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Date chat coffee walk or straight to 'bedroom'?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Testing waters. What actually climate is here.
Like to ask Ladies. Do you like social meets where you can get idea of person or it's waste of time and is more exiting go straight for sex fun?
PS To all Bitches, Sluts etc. I mind you as well when I say Ladies
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most men I speak to want to get straight to fun. I always insist on a social first or maybe more than one, to make the right decision fir me, hence I don't get many meets but those that make the effort reap the rewards!  |
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"I think most men I speak to want to get straight to fun. I always insist on a social first or maybe more than one, to make the right decision fir me, hence I don't get many meets but those that make the effort reap the rewards! "
Always a social first, personal safety, check you click, discuss boundaries in more detail perhaps just check you’re compatible basically. Works for me |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"Testing waters. What actually climate is here.
Like to ask Ladies. Do you like social meets where you can get idea of person or it's waste of time and is more exiting go straight for sex fun?
PS To all Bitches, Sluts etc. I mind you as well when I say Ladies
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Climate is - just because you turned up doesn't mean you can't get turned you away. Even if there's no social, doesn't mean sex is a given.
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Social first for safety reasons as you never know who's actually going to turn up.
My friend agreed to meet a guy at a coffee shop, the/a guy turned up but not the guy in the profile picture. He still thought his luck was in just because he turned up. She said she needed to make a phone call outside and escaped. He even had the audacity to send her a message say she was a time waster.
We always go with each other now for safety and so someone has seen them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we get to the point of considering a meet I always suggest a social first, wherever the woman feels comfortable. I have only ever had a couple of socials through fab, that went no further than chat. Previous fwbs moved pretty quick to her house, at her suggestion, the other foregoing the social on the day and asking me to come straight round!
In both cases we had chatted for months beforehand, and I think that was key. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social first for safety reasons as you never know who's actually going to turn up.
My friend agreed to meet a guy at a coffee shop, the/a guy turned up but not the guy in the profile picture. He still thought his luck was in just because he turned up. She said she needed to make a phone call outside and escaped. He even had the audacity to send her a message say she was a time waster.
We always go with each other now for safety and so someone has seen them. "
That’s why I always do a video call |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A date. I can jump in straight. But I think it's more of a turn on, having a public flirt. After messaging, meeting the sex is usually even more intense after a meet, more so than just jumping in. |
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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago
Stockport |
"The slutty ones just wanna get down and dirty..maybe have cake after  "
I feel seen 
I find socials a little anxiety-inducing tbh. I've only had 2 - one went further, one didn't. I get confused (probably not the right word) if the word 'date' gets mentioned in a Fab context, like I don't know what's 'expected'.
It definitely says a lot about me if fucking a stranger causes me less anxiety than going for a drink.
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"I understand safety/security reasons. But I'm more interested if you enjoy found it interesting to meet and chat even if sex won't happen. "
Occasionally yes no sexual chemistry but remain friends even do non sexual stuff together rare though as obviously that’s not what people are here for and I get that. |
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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove |
Always coffee first
Social for every meet before sex
No social = no sex
I’d never just meet an fuck, especially someone new
When I was on dating sites I’ve had a man turn up who was not the bloke in his profile pic, another at least 6” shorter than his claimed height, one who was at least 6 stone heavier and 8 years older than his profile pic
Needless to say I don’t do dating sites anymore |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Social first always
I need to see someone ftf to gage If I fancy them and if we have a decent connection.
Also you can tell people who just want a quick shag as they often won't want a social first or comment that it's not a dating site etc. |
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"Social first for safety reasons as you never know who's actually going to turn up.
My friend agreed to meet a guy at a coffee shop, the/a guy turned up but not the guy in the profile picture. He still thought his luck was in just because he turned up. She said she needed to make a phone call outside and escaped. He even had the audacity to send her a message say she was a time waster.
We always go with each other now for safety and so someone has seen them. "
I had this in meeting a guy once at costa coffee. Different guy but same clothing from pics. Said it was his mates pic. I laughed and walked off. He was swearing at me as I walked off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like a social first it’s always nice to find out if you click before you clunk that said if there’s a obvious spark there is definitely no harm skipping the drinks.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It makes me chuckle, the absolute disconnect of experience between genders.
I mean realistically ladies, what precautions do you have to take from the outset.
Public setting, a friend knowing where you're going and whom you're seeing, the mid meet check in message to allay any conern to said friend.
And there are almost certainly more beyond that.
My biggest worry is "did I scrub my balls enough?" |
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