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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all, so looking for genuine advice, I have found that I have a strong attraction to an in law, she is married to my brother, over the past few years we have always got along and I feel like I get a different side to her comparing to everyone else, we regularly stay in touch via WhatsApp etc and she seems to call me quite frequently for advice or help with certain things, when alone we have had a few moments of close contact and it feels like there is something there, I really want to advance on my thoughts and from what I read from it but how do I openly discuss this with her without the risk of her running a mile back to my sibling? I do really think she wants the same but waiting for my first move but unsure how to take it, we have a family holiday abroad imminently and I thought this could be an opportunity to open up maybe? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect you have the horn for her so you're reading way too much into it? Someone being comfortable enough to be close/very friendly with their brother in law doesn't mean they want a ride on their disco stick  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suspect you have the horn for her so you're reading way too much into it? Someone being comfortable enough to be close/very friendly with their brother in law doesn't mean they want a ride on their disco stick "
Potentially yes, but I have many women that are close friends etc but something just seems different with her...alls I want to know is what would be the best way to approach the conversation whilst on holiday? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Does your brothers marriage not mean more to you than a shag?"
I'm not saying that, it just makes me question why she is giving off these vibes if she was happy with my brother? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Does your brothers marriage not mean more to you than a shag?
I'm not saying that, it just makes me question why she is giving off these vibes if she was happy with my brother?"
Nobody knows if she is actually 'giving off vibes', or if its all in your head, she might like a bit of a 'safe flirt', or if her marriage is making her miserable? If it's the latter then I doubt you offering to shag her is going to fix it. And I can promise you if you go there and she's looking for a route out of the marriage, you will be the one blowing your family apart if they divorce. There is no 'happy ending illicit hot sex fantasy' to be had here  |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
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"Cool it, it will only end badly if you don't. "
Bro’s before …. ladies and all that.
Don’t you feel there should be normal interaction and usual boundaries with respect to your brothers wife?
Are there kids involved???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Does your brothers marriage not mean more to you than a shag?
I'm not saying that, it just makes me question why she is giving off these vibes if she was happy with my brother?"
Well ok, patronising comment by next aside....You know what the right thing to do is? Of course. But temptation is staring you in the groin.
Don't play the victim when it all goes wrong is all I'd say? |
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Agree with the above replies….
If a lot of the contact is via WhatsApp/messaging then the potential for misreading things is a lot more likely….I know that I am bad for reading into messages in the wrong way! |
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Don’t go there I get she might be giving flirting signs but that’s a no go, you’ve got to be the bigger man and not entertain. And this maybe easier said then done. And let’s play devils advocate here, just say you speak to her and she tells you what you’ve been thinking are you willing to risk it for a chocolate biscuit cos that’s a dangerous game |
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Over the years you have obviously but up a great friendship.
You are her brother in law and she trusts you....you probably feel safe so she can be herself around you.
Don't betray her trust. If you were that cloae and there was problems in her marriage then surely you'd know.
I say back off.
Only anguish and tears can come from this.
Is your brother that much of a bastard that he deserves this?
Is she majorly unhappy?
If she is and he is then do it but be prepared to reap the whirlwind! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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" Does your brothers marriage not mean more to you than a shag?
I'm not saying that, it just makes me question why she is giving off these vibes if she was happy with my brother?"
Are you sure she is giving off vibes? You could be completely misunderstanding the situation. |
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Maybe your SIL is just being friendly, comfortable when asking advice? I find these threads rather odd when posted on this site as it sounds like you're looking for acceptance of a decision you have already made |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suspect you have the horn for her so you're reading way too much into it? Someone being comfortable enough to be close/very friendly with their brother in law doesn't mean they want a ride on their disco stick
Potentially yes, but I have many women that are close friends etc but something just seems different with her...alls I want to know is what would be the best way to approach the conversation whilst on holiday?"
I'll tell you the best way to approach it...... DONT. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you want to be shunned from your family, if so this is the way to do it.
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If you proceed you're brother is likely to find out, he'll then tell tye rest of your family and they'd disown you,
Is it worth the risk for a potential fumble in the sheets? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has the potential for the biggest shit show ever, they will start a new Jeremy Kyle show off the back of this, put it this way do you want to be known as the one that caused it or was party to it, stay the fuck well away my friend and live a happy life |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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If someone really needs advice as to whether to try it on with their brothers wife...........
I'd suggest sitting down in front of a mirror and asking yourself what you'd do if the proverbial shoe was on the other foot.
Sorry, but this is a question you should already know the answer to. Even if she was laying it out on a plate for you and asking you to fuck her senseless - it's your brother!! 
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"If someone really needs advice as to whether to try it on with their brothers wife...........
I'd suggest sitting down in front of a mirror and asking yourself what you'd do if the proverbial shoe was on the other foot.
Sorry, but this is a question you should already know the answer to. Even if she was laying it out on a plate for you and asking you to fuck her senseless - it's your brother!!
A"
Absolutely this ^ I am surprised…. Shocked even that you posted this question here.
I think your moral compass needs adjusting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone really needs advice as to whether to try it on with their brothers wife...........
I'd suggest sitting down in front of a mirror and asking yourself what you'd do if the proverbial shoe was on the other foot.
Sorry, but this is a question you should already know the answer to. Even if she was laying it out on a plate for you and asking you to fuck her senseless - it's your brother!!
A"
This is my thinking. Generally, I think, people want to be given the go-ahead for whatever dumbass idea it is they're asking about on here.
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Regardless of whether she is interested in you or not, she’s your brothers wife  you shouldn’t even be considering it.
It’s possible to fancy/have the horn for people you shouldn’t, it’s always a choice whether to act on it and if you do, you’re a dick. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"alls I want to know is what would be the best way to approach the conversation whilst on holiday?"
You don’t.
If you did want to raise it with her do it at home and not ruining a holiday for everyone else.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think regardless if she feels the same way its always going to end in a shit storm.. if your honest with yourself you already know this..
Your reaching out in the hope someone can give you some advise that will make it ok... but you know the real answer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Does your brothers marriage not mean more to you than a shag?
I'm not saying that, it just makes me question why she is giving off these vibes if she was happy with my brother?"
Regardless of if she's happy with him or not is your relationship with your brother worth a shag? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This shows me what's wrong with the world.
He's your brother and you're seriously considering ruining his marriage because you want to get off!
I'd take a long hard look in the mirror and give your head a wobble!
On the plus side, it's refreshing to see the amount of single men condemning this action, which I belive is the opposite of what the OP wanted.
So bravo! Some decent single guys still out there we see |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This shows me what's wrong with the world.
He's your brother and you're seriously considering ruining his marriage because you want to get off!
I'd take a long hard look in the mirror and give your head a wobble!
On the plus side, it's refreshing to see the amount of single men condemning this action, which I belive is the opposite of what the OP wanted.
So bravo! Some decent single guys still out there we see "
I mean growing up I had fantasies about my SIL but was 17 and she was the closest none related woman in my proximity she also used to do things like hold my hand and cuddle me to help me get into clubs while underage, so I think that's where the infatuation came from.
I would never betray my brother in that way even if she dragged me to the bedroom spread her legs and told me to do what I want, I'd turn around and tell my brother tomsort his wife out, and hope he doesn't blame me at all (as often happens) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously how can you even consider doing this to family ? It’s just a complete no go area !!
Nothing wrong with thinking she’s hot and getting along but I’d just think well done bro you’ve found a keeper and if she’s giving you the signals to make a move then I can only imagine what she’s probably like with other guys.
The pain and drama you would cause would be horrendous. I don’t know you OP but I can definitely say I’m glad we aren’t related … perfect example of thinking with your cock rather than your brain ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey all, so looking for genuine advice, I have found that I have a strong attraction to an in law, she is married to my brother, over the past few years we have always got along and I feel like I get a different side to her comparing to everyone else, we regularly stay in touch via WhatsApp etc and she seems to call me quite frequently for advice or help with certain things, when alone we have had a few moments of close contact and it feels like there is something there, I really want to advance on my thoughts and from what I read from it but how do I openly discuss this with her without the risk of her running a mile back to my sibling? I do really think she wants the same but waiting for my first move but unsure how to take it, we have a family holiday abroad imminently and I thought this could be an opportunity to open up maybe?"
Keep your fantasies for the stories forum pages |
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"Two pieces of advice:
1. Don't proposition your sister in law.
2. Delete this thread.
Have a good day.
The forums need a like button for posts!
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Many thanks. Sometimes a simple and direct approach works best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have respect for your brother and stop thinking about your dick for 5 minutes and actually get your own girlfriend instead of your brothers. To be honest it shouldn't even be a think in your brain but hey we can all give you advice whether you take it or not is another thing. I'd never do anything like that to my brothers they mean more than just a quick shag with there Mrs.  |
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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago
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1. Secrets kill relationships. I wouldn't know what is your relationship with your brother, but you could talk to him? Honest talking does miracles and who knows what it may open up in the future.
2. Hetero Men generally are bad at reading signals from women. So you could be very wrong. However long term warm and friendly relationships may open up new opportunities in the future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go ahead and do it OP ..
Your SIL will probably tell your brother or he will figure it out for himself.
Then kiss goodbye to a relationship with your entire family for the rest of your life ..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And what happens when you ignore all this advice, make a move on her and it turns out it was all in your head?
Let’s hope she tells her husband what kind of person he has for a brother.
If you act on this you deserve all you get. |
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