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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Now I'm not usually goes deep on these forums, but currently I can feel myself slipping into depressions and while I've talked to Danish about it it hasn't helped.
I know this is a swinging site and not for counselling etc, but I wanted to reach out to try and feel a bit less alone.
I'm sorry for darkening the forums but I feel more comfortable speaking on here than to family on other platforms. |
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Absolutely no need to apologise, I feel there’s a hugely supportive community here if you open yourself up to it.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, I get this image of you feeling like you’re slipping into it and maybe can’t get a handhold to try and stop yourself going further down. I guess that might feel quite frightening. Sending love x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no need to apologise, I feel there’s a hugely supportive community here if you open yourself up to it.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, I get this image of you feeling like you’re slipping into it and maybe can’t get a handhold to try and stop yourself going further down. I guess that might feel quite frightening. Sending love x"
It's exactly it, I'm trying to find something to cling to. So I can stabilise myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have no need to apologise and I’m proud (and some what envious) you have the strength to speak about this publicly.
I have dark days, I have light days and a lot of numb grey days. But that doesn’t mean I’m not able to help others, in fact helping others helps lift me.
My DMs are always open and never be afraid to reach out and talk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The main thing is you're aware and you're seeking help which is brave and brilliant. If you're more comfortable speaking here then do so. There are many good people here who are willing to help.
For me simple things keep me grounded, walking/exercise, music or a good book.
Just know you're not alone and if you're ever in need reach out. Always happy to chat privately as well matey. |
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No need to apologise, OP. You're doing the right thing to talk about it and try to address it. I'm afraid I don't have great advice, other than being kind to yourself, but you're definitely not alone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's grand that you feel comfortable enough here to speak of it. I am recovering from depression at present - it's an insidious bastard isn't it? Keep finding those chunks of light.  |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
london |
I’m sorry you are not feeling your best OP.
Don’t bottle it inside mate, keep talking as there are plenty of folks that can resonate with what you are feeling.
It can be difficult to open up to friends and family sometimes as they may not be able to relate/understand and you might be wary of judgements about it.
If you have been feeling low for a few weeks or more it’s worth talking to your GP about as there is support available in the community to help get things back on track.
Exercise really helps to produce dopamine, but can appreciate you may not feel up to do things.
I wish you feel better soon mate. (Man hug). If you need advice just ask. |
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Lucky enough to have miles of open beaches across road from me. When feeling down or under pressure take long walks to sort my head out. The time to be yourself and work through your problems. Find which ones can be sorted at later date and put them to the back, concentrate on what's getting you down and fix this first, hopefully they all sort themselves into order and tackle them one at a time.
Hope this helps and makes sense OP. Best of luck bud. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wouldn't a more specialised platform offer more practical tips to try and help you?"
As someone who actually works for a mental health support team I appreciate where you're coming from, if I need to access professional help I will, and as I said in my original post I know it might not be appropriate to post here but I'd rather support from like minded people who understand the complexities of non monogamous relationships |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're not alone. 
I'm struggling massively at the moment, but talking definitely helps.
I hope everyone who is suffering has brighter days ahead very soon. It's a difficult battle but we're stronger than we realise.
Virtual hugs.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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Don't apologise there is no need.
I'm actually in a good place at the moment the first for a very long time.
Talk to people it really does help.
Don't put pressure on yourself take it day to day.
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You chat away fella..we are all in this life together where ever we are..I do think men hide behind sex and use as a escape tho which aint ever gonna work.The main thing is you are recognising it only you can take that further.Id advise doctor 1st write your feelings down..Be open and honest with yourself..also a good book mindfulness comes recommended personally.PM me if you want further chat.. |
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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago
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"Now I'm not usually goes deep on these forums, but currently I can feel myself slipping into depressions and while I've talked to Danish about it it hasn't helped.
I know this is a swinging site and not for counselling etc, but I wanted to reach out to try and feel a bit less alone.
I'm sorry for darkening the forums but I feel more comfortable speaking on here than to family on other platforms. "
I'm always here for an earbend
Mr R  |
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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago
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OP mental health is still not talked about enough. Here is a good place to talk about it, as there are bound to be a number of people in the same situation.
I always used to find mine worsened if I didn’t get a good sleep routine and was over tired. Also going for just a short walk daily gets you out into the world.
Seeking some kind of counselling can help , someone who is not directly involved in your life and makes no judgements. I hope you feel in a better place soon.
Red x |
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By *ANDA!Man
over a year ago
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Good post OP. I suffered for years and only recently started to seek help after things got a lot worse to the point I had great difficulty in distinguishing real from what I was imagining. Been a year since I first went to seek help and I'm no further forward yet. Seen a few other people say MH needs talked about and they are right. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone can feel myself resurfacing, and feeling like myself a bit more.
Thanks for those who PMd and offered ears to chew off if needed, you might regret that in the future but it means a lot |
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"Thanks everyone can feel myself resurfacing, and feeling like myself a bit more.
Thanks for those who PMd and offered ears to chew off if needed, you might regret that in the future but it means a lot"
How lovely to hear that you found support on here. Glad to hear you see a little light at the end of that tunnel  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You haven't darkened anything. Too reach out is better than too keep it in. Just understand we all Have times of depression. Try to. Focus on positives or watch comedies honestly they raise the spirit with minimal effort, which then helps you to think more posie. We go through struggles mate.. Trust me you will get over it. Head up! |
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Know its easier said than done but try keep active and set small goals even if it just to clean house. Thats the kind of advice i was given when i went to see a Councillor. We all struggle in life just sum of us are open about it, your not alone my freind so stay positive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I felt the same, and this site was part of it, no replies etc didn’t do much for my ego, but then I looked in the forums and searched mental health. What I thought was there problem, became part of the help (not cure though).
You are not alone!! Feel free to pm me or reply here if you can’t get through.
Good luck x |
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