get wearing pretty quickly.

this ..well said

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why are people saying 'her reaction was over the top' ......

None of you read it. Certainly didn't hear it.

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By *estlands4Man over a year ago

Sidmouth

The thing with age ranges is they often get set and then never change - it’s a shame you can’t set an age spread as in say 15 years older or younger so it moves as you do.

If a fabber has been here say 5 years and not changed their limits then they are effectively going for people 5 years younger than they first decided and missing out on people 5 years older…

If all that makes sense

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"The thing with age ranges is they often get set and then never change - it’s a shame you can’t set an age spread as in say 15 years older or younger so it moves as you do.

If a fabber has been here say 5 years and not changed their limits then they are effectively going for people 5 years younger than they first decided and missing out on people 5 years older…

If all that makes sense

It makes sense but it's not a better system as peoples tastes change too ..... just because i get older doesn't mean the type of man I look for does......

It's best to give people control of their own filter and best for others to respect them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The thing with age ranges is they often get set and then never change - it’s a shame you can’t set an age spread as in say 15 years older or younger so it moves as you do.

If a fabber has been here say 5 years and not changed their limits then they are effectively going for people 5 years younger than they first decided and missing out on people 5 years older…

If all that makes sense

I personally don’t see how that works…

The age range you are attracted to isn’t necessarily going to change as you get older

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By *amantha_JadeWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

I feel it would have took more energy for her to reply than to just ignore/ delete/ block. My ‘preferred’ age range is late 30’s/early 40’s but still have my filters set to allow up to age 50 to message on the slight off chance that I might be attracted to them. If this lady had an absolute zero tolerance to anyone outside 60, why not just set her filters as such

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel it would have took more energy for her to reply than to just ignore/ delete/ block. My ‘preferred’ age range is late 30’s/early 40’s but still have my filters set to allow up to age 50 to message on the slight off chance that I might be attracted to them. If this lady had an absolute zero tolerance to anyone outside 60, why not just set her filters as such

We won’t meet anyone outside our age range but don’t set filters because we chat to people from the forums.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

"We won’t meet anyone outside our age range but don’t set filters because we chat to people from the forums. "

Fair point

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By *estlands4Man over a year ago

Sidmouth

"The thing with age ranges is they often get set and then never change - it’s a shame you can’t set an age spread as in say 15 years older or younger so it moves as you do.

If a fabber has been here say 5 years and not changed their limits then they are effectively going for people 5 years younger than they first decided and missing out on people 5 years older…

If all that makes sense

It makes sense but it's not a better system as peoples tastes change too ..... just because i get older doesn't mean the type of man I look for does......

It's best to give people control of their own filter and best for others to respect them."

Control is fine my point is how many people set an age limit when they join and never think to change them?

And as another post said if age limits are hard limits set filters accordingly if they are preferred but could be convinced a year or so either way then you would you not expect to receive messages from people slightly outside the age limits?

Age is but a number - I’m now 57 and I remember when I turned 55 a lot of people who I could have messaged previously were suddenly out of my reach - I’m a fairly “young minded” 57 I’ve met people in their 40’s who appear older or less fit etc

An interesting debate though

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Not worth worrying about. Put her on your block list and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The thing with age ranges is they often get set and then never change - it’s a shame you can’t set an age spread as in say 15 years older or younger so it moves as you do.

If a fabber has been here say 5 years and not changed their limits then they are effectively going for people 5 years younger than they first decided and missing out on people 5 years older…

If all that makes sense

It makes sense but it's not a better system as peoples tastes change too ..... just because i get older doesn't mean the type of man I look for does......

It's best to give people control of their own filter and best for others to respect them.

Control is fine my point is how many people set an age limit when they join and never think to change them?

An interesting debate though

Even if they’ve never changed their age range it isn’t up to you or anyone else to decide that it might be wrong. Just respect what is written and message someone else.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple over a year ago

Stansted

Yep sounds like a big overreaction on her part for a couple of years. Reminder that plenty of ladies can be as rude as some men. Saying that she might well have dealt with lots of crap messages and aggressive men all day so snapped. Happens to us sometimes. The joys of Fab.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple over a year ago

Stansted

"She's not the one who was being rude. You were.so ..its rude to send someone a nice message if your three years over their age limit?

No it's not. A polite no would have sufficed but Fab rules are that ladies can do no wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She might not have blocked messages to facilitate conversations not about meets.

I don't have guys blocked for that reason.

But ya you ignored her preferences. How she responds is her perogative.

Just gotta accept it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For perspective for people who think it’s an overreaction here is an example of the sort of message lots of us receive.

Random person - “hi”

Us - “Sorry but you’re out of our age range”

RP - “Only just lmfao”

End of conversation.

Three weeks later…

RP - “Hi again”

Us - “Again?”

RP - “Yeah we’ve chatted before”

Us - “What about?”

RP - “Just a friendly hello and a bit of conversation”

Us - “Did we mention and age range?”

RP - “Maybe

”

Blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not shocked by the reaction tbh profiles exist for a reason. When 90% of guys who message don’t meet what is clearly specified on your profile it gets annoying!

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By *haggydogMan over a year ago

Brooklands/London

I'm 52. It's rare for me to message anybody for a meet. But occasionally I do. There's a few people on here that I really fancy. But have their age barrier starting at 53. I respect that and wouldn't bother to message them. It's that simple.

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"A polite no would have sufficed "

The "polite no" was in her profile. He had a polite no before he even messaged.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think that 'really liking' someones profile is a good enough reason to message someone who specified you as out of their range. You were never going to get the answer you wanted, but in a glass half full sense, you got a reply!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She's not the one who was being rude. You were.so ..its rude to send someone a nice message if your three years over their age limit?

No it's not. A polite no would have sufficed but Fab rules are that ladies can do no wrong

To be fair though her response was polite and she already had no with the set age range.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not shocked by the reaction tbh profiles exist for a reason. When 90% of guys who message don’t meet what is clearly specified on your profile it gets annoying! "

I’d hate to be one of those guys that annoyed you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's heartening that so many guys are defending the woman's boundary on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's heartening that so many guys are defending the woman's boundary on this thread.

I mean I agree... but it's fab she could have messaged him first seen multiple vag pics abused his dead puppy and then blocked him and there would be guys on here defending her boundaries

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's heartening that so many guys are defending the woman's boundary on this thread.

I mean I agree... but it's fab she could have messaged him first seen multiple vag pics abused his dead puppy and then blocked him and there would be guys on here defending her boundaries

Oh hush

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman over a year ago

LEEDS

Of course she wasn't been rude. Just honest and to the point.

We all have our preferences and you chose to ignore that... so quite rightly you got shot down a peg.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always respect what the profile states. She didn’t ask you to message her. She didn’t have to reply at all. It’s really unattractive when people take their chances and ignore preferences. Especially when there’s multiple messages a day. I find that more rude than her response.

This is why I don’t reply anymore! It’s easier!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She isn't wrong though.

You clearly read her profile which stated her limits, you still decided to contact her despite her already stating her limits.

You decided that your desire for her was more important that her limits.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

Wow! Sounds like u dodged a bullet tbh x

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By *ull English with teaMan over a year ago

London

The woman was right.

I’ve deliberately set my age range at 18-99 years and had to turn down a rather fit lady who was 102 the other week. But this was my choice.

Unsurprisingly she hadn’t read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She isn't wrong though.

You clearly read her profile which stated her limits, you still decided to contact her despite her already stating her limits.

You decided that your desire for her was more important that her limits.

This

We all recieve messages from ppl we clearly state we arent seeking. Its annoying frankly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

No means maybe... I can see the correlation in a single womens mind tbh.

Doesn't make it true for each person who ignores her preferences but why take the chance when it can be used as another filter.

I don't necessarily agree that it needs to be said in a reply but the thought process I get

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

Not respecting a profile is the first impression you give someone, surely you'd want that first

impression to be a good one

It's sets the tone for future interactions, if you show no respect in an initial approach, it's gives little hope to the recipient that things will improve

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I was sitting in my garden the other day. A sign on my garden gate said no salespeople please. A salesperson came through my gate and said ... 'Hey, I see you don't want any salespeople so I hope you don't mind but is it okay that i've come through your gate? and I said .......

Hey, that's okay. I put the sign there so that you can ignore it. Thanks for coming through the gate. Is there anything else I can do for you ? A shag perhaps ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

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By *ull English with teaMan over a year ago

London

"I was sitting in my garden the other day. A sign on my garden gate said no salespeople please. A salesperson came through my gate and said ... 'Hey, I see you don't want any salespeople so I hope you don't mind but is it okay that i've come through your gate? and I said .......

Hey, that's okay. I put the sign there so that you can ignore it. Thanks for coming through the gate. Is there anything else I can do for you ? A shag perhaps ?"

Never happened…

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's really annoying when people "shoot their shot" when a profile of specific about what we're looking for.

You were in the wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

Not respecting a profile is the first impression you give someone, surely you'd want that first

impression to be a good one

It's sets the tone for future interactions, if you show no respect in an initial approach, it's gives little hope to the recipient that things will improve

But what if..just if...it was an incredible opening message and by chance you actually fancied this guy that was outside of your age limit you had put on a fab profile. Wouldn't it be feasible that some people dismiss their own age preferences they set. I had a woman message me the other day, I was 5 years under the age she set...and I'm fat (again not her preference)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

Not respecting a profile is the first impression you give someone, surely you'd want that first

impression to be a good one

It's sets the tone for future interactions, if you show no respect in an initial approach, it's gives little hope to the recipient that things will improve

She messaged you though. That’s her choice. Why is it so hard to respect someone’s choice? I don’t understand.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hey, that's okay. I put the sign there so that you can ignore it. Thanks for coming through the gate. Is there anything else I can do for you ? A shag perhaps ?

Never happened…"

Oh ye of little faith. I said it so it's true

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

Not respecting a profile is the first impression you give someone, surely you'd want that first

impression to be a good one

It's sets the tone for future interactions, if you show no respect in an initial approach, it's gives little hope to the recipient that things will improve

& there you have it, it was her choice to messsge you, her boundaries if 'she' wants to tweak them that's up to her

Bad example but I'm a bareback girl 90% of the messages I get are from men whose profiles state safe, when I point that out to them they say they like to play bare when the opportunities arise, 'their profile, their choice' but I'd never message a profile that states safe, they've set their line and it's not my business to cross on unless invited

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

Not respecting a profile is the first impression you give someone, surely you'd want that first

impression to be a good one

It's sets the tone for future interactions, if you show no respect in an initial approach, it's gives little hope to the recipient that things will improve

She messaged you though. That’s her choice. Why is it so hard to respect someone’s choice? I don’t understand. "

The point is

...not all people will get so worked up about something they put on a fab profile if they did actually see attraction in the person that messaged. So why can't the chap take a shot. That's all it was.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Come on ..the guys 63 ...her upper limit was 60

That should be the end of the discussion. As you said, that's her upper limit. And it should be respected.

Whether the two numbers seem the same to you is irrelevant. They clearly don't to her.

And the OP knew this, but decided to ignore her stated limits. I honestly don't see anything rude about her response."
nothing rude why not block over the age or is it a case of if you're fit over my age limit I'll chat rest I'll be rude too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey, that's okay. I put the sign there so that you can ignore it. Thanks for coming through the gate. Is there anything else I can do for you ? A shag perhaps ?"

Hahaha Love it

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By *JstarsoloWoman over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance."

It's not for us to judge how someone feels. It may appear a strong emotion to you but clearly not to the lady in question. Just need to respect people's preferences. It's not hard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

Not respecting a profile is the first impression you give someone, surely you'd want that first

impression to be a good one

It's sets the tone for future interactions, if you show no respect in an initial approach, it's gives little hope to the recipient that things will improve

She messaged you though. That’s her choice. Why is it so hard to respect someone’s choice? I don’t understand.

The point is

He did. She declined.

He ignored preferences she was possibly blunt.

They part ways... I'm struggling to see the issue here other than the OP took offense to her reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't bother message anyone if I was outside their age range.

But to make a correlation between someone not "respecting" a profile for them not to respect them in bed is wrong imo.

Not respecting a profile is the first impression you give someone, surely you'd want that first

impression to be a good one

It's sets the tone for future interactions, if you show no respect in an initial approach, it's gives little hope to the recipient that things will improve

She messaged you though. That’s her choice. Why is it so hard to respect someone’s choice? I don’t understand.

The point is

He did. She declined.

He ignored preferences she was possibly blunt.

They part ways... I'm struggling to see the issue here other than the OP took offense to her reply"

Take a shot with people who have stated they want to hear from you. Save everyone a lot of time.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

This is this news event in REALITY.

Man messages woman. Woman wasn't interested.

The rest you all made up yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance."

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do. "

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious. "

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive."

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

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By *aptainhornpipeMan over a year ago

manchester

You took a chance knowing she wasn’t interested and found out she definitely wasn’t interested.

Personally I will chance it myself if I’m just outside an age range, if they have a hard limit they can put a filter on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious. "

There are tens of thousands of guys here! I can't say for all of them. But of the hundreds of messages I have received - I'd say 60% or more are disrespectful.

By that I mean they clearly haven't read my profile and messaged regardless; they've sent dick pics; they've proposed graphic scenarios to me; they've objectified me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener. "

I’ve just looked through our messages from the last few days and I’m actually leaning more towards it actually being the majority. One or two polite messages by people who match what is stated on our profile and the rest is chancers and complete idiots.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

I did the same! When I think about how it shows no respect to ignore my profile - married men message me, guys who want NSA message me, guys lying about their age etc. That's why I rarely reply these days. I used to, before I figured out that they were rude - why should I be polite!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not shocked by the reaction tbh profiles exist for a reason. When 90% of guys who message don’t meet what is clearly specified on your profile it gets annoying!

I’d hate to be one of those guys that annoyed you.

Uhhhh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I recently messaged a lady and I was three years out of her age range. I politely said I hoped she didn’t mind because I liked her profile and, you never know, I might have got a nice reply.

I get it the other way. Had a message from a couple. When I looked at their profile I was 10 years over their preferred age range. So I replied and never heard any more.

Pretty much given up any idea of meeting females so just stick to sicking cock now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

There are tens of thousands of guys here! I can't say for all of them. But of the hundreds of messages I have received - I'd say 60% or more are disrespectful.

So let’s say 4 / 20 messages are there that do respect you and your profile. And I reckon the op, with his story might have pushed the envelope a little bit, but it’s not out of the ordinary for someone to just say to someone ‘you might not normaly go for a someone like me, but I like you, can I get a drink and a a couple of minutes of your time?’

“Sorry babes (I’m improvising here

it’s a no!” (Maybe it didn’t happen like that, who knows).

But my point is, some people are polite in their approach, and some are polite when saying no. And excuses that your the fiftieth person to ask me!!!! Well, I wasn’t all 49 before and I didn’t know did I?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She wasn’t rude just blunt! I’m blunt to guys who haven’t read my profile on a daily basis.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

There are tens of thousands of guys here! I can't say for all of them. But of the hundreds of messages I have received - I'd say 60% or more are disrespectful.

“Sorry babes (I’m improvising here

it’s a no!” (Maybe it didn’t happen like that, who knows).

Yesterday alone I got 100+ messages from guys that started with ‘I know I’m not what you’re looking for but’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

The header on our profile says that it’s me (Mr) who responds to all messages and we still get all of that. I can’t even begin to imagine what they send to single women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not shocked by the reaction tbh profiles exist for a reason. When 90% of guys who message don’t meet what is clearly specified on your profile it gets annoying!

I’d hate to be one of those guys that annoyed you.

Uhhhh"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yesterday alone I got 100+ messages from guys that started with ‘I know I’m not what you’re looking for but’"

I mean...it is tempting. Once I'm slim/athletic and 2 years older...expect a message haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

There are tens of thousands of guys here! I can't say for all of them. But of the hundreds of messages I have received - I'd say 60% or more are disrespectful.

“Sorry babes (I’m improvising here

it’s a no!” (Maybe it didn’t happen like that, who knows).

I'm generally not rude when I say no. I try to remember that somebody is at the other end who might be feeling shit about another "not interested". But I'm only polite with those who've been polite and respectful towards me. The rest I ignore / block or the unlucky ones get blasted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

There’s no hope for us is there? Us = single men as a collective.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yesterday alone I got 100+ messages from guys that started with ‘I know I’m not what you’re looking for but’

I mean...it is tempting. Once I'm slim/athletic and 2 years older...expect a message haha "

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah I think that’s a bit rude to be fair. If she’s that bothered she should have the do not allow certain ages to message thing on. I don’t even think to look at age ranges if I message people.

No need for rudeness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

There’s no hope for us is there? Us = single men as a collective. "

It’s definitely the majority! I’d say 75-90% of guys and couples who message me don’t fit what I’m looking for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

There’s no hope for us is there? Us = single men as a collective. "

If anything they should give you hope. You only need to match what someone is looking for and be able to string a sentence together and you’re already in there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

There’s no hope for us is there? Us = single men as a collective.

It’s definitely the majority! I’d say 75-90% of guys and couples who message me don’t fit what I’m looking for "

We don’t get many from couples but the ones we do get are just as bad, if not worse than the single men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

There’s no hope for us is there? Us = single men as a collective. "

I don't agree. If men who're a good match for what I'm looking for and whom I fancy message - I chat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a daily basis, i receive messages from guys saying they read my profile and they know they dont match my criteria, but.....

Not cut, but its ok cos it retracts

Not over 6ft, but its ok, cos we are all the same height laying down

They dont club, but its ok, they'll get us a hotel

At the end of the day, everyone has preferences. And when someone lays out those preferences, and if you dont match those preferences, you shouldn't message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah I think that’s a bit rude to be fair. If she’s that bothered she should have the do not allow certain ages to message thing on. I don’t even think to look at age ranges if I message people.

No need for rudeness "

I think you get the warning before messaging if you’re outside of the age range. I’m not 100% on that though.

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By *asty tatsyMan over a year ago

london

No need for rudeness "

This

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No need for rudeness

I think you get the warning before messaging if you’re outside of the age range. I’m not 100% on that though."

No you don’t with age range.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Howiiiiizzzzzaaaaaaat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No need for rudeness

I think you get the warning before messaging if you’re outside of the age range. I’m not 100% on that though.

No you don’t with age range. "

Fab should probably look into that.

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By *ister CMan over a year ago

liverpool

Strangely... there was a similar post the other day...

And people...some on this thread bemoaning this guys '3 year' contravention of the profile requirements where telling the other op on the other thread to simply alter their age, or such gaps are insignificant...

Strange what the sex of a person and a weeks gap can do to opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To actually feel disrespected though seems such a strong emotion for someone just taking a chance.

Do you get disrespected on a daily basis on this site? Most single women do.

And do you think it’s the minority of men on here or the majority that are disrespectful towards you? Just curious.

It is the minority but it’s a very large minority. Just for shits and giggles create a single woman’s profile, add a picture of half a leg and then report back with the messages you receive.

I’ve had privilege of seeing a woman’s account in the past. Yes, it’s an eye opener.

There’s no hope for us is there? Us = single men as a collective.

I don't agree. If men who're a good match for what I'm looking for and whom I fancy message - I chat. "

How many block messaging ? I can’t tell you how many profiles I’ve read where I read we would match up for a chat at least.

Why do you think they might block? Maybe that’s why single guys (or the polite ones) get a bit confused navigating around fab, or take there chances with people that have their dms open?

Im just thinking out loud, I need to get back to flirting with someone soon, I feel like this is a work brainstorming sesion.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple over a year ago

Halifax

I can't blame her to be honest, she could have done it without being rude but like others have said...yours was probably one of the many messages that day.

She set a limit, respect it, we come across people who lie about their age because they look younger and in some cases they do but that is not the point, it is about boundaries and respecting them. If we wanted to meet younger looking old people we will make it clear or if we wanted to be flexible with our age limits, we will make it clear.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple over a year ago

Halifax

"Strangely... there was a similar post the other day...

Strange what the sex of a person and a weeks gap can do to opinion.

Principles don't change though, girl or guy, we have met more girls who are creative about their age than men for sure.