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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.
I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!
How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs?? |
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"I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.
I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!
How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs?? "
Been there, I know your pain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well OP, the moral of the story appears to be .. ladies, make that first move!
And with that in mind, my inbox is currently wide open and craving attention. Just sayin’   |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does "
I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op. When did it change for the man to make the first move.
Remember when a woman would drop a handkerchief? The man would pick it up ‘is this yours maam? Etc.
I’d be flattered for a woman to make it clear she liked me by making moves. But alas…. I’m on Fab ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I like how Americans go about it and just ask for a date. Not a care if knocked back but always seems to be an exchange of numbers at at least for that little confidence boost.
We Brit’s clearly take the word ‘date’ too seriously. |
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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago
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OP I have the opposite problem! I'm so over making the first move! There's probably something in this about being too much in our masculine/feminine. I should learn to lean back for a change and you my girl should seize the opportunity next time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a guy is interested, he will make the first move "
That’s not always technically true. I’ve fancied people before and not approached them because I either wasn’t sure if they were interested or just plain an simple bottled it |
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When I was younger maybe I wouldn't have but, now if I was really drawn to someone, I would.
I had a friend who was taken by the look of a guy on the opposite table in a restaurant. She liked that guy but wouldn't approach him so I wrote her number down, I had a word and passed the number to him.
They dated for a while which was nice.
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"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does
I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "
It's not desperate. Don't worry  x |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
Wirral |
"I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.
I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!
How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs?? "
Where you interested in just one - or both? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My opportunity was taken from my hands by time and fate and me fighting too hard to defeat em chicks used to want you to fight so i think i did all i could |
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"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does
I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "
He may well be but you might just end up with a gorgeous guy |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does
I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league
He may well be but you might just end up with a gorgeous guy "
Lol!! |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.
I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!
How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs??
Where you interested in just one - or both?"
Tbh they were both very attractive to me, so if either had approached me, I'd have been made up! There was a little thought in the back of my brain that was imagining me in between both of them!  |
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I personally wouldn’t have the balls. I mean to be fair I don’t get a side glance or a smile so I definitely wouldn’t risk the rejection
You may come across them again at some point, be brave, what have you got to lose |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
Morden |
"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does
I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "
If he's out of your league it's because he is in a lower league. You look lovely.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does
I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "
Similar - don’t want to be that guy / pest and don’t have confidence in that area to approach someone.
Did it once last year after a few weeks of both of us checking each other out on walks. First time since my teens and thought now or never. Started small talk, established interest, deep breath and asked her.
Nothing … I’m at a loss with dating / meeting people sometimes  |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does
I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league
If he's out of your league it's because he is in a lower league. You look lovely.
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