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Would you leave a job you're not happy in?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh definitely ! I don’t even need to think twice "
Now having said that there are a myriad of factors to take into consideration. But I’ll make sure to find something else first but I’ll definitely hasta la vista them |
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over a year ago
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Yes definitely. For the last 18 months I've been job hopping, haven't been able to settle anywhere for long. Have been really depressed over not being able to find somewhere that I'm really happy. I've never been like this before! Hopefully now I've found another job and am really enjoying so far  |
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Yes. And it's something I'm currently doing, albeit very slowly, in order to escape the existential toxic culture in my workplace.
I don't want to rush it and end up out of the frying pan and into the fire of an equally shitty job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've changed jobs for life reasons but always had something lined up first.
Also, I've changed roles a few times but stayed within the same company network. Best of both worlds.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wow, so many messages so quickly!
I thought I was the only one not enjoying my job! I've got a 3 month notice period which is a double edged sword. Roll on 11am.. In having a 121 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always have. I've had some very interesting jobs but as soon as I get bored or the firm does something I disagree with I always started looking for a new post. It helped that I was very mobile and happy to move around the country to take a job that interested me. I only ever applied for jobs I wanted to do, rather than just do anything to pay the bills |
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I have been in a job I dislike for 20 yrs plus.
I have no excuse except inertia and a lack of confidence.
I am sure I could get a job, but now I am in the "dont want to upset the pension" zone.
Its not too bad but I'd leave if I had something as secure to move to. |
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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago
Cheltenham |
With responsibility comes the need to plan.
I would totally leave a job I hated but needed to make sure I could. Have something lined up even if it's a temporary lifeline.
You only have one life to live op. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Interview tomorrow for a new job and it’s difficult not to get my hopes up "
Good luck Hun! Hope you like them as much as they like you... !
Yeah I was bullied at a role in the past. While tribunal was ongoing, I got another job and just left. My dignity was intact and the employer is always advertising for staff as they can't keep them due to toxic managers.
I then became a contractor / interim and love the variety it offers!
They say, when things are up in the air, you never know where the pieces would land. Last year, I had a six month placement that paid amazingly well. And it got me the experience and foothold in an industry I now love and have a permanent contract with a terrific team!
Never be afraid to walk out on a shit job. A lot has been made of "the great resignation" but I think the Gen Z have principles we can learn from. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I think it’s important to keep developing and only work for companies you feel proud of what they do and are loyal to , so yes, definitely when that ends it’s time to go.
It’s also important to know when not to quit and to learn patience and persistence. When I’m recruiting if I see too many short stays and no evidence of a 10 or couple of 5s I worry then are quitters when things begin to get tough so would not usually hire them
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends what sector or industry you're in, come next year when all the pubs have closed and the job market is stretched things will be harder. Some industries are finicky and last in first out when the shit hits the fan, I want to change companies but holding on for that reason. Good luck whatever happens |
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Yes it I had another job that I was as certain as I could be was secure, my pension was transferable, the pay allowed me to pay my bills, I was pretty sure I wasn't jumping out of the frying pan into the fire and it was fairly easy to get to.
I haven't worked for some years now and the prospect of doing so, let alone in a job that made me unhappy fills me with horror. If it's possible move on |
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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago
the land of saints & sinners |
Yes, without a shadow of a doubt… Done it on several occasions… even without something lined up in advance…..
But then I’ve had more jobs than Mr Ben.
I’ve also managed to climb the greasy pole along the way into more senior roles… by being a serial job leaver. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Wow, so many messages so quickly!
I thought I was the only one not enjoying my job! I've got a 3 month notice period which is a double edged sword. Roll on 11am.. In having a 121"
Good luck babes. Let us know how you get on... |
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"Interview tomorrow for a new job and it’s difficult not to get my hopes up
Good luck Hun! Hope you like them as much as they like you... !
Yeah I was bullied at a role in the past. While tribunal was ongoing, I got another job and just left. My dignity was intact and the employer is always advertising for staff as they can't keep them due to toxic managers.
I then became a contractor / interim and love the variety it offers!
They say, when things are up in the air, you never know where the pieces would land. Last year, I had a six month placement that paid amazingly well. And it got me the experience and foothold in an industry I now love and have a permanent contract with a terrific team!
Never be afraid to walk out on a shit job. A lot has been made of "the great resignation" but I think the Gen Z have principles we can learn from."
This one will genuinely be a life changer for me so I hope I get it but there’s a line of optimism I don’t want to go past  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, we spend so much of our lives working or thinking about work that you need to enjoy and be happy.
I’m fortunate that I’ve only ever had one job/boss I didn’t like and I promoted myself out of the company to a competitor.
On my exit interview I gave honest and constructive feedback, the ex boss didn’t last much longer |
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I was really struggling with stress/my mental health/panic attacks in my previous job, I went on sick leave for quite a weeks. Once i healed partially I realised that I had to leave my job.
I started applying for different jobs but hadn't had an interview but I handed in my notice. Once I did that my stress level reduced even more.
I did get a job very quickly, it was only 6 days between my last pay and starting a new role.
My mental health improved so much over the next few weeks.
This was over 6yrs ago and I'm still employed by the same company, in a different role.
I'm not sure if would hand my notice in without a job now but I would definitely be looking if I was struggling with my mental health again. |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
I’m currently in a job that on a personal level I care nothing for and that most days just drains me of happiness. Professionally I give all I can as I’m paid well to do so and paying clients deserve a great service.
If there were a viable alternative, I’d take it in a heartbeat…..but there isn’t. I’ve got approaching on 30 years experience in my sector and nearly 20 years in my specialism.
Doing something completely different now would likely mean a 70+% pay cut, which isn’t even remotely possible as I’m the only income earner and have a family to support. |
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One of the greatest pleasures I ever had was telling the manager, of the last place I worked at, exactly what I thought of him as I handed my notice in.
As a matter of fact I found out that a number of other senior techs and team leaders did the same as me and when the company saw the trend, the manager was severed from the firm fairly sharpish … it was very satisfying to find that the company cottoned on to what an arsehole he was.
I could probably walk back into my old job tomorrow but on balance my new job is better, so I am happy to stay here even though the wage is not as good |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Interview tomorrow for a new job and it’s difficult not to get my hopes up
Good luck Hun! Hope you like them as much as they like you... !
Yeah I was bullied at a role in the past. While tribunal was ongoing, I got another job and just left. My dignity was intact and the employer is always advertising for staff as they can't keep them due to toxic managers.
I then became a contractor / interim and love the variety it offers!
They say, when things are up in the air, you never know where the pieces would land. Last year, I had a six month placement that paid amazingly well. And it got me the experience and foothold in an industry I now love and have a permanent contract with a terrific team!
Never be afraid to walk out on a shit job. A lot has been made of "the great resignation" but I think the Gen Z have principles we can learn from.
This one will genuinely be a life changer for me so I hope I get it but there’s a line of optimism I don’t want to go past "
Authentic passion and enthusiasm is hard to beat at an interview, good employers recruit on potential over experience as you can see from posts above not all experience is good.
Focus on why you want the job, what you like about the company, how they inspire you , how you will hit the ground running and overcome any obstacles and skills gaps. Don’t show any hint of dissatisfaction with your current job or company at the interview , ,always talk about them positively , what you have is good , but there’s a win/win opportunity and the interview is for you both to decide if it’s the right move. Good luck  |
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"I’m currently in a job that on a personal level I care nothing for and that most days just drains me of happiness. Professionally I give all I can as I’m paid well to do so and paying clients deserve a great service.
If there were a viable alternative, I’d take it in a heartbeat…..but there isn’t. I’ve got approaching on 30 years experience in my sector and nearly 20 years in my specialism.
Doing something completely different now would likely mean a 70+% pay cut, which isn’t even remotely possible as I’m the only income earner and have a family to support."
I really feel for you. This is a really difficult position to find yourself in.
Of course there is the added concern these days that although companies expect total loyalty from their workers they feel there is no need to reciprocate that loyalty and they would think nothing of putting you out of a job if they feel it would benefit the company |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would and, in fact, I have.
Didn’t like the job much anyway - long commute, horrible manager, work not great.
Then they wanted to me take on overnight support also without any extra pay. I resigned. No new job to go to. But it worked out and shortly afterwards I was contacted by a job agent and had a new role within a couple of months.
I had a little bit saved away so that allowed me to make this decision and it was a v calculated risk.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I resigned from a job I'd been in for 6 years with nothing to go to, when the owner tried to blame me for something failing that I'd been asking him for assisance with for months, but he wouldn't help.
Put me on garden leave which was great, and within 2 weeks I had 2 job offers, both with a better package than that which I was on.
Worked out nicely then, but have to admit to feeling somewhat vulnerable when I walked out.
Oh, and thrashed the nuts out of the company car while I was on garden leave too....
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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"I’m currently in a job that on a personal level I care nothing for and that most days just drains me of happiness. Professionally I give all I can as I’m paid well to do so and paying clients deserve a great service.
If there were a viable alternative, I’d take it in a heartbeat…..but there isn’t. I’ve got approaching on 30 years experience in my sector and nearly 20 years in my specialism.
Doing something completely different now would likely mean a 70+% pay cut, which isn’t even remotely possible as I’m the only income earner and have a family to support.
I really feel for you. This is a really difficult position to find yourself in.
Of course there is the added concern these days that although companies expect total loyalty from their workers they feel there is no need to reciprocate that loyalty and they would think nothing of putting you out of a job if they feel it would benefit the company "
I’m self-employed which makes it worse…….I have the responsibility of running a limited company on top of the rest. |
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I'm lucky I suppose, retired early a few years ago and took a Locum position with a charity covering leave, sickness etc. No I work for them in a permanent position and have my own people to support. To be honest I feel like I've 'come home'.
When a senior manager asked me why I'd never done this work before I told her, honestly, that I couldn't have afforded to.
I now work 3 days a week plus other odd days filling in and I love it. |
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"Interview tomorrow for a new job and it’s difficult not to get my hopes up
Good luck Hun! Hope you like them as much as they like you... !
Yeah I was bullied at a role in the past. While tribunal was ongoing, I got another job and just left. My dignity was intact and the employer is always advertising for staff as they can't keep them due to toxic managers.
I then became a contractor / interim and love the variety it offers!
They say, when things are up in the air, you never know where the pieces would land. Last year, I had a six month placement that paid amazingly well. And it got me the experience and foothold in an industry I now love and have a permanent contract with a terrific team!
Never be afraid to walk out on a shit job. A lot has been made of "the great resignation" but I think the Gen Z have principles we can learn from.
This one will genuinely be a life changer for me so I hope I get it but there’s a line of optimism I don’t want to go past
Authentic passion and enthusiasm is hard to beat at an interview, good employers recruit on potential over experience as you can see from posts above not all experience is good.
Focus on why you want the job, what you like about the company, how they inspire you , how you will hit the ground running and overcome any obstacles and skills gaps. Don’t show any hint of dissatisfaction with your current job or company at the interview , ,always talk about them positively , what you have is good , but there’s a win/win opportunity and the interview is for you both to decide if it’s the right move. Good luck "
I like the do you have any questions section at the end of interviews when I can give them my own interview
I’ve 7 questions lined up for them
Can you tell me more about the day-to-day responsibilities of the role?
How could I impress you in the first three months?
Are there opportunities for training and progression within the role/company?
Where do you think the company is headed in the next five years?
Can you describe the working culture of the organisation?
What do you enjoy about your job?
Can you tell me more about the team I would be working in?
Hopefully I don’t just come across as an asshole |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
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Am currently still looking for employment as current employer agrees with bullying and still continues to do so
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Wishing you all the best hun. Don't compromise your principles and get out before the toxicity destroys you.
They say there is no such thing as a bad job, just bad managers. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"I’ve 7 questions lined up for them
Can you tell me more about the day-to-day responsibilities of the role?
How could I impress you in the first three months?
Are there opportunities for training and progression within the role/company?
Where do you think the company is headed in the next five years?
Can you describe the working culture of the organisation?
What do you enjoy about your job?
Can you tell me more about the team I would be working in?
Hopefully I don’t just come across as an asshole "
I love this and will keep note of it!
I think you'll nail it! Best wishes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes
Am currently still looking for employment as current employer agrees with bullying and still continues to do so
Wishing you all the best hun. Don't compromise your principles and get out before the toxicity destroys you.
They say there is no such thing as a bad job, just bad managers."
Thank you
And no truer word have been spoken
Managers have swept it under the carpet like it never happened
Blighted my life since 2019
Mitrepeane and setreline ever since and three stays at an institution
Think the time has come now to think about me am fifty seven so could take time
Will be happier though  |
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This new idea that everyone is meant to be perfectly happy in their job is a pipe dream
Aim to find a job you love, but be ready to settle for a job you can stand that supports your life style
The world we have today was literally built on millions of men working themselves to the bone in jobs they hated so their family could be happy. |
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Life’s too short and you spend too much time there to be miserable.
But I’d make sure I had plans to support my life style before leaving.
I’d stay whilst looking elsewhere but that would become a priority |
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"I’ve 7 questions lined up for them
Can you tell me more about the day-to-day responsibilities of the role?
How could I impress you in the first three months?
Are there opportunities for training and progression within the role/company?
Where do you think the company is headed in the next five years?
Can you describe the working culture of the organisation?
What do you enjoy about your job?
Can you tell me more about the team I would be working in?
Hopefully I don’t just come across as an asshole
I love this and will keep note of it!
I think you'll nail it! Best wishes!"
Yes, very good questions to show interest in the way the company operates and its future, the oranisational culture and the devopment opportunities available. Add a few references to something you seen or read about them so they know you have done your homework too |
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"This new idea that everyone is meant to be perfectly happy in their job is a pipe dream
Aim to find a job you love, but be ready to settle for a job you can stand that supports your life style
The world we have today was literally built on millions of men working themselves to the bone in jobs they hated so their family could be happy. "
Nah, I'll work a job I tolerate while actively searching for a job I love. Then leave the former for the latter when I've got it.
Why would I settle for being miserable just because millions of people did it before me?
LvM |
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"This new idea that everyone is meant to be perfectly happy in their job is a pipe dream
Aim to find a job you love, but be ready to settle for a job you can stand that supports your life style
The world we have today was literally built on millions of men working themselves to the bone in jobs they hated so their family could be happy.
Nah, I'll work a job I tolerate while actively searching for a job I love. Then leave the former for the latter when I've got it.
Why would I settle for being miserable just because millions of people did it before me?
LvM"
I think that attitude is leaving a lot of young people just unemployed.
If you find a job you truly love, not “it’s ok”, but actually love, consider yourself one of the lucky few
And you know what really sucks? Being unemployed and poor
I’ll settle for a job I can stand, with work that makes me proud, and a good wage that lets me live a good life style
Out of interest, how long have you been tolerating your current job and how long had the search been for one you love? And will the one you love cover your expenses?
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"I’ve 7 questions lined up for them
Can you tell me more about the day-to-day responsibilities of the role?
How could I impress you in the first three months?
Are there opportunities for training and progression within the role/company?
Where do you think the company is headed in the next five years?
Can you describe the working culture of the organisation?
What do you enjoy about your job?
Can you tell me more about the team I would be working in?
Hopefully I don’t just come across as an asshole
I love this and will keep note of it!
I think you'll nail it! Best wishes!
Yes, very good questions to show interest in the way the company operates and its future, the oranisational culture and the devopment opportunities available. Add a few references to something you seen or read about them so they know you have done your homework too "
I had actually never heard of the position before so I sat for hours watching from a to b of their production process just so I was armed with a little knowledge before going in. Hopefully that makes me stand out |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Thank you
And no truer word have been spoken
Managers have swept it under the carpet like it never happened
Blighted my life since 2019
Mitrepeane and setreline ever since and three stays at an institution
Think the time has come now to think about me am fifty seven so could take time
Will be happier though "
Oh my word.
Sending you big hugs and shed loads of best wishes! |
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"Your thoughts please? "
Isn’t the best time to leave a job at the moment wether you enjoyed it or not...unless you have another job to go to get....I’m in the same boat I want out of my job too...so taking time to up skill first....there’s some great free online courses available...I’m actively looking though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. And it's something I'm currently doing, albeit very slowly, in order to escape the existential toxic culture in my workplace.
I don't want to rush it and end up out of the frying pan and into the fire of an equally shitty job."
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"I’ve 7 questions lined up for them
Can you tell me more about the day-to-day responsibilities of the role?
How could I impress you in the first three months?
Are there opportunities for training and progression within the role/company?
Where do you think the company is headed in the next five years?
Can you describe the working culture of the organisation?
What do you enjoy about your job?
Can you tell me more about the team I would be working in?
Hopefully I don’t just come across as an asshole
I love this and will keep note of it!
I think you'll nail it! Best wishes!
Yes, very good questions to show interest in the way the company operates and its future, the oranisational culture and the devopment opportunities available. Add a few references to something you seen or read about them so they know you have done your homework too
I had actually never heard of the position before so I sat for hours watching from a to b of their production process just so I was armed with a little knowledge before going in. Hopefully that makes me stand out "
I am sure it will and good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you
And no truer word have been spoken
Managers have swept it under the carpet like it never happened
Blighted my life since 2019
Mitrepeane and setreline ever since and three stays at an institution
Think the time has come now to think about me am fifty seven so could take time
Will be happier though
Oh my word.
Sending you big hugs and shed loads of best wishes!"
Many thanks |
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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago
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I have left a job before because I was unhappy.
I gave it a chance to improve but didn't and was affecting my mood etc so its not worth it.
It requires a bit of a mental shift of 'am I going to let things happen to me or make things happen!'
Having said that I didn't move until I secured the next role.
Happy I did and would do again if I needed to.
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"Out of interest, how long have you been tolerating your current job and how long had the search been for one you love? And will the one you love cover your expenses?"
I tolerated three years of my last job, my current one is much better but still not perfect, and yes, the one I'd love would of course cover everything.
LvM |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow, so many messages so quickly!
I thought I was the only one not enjoying my job! I've got a 3 month notice period which is a double edged sword. Roll on 11am.. In having a 121"
My job which I left in 2020 was a 3 month notice period which I think puts a lot of prospective employers off. I was fortunate that the job I went on to do next was happy to wait. I was in that job for a year but my boss then was a gaslighting narcissist. The job I've just left also had a three month notice period but I left 3 months into my 6 month probation period so only had to give 2 weeks notice with them. |
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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago
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You will be waiting forever for the right job to come along.
Throw caution to the wind and make the change now as necessity becomes the mother of invention.
You never know what doors open for you once you take control of your destiny. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Update. Had the call, told head of department that I'm serving notice. Her face dropped! I now have 3 months to find something else which is possible.
I have been in contract roles which I thoroughly enjoyed and others, like this, which I disliked.
Onwards and upwards... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a difference between being dissatisfied/unhappy and affecting you unhappy. The former see if you can make changes. The latter - go. Your mental health trumps a pay check and you’ll find something else. |
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"Update. Had the call, told head of department that I'm serving notice. Her face dropped! I now have 3 months to find something else which is possible.
I have been in contract roles which I thoroughly enjoyed and others, like this, which I disliked.
Onwards and upwards..."
On the plus side, three months is rather a long notice period so you should have plenty of time to explore your options OP 
LvM |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I definitely would , but would have to have something else lined up first.
When I was younger I've just walked out before ,when I no longer like or respect the organisation/people I work with.
I hope you find something that suits you better op. |
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Absolutely, but been trying slowly to find something, (mr) hate the people I work with well most anyway can't stand the industry I'm in ,the building industry since I was 14 ,21 years with same employer not getting better,can't find anything with same money,hrs etc ,I'll just keep trying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to work my dream job but very quickly it went down hill (getting bullied by Managment, getting told to cut corners which could go badly wrong ect). The bullying and nitpicking got that bad I was extremely depressed and thinking very bad thoughts.
My advice to anyone that’s working a job that they don’t like is don’t leave it, fucking run from it. A job is not worth your mental health |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In 2018 I walked away from a job after 15 years, great people decent job good pay but, in 2015 the suppliers of the company database software decided they were stopping supporting it and moving to a newer system which was under development. I wrote a specification for a new database and that was put out to tender. The current suppliers bid but the boss didn't like the people there. In the end, after looking at several they decided on one company who I advised against.
The company said they could have it done in 8 months, starting January 2016, by September 2017 it wasn't complete but had to be installed as the old db was being pulled by the supplier.
So, at the end of September I finished to go on holiday and handed my notice in on my way out and two weeks later came back to panic. They spent the next 3 months trying to persuade me to change my mind [a pay rise would have helped] so I agreed to stay on for a further 3 months part time to help with the transition.
I left at the end of March 2018 and took a year off for travelling around and enjoying myself.
Although now I have been working temp contracts with much lower pay and currently find myself out of work I don't regret it. I wanted to get a lot of travelling in before the final brexit and then with the covidium I know I made the right decision.
If the boss had listened to me or the database developers had followed my specs I would probably still be working for the company but then again, whilst that was the major issue there were other factors which would possibly have led to me leaving at some stage before now. |
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Yes! Just left a job i wasnt happy in last mouth. For the sake of my sanity. Felt sooo good! Taken a bit of time off to chille and figure out what i really wanna do in life.
Been freelancing for a bit and hopefully will be starting a new adventure soon.
I was in a privaledged postioin but if you can affored to leave your job and take some time before starting a new one i highly recommend it |
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"Yes! Just left a job i wasnt happy in last mouth. For the sake of my sanity. Felt sooo good! Taken a bit of time off to chille and figure out what i really wanna do in life.
Been freelancing for a bit and hopefully will be starting a new adventure soon.
I was in a privaledged postioin but if you can affored to leave your job and take some time before starting a new one i highly recommend it "
Sensible advice if you are I a position to do it as you said. Good luck in your new endeavours |
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over a year ago
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I did it once.
I was appointed FC at a hotel in Tipperary after many years in the hospitality industry.
Hotels are notoriously aggressive in their management style but I knew I had made a mistake from day one as this company took it to a whole new level that I had never experienced before in my 36 years as an accountant.
I would be getting texts from the director starting at 7am and ending at 11pm at night. They hadn't had an accountant for three months so they were in a complete mess but expected me to fix it and be current within a couple of weeks.
On top of that I was having to visit my father twice a day to give his meds and feed him as he had skin cancer that had metastasized.
I was on my drive into work one morning and just had to pull over to the side and sobbed my heart out. I never completed the journey and never went back.
I think I last 4 or 5 weeks. |
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"Your thoughts please? "
Yes, definitely. Life is too short to stay in a job you’re not happy with and best to leave with another job lined up.
I did after 28 years for another job in a different industry and now work in a much better environment and benefits. Wished I did it much sooner. |
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Yes but I'd have another job lined up first. Wouldn't just quit with nothing lined up unless you are financially very well off. But yes don't wait and do nothing, get out looking for a new role. Linked in / recruiters |
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I used to have a really well paid job on the railway but absolutely hated it, it gave me really bad anxiety and getting shouted at all the time really broke me, I stayed for the money until I set myself up financially then left to be a full time mum. I've got a 9 to 5 minimum wage now and I bloody love it, honestly the best job i've ever had, I look forward to going in everyday. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, done it twice in last few years and never looked back.
Of course you have to be responsible, but the longer you fester the longer you'll put up with it and assume its the norm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely I'd leave, a lousy job can make you so miserable - it's not worth staying. Despite the troubled times at the moment there are plenty of jobs going. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
I stated in one I loved workwise but was unhappy because of the manager and the culture.
It ultimately made me very ill.
Leave, unless there are very good reasons not
It's easy to normalise the shit myself and 2 firmer colleagues often talk about this. We thought it was normal till we left |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only if you have another job lined up… or if you have enough set aside to be able to afford a few months out of work. in these uncertain days I wouldn’t just up and leave… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely, have done and will do again...
A year ago my soul was being destroyed by a toxic environment....Handing in my notice was the best feeling ever. A year on and my job is a world away. Not saying it's perfect, it's exhausting and does have it's moments but I love it |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
Yes, and I have done a few times. It does mean I sometimes have to take short term contracts or clients that I'd rather not. It's a price I am willing to pay for longer-term contentment.
I always find something I enjoy in every role. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a ball ache having to shave/wax every week just to dance about, but I guess it pays the bills.
One day I'll go straight.
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You work at Butlin’s too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"3 months notice  how long you been there 3000 years "
The more senior the role the longer the notice period tend to be. It’s not unheard of for director level roles to have a 3 month notice period! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I handed in my 3 month notice on 1st September, told them in leaving on October 3rd and I started my new role today!
So glad to be out.."
Oh you did it
Congratulations, hope it works out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I handed in my 3 month notice on 1st September, told them in leaving on October 3rd and I started my new role today!
So glad to be out.."
Well done! I walked out of a job that was making me miserable about 14 months ago, didn't work my notice period (shoot me, but no job is worth your sanity).
I had a new job (same role) within a month, which I love 100% more, feel valued for the skills I bring, and have just had a promotion.
Wishing you the best of luck with your new job |
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"3 months notice how long you been there 3000 years "
It's bog standard in education, at all levels if classroom based at all. Mine is 3 months and has been from the second my (three month) probation was done. |
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By *iggingMan
over a year ago
Oldham |
I am in one right now..offers me stability and helps pay the bills..what was once an enjoyable experience is now truly depressing..been there over 20 yrs and at my age I am not ready for a new challenge..as much as I need to for my health. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy my Job. It's just people that make it difficult ??..
Definitely make sure I had somewhere else to go first.
I left my last job because of the attitude and behaviour of the Senior Managers, even had it on file and reported it up the ladder. But because I left, he's still working there.. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
My CV last time I updated it a few years ago was nearly 3 pages, I have left every job I've not been happy with, you do have options, no job is worth having your mental or physical health destroyed. |
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Following on from my post a few weeks back...
I started in a role as a uk sales solutioning administrator 6yrs + trs ago and moved up to the manager of the team 2yrs ago.
Last week I was moved into a international role on a project implementation a new internal system for sales.
I'm not bragging or saying look at what I've got. I'm saying sometimes taking that huge/hard/unsure step can lead into amazing opportunities that I never though I would be offered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your thoughts please? "
Depends on your situation…
If I can afford too yes.
If I can’t no.
But will find things to do outside of that job to make self happy. Or start training for another type of job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely, I've realised at my age I am no longer willing to take other people's incompetence.
This is a job seekers market at the moment, gone are the days when length of service meant something.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends.
Have you tried to resolve the unhappiness?
In a previous job I requested a meeting with a Supervisor to discuss my frustrations…..
The meeting happened and I was able to iron out a few “niggles”.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup ,life's too short to be in a place you don't want to be , l fully understand that people can be in a job they'd rather not be but circumstances may decide otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely, I’ve done it my entire working life. I’ve even changed countries. I’d rather take a job with less money and be happy than the other way around. |
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"I wonder if the opportunities are different between the sexes!! And relationship status etc"
How would relationship status come into it? Gender shouldn't really come into it anymore, but I'm not naïve enough to think that's true....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely, but always make sure I have another hob to go to first.
I'm always a bit baffled by people who stay in jobs they hate.
Nita"
Benefits sometimes tie you.. I have several share options i would lose if i left.. I'm also on final salary pension which would be hard to replicate |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Absolutely, but always make sure I have another hob to go to first.
I'm always a bit baffled by people who stay in jobs they hate.
Nita
Benefits sometimes tie you.. I have several share options i would lose if i left.. I'm also on final salary pension which would be hard to replicate "
The final salary pension is such a bad thing in my opinion it stops people moving on above a certain age when often they really need to go and so limits opportunity for younger people. These institutions become quite stale over time, people at the end of teaching careers join them for a pension top up and easy few years on 70-80K knowing they will retire on 40.
Plus it’s not really that good is it ? You get max half your final salary for 40 years of service. You can actually beat this in 10 years using salary sacrifice, tax & NI relief and you can have that money at 55 not 65
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"Absolutely, but always make sure I have another hob to go to first.
I'm always a bit baffled by people who stay in jobs they hate.
Nita
Benefits sometimes tie you.. I have several share options i would lose if i left.. I'm also on final salary pension which would be hard to replicate
The final salary pension is such a bad thing in my opinion it stops people moving on above a certain age when often they really need to go and so limits opportunity for younger people. These institutions become quite stale over time, people at the end of teaching careers join them for a pension top up and easy few years on 70-80K knowing they will retire on 40.
Plus it’s not really that good is it ? You get max half your final salary for 40 years of service. You can actually beat this in 10 years using salary sacrifice, tax & NI relief and you can have that money at 55 not 65
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Which teachers get £70-80k, even if career teachers? That's SLT money and no-one who wants an easy life becomes a head or deputy head. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Absolutely, but always make sure I have another hob to go to first.
I'm always a bit baffled by people who stay in jobs they hate.
Nita
Benefits sometimes tie you.. I have several share options i would lose if i left.. I'm also on final salary pension which would be hard to replicate
The final salary pension is such a bad thing in my opinion it stops people moving on above a certain age when often they really need to go and so limits opportunity for younger people. These institutions become quite stale over time, people at the end of teaching careers join them for a pension top up and easy few years on 70-80K knowing they will retire on 40.
Plus it’s not really that good is it ? You get max half your final salary for 40 years of service. You can actually beat this in 10 years using salary sacrifice, tax & NI relief and you can have that money at 55 not 65
Which teachers get £70-80k, even if career teachers? That's SLT money and no-one who wants an easy life becomes a head or deputy head. "
They retire from head of year on around 50-60, heads earn much more ,often in excess of 100. Then they jobs as CEO of educational charity, exam bodies on 70-80, often more , City & Guilds, AQA etc pay well into 6 figures , |
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"Absolutely, but always make sure I have another hob to go to first.
I'm always a bit baffled by people who stay in jobs they hate.
Nita
Benefits sometimes tie you.. I have several share options i would lose if i left.. I'm also on final salary pension which would be hard to replicate
The final salary pension is such a bad thing in my opinion it stops people moving on above a certain age when often they really need to go and so limits opportunity for younger people. These institutions become quite stale over time, people at the end of teaching careers join them for a pension top up and easy few years on 70-80K knowing they will retire on 40.
Plus it’s not really that good is it ? You get max half your final salary for 40 years of service. You can actually beat this in 10 years using salary sacrifice, tax & NI relief and you can have that money at 55 not 65
Which teachers get £70-80k, even if career teachers? That's SLT money and no-one who wants an easy life becomes a head or deputy head.
They retire from head of year on around 50-60, heads earn much more ,often in excess of 100. Then they jobs as CEO of educational charity, exam bodies on 70-80, often more , City & Guilds, AQA etc pay well into 6 figures , "
Even classroom teachers who are Heads of department or HoY will struggle to ever earn anywhere near £70-80k. Only senior leadership roles get near that. It's executive heads in academies (of multiple schools) earning the stupid money.
On the leadership scale (outside London), the range is from £47,735 min to £117,197 absolute max. Very, very few Heads are on that.
The upper pay scale is max £41,604 (outside London). |
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