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Do you feel it's a waste of your time
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you don't have sex on a social/first meet?
I'm assuming most people here will say no but I have a feeling this is where I'm going wrong, ie insisting on drinks first.
(I have met guys in the past who are OK with socials only btw, this isn't a "woe is me, all men are shit" thread) |
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"If you don't have sex on a social/first meet?
I'm assuming most people here will say no but I have a feeling this is where I'm going wrong, ie insisting on drinks first.
(I have met guys in the past who are OK with socials only btw, this isn't a "woe is me, all men are shit" thread) "
All men are shit though, just saying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes it happens, sometimes it dont, depends how far each is willing to take the flirting. I dont expect or initiate i want sex on a first meet at all, but sometimes it just happens. I'm pretty good at reading body language and playing the game |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social first ... expecting sex on a first meet just shows a sense of entitlement - we have done social with a few people who seemed to automatically expect we were all going to have sex ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All Rosie’s hotwife meets have been social only first time around. She needs to feel a physical attraction.
Our (very few) meets as a couple have usually been a social with no expectation that’s gone back to a room |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have nothing against play on a first meet, my time can be quite limited sometimes so I’ve got to make the most of what opportunity I have but at same time, I’d never say a social is wasted time either. Only a no-show is wasted time |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
I've had socials knowing play would follow if we connected
I've had socials knowing play could happen if it went well.
I've had socials which were only ever going to be a social as a prelude to a second meet.
All work with me though i think ad always honest communication is necessary.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t do socials. We have young children and finding a babysitter is quite rare so a social would 100% be a waste of our very limited time. That being said, we are a couple that don’t meet alone. If Mrs NE was ever to meet alone I think we’d want at least one social beforehand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes kind of is a waste, especially when I don't get to meet often. I always do the social bit in the hotel room and don't meet someone until I'm 100% sure I wanna jump their bones. Worked for me so far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never have and never will have sex on the first meet, it says on my profile. If people don't like it then they are free to message the plenty of others that do x"
Same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social first ... expecting sex on a first meet just shows a sense of entitlement - we have done social with a few people who seemed to automatically expect we were all going to have sex ... "
When I have arranged a social first meet but they start hinting at sex stuff I just cancel the social and won't ever meet them. We are not compatible and they can meet someone else.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No i dont. Im open to having sex on a first meet. Bitnit doesnt have to happen.
I dont think if its just a social it needs to be a massively long meet so maybe would only set aside an hr or so for a social |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends! Although I chat for weeks prior to meeting. If they’re local then social first, if they’re from further afield and we’ve chatted extensively beforehand then I’d do a sex meet and skip the social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always suggest a social with no expectation of sex, so there is no obligation on either of us to take it further. If nature takes it's course so be it... |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
While I wouldn't say no to sex on a first meet I woukd not expect it and I find meeting for a drink and getting to know someone is just as much fun.
Shame I am out of your age range I would have loved to have a drink with you. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Just do what’s right for you. I generally do socials first without any plans for sex - but it’s not a hard rule, if I know someone well by talking on the phone first and spend a few hours on a social and really connect then occasionally we will , but it’s rare.
Sometimes you just both know and communicate it, sometimes you get home message her and say how much you like her and that you almost invited her back and she says I wish you would have !  |
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If I have to answer honestly then I've only ever played once on the first meet, going against the grain of my principles.
However, in this case the lead up, the mind-engaging dialogue, the sexual tension, the voice chats and other harmonising compatibilities made the 'first meet' encounter a foregone conclusion. And it exceeded expectations.
With that said, my default approach is always a platonic social first. |
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Socials are essential for us.
If you want a social before you consider having sex with somebody, stick to your guns. It's nothing unreasonable. If a guy doesn't want to sit and have a natter with you then I can quite see why you wouldn't want to shag him. |
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