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If I’d turned left instead of right ..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ever wonder how life might be different if you’d made a different choice at key moments in your life?
Like if you’d accepted that other job offer? Or if you’d stayed in that night you were undecided about going out or not?
Maybe you wouldn’t have ever met your now husband / wife / boyfriend / girlfriend?
I wonder WHO you’d have ended up with instead? What are they doing now?!
Would you live where you do now, or somewhere totally different?
Or maybe you believe it was always destiny to be who you’re with / where you are in life right now and whatever decisions you made in the past you’d end up in the same place?
Oooh deep isn’t it? Whatdya think, Fabsters?  |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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Not really because that could lead to regret and I don’t regret anything in my life. I’ve had a fucking awesome life to date, even the shitty times as they were there to teach me how to live more authentically. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I try not to think about stuff like that because then I start getting grandiose ideas about maybe I could have been the next Mariah Carey or something.
No. I am where I am supposed to be based on the life choices I made, for better or worse and that’s that. |
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By *otdave75Man
over a year ago
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There is a distinct point in my life where this comment make sense, I turn left, I have my current life, with a bitch who doesn’t care about anything but herself. I have two amazing kids. I turn right, I have a mutual loving relationship with someone where there has always been a mutual affection, but would I have my kids…… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of the proposed theories about space and reality suggests that there are other universes where you have made those different choices. Some of those bastards in the other universes are luckier than you while others are at a worse situation. That's how I deal with it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I had turned right instead of left out of my gate I may not have bumped into my future husband and I may have had a happy life.
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I didn’t expect this to go the way it did. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Ever wonder how life might be different if you’d made a different choice at key moments in your life?
Like if you’d accepted that other job offer? Or if you’d stayed in that night you were undecided about going out or not?
Maybe you wouldn’t have ever met your now husband / wife / boyfriend / girlfriend?
I wonder WHO you’d have ended up with instead? What are they doing now?!
Would you live where you do now, or somewhere totally different?
Or maybe you believe it was always destiny to be who you’re with / where you are in life right now and whatever decisions you made in the past you’d end up in the same place?
Oooh deep isn’t it? Whatdya think, Fabsters? "
What if your mum had swallowed? 
What if it was your dad's birthday and it was time for his annual trip 'round the back' ?
What if you'd ended up being wiped on the curtains or were destined to end your short existence in some spotty teens wank sock?
There's literally millions of sperm in every shot of baby gravy.....and we all got lucky!!
So jow come so few people win the fucking lottery given we're statistically all jammy bastards?   
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By *otdave75Man
over a year ago
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"Ever wonder how life might be different if you’d made a different choice at key moments in your life?
Like if you’d accepted that other job offer? Or if you’d stayed in that night you were undecided about going out or not?
Maybe you wouldn’t have ever met your now husband / wife / boyfriend / girlfriend?
I wonder WHO you’d have ended up with instead? What are they doing now?!
Would you live where you do now, or somewhere totally different?
Or maybe you believe it was always destiny to be who you’re with / where you are in life right now and whatever decisions you made in the past you’d end up in the same place?
Oooh deep isn’t it? Whatdya think, Fabsters?
What if your mum had swallowed?
What if it was your dad's birthday and it was time for his annual trip 'round the back' ?
What if you'd ended up being wiped on the curtains or were destined to end your short existence in some spotty teens wank sock?
There's literally millions of sperm in every shot of baby gravy.....and we all got lucky!!
So jow come so few people win the fucking lottery given we're statistically all jammy bastards?
A"
Nuts isn’t it, you could have been a staging on the ceiling |
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I think about certain choices often and hate myself for it. Pregnancy and childbirth has completely destroyed my body and I live in constant physical pain and disability. So yes, I think "what might have been" and then I abhor myself for thinking like that.
Good old brains  |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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If I had taken a particular job, I wouldn't have met the love of my life, got married and had so many wonderful years together, I wouldn't have suffered the heart break of loosing her and my unborn baby, I wouldn't have tried to drink myself to death.
Then I think of all the people I have met and become friends with in the years since, the places I have worked and most importantly where I am now in my life.
I am in a good place physically and mentally so in the end it has worked out pretty well.
Had I taken the job who knows where the fuck I would be now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps I could’ve gone down a path in which I wouldn’t have met my gf and had our daughter but that doesn’t sound like a happy life to me. So I’m grateful for what I have. |
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Maybe we're like magnets and would have attracted a similar life to the one we got anyway. Met similarly fun people and sought out similarly fun experiences. Karma will take care of you if you take care of your family and friends and even strangers. Easy for me to say though, I have a great life. If I'd not been so lucky in life I'd probably be regretting not signing that Arsenal contract for £200k a week and rejecting Cameron Diaz's marriage proposal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing happens for a reason. The world presents us with completely randomised problems, resulting from the randomised actions of people just like us that we interact with in a random way. Nothing is predetermined, which is how I would like to think that it should be |
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Yes I do wonder this! Just one simple decision has a life changing result! Both my life partners were from working at places! It's mind bogling to think to deep! That said i do belive it was destiny x |
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I'm content with where I am in life. I'd certainly be doing different things with a different job, different husband and different kids if I'd made other choices. But I like what I've ended up with.
The one sliding doors moment I can still feel is when I was 18. I was ill, felt like shit, I looked up at the top shelf in the kitchen cupboard where my medicine was kept and decided it was too hard to reach, I simply didn't have the energy. My mum was sat nearby but didn't come to help or force me to take it. I just went to bed.
Found out after I'd been seriously ill and in agony for a few more days that I'd developed a sudden, rare allergy to something in that medicine. I was very lucky to come out if it so well.
If I had taken my medicine as normal I could have literally killed myself. |
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Everything has been to lead me up to this point in my life, close calls and shitty times are part of life and it's up to me how I use those experiences.
I believe in my instincts and gut feelings and let them lead me through on this journey of mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a bad start to life which I won’t go in to on hear past couple of years been rough work environment and home
Wish as soon as my wife passed should gone home to Liverpool
Life is what you make it no point crying over spilt milk
Onwards  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe life goes in the direction it's meant too. No point looking back because whatever choices you make, at the time it was the best decision for you. |
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"I'm content with where I am in life. I'd certainly be doing different things with a different job, different husband and different kids if I'd made other choices. But I like what I've ended up with.
The one sliding doors moment I can still feel is when I was 18. I was ill, felt like shit, I looked up at the top shelf in the kitchen cupboard where my medicine was kept and decided it was too hard to reach, I simply didn't have the energy. My mum was sat nearby but didn't come to help or force me to take it. I just went to bed.
Found out after I'd been seriously ill and in agony for a few more days that I'd developed a sudden, rare allergy to something in that medicine. I was very lucky to come out if it so well.
If I had taken my medicine as normal I could have literally killed myself. "
I think that's a really good answer to the original question.
Also, apathy saves lives |
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There’s a Scottish saying
What’s for you won’t go by you
Not sure if that’s true.
I’ve had a couple moments where a simple action could have totally changed my life. Not knocking on a door as I feared rejection, going out on a night I didn’t plan to, taking certain jobs etc
And if you regret certain things that means you’re regretting good things too, eg if I’d not met my ex I wouldn’t have my fantastic daughter. But I kinda wish I’d sorted her a better dad!
Weird isn’t it.
Oh and loving the Different corner quote |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do wonder sometimes about choices I made and how different it would be if I had taken the other option.
I dropped out of my A-levels just into the second year as i had been off ill for a couple of weeks and couldn't face the catching up. I could have been one of those massively paid people in finance or big business that people love to hate by now.
In 2003 I was in Birmingham and after a wander around for the night I had the choice to get a cab to the hotel or go for one last drink. I took the latter option and that's why I am where I am now.
But, I have lots of regrets looking back, hindsight is great for thinking, what if?
And to quote another song
Every gambler knows
That the secret to survivin'
Is knowin' what to throw away
And knowin' what to keep
'Cause every hand's a winner
And every hand's a loser
And the best that you can hope for
Is to die in your sleep" |
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