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From a woman to all women:
How does it make you feel when someone calls you a female? Not a woman, girl, wife, female half of a couple etc.
Just female:
i.e. I'd like to meet the female for fun.
I'd like to see two females in action.
Just a blunt female in a rough scenario like "hi, I like the female".
Personally it makes me feel like some female animal like a goat or a sheep 
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By *ister CMan
over a year ago
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?"
Doll... Dame... bird... girl... gal... gurl... lady... theres a few...
I means guys n dolls sorta sprung to mind...does it not?
But people call groups including girls 'guys' in introductory ways... as in 'hey guys' so it's not as gender specific is it anymore. |
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
Doll... Dame... bird... girl... gal... gurl... lady... theres a few...
I means guys n dolls sorta sprung to mind...does it not?
But people call groups including girls 'guys' in introductory ways... as in 'hey guys' so it's not as gender specific is it anymore."
I was meaning more when referring to individuals. I often refer to 'the guy in a couple' there isn't an equivalent casual way to refer to the woman that I can think of |
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"And I see male rather than man used just as commonly."
No-one has ever described Mr KC as "the male". They've referred to the "male half of the couple", yes, but the OP excluded the female equivalent of that.
I'm referred to as "the female" many times a day, by contrast.
It feels very impersonal to me. |
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over a year ago
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
Doll... Dame... bird... girl... gal... gurl... lady... theres a few...
I means guys n dolls sorta sprung to mind...does it not?
But people call groups including girls 'guys' in introductory ways... as in 'hey guys' so it's not as gender specific is it anymore.
I was meaning more when referring to individuals. I often refer to 'the guy in a couple' there isn't an equivalent casual way to refer to the woman that I can think of"
I agree with this completely! I can’t think of an alternative either. |
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By *ister CMan
over a year ago
liverpool |
"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
Doll... Dame... bird... girl... gal... gurl... lady... theres a few...
I means guys n dolls sorta sprung to mind...does it not?
But people call groups including girls 'guys' in introductory ways... as in 'hey guys' so it's not as gender specific is it anymore.
I was meaning more when referring to individuals. I often refer to 'the guy in a couple' there isn't an equivalent casual way to refer to the woman that I can think of
I agree with this completely! I can’t think of an alternative either."
Its 'gal'...
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over a year ago
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
Doll... Dame... bird... girl... gal... gurl... lady... theres a few...
I means guys n dolls sorta sprung to mind...does it not?
But people call groups including girls 'guys' in introductory ways... as in 'hey guys' so it's not as gender specific is it anymore.
I was meaning more when referring to individuals. I often refer to 'the guy in a couple' there isn't an equivalent casual way to refer to the woman that I can think of
I agree with this completely! I can’t think of an alternative either.
Its 'gal'...
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It just sounds weird lol |
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By *ister CMan
over a year ago
liverpool |
"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
Doll... Dame... bird... girl... gal... gurl... lady... theres a few...
I means guys n dolls sorta sprung to mind...does it not?
But people call groups including girls 'guys' in introductory ways... as in 'hey guys' so it's not as gender specific is it anymore.
I was meaning more when referring to individuals. I often refer to 'the guy in a couple' there isn't an equivalent casual way to refer to the woman that I can think of
I agree with this completely! I can’t think of an alternative either.
Its 'gal'...
It just sounds weird lol "
It does to be fair...
I am gal hear me roar! loses its appeal doesn't it lol |
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over a year ago
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?"
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers  |
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers "
People in restaurants and cafes do that too.
"Are you guys ready to order?"
There I sit, a 65 year old woman, perplexed  |
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers
People in restaurants and cafes do that too.
"Are you guys ready to order?"
There I sit, a 65 year old woman, perplexed "
Hmmmmmm.
Perhaps you'd prefer "are you OAPs ready to order?"
Or
"Are you elder folk ready to order?"
No?!  |
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers
People in restaurants and cafes do that too.
"Are you guys ready to order?"
There I sit, a 65 year old woman, perplexed
Hmmmmmm.
Perhaps you'd prefer "are you OAPs ready to order?"
Or
"Are you elder folk ready to order?"
No?! "
I'm not an oap for several weeks .
What's wrong with
"Good morning/afternoon/evening Sir, Madam may I ask if you have selected from the menu? Perhaps chef can prepare you something to your specific requirements "
It's really gone downhill in McDonald's |
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers
People in restaurants and cafes do that too.
"Are you guys ready to order?"
There I sit, a 65 year old woman, perplexed
Hmmmmmm.
Perhaps you'd prefer "are you OAPs ready to order?"
Or
"Are you elder folk ready to order?"
No?!
I'm not an oap for several weeks .
What's wrong with
"Good morning/afternoon/evening Sir, Madam may I ask if you have selected from the menu? Perhaps chef can prepare you something to your specific requirements "
It's really gone downhill in McDonald's"
Have you tried M&S? I've heard it's really popular with *certain* people |
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers
People in restaurants and cafes do that too.
"Are you guys ready to order?"
There I sit, a 65 year old woman, perplexed
Hmmmmmm.
Perhaps you'd prefer "are you OAPs ready to order?"
Or
"Are you elder folk ready to order?"
No?!
I'm not an oap for several weeks .
What's wrong with
"Good morning/afternoon/evening Sir, Madam may I ask if you have selected from the menu? Perhaps chef can prepare you something to your specific requirements "
It's really gone downhill in McDonald's
Have you tried M&S? I've heard it's really popular with *certain* people "
Their cafes are dire! I think I should be relegated to a cottage tea room run by ladies even older than me who serve weak tea and have never heard of a cappuccino |
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers
People in restaurants and cafes do that too.
"Are you guys ready to order?"
There I sit, a 65 year old woman, perplexed
Hmmmmmm.
Perhaps you'd prefer "are you OAPs ready to order?"
Or
"Are you elder folk ready to order?"
No?!
I'm not an oap for several weeks .
What's wrong with
"Good morning/afternoon/evening Sir, Madam may I ask if you have selected from the menu? Perhaps chef can prepare you something to your specific requirements "
It's really gone downhill in McDonald's
Have you tried M&S? I've heard it's really popular with *certain* people
Their cafes are dire! I think I should be relegated to a cottage tea room run by ladies even older than me who serve weak tea and have never heard of a cappuccino"
You need the National Trust |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers
People in restaurants and cafes do that too.
"Are you guys ready to order?"
There I sit, a 65 year old woman, perplexed
Hmmmmmm.
Perhaps you'd prefer "are you OAPs ready to order?"
Or
"Are you elder folk ready to order?"
No?!
I'm not an oap for several weeks .
What's wrong with
"Good morning/afternoon/evening Sir, Madam may I ask if you have selected from the menu? Perhaps chef can prepare you something to your specific requirements "
It's really gone downhill in McDonald's
Have you tried M&S? I've heard it's really popular with *certain* people "
I do love an M&S café. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"From a woman to all women:
How does it make you feel when someone calls you a female? Not a woman, girl, wife, female half of a couple etc.
Just female:
i.e. I'd like to meet the female for fun.
I'd like to see two females in action.
Just a blunt female in a rough scenario like "hi, I like the female".
Personally it makes me feel like some female animal like a goat or a sheep
Missus"
I've never used that term myself but I'm going to have a guess at it might be because some men are scared to offend or feel awkward as woman/girl insinuates an age or maturity.. like I said not what I think just a guess at your question |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From a woman to all women:
How does it make you feel when someone calls you a female? Not a woman, girl, wife, female half of a couple etc.
Just female:
i.e. I'd like to meet the female for fun.
I'd like to see two females in action.
Just a blunt female in a rough scenario like "hi, I like the female".
Personally it makes me feel like some female animal like a goat or a sheep
Missus
I've never used that term myself but I'm going to have a guess at it might be because some men are scared to offend or feel awkward as woman/girl insinuates an age or maturity.. like I said not what I think just a guess at your question "
I'd say anyone of the female persuasion above teenage years is clearly no longer a 'girl'. I don't think 'I like the look of the woman', is much of a one up from 'I like the look of the female', though when addressing a couple |
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I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way. |
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way."
Thank you!
Perhaps because I never wanted children and always was aversed to having children, it genuinely turns me when people call me "female" instead of a "woman".
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely it's just a name we use to separate male from female.
Guys, gals
men, women
etc.....
Too many people get uptight these days for saying the wrong word..
Yes, you may not like it, but it's what we do,it's born into us to separate the (2) sexes.
Goosegog signing off.
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The problem is often lack of consistency.
How many threads or individual comments have there been on here about a dislike of the word "girl" and men are told they shouldn't use it when referring to a woman.
Then on the next thread there are comments about "girl power" and how "us girls need to stick together".
I've lost count of the number of messages I've had over the years from couples that start with "female here....".
Don't think I've ever had one that said "female half here...." Or "woman here..." |
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way."
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"The problem is often lack of consistency.
How many threads or individual comments have there been on here about a dislike of the word "girl" and men are told they shouldn't use it when referring to a woman.
Then on the next thread there are comments about "girl power" and how "us girls need to stick together".
I've lost count of the number of messages I've had over the years from couples that start with "female here....".
Don't think I've ever had one that said "female half here...." Or "woman here...""
Is that perhaps because it was in fact the male?  |
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"The problem is often lack of consistency.
How many threads or individual comments have there been on here about a dislike of the word "girl" and men are told they shouldn't use it when referring to a woman.
Then on the next thread there are comments about "girl power" and how "us girls need to stick together".
I've lost count of the number of messages I've had over the years from couples that start with "female here....".
Don't think I've ever had one that said "female half here...." Or "woman here..."
Is that perhaps because it was in fact the male? "
Unlikely as they were all profiles with 100+ veries and the conversations continued until the male got involved and there was an immediate change of tone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"when women write on their profiles looking for hung males or a male friend I've never looked into that or taken offence .. is what it is more important things to worry about "
Thank you for mansplaining our feelings. All the females will be happier now.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem is often lack of consistency.
How many threads or individual comments have there been on here about a dislike of the word "girl" and men are told they shouldn't use it when referring to a woman.
Then on the next thread there are comments about "girl power" and how "us girls need to stick together".
I've lost count of the number of messages I've had over the years from couples that start with "female here....".
Don't think I've ever had one that said "female half here...." Or "woman here..."
Is that perhaps because it was in fact the male? "
It's the female here. With my 38GG breasts bouncing in my bra, rubbing my vagina and licking my red lips. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"when women write on their profiles looking for hung males or a male friend I've never looked into that or taken offence .. is what it is more important things to worry about
Thank you for mansplaining our feelings. All the females will be happier now. "
You can only speak for yourself you don't represent all women on here I'm afraid |
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Michelle here. I really don’t like it either I also don’t like it when they address Steve and say I like your Mrs as though they are asking his permission but they don’t address me. Does anyone else get those kind of messages? |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Michelle here. I really don’t like it either I also don’t like it when they address Steve and say I like your Mrs as though they are asking his permission but they don’t address me. Does anyone else get those kind of messages? "
Oh I can explain this one easily .. majority of couples profiles are being run by a man so when men get messages from them they just assume it's the man instead of pretending to go along with the it's both of us chatting or she's at work tonight |
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I steer clear of men who describe women as females. It's a dehumanising term.
Same as I steer clear of men who describe themselves as professional, clean, fun or genuine.
I make judgments about people based on the words they use in their profile, messages, status, forum comments. And I imagine people make judgments about me too. C'est la vie. |
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"The problem is often lack of consistency.
How many threads or individual comments have there been on here about a dislike of the word "girl" and men are told they shouldn't use it when referring to a woman.
Then on the next thread there are comments about "girl power" and how "us girls need to stick together".
I've lost count of the number of messages I've had over the years from couples that start with "female here....".
Don't think I've ever had one that said "female half here...." Or "woman here..."
Is that perhaps because it was in fact the male?
It's the female here. With my 38GG breasts bouncing in my bra, rubbing my vagina and licking my red lips. "
I thought that’s what all the birds do on fab smh |
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"Michelle here. I really don’t like it either I also don’t like it when they address Steve and say I like your Mrs as though they are asking his permission but they don’t address me. Does anyone else get those kind of messages?
Oh I can explain this one easily .. majority of couples profiles are being run by a man so when men get messages from them they just assume it's the man instead of pretending to go along with the it's both of us chatting or she's at work tonight "
Maybe men should think about it and hedge their bets, rather than risk putting the woman in the couple off off? |
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"Female doesn't bother me, being called male annoys me a little though."
I wouldn't say it necessarily bothers me but I do find it an odd term to describe someone you are interacting with. If somebody wrote to our couple's profile I am interested in meeting the female it would put me off. |
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From here on in you shall be known as WonderHumanWlv
Winston"
That's not necessary though is it. A woman, by definition, is *already human*. You don't say a woman cat/bird/dolphin, because that makes no sense - you'd use female cat/bird/dolphin to describe them.
I am a 'female human' (describing word+naming word) , but that sounds weird and clunky because a word already exists that means that, and it's WOMAN.
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From here on in you shall be known as WonderHumanWlv
Winston
That's not necessary though is it. A woman, by definition, is *already human*. You don't say a woman cat/bird/dolphin, because that makes no sense - you'd use female cat/bird/dolphin to describe them.
I am a 'female human' (describing word+naming word) , but that sounds weird and clunky because a word already exists that means that, and it's WOMAN.
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Yes. I don't mind female as an adjective - example, female half of a couple.
Female as noun (I want to meet a female) feels like describing an animal. |
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"Michelle here. I really don’t like it either I also don’t like it when they address Steve and say I like your Mrs as though they are asking his permission but they don’t address me. Does anyone else get those kind of messages?
Oh I can explain this one easily .. majority of couples profiles are being run by a man so when men get messages from them they just assume it's the man instead of pretending to go along with the it's both of us chatting or she's at work tonight
Maybe men should think about it and hedge their bets, rather than risk putting the woman in the couple off off?"
Completely agree! Both our names are on our profile, so talking to us both (or at least addressing us equally) is the quickest way into our respective pants! |
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"Michelle here. I really don’t like it either I also don’t like it when they address Steve and say I like your Mrs as though they are asking his permission but they don’t address me. Does anyone else get those kind of messages?
Oh I can explain this one easily .. majority of couples profiles are being run by a man so when men get messages from them they just assume it's the man instead of pretending to go along with the it's both of us chatting or she's at work tonight
Maybe men should think about it and hedge their bets, rather than risk putting the woman in the couple off off?
Completely agree! Both our names are on our profile, so talking to us both (or at least addressing us equally) is the quickest way into our respective pants!"
I try to talk to both (even if it's making it clear I'm referring to both, like "hope you're both having a good day") unless I know that I'm talking to one half or the other. And even then, I treat it like talking to one half of the couple while the other half is standing right there. |
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TIL: females don't like being called females.
So I am no longer going to call females, females. As otherwise my success with females will be next to nowt. And females may start to think I'm not an alpha man
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"TIL: females don't like being called females.
So I am no longer going to call females, females. As otherwise my success with females will be next to nowt. And females may start to think I'm not an alpha man
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"when women write on their profiles looking for hung males or a male friend I've never looked into that or taken offence .. is what it is more important things to worry about
Thank you for mansplaining our feelings. All the females will be happier now.
You can only speak for yourself you don't represent all women on here I'm afraid "
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"The problem is often lack of consistency.
How many threads or individual comments have there been on here about a dislike of the word "girl" and men are told they shouldn't use it when referring to a woman.
Then on the next thread there are comments about "girl power" and how "us girls need to stick together".
I've lost count of the number of messages I've had over the years from couples that start with "female here....".
Don't think I've ever had one that said "female half here...." Or "woman here..."
Is that perhaps because it was in fact the male?
It's the female here. With my 38GG breasts bouncing in my bra, rubbing my vagina and licking my red lips.
I thought that’s what all the birds do on fab smh "
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
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"Some don't like girl/lady/woman. I really couldn’t give a toss unless it’s a derogatory word. "
This is how I feel as well but I do find girl a bit odd to describe a grown adult though but I wouldn't get my knickers in a knot over it . .Bo. |
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"From a woman to all women:
How does it make you feel when someone calls you a female? Not a woman, girl, wife, female half of a couple etc.
Just female:
i.e. I'd like to meet the female for fun.
I'd like to see two females in action.
Just a blunt female in a rough scenario like "hi, I like the female".
Personally it makes me feel like some female animal like a goat or a sheep
Missus"
Exactly - which is why it was used as a satirical term in the sitcom Friday Night Dinner.
It's truly disrespectful in my opinion |
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By *rs322Woman
over a year ago
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"Society is getting so ridiculous now no matter how you refer to someone, there is someone who will be offended. I’m actually quite pleased I won’t be around 50 years or so from now "
I might not like the term female but I'm not offended by it, I do wonder why people can't refer to people as they have listed themselves on their profile. Eg neat or M in your case.
Mind is boggled on why people get so violently offended without having the faintest idea they could be offending. Mental world! |
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"Society is getting so ridiculous now no matter how you refer to someone, there is someone who will be offended. I’m actually quite pleased I won’t be around 50 years or so from now "
The thread asked women how they felt about it. Are we not allowed to have an opinion unless it agrees with men? |
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"Society is getting so ridiculous now no matter how you refer to someone, there is someone who will be offended. I’m actually quite pleased I won’t be around 50 years or so from now "
I sincerely apologise for having an opinion, and having sufficient autonomy and political franchise to express it without fearing retribution. How awful of me |
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"Being called female just takes me to memories of watching Friday night dinner LOL
not for me ha "
This is my first thought when I hear/see the 'F' word too! See also: squirrel.
(and, no, not calling any women squirrels) |
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"Society is getting so ridiculous now no matter how you refer to someone, there is someone who will be offended. I’m actually quite pleased I won’t be around 50 years or so from now "
I do agree with you in a way, just don't understand what offends you so much about my post.
It's not like "woman" is a new word or a new term in any sense.
There are so many nicer, more human ways to call women well... women.
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"There's not really a feminine equivalent to guy is there?
I call everyone guys irrespective of gender - but only if I like you otherwise yees is just wankers "
Haha, agree wholeheartedly with this response lol
F (Mrs) |
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I’ll be perfectly honest - I’ve never given this a second thought until now lol. Definitely some interesting replies, I actually think on our profile I say ‘woman’ rather than female… In general conversation I tend to call everyone ‘guys’
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over a year ago
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"From a woman to all women:
How does it make you feel when someone calls you a female? Not a woman, girl, wife, female half of a couple etc.
Just female:
i.e. I'd like to meet the female for fun.
I'd like to see two females in action.
Just a blunt female in a rough scenario like "hi, I like the female".
Personally it makes me feel like some female animal like a goat or a sheep
Missus"
Being called female doesn't make me feel like a goat. Although if I have forgotten to pluck the whiskers out of my chin I probably resemble one .. |
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over a year ago
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"Woman = Female
Female = woman
It’s what I am, why would I be offended by it?
Why are you offended by it? "
They're not equal to each other, though.
Female can describe any species
Woman describes a female human |
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"Woman = Female
Female = woman
It’s what I am, why would I be offended by it?
Why are you offended by it? "
It's not offensive. Just odd and dehumanising. Female can refer to any animal, hence why we say "female cat, female dog etc". We also have other words for the female animals, like queen/molly, bitch, mare etc. A female human is a woman. So that should be the first line word used.
Profiles have to choose a name to be known by, ours are our initials, so if someone has read the profile, I'd say use that name/those names. We much prefer to be approached as N & S or Mr and Mrs KC/Kinkycouple than "male and female", which makes us sound like we're in an Attenborough documentary. |
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way."
Same goes for the term male I suppose. |
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way.
Same goes for the term male I suppose."
Yes, if you just said "the male looks gorgeous" or similar. However, our experience is that this approach never happens "the male" but we get "the female blah blah" all the time, like I'm some kind of museum specimen. |
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way.
Same goes for the term male I suppose."
Yes. Just don't see it used as much for men. |
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way.
Same goes for the term male I suppose.
Yes. Just don't see it used as much for men. "
I dunno, there’s a lot reference to single males on this site, not in a good way always. |
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"So would it be fair to say that female/male describe sex, but man or woman describe gender?
Or am I miles off the mark as usual!"
No, man/women describe the human version of male and female. Just as stallion/mare or dog/bitch, tom/queen are the specific names we give to male and female animals. |
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"So would it be fair to say that female/male describe sex, but man or woman describe gender?
Or am I miles off the mark as usual!
No, man/women describe the human version of male and female. Just as stallion/mare or dog/bitch, tom/queen are the specific names we give to male and female animals. "
Makes sense.
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"I’ve noticed that people no longer refer to an actress, but now use the term actor for both, or when being specific, a female actor.
Don’t know if this is a good or bad description. "
It's supposed to be gender neutral, i.e it's not obvious from the job title if the individual is male, female or non binary.
Similar is happening for other professions where it used to be traditional to differentiate on gender. You don't see adverts for manageresses or similar anymore either. You see ads for managers. Etc. |
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"I’ve noticed that people no longer refer to an actress, but now use the term actor for both, or when being specific, a female actor.
Don’t know if this is a good or bad description. "
I noticed that and comedian. |
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"I’ve noticed that people no longer refer to an actress, but now use the term actor for both, or when being specific, a female actor.
Don’t know if this is a good or bad description.
I noticed that and comedian."
Yes, I hadn’t noticed comedian until you just said it! |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way.
Same goes for the term male I suppose.
Yes. Just don't see it used as much for men. "
Maybe you are not as exposed to the term "male" that often...me as a man and a former "male entertainer " have been exposed to that word immensely |
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"I hate it, at best it makes me uncomfortable, at worst angry.
It's dehumanising. Woman is *only* used to mean a human, a 'female' could be of any species - and almost always the version of that species that produces offspring. Meaning that it reduces us to a (presumed) reproductive status. It wrongly equates "producing offspring" with "being a woman" - all kinds of things wrong with that...not all women want children, or can have children, or have the parts to get pregnant with...etc.
It's also grammatically incorrect - female is primarily used as an adjective, woman is the noun in this context.
And last but not least, because it is often coming from men where it is being used in a derogatory way.
Same goes for the term male I suppose.
Yes. Just don't see it used as much for men.
Maybe you are not as exposed to the term "male" that often...me as a man and a former "male entertainer " have been exposed to that word immensely "
No, I was just speaking of my own perspective. And do you find it dehumanising to be called a male? |
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"Woman = Female
Female = woman
It’s what I am, why would I be offended by it?
Why are you offended by it?
They're not equal to each other, though.
Female can describe any species
Woman describes a female human"
I was coming at it from my own perspective, thank you! Female is what I Am and I am not offended by it. Does that make my perspective clearer? |
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"I’ve noticed that people no longer refer to an actress, but now use the term actor for both, or when being specific, a female actor.
Don’t know if this is a good or bad description. "
Manwhohasitall has fun with this. Turns it around.
Men get annoyed being called policewoman or firewoman but the term covers both men and women. So why do men get so hissy about it... they should stick to looking pretty in the kitchen and leave women to the important jobs. |
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"Society is getting so ridiculous now no matter how you refer to someone, there is someone who will be offended. I’m actually quite pleased I won’t be around 50 years or so from now
I sincerely apologise for having an opinion, and having sufficient autonomy and political franchise to express it without fearing retribution. How awful of me "
I rest my case |
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"Woman = Female
Female = woman
It’s what I am, why would I be offended by it?
Why are you offended by it?
They're not equal to each other, though.
Female can describe any species
Woman describes a female human
I was coming at it from my own perspective, thank you! Female is what I Am and I am not offended by it. Does that make my perspective clearer? "
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"I’ve noticed that people no longer refer to an actress, but now use the term actor for both, or when being specific, a female actor.
Don’t know if this is a good or bad description.
Manwhohasitall has fun with this. Turns it around.
Men get annoyed being called policewoman or firewoman but the term covers both men and women. So why do men get so hissy about it... they should stick to looking pretty in the kitchen and leave women to the important jobs."
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over a year ago
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Well it doesn't really bother me to be honest. I suppose if we were deep into a conversation and he started referring to me as female I'd be a bit weirded out but if it's a first message, especially on a couples account then it's not really an issue. I am a female, Fab does put us into those categories too especially on Male and Female accounts. So it's fine as a starting point. |
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"Doesn't bother me in the slightest, I am female after all.
Mrs "
You're so close to the point. You are indeed female, ie you could be described as such. But are you named "A female"? ... oh suddenly you sound more like cattle than a person. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"From a woman to all women:
How does it make you feel when someone calls you a female? Not a woman, girl, wife, female half of a couple etc.
Just female:
i.e. I'd like to meet the female for fun.
I'd like to see two females in action.
Just a blunt female in a rough scenario like "hi, I like the female".
Personally it makes me feel like some female animal like a goat or a sheep
Missus"
Yup.
Boils my piss. |
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"Doesn't bother me in the slightest, I am female after all.
Mrs
You're so close to the point. You are indeed female, ie you could be described as such. But are you named "A female"? ... oh suddenly you sound more like cattle than a person. "
Nope still just sounds like a female to me. In response to or regarding a person it's obviously taken as a person rather than cattle I'm not sure how it could be mistaken for cattle in the context.
As a couple on here we are generally referred to as male/female and get many messages asking if there speaking to the male or female, not once have I thought "that's rude he's talking to me like I'm cattle"
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over a year ago
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Just makes me think of Friday Night Dinner.
I'm not a female but wouldn't care if I was referred to as the male. Then again I'm not one of those people who has a list of words/terms that offend me.
I tend to take a profile or message as a whole. Words do have unspoken connotations so the use of "female/male" could be part of what puts me off but it's unlikely to be just that word. For instance, a message saying simply "I'd like to meet the female" would get a negative response for being demanding and entitled, not for using the word female.
Also, for those who are offended by this but yesterday couldn't understand dislike of profiles that self describe as "professional" I'm far less likely to be put off by being called male in a message than seeing someone describe themselves as professional in their profile
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From my perspective (Mr).
It can make me a little uncomfortable with certain context.
At least with the term 'Woman', we can asume an adult human is meant.
Female is a little more broad.
Plus, as mentioned above, it reminds me of Friday night dinner.
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Love how some people assumed that females are offended out of a sudden
Just wondering why in vanilla life phrases like below don't exist and aren't normal:
"some female bumped into me at the shop"
"Male was talking on the phone very loudly"
"My sister has a female baby"... etc.
Nobody speaks that way in real world, so I wonder what causes this fab phenomenon of:
"two males looking fun"
"Your female looks fuckable"
"I want to chat to females" etc.
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"Love how some people assumed that females are offended out of a sudden
Just wondering why in vanilla life phrases like below don't exist and aren't normal:
"some female bumped into me at the shop"
"Male was talking on the phone very loudly"
"My sister has a female baby"... etc.
Nobody speaks that way in real world, so I wonder what causes this fab phenomenon of:
"two males looking fun"
"Your female looks fuckable"
"I want to chat to females" etc.
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Male and female sex meat.
Perhaps they use the word to distinguish the type of hole they are looking for. |
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"Love how some people assumed that females are offended out of a sudden
Just wondering why in vanilla life phrases like below don't exist and aren't normal:
"some female bumped into me at the shop"
"Male was talking on the phone very loudly"
"My sister has a female baby"... etc.
Nobody speaks that way in real world, so I wonder what causes this fab phenomenon of:
"two males looking fun"
"Your female looks fuckable"
"I want to chat to females" etc.
Male and female sex meat.
Perhaps they use the word to distinguish the type of hole they are looking for. "
great analogy |
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"Love how some people assumed that females are offended out of a sudden
Just wondering why in vanilla life phrases like below don't exist and aren't normal:
"some female bumped into me at the shop"
"Male was talking on the phone very loudly"
"My sister has a female baby"... etc.
Nobody speaks that way in real world, so I wonder what causes this fab phenomenon of:
"two males looking fun"
"Your female looks fuckable"
"I want to chat to females" etc.
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I'm not offended. I just use it as a filter. Here and IRL. |
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"I just instantly think of Martin from Friday Night Dinner
Exactly where my brain went!
'Shit on it!'
Cherry x"
Makes me chuckle every time I hear it. His quotes are phenomenal. “Now I’m going to have that sodding dog in my head next time I’m astride your mother” |
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"I just instantly think of Martin from Friday Night Dinner
Exactly where my brain went!
'Shit on it!'
Cherry x
Makes me chuckle every time I hear it. His quotes are phenomenal. “Now I’m going to have that sodding dog in my head next time I’m astride your mother” "
I'm halfway through rewatching the entire show again, for the millionth time... Martin is a legend!
Cherry x |
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"It depends. "Lacey is female" is accurate and fine by me. Being referred to as a female or the female however makes me shudder. "
Lookin 4 fems
*shudders* |
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"I just instantly think of Martin from Friday Night Dinner
Exactly where my brain went!
'Shit on it!'
Cherry x
Makes me chuckle every time I hear it. His quotes are phenomenal. “Now I’m going to have that sodding dog in my head next time I’m astride your mother”
I'm halfway through rewatching the entire show again, for the millionth time... Martin is a legend!
Cherry x "
One of the best! It’s one of my favourite shows. There’s a Martin in all of us occasionally |
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