Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see  |
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"Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see "
If only folk actually said what was on their minds, eh?!   |
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"Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see
If only folk actually said what was on their minds, eh?! "
They aren't on here to swap knitting patterns.... |
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"Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see
If only folk actually said what was on their minds, eh?!
They aren't on here to swap knitting patterns...."
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"Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see
If only folk actually said what was on their minds, eh?!
They aren't on here to swap knitting patterns...."
Crochet?! |
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"I thought meet meant sex and social meant drink  "
Oh I thought meet meant meet
As in two people who are apart coming together and speaking.
That is what I have always considered as meeting someone
When we have meetings at all at work nobody expects to have sex  |
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"I thought meet meant sex and social meant drink
Oh I thought meet meant meet
As in two people who are apart coming together and speaking.
That is what I have always considered as meeting someone
When we have meetings at all at work nobody expects to have sex "
You've been doing work all wrong |
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"I thought meet meant sex and social meant drink
Oh I thought meet meant meet
As in two people who are apart coming together and speaking.
That is what I have always considered as meeting someone
When we have meetings at all at work nobody expects to have sex "
This isn't work though is it? That's how I thought fab vernacular worked. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"I thought meet meant sex and social meant drink
Oh I thought meet meant meet
As in two people who are apart coming together and speaking.
That is what I have always considered as meeting someone
When we have meetings at all at work nobody expects to have sex "
That's a whole different type of work...  |
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"Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see
If only folk actually said what was on their minds, eh?! "
I would spend most of My life in prison i think!!  |
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I guess a lot of people are thinking I should accept that when guys say they want to meet, it means they want sex.
Yeah! That is ok… lesson learnt. I was perhaps being too pedantic.
I shall proceed with this rather presumptuous vernacular stored in my mind and please forgive me for any negative vibes given out
I guess I should change my profile though cos I am sure it says I am happy to meet any guy.
And I am but I am not prepared to have sex with “any” guy…  |
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"Meet can mean both sex or the usual real world meaning.
But if I said let's meet, and someone says I'm going to be in XYZ pub, I'll reframe my expectations to social "
As would I!
At last some ( in my opinion ) wisdom.
When I have said let’s meet in cuz bar, I have had guys say to me “where can we have sex in there?”
I mean I love being naughty, don’t get me wrong, I just sometimes find the assumption that a guy is going to get sex troubling
Maybe I shouldn’t be on this site… or maybe I should just keep my thoughts to myself |
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"Meet can mean both sex or the usual real world meaning.
But if I said let's meet, and someone says I'm going to be in XYZ pub, I'll reframe my expectations to social
As would I!
At last some ( in my opinion ) wisdom.
When I have said let’s meet in cuz bar, I have had guys say to me “where can we have sex in there?”
I mean I love being naughty, don’t get me wrong, I just sometimes find the assumption that a guy is going to get sex troubling
Maybe I shouldn’t be on this site… or maybe I should just keep my thoughts to myself "
I think compromise is a difficult concept for some people. It's not you. |
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"If they FAF they get told off.....
If they 'meet with expectation' they get told off..
We need a code....
Someone draw up a code..."
Speak for yourself FAF works and will work on me after a few laughs |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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I think there is an unspoken code on fab, sort of......
In my experience fab speak is:
meet = expectation of sex, unless it isn't
social = meet up for a drink/coffee (might also lead to sex unless it doesn't)
Socials = meeting at a public venue with a few like minded people (might later hook up with someone for sex or noy)
Playing = having sex/sexual play (as opposed to playing on the swings and slides in a children's play park for example)
Usually you can work it out through messaging as to what people want/expect.
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Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see "
Thanks, Linda. See you at 7 on Friday!  |
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"I think there is an unspoken code on fab, sort of......
In my experience fab speak is:
meet = expectation of sex, unless it isn't
social = meet up for a drink/coffee (might also lead to sex unless it doesn't)
Socials = meeting at a public venue with a few like minded people (might later hook up with someone for sex or noy)
Playing = having sex/sexual play (as opposed to playing on the swings and slides in a children's play park for example)
Usually you can work it out through messaging as to what people want/expect.
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That's true. But if I said meet and someone said pub/let's get to know each other, I'd default to social as my expectation or attempt to clarify. |
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I am happy to start with intelligent and witty conversation in which we sound each other out and see if there is that elusive spark. If we keep chatting, see how things unfold. We may just stay chat buddies even fab friends because we have things in common. Meets are difficult territory, I am amenable to a social, as in a no expectation of sex social, purely because I think I would enjoy your company and we could have a laugh. That is never a problem in the real world, although on fab it seems it is? |
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"Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see
Oh. Wish I could! Unfortunately I am going to be busy this weekend
Thanks, Linda. See you at 7 on Friday! "
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"I am happy to start with intelligent and witty conversation in which we sound each other out and see if there is that elusive spark. If we keep chatting, see how things unfold. We may just stay chat buddies even fab friends because we have things in common. Meets are difficult territory, I am amenable to a social, as in a no expectation of sex social, purely because I think I would enjoy your company and we could have a laugh. That is never a problem in the real world, although on fab it seems it is?"
I think you have hit on a very valid point.
In the old world, meeting in bars would firstly require some introductory banter and an exchange of mutual attraction signals, which would or could lead to a more intimate relationship.
In the fab world, often. Though by no means always ( there are more fabsters on this site who really are very thoughtful and considerate than there are… oh let’s just call them arseholes ) but often that initial pause to reflect is neither offered or accepted.. it is just “here I am, get on your knees and open your mouth!”
Not that I am averse to that, if I have agreed it but that it seems the expected default by some troubles me |
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By *mily36CWoman
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"Erm… ok, well I am planning on going for a drink with friends on Friday, I will be in the bar at The Royal Station Hotel about 7pm, come along and we can meet and have a drink together”
Oh! You mean you didn’t want to “meet”, you wanted a body to have sex with? Oh I see
If only folk actually said what was on their minds, eh?!
I would spend most of My life in prison i think!! "
Oh lordy, are your thoughts that debaucherous?!? |
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