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If it’s a fuck and go situation then yes I’m not too bothered, they do need to have a good standard of grammar though for the preamble.
Otherwise, if I’m seeing them in the cold light of day, yes they need to have it all going on, fortunately and unfortunately my social life revolves around work at the moment and that is full of intelligent men so win win for me! |
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If they’re ‘professional’ I just assume that means they’re a suit that’s a bit shallow or that is unnecessarily worried about their million pound clients finding out they enjoy sex with other people. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive "
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s. |
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I think context is important and you can convey similar things in your text without needing to use those words as sometimes people might take offence to them. On the other hand if that is important to you, especially if seeking similar, then perhaps you should. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s. "
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer 
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them |
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By *lynJ OP Man
over a year ago
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"Cue another 175 posts of arguments, 2nd thread to be filled about it today.  "
It doesn't need to be arguments.
I'm just interested in people's viewpoints - there's no right or wrong answer. |
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"This is actually crazy. All this negative judgement of people over two words  .
I'm off to discuss what would happen if it was just me and a hairdresser left on the planet.
Smh"
For me it's just sort of *shrug*. I'll look for evidence of it myself, I won't take anyone's word for it. |
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"This is actually crazy. All this negative judgement of people over two words .
I'm off to discuss what would happen if it was just me and a hairdresser left on the planet.
Smh"
Is that a professional job? |
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By *lynJ OP Man
over a year ago
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them"
Except intelligence is not necessarily measured by education, or how long someone stays in the education system. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
Except intelligence is not necessarily measured by education, or how long someone stays in the education system."
Omg snap! I just said that too  |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them"
Although I do like intelligent conversation I much prefer someone with basic common sense and a good sense of humour so their qualifications and job status means absolutely nothing to me. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
Except intelligence is not necessarily measured by education, or how long someone stays in the education system."
This is very true and something a lot of people misunderstand. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them"
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
Although I do like intelligent conversation I much prefer someone with basic common sense and a good sense of humour so their qualifications and job status means absolutely nothing to me."
Their job status means to me that they can buy the bloody drinks!!
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Neither.
If someones using the word professional on a sex hook up site i automatically thing they are looking for money.
If someone uses the word educated i think they mean private education and the majority of people i know with a private education are complete knob heads |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
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Absolutely.
I don't tend to look for intelligence, and God help me I certainly don't look for qualifications or status.
I enjoy curiosity. A sense of wonder about the world. I find it quite energising. I've seen it in people with publications and those with no qualifications at all. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
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Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone. |
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Neither of them. Personally I'm instantly wary of self labels like professional. And people often use this labels to display elements of status or culture rather than a measure of the quality of their mind or soul.
Personally I just prefer to talk without drawing lines in sand or peacocking from the very start. Let people see the quality of my intellect and soul for them self. I me likewise in return.
If someone is more bothered by my job title and/or educational attainment before their intrest in my true capacity and outlook they'd probably not be the sort of person/people for me anyways. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
Although I do like intelligent conversation I much prefer someone with basic common sense and a good sense of humour so their qualifications and job status means absolutely nothing to me.
Their job status means to me that they can buy the bloody drinks!!
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If they’re really professional they can get us a Nando’s too  |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
Although I do like intelligent conversation I much prefer someone with basic common sense and a good sense of humour so their qualifications and job status means absolutely nothing to me.
Their job status means to me that they can buy the bloody drinks!!
If they’re really professional they can get us a Nando’s too "
I’d shag in Nandos toilets if they could afford to pay my meal! |
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Eh, show don't tell. You can tell if someone is intelligent by how they write their profile.
Some of the people I met at uni were complete dip shits so just saying someone is 'educated' doesn't really say much. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
Although I do like intelligent conversation I much prefer someone with basic common sense and a good sense of humour so their qualifications and job status means absolutely nothing to me.
Their job status means to me that they can buy the bloody drinks!!
If they’re really professional they can get us a Nando’s too
I’d shag in Nandos toilets if they could afford to pay my meal! "
Just don’t go in after someone who’s had the extra hot  |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone. "
I agree with you, I know intelligent people with no exams whatsoever to Professors. Not one demographic is more intelligent than the other, just different skill sets. |
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"Eh, show don't tell. You can tell if someone is intelligent by how they write their profile.
Some of the people I met at uni were complete dip shits so just saying someone is 'educated' doesn't really say much. "
This is 100% correct intelligence has many forms and we all know different things part of what makes us all interesting |
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Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?"
When i see professional I can't help thinking money will be involved. Either that or a warm up, flip chart and ice Bath afterwards. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?"
show, don't tell
Dr H Waffle, PhD, MBA, DTF, WUU2 |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone.
I agree with you, I know intelligent people with no exams whatsoever to Professors. Not one demographic is more intelligent than the other, just different skill sets. "
Look at us!
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone.
I agree with you, I know intelligent people with no exams whatsoever to Professors. Not one demographic is more intelligent than the other, just different skill sets.
Look at us!
Agreeing "
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone.
I agree with you, I know intelligent people with no exams whatsoever to Professors. Not one demographic is more intelligent than the other, just different skill sets.
Look at us!
Agreeing "
Haha, I actually agree with much you say Steve. I just like debating with you |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone.
I agree with you, I know intelligent people with no exams whatsoever to Professors. Not one demographic is more intelligent than the other, just different skill sets.
Look at us!
Agreeing
A sudden outbreak of agreement. What is going on? "
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide"
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly. |
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone.
I agree with you, I know intelligent people with no exams whatsoever to Professors. Not one demographic is more intelligent than the other, just different skill sets.
Look at us!
Agreeing
A sudden outbreak of agreement. What is going on? "
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"If they’re educated I’ll find out I’m sure? Announcing it on a profile doesn’t seem attractive
This. Some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met are educated and some of the most intelligent have barely got any GCSE’s.
100 per cent this. And judging people’s intelligence based on qualifications is weird. I’m not their employer
You know if someone is intelligent by speaking to them
See I agree/disagree with you Steve as per oops. I can talk for hours literally about my area of work and a few other topics I'm passionate about. Start talking to me about cars and I'm a total idiot, they're contraptions that get me from A to B. Does that make me an intelligent person or a thick one?
When we (the general we) have conversations about intelligence, there is guaranteed a comment about educated people being the most stupid/clueless etc etc. Are they really that inept or do they just have a difference intelligence to you? Everyone has their own intelligence that is unique to themselves. And those uniqueness is what makes humans human and should be celebrated. Why the need to pull others down?
Yes, it does make you intelligent. Not being able to converse on a single topic is not, to me, a measure of intelligence. If you can talk to me well about a particular thing and display knowledge of that subject, why wouldn’t you seem intelligent to me?
My point was anyway that intelligence is not measured by someone’s qualifications. It’s relative. It’s apparent through engaging with someone.
I agree with you, I know intelligent people with no exams whatsoever to Professors. Not one demographic is more intelligent than the other, just different skill sets.
Look at us!
Agreeing
Haha, I actually agree with much you say Steve. I just like debating with you "
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly."
People get hella defensive about IQ. |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
People get hella defensive about IQ. "
I know! But no-one does about measures of physical ability so not sure why cognitive tests should be different. The proof of their reliability is well documented and robust. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?"
Really don't care. It's not like I'm going to ask for proof If I like someone, I like them. Their education or qualifications while possibly an interesting conversation, have no baring on them being a good person or not.
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
People get hella defensive about IQ. "
I find IQ hilarious. |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly."
They're also hotly debated because they can be studied for (the question format for example) and can be culturally biased. Just because a child or adult has a high IQ doesn't mean they will succeed in life. |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
They're also hotly debated because they can be studied for (the question format for example) and can be culturally biased. Just because a child or adult has a high IQ doesn't mean they will succeed in life. "
My IQ isn't particularly high, those kind of tests aren't built for people like me. I also don't have many GCSEs and I flunked my A levels. I don't do well with lots of small questions, and I bloody well hate multiple choice questions. I'm not built for tests, which is a massive understatement. But I've done alright for myself |
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"Rather see some juicy vag tbh, nice pair of boobs, not really fussed about the small talk. As long as everyone is fun and kinky af. "
The diametric opposite to this. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?"
Neither. People stating stuff about themselves along those lines aren't usually people I will get along with. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?
Educated - with the expectation we're talking about a good liberal arts degree"
Not a science degree thenm |
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Neither. I prefer to read a profile narrative that is constructed in such a way that it comes across as sapsiosexual, but without using that specific word.
"Sapsiosexual" seems to have become a hackneyed term on here. A proportion of profiles that I've come across are anything but. |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
They're also hotly debated because they can be studied for (the question format for example) and can be culturally biased. Just because a child or adult has a high IQ doesn't mean they will succeed in life. "
There certainly were historical biases but for modern reputable tests those claims have been widely debunked. There are literally hundreds of robust studies showing their reliability, but of course that is based on averages and not absolutes. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?
Neither. People stating stuff about themselves along those lines aren't usually people I will get along with. "
As an educated professional, i tend to connect best with other educated professionals when it comes to long term relationships. When it comes to friendship and fucks it doesnt matter at all to me but i have noticed that women who have a less academic or professional background tend to be less interested in me |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
They're also hotly debated because they can be studied for (the question format for example) and can be culturally biased. Just because a child or adult has a high IQ doesn't mean they will succeed in life.
There certainly were historical biases but for modern reputable tests those claims have been widely debunked. There are literally hundreds of robust studies showing their reliability, but of course that is based on averages and not absolutes."
When I was given an IQ test, it was advised that even primary education would be wasted on me and I'd never live independently.
Things haven't quite turned out that way |
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No education or profession can teach common sense. I've worked with some very educated professionals that are skilled in their job however common sense is somewhat lacking. |
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"Neither. I prefer to read a profile narrative that is constructed in such a way that it comes across as sapsiosexual, but without using that specific word.
"Sapsiosexual" seems to have become a hackneyed term on here. A proportion of profiles that I've come across are anything but."
Nêrö, ever the consummate professional and clearly educated, has hit the nail on the head!
I can usually make a good judgement call based upon the use of words and phrases in profile construction those who are , but do not need to highlight either specifically.
I prefer to roll with those who know how to string a decent sentence together and can hold a decent conversation on most topics - not necessarily just sex
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"No education or profession can teach common sense. I've worked with some very educated professionals that are skilled in their job however common sense is somewhat lacking."
I suspect there are also uneducated people who also lack common sense, contrary to this trope. |
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"No education or profession can teach common sense. I've worked with some very educated professionals that are skilled in their job however common sense is somewhat lacking."
You’re not in the Conservative party by any chance are you? |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?"
Depends on how the terms are used and what else is on the profile. |
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"No education or profession can teach common sense. I've worked with some very educated professionals that are skilled in their job however common sense is somewhat lacking."
I'm surprised they even exist! I mean they have no common sense, so surely they can't do basic necessities to keep them alive |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
They're also hotly debated because they can be studied for (the question format for example) and can be culturally biased. Just because a child or adult has a high IQ doesn't mean they will succeed in life.
There certainly were historical biases but for modern reputable tests those claims have been widely debunked. There are literally hundreds of robust studies showing their reliability, but of course that is based on averages and not absolutes.
When I was given an IQ test, it was advised that even primary education would be wasted on me and I'd never live independently.
Things haven't quite turned out that way "
That was a very cruel and untrue thing to say, and I suspect it was a poor quality any crude test. As said, averages are not absolutes but this does not mean that averages are not accurate. |
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"Neither. I prefer to read a profile narrative that is constructed in such a way that it comes across as sapsiosexual, but without using that specific word.
"Sapsiosexual" seems to have become a hackneyed term on here. A proportion of profiles that I've come across are anything but."
They're usually profiles that look like the person has eaten a thesaurus, it's disagreed with their tummy tum and they've pebble dashed it all over their bio. |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
They're also hotly debated because they can be studied for (the question format for example) and can be culturally biased. Just because a child or adult has a high IQ doesn't mean they will succeed in life.
There certainly were historical biases but for modern reputable tests those claims have been widely debunked. There are literally hundreds of robust studies showing their reliability, but of course that is based on averages and not absolutes.
When I was given an IQ test, it was advised that even primary education would be wasted on me and I'd never live independently.
Things haven't quite turned out that way
That was a very cruel and untrue thing to say, and I suspect it was a poor quality any crude test. As said, averages are not absolutes but this does not mean that averages are not accurate."
It's definitely ironic when it comes to Swing, who is clearly an educated and clever person.
Perhaps some of us have encountered the tests used in a poor way as swing has. I know I carry some negativity about IQ tests, and I took many of them as a teen which is why I made the comment. But that's my bias and I take that on board. |
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"Education is measured but surely you cannot actually measure intelligence as the spectrum of it is too broad, stuck on a desert island you would need creativity in a physical form, possibly also part times as a hairdresser, sat on the desk at university 0challenge you would need intelligence of the learned type, the question is too wide
Actually IQ tests are a very reliable measure of cognitive ability, and therefore in most cases job and life success. More so than qualifications, certainly.
They're also hotly debated because they can be studied for (the question format for example) and can be culturally biased. Just because a child or adult has a high IQ doesn't mean they will succeed in life.
There certainly were historical biases but for modern reputable tests those claims have been widely debunked. There are literally hundreds of robust studies showing their reliability, but of course that is based on averages and not absolutes.
When I was given an IQ test, it was advised that even primary education would be wasted on me and I'd never live independently.
Things haven't quite turned out that way
That was a very cruel and untrue thing to say, and I suspect it was a poor quality any crude test. As said, averages are not absolutes but this does not mean that averages are not accurate."
I have no idea (it was conducted by someone qualified- not sure in what, I was in primary school). But obviously as a result, I take any claims about IQ with... less a grain of salt, more a mine.
It may be an indicator, but I prefer to look to other indicators. (incidentally, those who brag about their IQ rarely seem to be all that, to me, with my "subnormal" IQ) |
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Tbh if I received a first message and it mentioned either of those things it’d be a huge turn off.
My experience of people who think to include things like that is that they think they’re a cut above everyone else here, so they tend not to be for me. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?"
Couldn’t care less - what is important to us is whether or not someone is a decent person
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"Tbh if I received a first message and it mentioned either of those things it’d be a huge turn off.
My experience of people who think to include things like that is that they think they’re a cut above everyone else here, so they tend not to be for me. "
I think this is one place where the difference between confidence and arrogance can be shown up. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?
Couldn’t care less - what is important to us is whether or not someone is a decent person
F (Mrs)"
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So much reverse snobbery!
Surely it's just another couple of things in a long compatibility list, if you're looking for an educated professional it's a tick, if you're not it's an easy way to rule out that profile.
I really don't understand why people get so upset over those words. I don't think I've ever seen anyone up in arms about someone saying they have a foot fetish, even if they don't have any interest whatsoever in any form of foot play. |
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"Tbh if I received a first message and it mentioned either of those things it’d be a huge turn off.
My experience of people who think to include things like that is that they think they’re a cut above everyone else here, so they tend not to be for me.
I think this is one place where the difference between confidence and arrogance can be shown up."
I agree. I think as you chat and get to know someone these things may come up. But straight off the bat? No thanks.
It possibly depends on what you’re looking for. I’m here for great NSA sex, mostly in a club setting. I’m not really interested in getting to know someone’s real life initially. Some might be. |
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"So much reverse snobbery!
Surely it's just another couple of things in a long compatibility list, if you're looking for an educated professional it's a tick, if you're not it's an easy way to rule out that profile.
I really don't understand why people get so upset over those words. I don't think I've ever seen anyone up in arms about someone saying they have a foot fetish, even if they don't have any interest whatsoever in any form of foot play. "
I think most people base their comments on their experiences. Like you say, folk are here for different things, which is all fine. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?
Educated - with the expectation we're talking about a good liberal arts degree
Not a science degree thenm"
Liberal arts tends to denote both humanities and sciences. It's more of an American term |
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I think emotional intelligence is probably the most important trait... but it's pretty hard to quantify as it has very little to do with your level of education or your job, but much more to do with the way you were brought up. Reading between the lines is probably the best approach to determine whether someone is going to be a good fit in this way. |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?
Educated - with the expectation we're talking about a good liberal arts degree
Not a science degree thenm
Liberal arts tends to denote both humanities and sciences. It's more of an American term "
I’ve got a second class honours degree in biomedical sciences, and a masters degree in business and law….however I don’t feel either are relevant to me meeting people, and if I’m judged on these things, then I’m not interested in those kinds of people…I’m the only person in my family that went to Uni, and J has a construction background, so different to mine. We just care about whether or not people are genuine…not education or profession etc
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?
Educated - with the expectation we're talking about a good liberal arts degree
Not a science degree thenm
Liberal arts tends to denote both humanities and sciences. It's more of an American term
I’ve got a second class honours degree in biomedical sciences, and a masters degree in business and law….however I don’t feel either are relevant to me meeting people, and if I’m judged on these things, then I’m not interested in those kinds of people…I’m the only person in my family that went to Uni, and J has a construction background, so different to mine. We just care about whether or not people are genuine…not education or profession etc
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Fair enough. I'm just explaining what a liberal arts degree is |
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"I don't care if they're professional or educated,I'm more interested in what they're like as a person.A twunt is a twunt,educated/professional or not"
^^ This |
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"I don't care if they're professional or educated,I'm more interested in what they're like as a person.A twunt is a twunt,educated/professional or not
^^ This "
Also this |
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"I'd rather see a well written and thought out text which allows me to seduce myself.
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That's an interesting concept. "
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Honestly, they are just words used to convey a simple idea regarding a metric of intelligence or general behaviour.
Is it truly accurate, probably not. Is it slightly gauche, perhaps.
What's more interesting is people's reactions to it, from ambivalence to outright disgust. That's more telling.
Like everything else it's best viewed within the context of the individual, blanket statements or questions like "do you like dis?" or "do you like dat?" become largely redundant in isolation.
And yet, they'll be more...
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"I'd rather see a well written and thought out text which allows me to seduce myself.
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That's an interesting concept.
Omg.. Auto text changed it and i had to correct it lol.. I just had a heart attack lol"
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"Honestly, they are just words used to convey a simple idea regarding a metric of intelligence or general behaviour.
Is it truly accurate, probably not. Is it slightly gauche, perhaps.
What's more interesting is people's reactions to it, from ambivalence to outright disgust. That's more telling.
Like everything else it's best viewed within the context of the individual, blanket statements or questions like "do you like dis?" or "do you like dat?" become largely redundant in isolation.
And yet, they'll be more...
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There's an awful lot of reverse snobbery in here too. Which is bizarre if you think of what the vast majority of people on here are trying to acquire. It's just a bit of fun isn't it? Like people hooking up and enjoying mutual experiences. There's a lot taken waaaay too seriously in these four walls in my opinion at least. |
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"I'd rather see a well written and thought out text which allows me to seduce myself.
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That's an interesting concept.
Omg.. Auto text changed it and i had to correct it lol.. I just had a heart attack lol
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Bad Nero! |
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"Which term would you prefer to see on a profile or in a first message?
Professional, educated or neither of them?
Educated - with the expectation we're talking about a good liberal arts degree
Not a science degree thenm
Liberal arts tends to denote both humanities and sciences. It's more of an American term
I’ve got a second class honours degree in biomedical sciences, and a masters degree in business and law….however I don’t feel either are relevant to me meeting people, and if I’m judged on these things, then I’m not interested in those kinds of people…I’m the only person in my family that went to Uni, and J has a construction background, so different to mine. We just care about whether or not people are genuine…not education or profession etc
F (Mrs)"
That's all good and may well work for you. Presumably you allow others to care about what they care about and write what they wish to write? Or should there be only one algorithm for selecting those whom we wish to meet? |
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