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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So often the profiles say ‘more than hi’ which I always assumed would be a given but clearly not…
So how do you interact? Do you give away all your best assets in the first message? Do you tell all your experiences? Do you give it the ‘big sell’?
Or do you keep it simple…more than hi… but not too in depth…?
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We have many hi messages, they get ignored or the how's you? Those I'll play the 2 word reply game back and forth and see how long it lasts.
I don't expect or send essays just something that shows I've read the profile or what's intriguing about something they've written. With couples always speak to both, we had a lovely gent recently wank over the Mr's replies thinking it was me (Mrs) that was amusing. |
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It depends if my first messenger to someone id a reaction to a forum post. If it is, it’s probably just a quick quip or a short paragraph that’s relevant to what they had said in someday that wasn’t appropriate for the thread.
If it’s a first message because I’d like to talk to them in private. Photo of who I am and some text where I’d like to strike up a conversation about. It’s a 50/50 shot if that works for me. And I’m okay with that.  |
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I send a four page, copy and pasted piece of erotica along with five identical dick pics, an up close arsehole one, and then a seven year old face picture where I'm way in the distance and wearing sunglasses.
Works every time
LvM |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We have many hi messages, they get ignored or the how's you? Those I'll play the 2 word reply game back and forth and see how long it lasts.
I don't expect or send essays just something that shows I've read the profile or what's intriguing about something they've written. With couples always speak to both, we had a lovely gent recently wank over the Mr's replies thinking it was me (Mrs) that was amusing."
Well mr must be good with the words ha
Or maybe the guy liked it
I get what you mean about the ‘showing you’ve read the profile’ best way to get the chat started… |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You’ve got to be smart. Women say no dick pics so I send a ball pic. It hasn’t worked so far but I’m sure it will."
Law of averages … send enough it will
Pay off eventually |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I send a four page, copy and pasted piece of erotica along with five identical dick pics, an up close arsehole one, and then a seven year old face picture where I'm way in the distance and wearing sunglasses.
Works every time
LvM"
Ooo similar … just minus the close arsehole one.. maybe that’s where I am going wrong … I best get snapping  |
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I don't send first messages at all so don't concern myself with the content of one.
For anyone contacting me I much prefer if they just jump in almost mid conversation in regard to something in the forums etc rather than lengthy introductions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have many hi messages, they get ignored or the how's you? Those I'll play the 2 word reply game back and forth and see how long it lasts……
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Oh, this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just chat normally, non sexual chat soon puts off any instant gratification hunters "
Who doesn’t love a bit of moaning about work and how the bins need emptying chat to get going…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is. "
Damn I’ve been missing the xxx I must adjust my cut paste message |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is. "
You told me you liked my messages  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation "
For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation
For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing? "
Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation
For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?
Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go "
Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation
For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?
Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go
Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning "
Lol.. It wouldn't even get opened in my box  |
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By *ambertMan
over a year ago
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I dunno, I sent a message to someone who "wanted their mind to be excited with more than just a simple hi" who then responded saying the message was too long.
Either way, you can't please everyone  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation
For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?
Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go
Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning
Lol.. It wouldn't even get opened in my box "
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We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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If their 1st message is just 'Hi' I probably reply with just 'Hi' back, the effort you come to me with is the effort you get back.
When I send 1st message however I put in more though  and leave it open to allow dialogue  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts "
Good morning to you how was your weekend? …… |
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"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts
Good morning to you how was your weekend? …… "
Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.
How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts
Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……
Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.
How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?
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And there we have it folks… simple and easy interaction which could lead somewhere
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"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts
Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……
Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.
How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?
And there we have it folks… simple and easy interaction which could lead somewhere
Applause inserted here "
I have a Rocket Science certificate too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts
Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……
Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.
How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?
And there we have it folks… simple and easy interaction which could lead somewhere
Applause inserted here
I have a Rocket Science certificate too "
Now you’re just showing off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts
Good morning to you how was your weekend? …… "
I would then send an essay telling you everything about my weekend and you’d think fuck this I wasn’t really that interested tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts
Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……
I would then send an essay telling you everything about my weekend and you’d think fuck this I wasn’t really that interested tbh. "
I dare you….. I’m a bloody nosey bastard and love hearing about peoples weekends / plans / experiences etc interaction is great |
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I get the dilemma here as so many messages get ignored/instadelete writing good messages is mostly futile. Yet for those of us who might have responded to a good message, hi doesn't cut it.
For me, I have added to my profile several possible talking points so I have tried to make it easy to write at least a somewhat interesting first message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.
Damn I’ve been missing the xxx I must adjust my cut paste message "
It's essential so that the lady knows that despite your graphic message you're really a nice guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.
You told me you liked my messages "
Not enough XXXXXX tho, man! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.
Damn I’ve been missing the xxx I must adjust my cut paste message
It's essential so that the lady knows that despite your graphic message you're really a nice guy "
Your point is taken on board |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I simply ask one question....
'Do you wanna be pumped vigorously for 36seconds till my face turns red and I squeal custard cream as I cum?'
Not sure why it isn't working if I'm honest "
Swap the custard cream for a bourbon and you might be onto a winner |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I simply ask one question....
'Do you wanna be pumped vigorously for 36seconds till my face turns red and I squeal custard cream as I cum?'
Not sure why it isn't working if I'm honest
Swap the custard cream for a bourbon and you might be onto a winner "
Love a bourbon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Refer to their profile, use some common sense that there's a mild connection available to build on. Make sure you fit their criterion, have a good profile and pics etc.
Then roll the dice and make peace with being ignored etc.
I think the trouble is, there's a lot of throwing mud at the wall and seeing what sticks. This clogs up the system and when you take a more considered shot, it's easy to blend in with the noise.
But, that's the game, no changing it so just keep plugging away. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation
For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?
Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go "
Did he register you as a pet for the VIP club?
Did he get the matching lead?
Where did he get the name tag? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.
You told me you liked my messages
Not enough XXXXXX tho, man! "
My mistake.
I shall endeavour to do better next time m’lady!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.
You told me you liked my messages
Not enough XXXXXX tho, man!
My mistake.
I shall endeavour to do better next time m’lady!
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This guy listens….. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.
You told me you liked my messages
Not enough XXXXXX tho, man!
My mistake.
I shall endeavour to do better next time m’lady!
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"
Thank ye, kind sir |
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I just send out a brief but informative message about myself. Not done so in a while though. I don't reply to messages with "hi" or "hello" in them. Either on fab or elsewhere as it shows lack of effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Something along the lines of:
" So I saw you in the forums, you don't seem too much of a dick.
I mean your obviously a bit of a dick, you are male. You are male aren't you?? I think it's always best to clarify these things.
If you fancy talking shit and never meeting, then I'm the girl for you.
If not, well, good choice. I shall congratulate you on your lucky escape."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men get it so wrong always sending me well thought out message. I'm a simple gal.. call me a slut, show me your dick and I'm yours."
Takes notes… not my usual style |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something along the lines of:
" So I saw you in the forums, you don't seem too much of a dick.
I mean your obviously a bit of a dick, you are male. You are male aren't you?? I think it's always best to clarify these things.
If you fancy talking shit and never meeting, then I'm the girl for you.
If not, well, good choice. I shall congratulate you on your lucky escape."
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ffs so it was a cut n paste  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something along the lines of:
" So I saw you in the forums, you don't seem too much of a dick.
I mean your obviously a bit of a dick, you are male. You are male aren't you?? I think it's always best to clarify these things.
If you fancy talking shit and never meeting, then I'm the girl for you.
If not, well, good choice. I shall congratulate you on your lucky escape."
ffs so it was a cut n paste "
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I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.
So far this hasn't worked,
I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.
So far this hasn't worked,
I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ?? "
Oh no, any mention of meeting in the first message and im out. |
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"I simply ask one question....
'Do you wanna be pumped vigorously for 36seconds till my face turns red and I squeal custard cream as I cum?'
Not sure why it isn't working if I'm honest
Swap the custard cream for a bourbon and you might be onto a winner "
This could be where I'm going wrong....it will be trialed, I will update you on the progress of the experiment |
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"I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.
So far this hasn't worked,
I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ??
Oh no, any mention of meeting in the first message and im out. "
Each to their own of course.. I don't mean straight away, be it days or a couple of weeks.
I'm not here for a penpal |
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Dear ..insert name
Wow you have super boobs/arse/legs/ body.
I would love to meet for coffee/High tea/supper/quicky
I like going to the cinema/ladies houses/sex clubs/coffee shops/sex shops/IKEA
I live only 5/10/50/100/200 miles away from you so it's easy for me to come to you
Please reply soon..I await/guess its a long shot/have next to zero hope of
Your reply
Regards ..olov...hope you like the 93 pic's of my cock all taken in the Bog but at slightly different angles |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.
So far this hasn't worked,
I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ??
Oh no, any mention of meeting in the first message and im out.
Each to their own of course.. I don't mean straight away, be it days or a couple of weeks.
I'm not here for a penpal "
Oooh and there's another phrase. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Best sit yourselves down for this one guys.... but I think the bottom line might just be attraction, specifically a lack of
Even the most well crafted, thought-out message will get a person precisely nowhere if attraction isn't returned. Or if they can't see to decide either way due to lack of info and/or pics.
If your profile says you're in to a certain thing and the person you message finds that a massive turn-off, too bad.
Etc etc etc
But by all means hyper-focus on the 'mystery' of it all and the 'meanies' exercising their preferences who don't read or who delete or who block or even who are good enough to say thanks but no thanks...
Now I'm going to have a wee lie down. My brain hurts figuring that one out for you all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Men get it so wrong always sending me well thought out message. I'm a simple gal.. call me a slut, show me your dick and I'm yours."
The rejection is normally to hard to handle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I tell them what I'm looking for and why I think they are a good match. No point saying any more than that.
It works. Sex bucket list all ticked off. "
The whole bucket ,? |
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"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation
For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?
Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go
Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning
Lol.. It wouldn't even get opened in my box "
Would the words hi  |
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