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Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them. |
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"People who arrange to meet but don't turn up"
Even this isn’t cut and dry as who knows what happened to them. Family emergency with no time to get in touch, for example. |
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Man talks to woman.
Woman talks back.
Man thinks, I'm getting in there.
Woman thinks, well a million other things usually all the crap she has to get done that day.
Man says "hey so when can I fuck your tight little pussy and make you cum like no man ever had?"
Woman grimaces and just blocks/ignores/deletes.
Man then comes on and complains about all the time wasters. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them. "
Sadly some guys can't except if you don't click then we can't meet. It isn't time wasting it's savings each others time from a bad meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's different for all.
For me it'll be the ones that just want to message asking for details of naughty times.
That's really not our thing and so a waste of time, although I express that real soon into the conversation if it looks like it might go that way.
The one real time wasters are those that have no intention on meeting but claim to do so and in a convincing manner.
Though, again that can often be seen for what it is.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Man talks to woman.
Woman talks back.
Man thinks, I'm getting in there.
Woman thinks, well a million other things usually all the crap she has to get done that day.
Man says "hey so when can I fuck your tight little pussy and make you cum like no man ever had?"
Woman grimaces and just blocks/ignores/deletes.
Man then comes on and complains about all the time wasters. Woman frigs herself silly to the next guy while doing and evil muhahahahaaaa"
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them. "
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Man talks to woman.
Woman talks back.
Man thinks, I'm getting in there.
Woman thinks, well a million other things usually all the crap she has to get done that day.
Man says "hey so when can I fuck your tight little pussy and make you cum like no man ever had?"
Woman grimaces and just blocks/ignores/deletes.
Man then comes on and complains about all the time wasters. Woman frigs herself silly to the next guy while doing and evil muhahahahaaaa"
So true. |
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"People who arrange to meet but don't turn up
Not just changed their minds? "
Then surely a message or call would be the respectful thing to do. Not just promise and beg to be there, not turn up, not message, not reply to messages, and ignore you until next time you post a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple."
So if I don't meet everyone I chat to I'm a time waster??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple."
It’s really not. It’s usually someone saying something that puts the other one off. Once we get to the point of arranging a meet we try to avoid chatting too much for this very reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple."
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know! |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So if I don't meet everyone I chat to I'm a time waster???"
I am not saying that. What I am saying is that in my experience chats that go on for ages almost never lead to a meet - hence they are wasting time. I have learnt to cut them off if they are just going on and on and on. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them. "
So where does the ‘wasting someone’s time’ start and end in fab. I hear the phrase all the time.
I’ve not yet wasted mine on fab or in real life.
The way I see wasting my time is simply not doing anything. So if I talk to woman on fab or try for something and didn’t succeed in real life, at least I was passionate enough to get off my ass and do it, or sent a message and got to talk to someone I wanted to.
I accept people changing their minds, it’s a thing,  |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know! "
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple."
Not really, we all do things differently here.
Some may want to converse a while to see if they will be completely comfortable with the other, and after a little while they realise not, then they too have lost that time.
If the intent is to build a click and it doesn't work. That's unfortunate for both sides. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat "
For you! Some of us like connection and getting to know someone prior to fucking them. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
It’s really not. It’s usually someone saying something that puts the other one off. Once we get to the point of arranging a meet we try to avoid chatting too much for this very reason."
Oooohhh. This is a new view I never knew of. What you don’t know doesn’t hurt you??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So if I don't meet everyone I chat to I'm a time waster???
I am not saying that. What I am saying is that in my experience chats that go on for ages almost never lead to a meet - hence they are wasting time. I have learnt to cut them off if they are just going on and on and on."
If a guy has the attitude that talking to me is a waste of time, I'd rather they just cut me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So if I don't meet everyone I chat to I'm a time waster???
I am not saying that. What I am saying is that in my experience chats that go on for ages almost never lead to a meet - hence they are wasting time. I have learnt to cut them off if they are just going on and on and on.
If a guy has the attitude that talking to me is a waste of time, I'd rather they just cut me off. "
Same here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat "
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations. |
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"Man talks to woman.
Woman talks back.
Man thinks, I'm getting in there.
Woman thinks, well a million other things usually all the crap she has to get done that day.
Man says "hey so when can I fuck your tight little pussy and make you cum like no man ever had?"
Woman grimaces and just blocks/ignores/deletes.
Man then comes on and complains about all the time wasters. "
Totally agree. |
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Is anyone a time waster? Time can be great to get to know them and decide if there are the right fit for your needs so I don’t ever see it as wasting time.
Cancelling or not turning up for a meet is frustrating but usually there is a reason behind it so that’s fine tooo x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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The one real time wasters are those that have no intention on meeting but claim to do so and in a convincing manner.
Though, again that can often be seen for what it is.
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I missed this …. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
It’s really not. It’s usually someone saying something that puts the other one off. Once we get to the point of arranging a meet we try to avoid chatting too much for this very reason.
Oooohhh. This is a new view I never knew of. What you don’t know doesn’t hurt you?? "
We’ve had a few where we didn’t have a date set and they were messaging at like 2am (knowing they were talking to the male half of a couple) telling me how horny they were. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations. "
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"But if timewasters weren't wasting our time, wouldn't we all just waste our time anyway?"
*lights a pipe and stairs towards the mountains as a stroke my beard and ponder…. |
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It’s learning that not everything will happen straight away or you message once and off you go !
I’ve been chatting to people that I know I probably won’t meet but it’s good chat and we both keep chatting so I’m glad of that
Others who I’m nearer too we just haven’t found the time so still chatting waiting for that time to come ?
Wasting time for me is writing a message to someone who you fit their wants and age group and then they don’t reply ?
Even a no thanks would do or delete the message? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sadly a lot on here are timewasters, men,women and couples. Fantasists who have no intention of meeting but are happy to breadcrumb you. The biggest i have had is traveling for a hour to be blocked when arrive on the street and thst was a verified member although i since found out they do this regular for some reason, reported but who knows. That to me is not only cruel and a waste of my free time but pure timewasting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly. "
But how do you know that you are not just saying or doing something that just puts them off which is less likely to become evident when you meet quickly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly. "
That’s true. The less time between arranging and meeting the more chance of it actually happening. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them. "
I think I’m a victim of this terrible incident....I had a meet for tomorrow but she’s deleted me of what’s app....I haven’t a clue why we was chatting all day yesterday...haha never mind I’m over it already you win some you lose some |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly. "
For us personally, we agree.
But we accept that's how we do it. In general. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly. "
This. I find those who say they will meet in a weeks time rarely see it through as they forget or things crop up etc. Meets arranged quickly are generally the most genuine and reliable in my experiance too. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly.
That’s true. The less time between arranging and meeting the more chance of it actually happening."
To me it depends what you're looking for on here though?
I don't do quick meets, even for the most gorgeous funny guy on here I wouldn't.
If that's your thing then yeah I guess you don't need to chat (or waste time).
I make it pretty clear to guys early on that I don't meet that quick. If they then choose to carry on talking to me then that's on them. Weirdos. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly.
But how do you know that you are not just saying or doing something that just puts them off which is less likely to become evident when you meet quickly?"
I am sure I have but that goes both ways. I have had convos where she has just put me right off her. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly.
But how do you know that you are not just saying or doing something that just puts them off which is less likely to become evident when you meet quickly?
I am sure I have but that goes both ways. I have had convos where she has just put me right off her."
Then, ergo it’s not time wasting! Just incompatibility! |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
I think I’m a victim of this terrible incident....I had a meet for tomorrow but she’s deleted me of what’s app....I haven’t a clue why we was chatting all day yesterday...haha never mind I’m over it already you win some you lose some "
She was horny. She got her wank material and that’s enough.  |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly.
That’s true. The less time between arranging and meeting the more chance of it actually happening.
To me it depends what you're looking for on here though?
I don't do quick meets, even for the most gorgeous funny guy on here I wouldn't.
If that's your thing then yeah I guess you don't need to chat (or waste time).
I make it pretty clear to guys early on that I don't meet that quick. If they then choose to carry on talking to me then that's on them. Weirdos. "
We don’t need a connection, a social or anything like that so this is what works for us.
Obviously a single female has to be a lot more cautious than a couple or a single male. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly.
That’s true. The less time between arranging and meeting the more chance of it actually happening.
To me it depends what you're looking for on here though?
I don't do quick meets, even for the most gorgeous funny guy on here I wouldn't.
If that's your thing then yeah I guess you don't need to chat (or waste time).
I make it pretty clear to guys early on that I don't meet that quick. If they then choose to carry on talking to me then that's on them. Weirdos.
We don’t need a connection, a social or anything like that so this is what works for us.
Obviously a single female has to be a lot more cautious than a couple or a single male."
Well yeah couples you already have the connection, and single men, well they're just horny fuckers. |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
I think I’m a victim of this terrible incident....I had a meet for tomorrow but she’s deleted me of what’s app....I haven’t a clue why we was chatting all day yesterday...haha never mind I’m over it already you win some you lose some
She was horny. She got her wank material and that’s enough. "
Hahaha probably Give it a couple of weeks she’ll be winking at me again...can’t be arsed lol |
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We don’t need a connection, a social or anything like that so this is what works for us.
Obviously a single female has to be a lot more cautious than a couple or a single male.
Well yeah couples you already have the connection, and single men, well they're just horny fuckers. "
To say I don’t need a connection would not be true but at the same time I am not looking for a Mills and Boon style end of the world romance. It is a swinging site and I think people forget that sometimes. |
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We don’t need a connection, a social or anything like that so this is what works for us.
Obviously a single female has to be a lot more cautious than a couple or a single male.
Well yeah couples you already have the connection, and single men, well they're just horny fuckers.
To say I don’t need a connection would not be true but at the same time I am not looking for a Mills and Boon style end of the world romance. It is a swinging site and I think people forget that sometimes."
It's a whatever I want it to be site. But thanks |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So people should be forced to meet people they don’t like in that way? Not everyone will fuck anyone you know!
You can usually work that out pretty quickly. It does not need weeks of chat
No, You can usually work that out pretty quickly
A single woman may feel more vulnerable and therefore need more time to feel enough of a connection to trust.
This isn't time wasting you describe, it's expectations.
I understand that and can empathise with it. It does not however change my historic experience of the site that meets tend to happen between people who are willing to meet quickly.
That’s true. The less time between arranging and meeting the more chance of it actually happening.
To me it depends what you're looking for on here though?
I don't do quick meets, even for the most gorgeous funny guy on here I wouldn't.
If that's your thing then yeah I guess you don't need to chat (or waste time).
I make it pretty clear to guys early on that I don't meet that quick. If they then choose to carry on talking to me then that's on them. Weirdos.
We don’t need a connection, a social or anything like that so this is what works for us.
Obviously a single female has to be a lot more cautious than a couple or a single male.
Well yeah couples you already have the connection, and single men, well they're just horny fuckers. "
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"People who arrange to meet but don't turn up
This. I met a m/f couple and they said I was their 7th attempt to get a man to turn up!"
I keep hearing the same… when I do get to talk to people. 
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We don’t need a connection, a social or anything like that so this is what works for us.
Obviously a single female has to be a lot more cautious than a couple or a single male.
Well yeah couples you already have the connection, and single men, well they're just horny fuckers.
To say I don’t need a connection would not be true but at the same time I am not looking for a Mills and Boon style end of the world romance. It is a swinging site and I think people forget that sometimes."
The site is used by however the individual wishes to use it.
It's a typical misconception that because it's a swinging site everybody must be gagging for sex if they are online.
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It's a typical misconception that because it's a swinging site everybody must be gagging for sex if they are online.
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Just a question…. What if someone is just gagging for it? Hypothetically speaking? |
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It's a typical misconception that because it's a swinging site everybody must be gagging for sex if they are online.
Just a question…. What if someone is just gagging for it? Hypothetically speaking? "
Asking for a friend? |
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple."
Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. It may be immediately obvious from the 1st message but could take a long time. Needs also change over time and it may be practical things that cause lack of compatibility.
Many people also have unrealistic expectations, including their understanding of compatibility. This also helps to drive their dissatisfaction |
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Saying they will do something when they know they won’t. The fantasy is hot, but they are selling you like it’s a reality
For example, a woman putting a “meet now” status out, and engaging in chats with people, with no intention to meet, just the fantasy. |
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It's a typical misconception that because it's a swinging site everybody must be gagging for sex if they are online.
Just a question…. What if someone is just gagging for it? Hypothetically speaking? "
Good luck "and once again into the breach" as they say.
Make that fist message count lol |
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It's a typical misconception that because it's a swinging site everybody must be gagging for sex if they are online.
Just a question…. What if someone is just gagging for it? Hypothetically speaking?
Good luck "and once again into the breach" as they say.
Make that fist message count lol"
I have it already prepared and ready to paste. |
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Work wastes my time… I gotta go, but this has been an interesting read this morning.
And thanks everyone for joining in and giving your views and opinions.  |
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over a year ago
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So if I don't meet everyone I chat to I'm a time waster???
I am not saying that. What I am saying is that in my experience chats that go on for ages almost never lead to a meet - hence they are wasting time. I have learnt to cut them off if they are just going on and on and on."
Im rarely in a rush and happy to chat for in some cases over a year before meeting but if it was an issue or if I got bored I’d just bring it to a close in a nice way, there’s no need to cut people off because they are not quick decision makers |
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"Can someone please explain what this is? "
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It's when people have a compendium of carriage clocks, grandfather clocks, watches and chronometers and just throw them unceremoniously by the wayside.
It's a total nuisance.
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"Many guys will think exchanging messages for weeks and then the lady deciding the guy isn’t for them is time wasting! When really it’s just that he isn’t for them.
Sorry to break it to you but it is time wasting - whether it is male, female or a couple.
So if I don't meet everyone I chat to I'm a time waster???
I am not saying that. What I am saying is that in my experience chats that go on for ages almost never lead to a meet - hence they are wasting time. I have learnt to cut them off if they are just going on and on and on.
If a guy has the attitude that talking to me is a waste of time, I'd rather they just cut me off.
Same here!"
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Great example of time wasters today. Had a couple who have mailed several times over months about meets.
Every time it follows the same pattern: nice chat, they say a date which I agree and then they say they will confirm the day before the meet. Never happens. I know it never will so I won't chase them or lose sleep but I know they are either flaky or fakey.
They were supposed to confirm yesterday about a meet today - I will leave it as en exercise to the reader as to whether there is a confirmation in my inbox  |
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Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt. |
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"Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt. "
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1. People who meet and don't turn up
2. People who genuinely string people along
(More dubious)
3. People who don't want to meet the person claiming people are time wasters
4. People who have preferences who don't meet what the other person wants |
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"They don’t exist lol it’s just perception!
Times a man made concept. Time doesn’t exist therefore….."
How dare you! The bible clearly states that God created the universe and everything in 6 days therefore in order to do that he must have created time first. Humans just stumbled across the concept accidentally   |
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"Man talks to woman.
Woman talks back.
Man thinks, I'm getting in there.
Woman thinks, well a million other things usually all the crap she has to get done that day.
Man says "hey so when can I fuck your tight little pussy and make you cum like no man ever had?"
Woman grimaces and just blocks/ignores/deletes.
Man then comes on and complains about all the time wasters. "
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"We don't talk to anyone, no time is wasted.
We talked to someone once. Never again.
*shudders
Winston"
Don’t talk to them. Just place your KFC order from the app and you can pick up and leave quickly. |
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"We don't talk to anyone, no time is wasted.
We talked to someone once. Never again.
*shudders
Winston
Don’t talk to them. Just place your KFC order from the app and you can pick up and leave quickly. "
Feels like doing a dru6 drop.
Edgy. I like it.
Winston |
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"Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt.
You sure they were actually women? "
If they were talking filth using red flag semaphore I would hold off on the ubereats.... |
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Yes they are actual women. One has a few veri's but you do need to take those with a pinch of salt as guys on here will say anything to get laid again.
Hold off on the ubereats? It was alcohol, not a chicken madras mate  |
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"Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt. "
That’s why you keep online chat a minimum and ask for a social
Those that want to, will
Those that don’t, or are fake/timewasters, will show their true colours very quickly
“Let’s go for a drink on X” solved so many issues |
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Yeah you're right to some extent. Both of these we had moved over to kik although it's pretty easy to be fake or a flake on a faceless messenger app.
I find a lot of people in 2022 are tapped out though, especially in the UK. A lot of anxiety and social issues. I live most the year in Australia and they have a much better attitude with meeting new people. Can't think of one time in Aus I've had a planned date do a no show when I've had 2 this week here loool |
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"Yeah you're right to some extent. Both of these we had moved over to kik although it's pretty easy to be fake or a flake on a faceless messenger app.
I find a lot of people in 2022 are tapped out though, especially in the UK. A lot of anxiety and social issues. I live most the year in Australia and they have a much better attitude with meeting new people. Can't think of one time in Aus I've had a planned date do a no show when I've had 2 this week here loool"
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"Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt.
That’s why you keep online chat a minimum and ask for a social
Those that want to, will
Those that don’t, or are fake/timewasters, will show their true colours very quickly
“Let’s go for a drink on X” solved so many issues "
This is all well and good if you have the time.
I don't have the time to meet every guy I'm a bit interested in for a social.
Does that make me fake/a time waster?
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"Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt.
That’s why you keep online chat a minimum and ask for a social
Those that want to, will
Those that don’t, or are fake/timewasters, will show their true colours very quickly
“Let’s go for a drink on X” solved so many issues
This is all well and good if you have the time.
I don't have the time to meet every guy I'm a bit interested in for a social.
Does that make me fake/a time waster?
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"Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt.
That’s why you keep online chat a minimum and ask for a social
Those that want to, will
Those that don’t, or are fake/timewasters, will show their true colours very quickly
“Let’s go for a drink on X” solved so many issues
This is all well and good if you have the time.
I don't have the time to meet every guy I'm a bit interested in for a social.
Does that make me fake/a time waster?
Who said it did? "
That’s why you keep online chat a minimum and ask for a social
Those that want to, will
Those that don’t, or are fake/timewasters, will show their true colours very quickly |
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"Funny as I wrote 'time wasters' in the forum search and this thread popped up. Interesting read.
Not sure about a few of the comments on here making guys seem like they're sore losers because a girl is a time waster. I'm pretty sure every single guy I know would message a girl at least in the morning to say he can't make tonight's date. How many girls can say the same?
Also find the argument of getting a connection first absolutely nonsense. There's about a 15% max connection you can ever get with a human through fabswingers. Someone's touch, smell, the way they carry themselves. Every aspect of humans is built on interaction the fact you think you're gaining a connection talking through a fabswingers messenger box is, quite frankly worrying.
Every date I ever had the girl is in utter amazement that I can hold a conversation and how comfortable she is. Tbh I'd be inclined to flip your narrative and say any guy that has the time to message a girl over and over on an outdated crappy swinging site, probably hasn't got much else going on. I digress.
3 days ago after weeks of chatting gave a girl my address and she said she'd be 30 minutes. I ordered ubereats alcohol and bits for a fun night. Didn't show up. Hasn't looked at a message since.
Abother girl today. After weeks of messaging and talking filth over and over again. Was chatting right up until last night. Was talking filth on kik until 1am about tonight's meet. Was coming over for cocktails and sloppy fun. Hasn't read a single message today. We planned this 4/5 days ago and have spoken every night since.
Both of these were after chatting on fab and weeks of messaging on KIk. If you don't think that's time wasting then you're morally corrupt.
That’s why you keep online chat a minimum and ask for a social
Those that want to, will
Those that don’t, or are fake/timewasters, will show their true colours very quickly
“Let’s go for a drink on X” solved so many issues
This is all well and good if you have the time.
I don't have the time to meet every guy I'm a bit interested in for a social.
Does that make me fake/a time waster?
Who said it did?
That’s why you keep online chat a minimum and ask for a social
Those that want to, will
Those that don’t, or are fake/timewasters, will show their true colours very quickly "
You could be in either of those 3 groups from my perception
But it doesn’t make you into anything, only you know |
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I wouldn’t agree to a social quickly but then my profile is pretty clear on my need for connection and my aversion to spontaneous or quick meets! Chatted to yesterdays meet for weeks beforehand. |
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"I wouldn’t agree to a social quickly but then my profile is pretty clear on my need for connection and my aversion to spontaneous or quick meets! Chatted to yesterdays meet for weeks beforehand."
Everyone’s different, I can’t really build connections over fab messages so I’d find it a waste if time chatting for weeks only to get 5 mins into a social and realise I’m not that into them
Plus the number that completely disappeared when you mention actually meeting can waste a lot of time.
So for me it works, but for others maybe it’s not for you. It’s about finding your way.
I find I have more fun with people that are more relaxed about just grabbing a drink |
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"I wouldn’t agree to a social quickly but then my profile is pretty clear on my need for connection and my aversion to spontaneous or quick meets! Chatted to yesterdays meet for weeks beforehand.
Everyone’s different, I can’t really build connections over fab messages so I’d find it a waste if time chatting for weeks only to get 5 mins into a social and realise I’m not that into them
Plus the number that completely disappeared when you mention actually meeting can waste a lot of time.
So for me it works, but for others maybe it’s not for you. It’s about finding your way.
I find I have more fun with people that are more relaxed about just grabbing a drink "
I tend to move it to WhatsApp relatively quickly but I also cam so I’d hope people get a good sense of my personality but I agree everyone needs to find a way that works for them.
I’m quite introverted by nature so this way suits my comfort levels |
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People who don't turn up I suppose! Only had the one! Or even if they cancel no second chance! I realize there may have been a good reason but generally there is not! So a cancellation will not result in a rearranged meet x |
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When they've given fake addresses and you knock on the door to be greeted by a child. When they don't come online at all the day your meeting, it takes 2 minutes to come on here and send a quick message like sorry I can't meet, don't even have to give a reason. Its not just someone changing their minds |
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