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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Why do you ask?

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman over a year ago

Next Door

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Explain why you say that OP please

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It wasn’t a rhetorical question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That doesn't even make sense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It wasn’t a rhetorical question "

I’ve said this before

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By *rettyflamingoWoman over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

What's a cabal?

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

From evidence I’ve seen, I’d say yes. Although I think it’s dying down now because the forums have definitely quietened down now covid is over

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"What's a cabal?"

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the rumours are too be believed

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes."

I love a cape!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes."

Sounds hot. Do you fancy a bit of that ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Sounds hot. Do you fancy a bit of that ?

Sounds like Eyes Wide Shut

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Sounds hot. Do you fancy a bit of that ?

Count me in

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Sounds hot. Do you fancy a bit of that ?

Yeah! I frickin' love a good cape, can swoosh and live my best Lucy Westenra life.

Oh in like a sex party way? Sure, why not.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I used to be in the 'just a bunch of people who've got to know each other' camp however since becoming more of an observer I would say there definitely is but it's not always a bad thing.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If you want to join you have to start a post about the poster above. Then Message the 17th female to reply (this is the new member admin) , with a cock pic and simply ‘Hi’ and after 3 days repeat this, if you get blocked do the 16th female and so on, don’t worry as once is all blocks are removed from your profile. After a few days they’ll call an impromptu board meeting to discuss your application and you’ll see a message about squirting. Hidden in the fourth message with a coded Appication decision . Best of luck I’ve tried 42 times but so far not made it in

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Fucko,fuckarse,fuckunt?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Sounds hot. Do you fancy a bit of that ?

Yeah! I frickin' love a good cape, can swoosh and live my best Lucy Westenra life.

Oh in like a sex party way? Sure, why not.

Different to the old ‘toga’ party’s. Capes are cool.

I just now imagine grabbing a woman, wrapping my cape around her and snogging until her legs are weak and she drops to the floor.

I sweep away ‘ala Dracula.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you want to join you have to start a post about the poster above. Then Message the 17th female to reply (this is the new member admin) , with a cock pic and simply ‘Hi’ and after 3 days repeat this, if you get blocked do the 16th female and so on, don’t worry as once is all blocks are removed from your profile. After a few days they’ll call an impromptu board meeting to discuss your application and you’ll see a message about squirting. Hidden in the fourth message with a coded Appication decision . Best of luck I’ve tried 42 times but so far not made it in

Devious bastards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to be in the 'just a bunch of people who've got to know each other' camp however since becoming more of an observer I would say there definitely is but it's not always a bad thing. "

It’s hard to talk to everyone. (Trust me, I think I’ve tried

Simply put, not everyone will get along. People don’t like people just as much as people do like people.

Everyone finds there own crowd, and will avoid those they clash with.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Yes for sure there is and has been since We've been here.

It's a group who seem to be permanently on here, only respond to each others post's and group together to disagree with anyone who they don't like or who disagrees with them.

Usually with their own group of loyal sycophants and white knights.

Wait I'm getting confused that's the government I'm talking about

Seriously tho as above but it seems to vary who are the core members from year to year.

Glad to be an outsider tbh can't stand sycophantic behaviour unless they are praising me of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you piss off our queen.. you're doomed I tell you, dooooooooooomed.

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By *imandLiz14Couple over a year ago

Needham

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

So what's the definition of a Regular Forumite ??

We look several times a day, comment on occasion, am I a Regular??

Is so we're not in a Cabal,

If not maybe there is,

Are we bothered ? nope

Just browse perve and have laugh,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to be in the 'just a bunch of people who've got to know each other' camp however since becoming more of an observer I would say there definitely is but it's not always a bad thing.

It’s hard to talk to everyone. (Trust me, I think I’ve tried

Simply put, not everyone will get along. People don’t like people just as much as people do like people.

Everyone finds there own crowd, and will avoid those they clash with. "

A grown ups. Kiddies playground! If you wish.

Be yourself,intime people soften if not,its there issue.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

There is, but from my experience it's not as sinister as people like to make out

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Sounds hot. Do you fancy a bit of that ?

Yeah! I frickin' love a good cape, can swoosh and live my best Lucy Westenra life.

Oh in like a sex party way? Sure, why not.

Different to the old ‘toga’ party’s. Capes are cool.

I just now imagine grabbing a woman, wrapping my cape around her and snogging until her legs are weak and she drops to the floor.

I sweep away ‘ala Dracula.

Oooft. Too early for this level of raunchy. I've always wanted to be a Bride of Dracula.

And I've realised now I've typed this that I am actually a bit flirty. Sorry OP! Yeah cabal. Boo. Hiss.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

There are inclusive cliques- social groups where like-minded people chat and organise gatherings

There are exclusive cliques - antisocial groups where like-minded people chat and organise dummy spitting competitions and practice their backstabbing skills.

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By *idnight RamblerMan over a year ago

Pershore

Yes, bound by the sacred oaths of the Atokun Scrolls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to be in the 'just a bunch of people who've got to know each other' camp however since becoming more of an observer I would say there definitely is but it's not always a bad thing.

It’s hard to talk to everyone. (Trust me, I think I’ve tried

Simply put, not everyone will get along. People don’t like people just as much as people do like people.

Everyone finds there own crowd, and will avoid those they clash with.

A grown ups. Kiddies playground! If you wish.

Be yourself,intime people soften if not,its there issue.

High school never ends - Bowling for soup

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Sounds hot. Do you fancy a bit of that ?

Yeah! I frickin' love a good cape, can swoosh and live my best Lucy Westenra life.

Oh in like a sex party way? Sure, why not.

Different to the old ‘toga’ party’s. Capes are cool.

I just now imagine grabbing a woman, wrapping my cape around her and snogging until her legs are weak and she drops to the floor.

I sweep away ‘ala Dracula.

Oooft. Too early for this level of raunchy. I've always wanted to be a Bride of Dracula.

And I've realised now I've typed this that I am actually a bit flirty. Sorry OP! Yeah cabal. Boo. Hiss."

Bride???? Whooaaaa there. Slow down.

I just want to borrow her for a moment…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes, bound by the sacred oaths of the Atokun Scrolls"

The what now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, now I feel left out.

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By *idnight RamblerMan over a year ago

Pershore

"Yes, bound by the sacred oaths of the Atokun Scrolls

The what now?

Sshhh!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, now I feel left out."

Do you want to feel something else…

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes."

But are there snacks? Cake?

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

Is there? Doubt I'd notice, nor care. This is just a bit of fluff, outside of work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, now I feel left out.

Do you want to feel something else…

Yes please.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Well, now I feel left out.

Do you want to feel something else…

Yes please. "

You dont need a clique, you attract all of your admirers from across the forums

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes."

My Latin's not up to scratch, I just mumble some black country twang and seem to get by

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

My Latin's not up to scratch, I just mumble some black country twang and seem to get by

Am yam a yam yam?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sending love to everyone that contributed to this thread. I’m a bit of an outsider, and I prefer it that way. I wouldn’t want to be a part of any group that would have me.

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

My Latin's not up to scratch, I just mumble some black country twang and seem to get by

Am yam a yam yam?"

Yow awright bab

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Do you get badges?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

My Latin's not up to scratch, I just mumble some black country twang and seem to get by

Am yam a yam yam?

Yow awright bab"

Am alright I am

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you get badges?

You don't have one??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are inclusive cliques- social groups where like-minded people chat and organise gatherings

There are exclusive cliques - antisocial groups where like-minded people chat and organise dummy spitting competitions and practice their backstabbing skills. "

Free for all pick n mix. Depends where the wind blows.

Its never any place!!

Its always made up of people,and people being energies good/bad!!

With many many many mindsets,agenda,s,and intentions.

Play the game,observe,dont play the game.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id rather be lord raiden

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Do you get badges?

You don't have one??"

Blue Peter, Tufty Club, a couple of parking ones for the car....

Was never a boy scout so that's my lot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to be in the 'just a bunch of people who've got to know each other' camp however since becoming more of an observer I would say there definitely is but it's not always a bad thing.

It’s hard to talk to everyone. (Trust me, I think I’ve tried

Simply put, not everyone will get along. People don’t like people just as much as people do like people.

Everyone finds there own crowd, and will avoid those they clash with.

A grown ups. Kiddies playground! If you wish.

Be yourself,intime people soften if not,its there issue.

High school never ends - Bowling for soup

Summer school, uni,placement,work,work work and it carries on as adults,every club,group,app,forum is yet again people we have to walk down the same street with,its survival.

Melting pot!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Whether we wanted it or not, we've stepped into a war with the Cabal on Fab. So let's get to taking out their command, one by one.

If anyone, a mere single person got that. I'll be amazed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, now I feel left out.

Do you want to feel something else…

Yes please. "

You’ll need to close your ayes and guess what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Whether we wanted it or not, we've stepped into a war with the Cabal on Fab. So let's get to taking out their command, one by one.

If anyone, a mere single person got that. I'll be amazed. "

Toy story? No, I think that’s the gorgonites

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By *asilyled1Man over a year ago

ogmore valley

You should try the wales forums OP,it’s ridiculously cliquey with some proper white knight in there!

I find the lounge to be a much more open group

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By *rettyflamingoWoman over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"You should try the wales forums OP,it’s ridiculously cliquey with some proper white knight in there!

I find the lounge to be a much more open group "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You should try the wales forums OP,it’s ridiculously cliquey with some proper white knight in there!

I find the lounge to be a much more open group "

Probably best if I don’t venture into the Wales forum then. I would end up being banned.

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By *asilyled1Man over a year ago

ogmore valley

"You should try the wales forums OP,it’s ridiculously cliquey with some proper white knight in there!

I find the lounge to be a much more open group

Probably best if I don’t venture into the Wales forum then. I would end up being banned. "

Without a doubt

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"You should try the wales forums OP,it’s ridiculously cliquey with some proper white knight in there!

I find the lounge to be a much more open group "

It's a tighter ship in here. Fewer leeks.

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By *ny1localMan over a year ago

READING

There's definitely cligues among formunites, I've even been messaged by formunites asking why do I even bother posting to a topic as no one is interested in my opinion. But, new fabbers are joining every day so the cliques can get stuffed.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Sending love to everyone that contributed to this thread. I’m a bit of an outsider, and I prefer it that way. I wouldn’t want to be a part of any group that would have me.

I'm with you OP (or should that be I'm not with you??)

I much prefer to forge my own path and just do me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's definitely cligues among formunites, I've even been messaged by formunites asking why do I even bother posting to a topic as no one is interested in my opinion. But, new fabbers are joining every day so the cliques can get stuffed. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sending love to everyone that contributed to this thread. I’m a bit of an outsider, and I prefer it that way. I wouldn’t want to be a part of any group that would have me.

I'm with you OP (or should that be I'm not with you??)

I much prefer to forge my own path and just do me! "

I’d much prefer to do you ….

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sending love to everyone that contributed to this thread. I’m a bit of an outsider, and I prefer it that way. I wouldn’t want to be a part of any group that would have me.

I'm with you OP (or should that be I'm not with you??)

I much prefer to forge my own path and just do me! "

Blimey, I just checked out your profile. I can imagine that a lot of people would love to do you as well (myself included)

But seriously, and maybe you feel the same,

I find not many people get me. I look at things differently to most people.

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Sure. There are actually many of them on here and the attendees change like the tide.

Same as ever other social group, some are inclusive, some are not. It's just different friendship groups after all, formed by many different types of people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I feel people take the forums far too seriously and people should just chill out a tad.

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By *dventurous biMan over a year ago

tesside

Really?

I’d name and shame anyone who took that kind of bullying approach.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

But are there snacks? Cake?"

Yeah, probably popcorn and cake for the obsequious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You should try the wales forums OP,it’s ridiculously cliquey with some proper white knight in there!

I find the lounge to be a much more open group

It's a tighter ship in here. Fewer leeks. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes."

I misread this as canapés... So disappointed

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The funny thing about the shadowy clique is that it’s been around for about 9/10 years, during which time pretty much everyone has left. So either it’s a constantly changing group of people, in which case it’s not a clique by definition or it doesn’t exist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

I misread this as canapés... So disappointed

I misread it as crepes. I was thinking Nutella and banana.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends."

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?

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By *TK421-Man over a year ago

Cheltenham

My clique of friends look down on anyone playing D and D version 3.5....

They deserve to be ridiculed. Nerds.

Otherwise we are very inclusive....

I noticed several cliques on here when I first joined. Never thought it was malicious. Just mutual interests and support. I suppose as an outsider here it could be quite intimidating. Frustrating on the treads where they only interact with each other and you go ignored, but again that's about their friendships and mutual support. It's what they need so....

Anyone want to pound on D and D 3.5 nerds feel free to join my clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?"

Yes, I’m sure it does, but we were all newbies at one point, I got ignored when I first joined too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can’t say I’ve noticed it being particularly cliquey! There’s obviously groups who have met offline too but I don’t think there’s much exclusionary behaviour going on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?"

No. They will ignore you if they don’t fancy you… just my cynical views on anyone new joining in.

Hot girl or guy joins…. They get attention.

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By *entDomMan over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

You suggest we all know each other but we don't. Of course you recognise regular contributors. Bur I post because I have something to say or contribute, I'm not expecting recognition or a response

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By *ny1localMan over a year ago

READING

Really?

I’d name and shame anyone who took that kind of bullying approach."
naw,I'm too old to care, let them enjoy their popcorn or whatever food stuff they use in their coded posts.I just hope that new folks don't get put off by them. There's some nice folks here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can’t say I’ve noticed it being particularly cliquey! There’s obviously groups who have met offline too but I don’t think there’s much exclusionary behaviour going on! "

This!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?

Yes, I’m sure it does, but we were all newbies at one point, I got ignored when I first joined too

This

Same as any newbie on any social forum, just gotta keep plugging away till you make friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's definite cliques, but sod it, leave them to it. They're obviously much cooler than the rest of us anyhow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for teaching me the word cabal, OP.

I get the forums may sometimes come across as cliquey. I think, as Hippy said, it's like walking into a pub for the first time. You'll first chat to the person behind the bar (the OP of the thread) and then naturally that will lead into talking to some of the regulars.

Any new social group can seem daunting for anyone. I was a shitbag with anxiety when I first started posting in the forums but I forced myself to do it (and not care whether I got replies or not) and it was one of the best things I've ever done.

Maybe fab could benefit from a 'How to..' guide for the forums, maybe there is one in the forum search section.

Just do you as Rickshawed said, if you get the chance to do Rickshawed even better

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By *he love catsCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?

Yes, I’m sure it does, but we were all newbies at one point, I got ignored when I first joined too

This

Same as any newbie on any social forum, just gotta keep plugging away till you make friends

Plugging away will get you many friends

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

My Latin's not up to scratch, I just mumble some black country twang and seem to get by

Am yam a yam yam?

Yow awright bab

Am alright I am"

Bostin

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Thanks for teaching me the word cabal, OP.

Maybe fab could benefit from a 'How to..' guide for the forums, maybe there is one in the forum search section.

Just do you as Rickshawed said, if you get the chance to do Rickshawed even better

Thanks, but I didn't say that. Got Rickshawed on the mind?

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By *TK421-Man over a year ago

Cheltenham

Same as any newbie on any social forum, just gotta keep plugging away till you make friends

But what about those of us who are entitled and believe we are the hottest thing around?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks for teaching me the word cabal, OP.

Maybe fab could benefit from a 'How to..' guide for the forums, maybe there is one in the forum search section.

Just do you as Rickshawed said, if you get the chance to do Rickshawed even better

I never had that anxiety. I’ve been on and off the forums for years now. I don’t want to be popular. Sometimes I don’t use the forums for months. Sometimes I’m on here constantly. What makes me usually post is when someone aggrandises themselves or makes their opinion sound like a statement of fact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just more like friends and once people get to know you and see you active on the threads I’m sure you’ll develop friendships

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By *ny1localMan over a year ago

READING

"There's definite cliques, but sod it, leave them to it. They're obviously much cooler than the rest of us anyhow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When the seagulls follow the trawler, it's because they think sardines will be thrown into the sea

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just more like friends and once people get to know you and see you active on the threads I’m sure you’ll develop friendships

It definitely used to go past just friends. I’ve seen screenshots of kik groups planning nasty things god other members they don’t like. But I think that’s mostly died off since the leaders of such groups have gotten life’s off of fabswingers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s a lot of mud throwing and rumour mills on the go here…..

I’m out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s a lot of mud throwing and rumour mills on the go here…..

I’m out

Wait for me!!

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

I can see how people perceive there to be cliques when threads descend into conversations between 2 or more posters that clearly know each other beyond being a familiar name posting.

I don't think that's conducive to making others want to join in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They may well be but I'm not overly bothered by it as I really don't think it's affected my Fav experience, negative or otherwise.

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By *tephanjMan over a year ago

Kettering

I would say there is,and it is obvious to a part time poster

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for teaching me the word cabal, OP.

Maybe fab could benefit from a 'How to..' guide for the forums, maybe there is one in the forum search section.

Just do you as Rickshawed said, if you get the chance to do Rickshawed even better

Thanks, but I didn't say that. Got Rickshawed on the mind?

How could I not? They're a lovely pair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s a lot of mud throwing and rumour mills on the go here…..

I’m out

Best leave quietly fella.

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Same as any newbie on any social forum, just gotta keep plugging away till you make friends

But what about those of us who are entitled and believe we are the hottest thing around? "

We are all people and adults, find the people you do have things in common with. I don't speak to everyone on here, sometimes people just don't get on, doesn't mean we cannot be polite in any conversations

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By *afksedMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Yes there is a cabal!

Luckily you used the secret password for the cabal.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man over a year ago

BRIDPORT

The responses to ‘clique’ threads always make me chuckle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep smiling, because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just more like friends and once people get to know you and see you active on the threads I’m sure you’ll develop friendships

I found it really entertaining the other day when I was sent a screenshot of a kik conversation just like that, where apparently I was a part of it... and I haven't had kik for years or under this username.

There are some weird people about, and why they do some of the things they do baffles me.

As for cliques, different people will look at relationships between others in different ways. There is a clique (or are cliques) if that's how you see it and how you feel, but it is only a bad thing if you choose to view it that way. Most people just see the interpersonal relationships as friendships, and they wax and wane, as does general popularity.

I remember a particularly entertaining thread a couple of years back where about 3 or 4 of us were told we were a gang. We had never interacted with each other before that thread, and none of us (we did speak after the gang accusation) realised our joking around was being taken badly.

Perception is the key.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When the seagulls follow the trawler, it's because they think sardines will be thrown into the sea"

Now this is a man who knows his shit

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

It's like school really! U get the "in" crowd the bullies the latcher ons and the stand Byers x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are used to talking to ourselves anyway, so clique or not we're happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes! I LOVE these threads. Pleased to have found it

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?"

Everyone feels ignored at some point. It’s a confirmation bias that people feel and see, without realising that everyone feels like that and doesn’t get responded to.

It doesn’t help when a few people highjack threads to flirt all over them to the ignorance of others

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just more like friends and once people get to know you and see you active on the threads I’m sure you’ll develop friendships

This is where it gets muddied though. The behaviour of some friendship groups doesn't result in a "one clique" many of them are capable of shitty behaviour, whether the group is made up of 2 people or 10

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just more like friends and once people get to know you and see you active on the threads I’m sure you’ll develop friendships

I think a kik group with plans of attacking other users isn’t very muddy to me but to all their own

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

Cabal - definition;

1. a small group of intriguers, esp one formed for political purposes

2. a secret plot, esp a political one; conspiracy; intrigue

3. a secret or exclusive set of people; clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just more like friends and once people get to know you and see you active on the threads I’m sure you’ll develop friendships

That’s horrendous

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just more like friends and once people get to know you and see you active on the threads I’m sure you’ll develop friendships

I think a kik group with plans of attacking other users isn’t very muddy to me but to all their own "

There is not just "one" kik group doing that, that's the muddied part

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?

Everyone feels ignored at some point. It’s a confirmation bias that people feel and see, without realising that everyone feels like that and doesn’t get responded to.

It doesn’t help when a few people highjack threads to flirt all over them to the ignorance of others"

The pub analogy always works because it's true.

If you take a massive break from Fab and don't visit the forums for months or even years, then most of the old regulars will have moved on, there'll be new ones in situ, and the constant revolving door of infrequent visitors, d*unken ramblings and people getting booted.

After our most recent long break (only a matter of several years) I barely recognised anyone in the forums. Did it matter? Nope. It's been good to see some old faces but equally there's a lot of intriguing and entertaining new blood, which is always healthy. Of course some of that 'new blood' could just be old faces with a fresh coat of paint and some shiny new bumpers........

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I've chatted to people in the past who described other users as hideous, gobshites and said they were dangerous and nasty.

They have all verified each other as amazing friends in recent weeks.

I've had someone describe a man as a true crime documentary waiting to happen and they're now a fab couple.

It's not only pics that require good angles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When the seagulls follow the trawler, it's because they think sardines will be thrown into the sea

Now this is a man who knows his shit

Lol

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

Imagine you walk into a pub… there’s a group of friends chatting - they’ve known each other a while and have a strong friendship- would you instantly expect them to drop everything to listen to you as someone none of them know? Or would you maybe subtly join the conversation and listen at first and maybe then comment on a conversation to show them you’re interested in being included? So I’m not sure if it’s a clique - people on here know each other from here and in the real world so maybe it’s just a case of taking your time and putting some posts up? See who comments…. Start a conversation? Just my 2p worth

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

"I've chatted to people in the past who described other users as hideous, gobshites and said they were dangerous and nasty.

They have all verified each other as amazing friends in recent weeks.

I've had someone describe a man as a true crime documentary waiting to happen and they're now a fab couple.

It's not only pics that require good angles.

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

"It’s like anywhere, a pub for example. People know each other and chat, some people don’t, but will get to know others along the way.

Lots of people on the forum have met, and are friends.

I don’t think it is a clique, more groups of friends.

Nothing wrong with that. But when outsiders try to join the conversation and get ignored. Maybe they could construe it as clickey.

Perhaps it puts off newcomers from contributing?

Everyone feels ignored at some point. It’s a confirmation bias that people feel and see, without realising that everyone feels like that and doesn’t get responded to.

It doesn’t help when a few people highjack threads to flirt all over them to the ignorance of others

The pub analogy always works because it's true.

Can I just say what smashing bumpers Mrs has??

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Of course there is and I’ve been blacklisted by them. Oh well

Marc

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"Imagine you walk into a pub… there’s a group of friends chatting - they’ve known each other a while and have a strong friendship- would you instantly expect them to drop everything to listen to you as someone none of them know? Or would you maybe subtly join the conversation and listen at first and maybe then comment on a conversation to show them you’re interested in being included? So I’m not sure if it’s a clique - people on here know each other from here and in the real world so maybe it’s just a case of taking your time and putting some posts up? See who comments…. Start a conversation? Just my 2p worth

I thought this was the start of a joke

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

I thought this was the start of a joke

"
. Missed my chance didn’t I?

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I've chatted to people in the past who described other users as hideous, gobshites and said they were dangerous and nasty.

They have all verified each other as amazing friends in recent weeks.

I've had someone describe a man as a true crime documentary waiting to happen and they're now a fab couple.

It's not only pics that require good angles.

I think this highlights the issue with a purely text based format. It’s very easy to be misread or a flippant comment taken as honest.

I know quite a few people that disliked each other vehemently on the forums but once they met in person, they became close friends. I’ve had it happen to me.

It’s not a case of duality or duplicity, it’s the flaws in our communication methods.

We’re all very quick to judge others but expect others to give us the benefit of the doubt. There is a flaw there

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

No.

Many regular forumites have become "virtual" friends, friends are more likely to interact with others than they are with strangers.

Cal

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Does this mean we can now find out who was in the fab clique as they've moved on?

It's like living in an episode of battlestar Galactica wondering if they are a cylon!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I've chatted to people in the past who described other users as hideous, gobshites and said they were dangerous and nasty.

They have all verified each other as amazing friends in recent weeks.

I've had someone describe a man as a true crime documentary waiting to happen and they're now a fab couple.

It's not only pics that require good angles.

I think this highlights the issue with a purely text based format. It’s very easy to be misread or a flippant comment taken as honest.

I know quite a few people that disliked each other vehemently on the forums but once they met in person, they became close friends. I’ve had it happen to me.

It’s not a case of duality or duplicity, it’s the flaws in our communication methods.

We’re all very quick to judge others but expect others to give us the benefit of the doubt. There is a flaw there"

This is very true and I've seen it happen in front of my very eyes. Someone who insisted they would never be able to get along with Person B because they were evidently a total knob, has become firm friends with said person because meeting them for real demonstrated their actual personality (which is quite pleasant, actually).

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Does this mean we can now find out who was in the fab clique as they've moved on?

It's like living in an episode of battlestar Galactica wondering if they are a cylon! "

Don't be silly Mag. No one will ever actually say who they believe is in the clique. Not on the forum anyway!

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By *JstarsoloWoman over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Yes there is. But does it matter to me? Not one jot. I prefer to be an outsider if I'm honest. Dabbling now and again in the forums can be entertaining sometimes.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I've chatted to people in the past who described other users as hideous, gobshites and said they were dangerous and nasty.

They have all verified each other as amazing friends in recent weeks.

I've had someone describe a man as a true crime documentary waiting to happen and they're now a fab couple.

It's not only pics that require good angles.

I think this highlights the issue with a purely text based format. It’s very easy to be misread or a flippant comment taken as honest.

I know quite a few people that disliked each other vehemently on the forums but once they met in person, they became close friends. I’ve had it happen to me.

It’s not a case of duality or duplicity, it’s the flaws in our communication methods.

We’re all very quick to judge others but expect others to give us the benefit of the doubt. There is a flaw there"

The written word is easily lost in translation.

Verbally, face to face? Still possible but less likely and you have a greater ability to explain yourself and have a more flowing discussion.

Plus verbal conversations tend to be more private, meaning there's usually nobody viewing what's said as a spectator, who may or may not have their own agenda, a personal view on the participants and be tempted to twist anything written based on their own perception rather than the message intended, resulting in Chinese whispers and jungle drums spreading false news far and wide.

Yep. That definitely happens.

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Is there a clique - probably/possibly. A clique can also be described as a group of friends I guess.

I don’t spend nearly as much time on fab/the forums as I used to.

Some people spend (or seem to) several hours a day on the forums. Those people are bound to know all the people/threads/gossip etc and therefore, perhaps, be part of some kind of clique or ‘in crowd’

I’m definitely not part of that - but it doesn’t bother me either.

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By *afksedMan over a year ago

Birmingham

Will someone please join my clique?

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By *hagTonightMan over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"What's a cabal?"
It is a secret political clique or faction.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"I've chatted to people in the past who described other users as hideous, gobshites and said they were dangerous and nasty.

They have all verified each other as amazing friends in recent weeks.

I've had someone describe a man as a true crime documentary waiting to happen and they're now a fab couple.

It's not only pics that require good angles.

I think this highlights the issue with a purely text based format. It’s very easy to be misread or a flippant comment taken as honest.

I know quite a few people that disliked each other vehemently on the forums but once they met in person, they became close friends. I’ve had it happen to me.

It’s not a case of duality or duplicity, it’s the flaws in our communication methods.

We’re all very quick to judge others but expect others to give us the benefit of the doubt. There is a flaw there"

I disagree because there is history here in these cases.

The people making the accusations have an unhealthy obsession with what others are doing.

It's why I don't speak to them anymore.

They actively pursued them around the forums and in a few chatgroups and shared their personal details including real names and face pics.

In one case the hideous comment was made in regards to another woman's appearance and how she had some nerve putting naked pics online when she looked like that.

Then suddenly the narrative changed because the target of the abuse has a wide circle of friends and the other person needed to be associated with them.

These are all people who had met previously so misconstrued text had nothing to do with it.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I’ve just laid my morning cable

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"Does this mean we can now find out who was in the fab clique as they've moved on?

It's like living in an episode of battlestar Galactica wondering if they are a cylon!

Don't be silly Mag. No one will ever actually say who they believe is in the clique. Not on the forum anyway!

Dammit. I need to find a CHIS.

Yes I've been watching line of duty again.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Ok let’s run with this analogy. What if you were that person that walked into the pub did all you described, get talking to a few people then someone in that group took a dislike to you so the whole group shut you out even though you got on with a few of them well?

So in essence you are going backwards not forwards

Marc

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

4 years ago I had zero fab friends. Nobody.

I was a complete forum newbie when I started on here in 2018 .

For months I posted and not much happened but instead of bitching and whining I stuck at it and tried to join in more .

People expect to join the forums and make 218 friends in the first week and if they don't it's because a " clique " elite group of people ignore you ??

Absolute fucking bollocks!!

You get back what you put in and I stuck at it and I'm eternally grateful I found the forum .

I have loads of real friends now and I'm happy about that .

I've been accused of being in this imaginary group before and you know what ..

I couldn't give a fuck what others think anymore..

I post far less than I used to because a lot of the fun has gone out of this place ..

Stop taking this place so seriously, have a laugh and be yourself and you'll make friends

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Does this mean we can now find out who was in the fab clique as they've moved on?

It's like living in an episode of battlestar Galactica wondering if they are a cylon!

Don't be silly Mag. No one will ever actually say who they believe is in the clique. Not on the forum anyway!

Dammit. I need to find a CHIS.

Yes I've been watching line of duty again.

You're so cute.

It isn't real life, sweetie.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I think when people go to socials and become friendly it’s pretty hard not for that to flow over into the forums (or chat rooms too) I guess.

The trick is knowing when it’s become too much.

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

So in essence you are going backwards not forwards

Marc"
then I would move on - if people aren’t independent minded & strong enough to decide who they want to talk to and instead follow a herd mentality - they aren’t worth bothering with. This place isn’t real life - it’s a bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So some people on fab get together on kik to talk shit about other people on fab? Jesus Christ that's sad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find "forum clique" to be the best of best moisturisers

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

So in essence you are going backwards not forwards

Marc then I would move on - if people aren’t independent minded & strong enough to decide who they want to talk to and instead follow a herd mentality - they aren’t worth bothering with. This place isn’t real life - it’s a bit of fun.

Yep.

Even off site and in real life I have friends who don't like other friends of mine because of personality clashes or prior history.

That's between them, nothing to do with me.

I don't choose who to like or interact with based on the views of others and if people are the type to allow themselves to be that easily led or manipulated then you're probably best steering clear of them, so maybe no great loss in the long term.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes."

Nobody told me there was a secret handshake. I would be right in there if I’d known

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

So in essence you are going backwards not forwards

Yep.

Even off site and in real life I have friends who don't like other friends of mine because of personality clashes or prior history.

That's between them, nothing to do with me.

Yes that's also tricky ...

I have a fair few friends who don't get on with some of my other friends but we always agree to not talk about it as it between them exactly

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

I love the pub analogy except from what I’ve seen about these cliques it would be like walking into a pub where a group that doesn’t like you has told everyone you have STDs, your fake, your this or that, and then they’ve got other people to attempt phishing your personal info so the clique can dox you and message your friends/family

Personally, I don’t think that happens anymore on such a big scale. But you’ll siesta have crazies

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By *afksedMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"4 years ago I had zero fab friends. Nobody.

I was a complete forum newbie when I started on here in 2018 .

For months I posted and not much happened but instead of bitching and whining I stuck at it and tried to join in more .

People expect to join the forums and make 218 friends in the first week and if they don't it's because a " clique " elite group of people ignore you ??

Absolute fucking bollocks!!

You get back what you put in and I stuck at it and I'm eternally grateful I found the forum .

I have loads of real friends now and I'm happy about that .

I've been accused of being in this imaginary group before and you know what ..

I couldn't give a fuck what others think anymore..

I post far less than I used to because a lot of the fun has gone out of this place ..

Stop taking this place so seriously, have a laugh and be yourself and you'll make friends

Totally agree.

I’m a newbie here - three weeks in.

Had a social my second day, plenty of messages and phone calls and video calls and interest and have found the forums to be like… forums!

I get the impression a lot of people come to Fab to see what they can get rather than see what they can contribute and share. You need to put the time and effort in. I have found this community to be one of the most bullshit-free communities around.

So you know what, I reckon there is actually a cabal or clique on here. It is exclusively for people who want to contribute and not for those who want to just take from the community.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There was a clique during and just after lockdown but it seems that there have moved on....still 1 or 2 hanging about but nothing to worry about

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By *afksedMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Nobody told me there was a secret handshake. I would be right in there if I’d known

Crikey, Babs.

You don’t need a handshake! But I need a cold shower!

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I've chatted to people in the past who described other users as hideous, gobshites and said they were dangerous and nasty.

They have all verified each other as amazing friends in recent weeks.

I've had someone describe a man as a true crime documentary waiting to happen and they're now a fab couple.

It's not only pics that require good angles.

I think this highlights the issue with a purely text based format. It’s very easy to be misread or a flippant comment taken as honest.

I know quite a few people that disliked each other vehemently on the forums but once they met in person, they became close friends. I’ve had it happen to me.

It’s not a case of duality or duplicity, it’s the flaws in our communication methods.

We’re all very quick to judge others but expect others to give us the benefit of the doubt. There is a flaw there

I disagree because there is history here in these cases.

The people making the accusations have an unhealthy obsession with what others are doing.

It's why I don't speak to them anymore.

They actively pursued them around the forums and in a few chatgroups and shared their personal details including real names and face pics.

In one case the hideous comment was made in regards to another woman's appearance and how she had some nerve putting naked pics online when she looked like that.

Then suddenly the narrative changed because the target of the abuse has a wide circle of friends and the other person needed to be associated with them.

These are all people who had met previously so misconstrued text had nothing to do with it. "

You’re talking specifics with clear individuals in mind. I’m speaking in general terms as to why people might not ‘click’ via text.

Yes, there are some selfish and vicious people around, that’s true of the world in general. Not giving them your energy and focusing on yourself is the key, I find.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"4 years ago I had zero fab friends. Nobody.

I was a complete forum newbie when I started on here in 2018 .

For months I posted and not much happened but instead of bitching and whining I stuck at it and tried to join in more .

People expect to join the forums and make 218 friends in the first week and if they don't it's because a " clique " elite group of people ignore you ??

Absolute fucking bollocks!!

You get back what you put in and I stuck at it and I'm eternally grateful I found the forum .

I have loads of real friends now and I'm happy about that .

I've been accused of being in this imaginary group before and you know what ..

I couldn't give a fuck what others think anymore..

I post far less than I used to because a lot of the fun has gone out of this place ..

Stop taking this place so seriously, have a laugh and be yourself and you'll make friends

Totally agree.

I’m a newbie here - three weeks in.

Had a social my second day, plenty of messages and phone calls and video calls and interest and have found the forums to be like… forums!

So you know what, I reckon there is actually a cabal or clique on here. It is exclusively for people who want to contribute and not for those who want to just take from the community. "

I'm glad it has worked for you and that's the attitude to have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes there are cliques, wherever you find humans, you'll find cliques, it's the natural behaviour of group animals. As in the definition, these groups do not readily accept others, but not never.

Most accept the comings and goings of others in the forum with no discrimination as to who they interact with, other's not so.

It's the blindness and inability to accept these groups exist, by some of the most popular forum users, that makes me chuckle. The existence of these groups isn't a bad thing, you just need to find your herd and be respectful to everone.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Nobody told me there was a secret handshake. I would be right in there if I’d known

Crikey, Babs.

You don’t need a handshake! But I need a cold shower!"

100% this. I can't stand thumbs ups but yes, it deserves at least two.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a cabal amongst the regular forumites?

Never found that tbh. Most are lovely an welcoming here. I've found x

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Nobody told me there was a secret handshake. I would be right in there if I’d known

Crikey, Babs.

You don’t need a handshake! But I need a cold shower!

100% this. I can't stand thumbs ups but yes, it deserves at least two.

"
tell me more about the capes Meli!! We talking full length swishing as we disappear into the inky night or just a bum cover one….

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hear theres a secret yet not very higenic shake they do in the toilets

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

So in essence you are going backwards not forwards

Yep.

Even off site and in real life I have friends who don't like other friends of mine because of personality clashes or prior history.

That's between them, nothing to do with me.

Yes that's also tricky ...

I have a fair few friends who don't get on with some of my other friends but we always agree to not talk about it as it between them exactly

There will always be people that you think are twats, that other people think the sun shines out of their arse and can do no wrong. Equally there will be people who think you're an arsehole, regardless of how popular you are with others.

Few people in this world are universally liked and that's fine. It would be fucking weird if we all liked everyone we've come across in our lifetimes.

Those that seek adoration and adulation from all will generally end up pretty fucking disappointed and frustrated.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

So in essence you are going backwards not forwards

Yep.

Even off site and in real life I have friends who don't like other friends of mine because of personality clashes or prior history.

That's between them, nothing to do with me.

Yes that's also tricky ...

I have a fair few friends who don't get on with some of my other friends but we always agree to not talk about it as it between them exactly

Few people in this world are universally liked and that's fine. It would be fucking weird if we all liked everyone we've come across in our lifetimes.

Those that seek adoration and adulation from all will generally end up pretty fucking disappointed and frustrated.

Yep. Tis life

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"I hear theres a secret yet not very higenic shake they do in the toilets

I’m out

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Nobody told me there was a secret handshake. I would be right in there if I’d known

Crikey, Babs.

You don’t need a handshake! But I need a cold shower!

100% this. I can't stand thumbs ups but yes, it deserves at least two.

tell me more about the capes Meli!! We talking full length swishing as we disappear into the inky night or just a bum cover one….

Full swishy, like something dreamed up Anne Rice with a touch of Victoriana elegance. If you're going to do something what's the point of half arseing it?

That being said, a woman in a cape that just grazes the top of her bum cheeks and wearing little else?

Yeah, that's going to get another annoying thumb.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hear theres a secret yet not very higenic shake they do in the toilets

I’m out

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Nobody told me there was a secret handshake. I would be right in there if I’d known

Crikey, Babs.

You don’t need a handshake! But I need a cold shower!

100% this. I can't stand thumbs ups but yes, it deserves at least two.

tell me more about the capes Meli!! We talking full length swishing as we disappear into the inky night or just a bum cover one….

Full swishy, like something dreamed up Anne Rice with a touch of Victoriana elegance. If you're going to do something what's the point of half arseing it?

That being said, a woman in a cape that just grazes the top of her bum cheeks and wearing little else?

Yeah, that's going to get another annoying thumb.

Was that a coded message that you’d like my thumb up your bum?? In which case… Yes!!

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

There was only ever 1 kliq that mattered!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I hear theres a secret yet not very higenic shake they do in the toilets

I’m out

Babs, you can join a different clique. They shake hands by doing clown parp-parp noises upon one's breast

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

"I hear theres a secret yet not very higenic shake they do in the toilets

I’m out

Babs, you can join a different clique. They shake hands by doing clown parp-parp noises upon one's breast

"
. Wear a gumshield in case you parp parp a non member

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By *afksedMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"What's a cabal?

A clique with secret handshakes, Latin chanted at every meeting. Probably some nifty uniform as well, I imagine capes.

Nobody told me there was a secret handshake. I would be right in there if I’d known

Crikey, Babs.

You don’t need a handshake! But I need a cold shower!

100% this. I can't stand thumbs ups but yes, it deserves at least two.

Crikey, Meli!

What’s going on here!

I’ve only just finished one cold shower and now I need another!

There’s a bloody drought on! Put those away or the Thames will dry up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say there definitely used to be....I haven't seen any of it recently. Most of "the crew" seem to have deleted their accounts or are very quiet on here these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I nearly used the pub analogy as an example, but it only works to a point.

A forum isn't a place for a group of friends to meet up, catch up and take over the pool table, giving others little chance to join in.

In a pub setting, we would not see those friends totally derail conversations others are trying to create with anyone interested.

There are many people here and the few can get a bit giddy feeling this is their playground.

A pub analogy sounds good but doesn't fit.

I don't believe it to be a clique, just people recognising one another's posting styles and responding to them.

If there's anything untoward, it's just ignorance created by familiarity is all, a lack of awareness.

I post for myself only, to express how I feel in the moment, I don't post for anyone else or to fit in/stand out. I post for me.

This has brought many inbox conversations as a result, often with those not so loud on the forum, and in occasion a recognised, prolific poster.

I'm far from any clique and I would assume I piss everybody off equally

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By *ryandseeMan over a year ago

Yorkshire

I have no idea if there are real cliques or not and not that bothered either. What can be a little annoying at times is seeing people post something and ignored and soon after someone posts exactly the same thing and an avalanche of people respond and they usually seem to be the same ones. Also there are a few extremely opinionated people that take it upon themselves and with the help of a few of their 'friends' to skew an argument or derail a thread. Is that a clique? Who cares

I post an opinion respectfully as one should and don't expect anyone to agree or disagree or even respond at all. If they do I have an expectation that people are respectful and most of course are. I enjoy the forum and it's mostly good light hearted banter, lots of useful info and supportive on the whole. Anything not to my liking, I ignore. Love to all

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

^^^The matriarch speaks

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By *enrietteandSamCouple over a year ago

Staffordshire

Cabal cabal, you’ve torn your dress.

Cabal cabal, your face is a mess.

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